Are you dominant or submissive

[BrendaBear]

I used to think I was a switch, but maybe more submissive. Lately I have realized I am neither, ever. I just enjoy restraints (both sides). Maybe that is a top/bottom thing.

 

[muaddib1st]

I think I am a switch. Hypothesis to be tested.

 

[Ubercuck1961]

Definitely a Sub.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

I'm on the submissive side. More the babygirl kind (not age playing so not little), though, and definitely not into the deep end.

I noticed I am late to seeing this message but just wanted to clarify my sweet friend...

being a "little" is not necessarily "age playing". A "little" is an adult that doesn't "play/rp" as a child. A "little" is an adult that has "childlike" attributes/tendencies but is by any means "acting/playing" an age tho they may sometimes identify with a certain age group but still them and their personal being. Just thought I'd share.

 

[Strixaluco]

I noticed I am late to seeing this message but just wanted to clarify my sweet friend...

being a "little" is not necessarily "age playing". A "little" is an adult that doesn't "play/rp" as a child. A "little" is an adult that has "childlike" attributes/tendencies but is by any means "acting/playing" an age tho they may sometimes identify with a certain age group but still them and their personal being. Just thought I'd share.

Erm... your way to express it doesn't feel clarifying, dear friend.

I may use the word "play" loosely, but there are different ways of defining the words, and I go with the definition where "little" is someone who does identify with some age group, and "babygirl" may or may not.

 

[Twistedkink]

A switch that leans to the sub side, but love both.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

Erm... your way to express it doesn't feel clarifying, dear friend.

I may use the word "play" loosely, but there are different ways of defining the words, and I go with the definition where "little" is someone who does identify with some age group, and "babygirl" may or may not.

That's cause you can't always clarify things as clarity appears different for everyone. It's what one makes of it themselves. But one thing I can clarify darlin is that a little is not something you "play" with.

 

[Strixaluco]

That's cause you can't always clarify things as clarity appears different for everyone. It's what one makes of it themselves. But one thing I can clarify darlin is that a little is not something you "play" with.

Well in just that sense I use the word "play" very loosely. There just isn't any as handy word that would be accurate - and "age play" is commonly used.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

Well in just that sense I use the word "play" very loosely. There just isn't any as handy word that would be accurate - and "age play" is commonly used.

Among role players yes you're absolutely right my dear friend

 

[Strixaluco]

Among role players yes you're absolutely right my dear friend

As Ive understood "age playing" is used for other than mere role playing. I binge read quite a lot a few months back, and that is commonly used term used for littles. It's not something I came up with myself.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

As Ive understood "age playing" is used for other than mere role playing. I binge read quite a lot a few months back, and that is commonly used term used for littles. It's not something I came up with myself.

We must've been reading something different then.

 

[Strixaluco]

We must've been reading something different then.

Very possible. I'd link one article here, but it's in FetLife...

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

The two can be misconepted among people.

 

[Strixaluco]

I’m submissive, I’ve known this about myself about two years ago. It’s something that makes me nervous, but exciting at the same time. I just never experienced BDSM before, so it’s all very new to me. I’ve never had a Dom, but if I meet the right Dom, I’ll see where things go. I’d love to explore this though.

I thought it would make me nervous, but with the right Dom it doesn't. It feels the most natural thing in the world.

 

[Mtnmike]

I never gave it much thought (vanilla sex life) until I met a new friend who is in a D/s relationship. Found myself in agreement with a lot when she talked about being a sub; so I let H explore a bit and I've realized that there are limits to what I like, but that I definitely enjoy submitting to him. And I'm a major control freak in the rest of my life.

True, part of the fun is exploring with each other to see what or if you like it. Kind of like "don't knock it till you try it" lol.

 

[elizaloo]

True, part of the fun is exploring with each other to see what or if you like it. Kind of like "don't knock it till you try it" lol.

Absolutely! I've more or less figured out that I don't like anything involving being bound, or PAIN in any form...but there are aspects of being tied up that work for me

 

[Mtnmike]

Absolutely! I've more or less figured out that I don't like anything involving being bound, or PAIN in any form...but there are aspects of being tied up that work for me

I get that, the ex liked being tied to the bed with nylons, restrictive but still a little movement, that was fun, miss it sometimes, a little smack on the butt she was ok with but nothing else and I was ok with that.

 

[thejabber27]

I’m dominant, but it’s definitely an in the bedroom/designated times type of thing, I’m a very easy going person outside of it which has made for some interesting dynamics throughout the years.

 

[seekingAlpha]

I have always been super dominant in the bedroom and tend to be dominant outside of the bedroom in areas where being dominant is a benefit. All that being said, I get along very well with people, I am very sociable, and I have a lot friends. I think there is a misconception with some people that if you are dominant that you are not a friendly, likeable, or socially well adjusted person.

 

[elizaloo]

I get that, the ex liked being tied to the bed with nylons, restrictive but still a little movement, that was fun, miss it sometimes, a little smack on the butt she was ok with but nothing else and I was ok with that.

Soft cuffs and a blindfold make everything fun

 

[RachelWalsh]

I am definitely submissive- probably too much so.

 

[Mtnmike]

Soft cuffs and a blindfold make everything fun

O my, how could I forget the blindfold, yes it really hyped up the senses !!!!

 

[shymalea]

very submissive,it gives me pleasure when i wear sexy outfits as a obedient slutty sissy

 

[Strixaluco]

I have always been super dominant in the bedroom and tend to be dominant outside of the bedroom in areas where being dominant is a benefit. All that being said, I get along very well with people, I am very sociable, and I have a lot friends. I think there is a misconception with some people that if you are dominant that you are not a friendly, likeable, or socially well adjusted person.

Just like many, erraneously, believe that subs would be submissive at work, towards friends etc... whereas many of us are in fact just the contrary.
I've met several very friendly, even laid-back Doms.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I think it’s funny people want to put labels on everything/ everyone. Can’t we just be us? Why’s it have to be so black and white?
The world isn’t black and white. It’s a whole lot of grey.