Are you dominant or submissive

[petes478]

I am definitely submissive- probably too much so.

Oh. I like that. I am dominant masculine controlling.

 

[Cosmosdreams]

I feel the roll and have been both. Depends on the partner. What more experience to find out more.

 

[BlueEyedBelle]

Submissive

 

[darkheels]

Used to Dom. Now sub 4 life!

 

[calliemae]

Absolutely submissive

 

[KinkyMisfit]

Submissive.

Being dominant to another felt unnatural and uncomfortable to me.

 

[aim2plz412]

Switch. I have found that embracing both roles enhances the understanding of both; however, even when I submit, I have found that I describe my submission in detail to my wife, asking for permission and thus controlling the scene.

 

[aim2plz412]

Submissive w/limits for sure

To know your limits, and more importantly, the core reason for those limits are so important. To find a relationship when this is understood, intrinsically, is the true allure of BDSM.

 

[Krigirl1233]

An unusual submissive

 

[LauraCurious43]

I identify as switch. I can be dominant with a submissive partner but with with a true alpha I am very submissive

 

[Strixaluco]

I know I'm submissive, but apart of me is nervous about exploring it. I've had many fantasies, I think if I did try anything, I'd like to go slow, patience would be important and be able to explore things little by little. When things go too fast, it scares me off right away. I'm much more of a baby girl, than being degraded and taken forcefully. Those things don't arouse me.

I like the mental aspect of it, the connection, being teased, and like restraints and given tasks to do. I'm sure there's more things that'll come to me, but I haven't thought of them yet. I've usually had daydreams about kinks and fetishes, I like. I'm sure I'll discover more one day. I'm still discovering what kind of things arouse me right now.

Finding the right Dom - or maybe Daddy Dom - is the key. When I found mine things fell into place - the trust I have in him still amazes me, especially as it was pretty instantaneous, and submitting feels like breathing. When you feel you can trust him absolutely, exploring is easier. I've found out I like things I thought I would barely tolerate, but I doubt I would let just any dom do some things.

Vetting is a something you probably can't do too thoroughly.

 

[MissMayhem69]

Labels are annoying but so necessary. I've found myself on both sides of the binary. I think, like most women, submission came slightly more naturally at first - although mine has always been of the bratty variety. Once I had a taste of topping though, it was irresistible. It's a dynamic of control not only with my partner but with myself. I like a fluid power exchange. I enjoy flexing a man who thinks he can top me into someone who can't get enough of tongue fucking me. I've yet to find a woman who wants to or can top me, plus women are just so pretty when they beg to cum. Everyone is capable of everything with the right partner.

 

[Blondieshare]

Didn’t think I was submissive until a Dom on here began to describe how he would bring out my inner slut.

You would be so sexually worked up and on edge from my words and my touch in the excitement of being with a new man oh that you would be begging for me to take you
I think I would fill you up nicely and go a little deeper and stretch you open more than you’re used to. And I would enjoy having you bent over and holding you down by the back of the neck as I slapped your ass and forcefully fuck you from behind like an animal

Bold but Wow! His words, so exciting. Who knew!

 

[ArabianNights]

I lean towards submissive, I need to have someone else in charge.

 

[Lostsoul34]

AshleyX27 said it best:
Submissive to men I find to be dominant and dominant to men I find to be submissive.
I definitely prefer to be submissive to a dominant man though.

 

[drobert44]

Sub with my gay top, dom with sissies, dom with women.

 

[Bbl87]

Switch, but mostly dominant so far.

 

[Lifesforperving]

I definitely much prefer the Dom role. I love giving pleasure to others and putting them in an environment where they can fully embrace their desires, wants and needs and the Dom role for me fits that perfectly. I'm not sadistic in anyway and understand the sub has all the power, even once they hand over 'control' to me as one utter of a safe word and everything stops.

What do we think about aftercare after a session?

 

[colorfulnayyy]

I consider myself to be submissive with brat tendencies. However, I don’t have an issue giving a guy permission or telling him he should cum for me.

 

[firmbutgentle]

When I was a child I fantasized about both, not sexually but just in terms of liking to be "the prisoner" as well as "the cop" when we played those sorts of games. But by the time I was actually having sex, I realized that I liked being in control and did not enjoy the reverse. It took me a while to fully understand it -- there was no LE then -- but over the course of a few relationships, and thanks to some older and experienced friends who were easy to talk to, I came to understand what it meant to be a dominant and that I liked it very much.

 

[drobert44]

Dom the sissies, and sub for my gay top.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I'm controlling - mentally - in sexual situations and lean towards dominating. Just not a Dom...and not "fluent" as a Daddy...but definitely controlling when sex is involved...

 

[Joshua65]

It all depends on mood. There are times, when I want to absolutely control her and just have my way. Other times I want to let her lead and just serve her needs. Over the last few years I've discovered a strong desire to play with men. Those feelings are always accompanied by a very strong need to be taken and used. If I ever get the chance, I'll see if the real life lives up to the fantasy.

 

[PinkPassion86]

I'm definitely submissive.
Always the desire for a hand around my neck , a tingle when I'm told what to do. I love that feeling of helplessness

 

[curiouslittleme]

I think submissive... which is something I'm exploring... the rest of my life I have to be quite in control but I love the idea of submitting to someone else... being bent to their will...