Ask Me a Question v 12.26.2021

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What was the greatest mistake you ever made - that turned out to be the best decision?
When I hooked up with a coworker. It was a big mistake because he was lying about his intentions and got back with his ex right after. But because this broke a very VERY long period of no sex it gave me the courage to pursue other relationships.

What is something you didn't think was important in a partner that now you do?
 
A willingness to accept that we are not all perfect, that we all make mistakes, and that we all have something to learn. But not to take it as a criticism of one's self if I point something out.

What is an experience that you highly recommend everyone try at least once in their life?
 
A slingshot bikini.

What is something that you're grateful that you've done, but have no interest in doing again?
 
Playing a hand of the card game of duplicate Bridge with my mom at an Elk's Club session and hearing her cackle with delight at something I did against a retired judge she disliked. It's so memorable I still recall the cards I had for what I did...and had them made into a personalized license plate for my car.

What was your first hobby growing up?
 
Playing a hand of the card game of duplicate Bridge with my mom at an Elk's Club session and hearing her cackle with delight at something I did against a retired judge she disliked. It's so memorable I still recall the cards I had for what I did...and had them made into a personalized license plate for my car.

What was your first hobby growing up?
Probably collecting baseball cards.

What’s the furthest you’ve gone toward having sex before stopping, and what was the reason for stopping?
 
Depends on you definition of sex.
I was on a second date with someone and we ended up staying at a hotel room for the night so we could get an early start on a new hiking trail the next day. We drove there in separate vehicles, and while driving she made me promise that we would not have sex that night.
We spent the evening at Niagara falls in Ontario, and things got incredibly flirty between us.
Once we got back to the hotel room, and both got changed for bed, we ended up making making out, and proceeded to start feeling each other up. After we both used our mouths to some wonderful conclusions, we wanted to progress things, but I reminded her what she said.
I guess it depends on your definition of sex, but for her it meant intercourse, so I held true to what she said earlier despite how much we both wanted it.
It was a really good tease, and led to an amazing third date 😉

Do you consider to be a core memory that has shaped you into the person that you are today?
 
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Hmmm…probably when I was about 7 and we were at a University Hospital and my mom was dealing with my younger brothers situation - it was a Friday night and I was stuck in the waiting room watching the ABC Friday Night Movie (I’m that old) and I remember seeing/hearing my mom talking to the doctors and advocating for my brother. I think seeing this single mom, who worked sometimes 12 hours a day and made sure her kids had everything they needed (and usually wanted) fight so hard. I’ve built my parenting around that moment I think.

What gift did you ask Santa for as a kid but never got?
 
Pretty sure I wanted a horse when I was younger.
We lived in Toronto, so it wouldn't have worked out well 😂

What is something a stranger has done for you that you are grateful for?
 
Pretty sure I wanted a horse when I was younger.
We lived in Toronto, so it wouldn't have worked out well 😂

What is something a stranger has done for you that you are grateful for?
When we first moved to where we live now we went out to buy some furniture at a discount place. We found what we wanted and went to the register - we had a one year old and two year old - there was no option to have it delivered and it wouldn’t come close to fitting in our minivan. The woman behind us heard us debating options and said she had her husbands truck outside and she’d be happy to take it to our house. She wouldn’t even let us pay her for it but followed us home with our furniture in the bed of her truck. I will forever remember that.

What’s the nicest thing you’ve done for a stranger?
 
What’s the nicest thing you’ve done for a stranger?
That is a trick you want to answer, as I guess it depends on your definition of a stranger.
I remember one time I was walking around downtown Halifax, and there was a homeless man begging on the street. I took him into a restaurant and bought him lunch, as well as some extra chicken that he could give to his dog.
I will always remember the smile of gratitude that he gave me after that.

How do you like to help a friend and/or partner recover after a stressful day?
 
That is a trick you want to answer, as I guess it depends on your definition of a stranger.
I remember one time I was walking around downtown Halifax, and there was a homeless man begging on the street. I took him into a restaurant and bought him lunch, as well as some extra chicken that he could give to his dog.
I will always remember the smile of gratitude that he gave me after that.

How do you like to help a friend and/or partner recover after a stressful day?
It depends on what their style of recovery is. If they're a quiet recovery person, then I feed the quiet. If they're an active recovery person, then I'll take them out and show them a good time so they can replace the stressful memory.

What haunts your dreams?
 
It depends on what their style of recovery is. If they're a quiet recovery person, then I feed the quiet. If they're an active recovery person, then I'll take them out and show them a good time so they can replace the stressful memory.

What haunts your dreams?
Not my literal dreams but I am terrified that I am going to die alone at home and it will takes days/weeks/months for anyone to discovery my body.

When is your next vacation ?
 
Not my literal dreams but I am terrified that I am going to die alone at home and it will takes days/weeks/months for anyone to discovery my body.

When is your next vacation ?
I'm on permanent vacation now (retired). My next trip will be sometime in mid-September.

Do you plan your vacations or make them up as you go?
 
I'm on permanent vacation now (retired). My next trip will be sometime in mid-September.

Do you plan your vacations or make them up as you go?
I'm a planner but also allow for the spontaneous/unplanned to happen. I've done a make them as you go trip and I didn't end up doing or seeing anything other than going to breweries (the only planned part).

Do you have something you try to visit/do when you visit any new area?
 
I'm a planner but also allow for the spontaneous/unplanned to happen. I've done a make them as you go trip and I didn't end up doing or seeing anything other than going to breweries (the only planned part).

Do you have something you try to visit/do when you visit any new area?
Yes, the local fine arts museum, Chinatown, botanical gardens and the zoo. If possible, I have some dim sum.
I also like markets like hay market in Boston and pikes in Seattle.
Where is your favorite Chinatown?
 
Do you have something you try to visit/do when you visit any new area?
For me it is trying to explore the landscape. I am an avid hiker, so anytime I go somewhere new, I try and look for interesting geological things that I can check out. Apart from that I really like staying away from the overly touristy things. If I am in a new country, I will try and find an area without too many tourists where I can try proper local food, and get a better understanding for their culture.
Where is your favorite Chinatown?
I haven't been to many Chinatown's, but I would say Vancouver has a pretty good one.


When is the last time you hung out with your extended family?
 
For me it is trying to explore the landscape. I am an avid hiker, so anytime I go somewhere new, I try and look for interesting geological things that I can check out. Apart from that I really like staying away from the overly touristy things. If I am in a new country, I will try and find an area without too many tourists where I can try proper local food, and get a better understanding for their culture.

I haven't been to many Chinatown's, but I would say Vancouver has a pretty good one.


When is the last time you hung out with your extended family?
I don’t really have an extended family but I’d say it’s been a while if I include my cousins (3-12 yrs) and sibling (1 yr) with lives on another continent. If you include my family of choice recent to 4 yrs.
How many people are in your extended family?
 
I don’t really have an extended family but I’d say it’s been a while if I include my cousins (3-12 yrs) and sibling (1 yr) with lives on another continent. If you include my family of choice recent to 4 yrs.
How many people are in your extended family?
My extended family consists of 3 cousins, and that's about it. A small family I know.

What is your favorite ethnic food?
 
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