Ask Velvet ~ An agony aunt for the fast food generation.

[VelvetDarkness]

I used to be really awkward at accepting compliments so I do know how you feel. I can't say I'm an expert these days but I've learned to spare the feelings of others as well as myself.

Generally, I just say 'thankyou' in a sincere tone. If I start contradicting the compliment of being self-deprecating, it either looks like I'm fishing for more praise or that I have the self esteem of a bipolar slug, which makes people feel uncomfortable or worse, pitying. If they're being sarcastic it should be obvious so if there's genuine ambiguity, I give them the benefit of the doubt. If they were trying to be snarky, they've failed and if they were sincere, I haven't torn them a new one for no reason.

The other response is a counter compliment but only do this if you're sincere and it's justified. Otherwise they'll wonder if there's a hidden joke or insult and you could be there all day.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

P.S: Dude, did you miss the words "Owned by and engaged to MajorMalfunction" at all?

No "dude",didn't miss it at all.The questions were real. As far as the other part goes,she knows I'm joking(i.e. she knows that I am a fan and a "flirt").
Nice to see that velvet has friends looking out for her,but she really can handle herself.

DL is one of my SRP writing partners so we've chatted quite a bit. As he's the other side of the planet and happily married, I'm fairly safe.




... I think...