Aussie's Self Pleasure Study Club

[default24]

What? You can't get erections in sweatpants. I thought that would be not comfortable...

I can absolutely get erections in them, I'm thinking that the grey sweatpants thing is for guys who are huge even when they're not aroused. Am I way off here?

 

[default24]

He doesn't need to be erect all the time

But I wish I were!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I can absolutely get erections in them, I'm thinking that the grey sweatpants thing is for guys who are huge even when they're not aroused. Am I way off here?

I have no idea. I like sweatpants because my wrist doesn't get as tired from fighting fabric

 

[nicechat]

I have no idea. I like sweatpants because my wrist doesn't get as tired from fighting fabric

Very wise, warm and wet

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I just had one of those maddening self actualization moments.

I don't masturbate enough.

And although I know how to fix it, I'm annoyed that my brain works so much better when I'm sexually satisfied. I say this because today I was having a very frustrating work day where something I was sure was going to work didn't and I felt like I hadn't done "enough". After putting the kids to bed I fired up my proclivities research and grabbed a trusty vibrator. I took my time, letting my body relax into it a little.

Right now, it's not just about the orgasm.

For almost every waking moment of my day there's someone needing my attention. Children demanding to be fed and held. A husband who is desperate for physical affection. A dog in heat. A chicken with a fucking goiter from eating too much kale (no need to worry, I got iodine drops for her). Freaking day trips to California for work. I forgot to touch myself. I can barely remember to eat sometimes.

But I'm noticing something...

When I stop.
When I take the time to tune out the world and tune into myself....

I'm unstoppable.

After masturbating, I fucking rocked work out and an totally feeling badass again.

I've got to do this more frequently!!

 

[Endless_Night]

I just had one of those maddening self actualization moments.

I don't masturbate enough.

And although I know how to fix it, I'm annoyed that my brain works so much better when I'm sexually satisfied. >

I have this same experience. I am so much more balanced when I masturbate, yet I rarely, if ever, bother.

With all the things I need to be *just right* it seems like too much trouble. Yet my body misses it, needs it, even. Occasionally to the point of taking things into its own hands while I sleep.


Odd. I'm in a middle of a conversation about this kinda stuff with someone else.

 

[Beholders_Eye]

I have this same experience. I am so much more balanced when I masturbate, yet I rarely, if ever, bother.

With all the things I need to be *just right* it seems like too much trouble. Yet my body misses it, needs it, even. Occasionally to the point of taking things into its own hands while I sleep.


Odd. I'm in a middle of a conversation about this kinda stuff with someone else.

Interesting, I was thinking about the same thing this week. After a few days, I get really edgy, restless. Then I start trying to rearrange my schedule so that I can make time for it. After a good binge session, I feel more peaceful for a few days, then the craving builds.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Interesting, I was thinking about the same thing this week. After a few days, I get really edgy, restless. Then I start trying to rearrange my schedule so that I can make time for it. After a good binge session, I feel more peaceful for a few days, then the craving builds.

Days...

I go weeks sometimes...

 

[Nevyn_Black]

I'm going to say this and you will disagree, maybe even get angry, but I will say it anyway. You do not need to accomplish as much as you can with every breath and second of your life. You do not need to excel and 'kick ass' at everything you ever think about being interested in. You do not need to be all things to all people, all the time. You sound like you even relax with great aggression and intensity.

Someone needs to tell you that it is not only allowed, but necessary to do NOTHING at least some of the time. I will depart this thread now.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'm going to say this and you will disagree, maybe even get angry, but I will say it anyway. You do not need to accomplish as much as you can with every breath and second of your life. You do not need to excel and 'kick ass' at everything you ever think about being interested in. You do not need to be all things to all people, all the time. You sound like you even relax with great aggression and intensity.

Someone needs to tell you that it is not only allowed, but necessary to do NOTHING at least some of the time. I will depart this thread now.

I'm with him.
You're not a machine.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm going to say this and you will disagree, maybe even get angry, but I will say it anyway. You do not need to accomplish as much as you can with every breath and second of your life. You do not need to excel and 'kick ass' at everything you ever think about being interested in. You do not need to be all things to all people, all the time. You sound like you even relax with great aggression and intensity.

Someone needs to tell you that it is not only allowed, but necessary to do NOTHING at least some of the time. I will depart this thread now.

I'm with him.
You're not a machine.

Oh, I know!!
I just came out of a period of deep rest.
This is what I do for fun. I am in my element. It's my hobby. It fills those needs I have to really push myself into things and be excellent.
It's who I am at the depth of my core

That's why this is all so cool to figure out.

 

[Endless_Night]

Days...

I go weeks sometimes...

Months....

Eesh. I really should make some kind of change.

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

There was a point in time when I was starting therapy, my mental health was improving that yes, I'd go months. My dopamine levels were righting themselves, and I simply didn't feel the need.

I'm not entirely sure what the difference is before and after for me. Sometimes it's just "hey I'm bored" rather than a true need or craving. Yay brain chemicals.

I mean, other times there's DEFINITELY an impetus... there are a few people out there that just... yeah.

 

[Rob_Royale]

I've got to do this more frequently!!

Sounds like waking a bit early for a morning wank, might be what you need? Works wonders for me and I know my wife does it occasionally too.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Months....

Eesh. I really should make some kind of change.

Same.

But I've been trying to not go longer than three months and can notice the difference when I figure out how to make masturbation a part of my life.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Sounds like waking a bit early for a morning wank, might be what you need? Works wonders for me and I know my wife does it occasionally too.

Fuck that!
I need sleep more than I need orgasms

I admire people like you. I'm not that motivated.

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Fuck that!
I need sleep more than I need orgasms

I admire people like you. I'm not that motivated.

Sounds like mid-day "guided meditation" is the answer. *sagenod*

 

[Endless_Night]

Same.

But I've been trying to not go longer than three months and can notice the difference when I figure out how to make masturbation a part of my life.

Nine months is fairly common with me.

Honestly, it doesn't make much sense. DrkSthrnGnt mentioned dopamine. I could certainly use the hit from orgasming.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Nine months is fairly common with me.

Honestly, it doesn't make much sense. DrkSthrnGnt mentioned dopamine. I could certainly use the hit from orgasming.

Chocolate also gives you dopamine

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Okay, so I was listening to a podcast today that was talking about relationships, intimacy and needs. The conversation started with how babies require contact to thrive and although our need for touch may reduce and not be life threatening as we grow, it's still a for human need. Just like food, water, movement, etc.

And then there was a distinction made between intimate touch and erotic touch. I'd never thought to differentiate the two. But I've definitely needed to understand the distinction before, because I can be quite an intimate person without the need for eroticism. I think it's also an American thing where people just aren't as openly intimate with one another. It's like everyone has fused the intimacy and the eroticism. And it's caused a bit of a crisis.

What if my masturbation needs to be less about the erotic and more about the intimacy with myself?

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Okay, so I was listening to a podcast today that was talking about relationships, intimacy and needs. The conversation started with how babies require contact to thrive and although our need for touch may reduce and not be life threatening as we grow, it's still a for human need. Just like food, water, movement, etc.

And then there was a distinction made between intimate touch and erotic touch. I'd never thought to differentiate the two. But I've definitely needed to understand the distinction before, because I can be quite an intimate person without the need for eroticism. I think it's also an American thing where people just aren't as openly intimate with one another. It's like everyone has fused the intimacy and the eroticism. And it's caused a bit of a crisis.

What if my masturbation needs to be less about the erotic and more about the intimacy with myself?

It is amazing how little we understand of our basic needs. Human touch and intimacy...

I have an old friend who went through a crisis and slowly learned the art of listening to herself. It was inspirational.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

It is amazing how little we understand of our basic needs. Human touch and intimacy...

I have an old friend who went through a crisis and slowly learned the art of listening to herself. It was inspirational.

Yeah. We're kinda raised to find ourselves in others, which can be hard when the others aren't as readily available and you can end up feeling lost.

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Yeah. We're kinda raised to find ourselves in others, which can be hard when the others aren't as readily available and you can end up feeling lost.

"Two halves of a whole"

It is obvious now how many things we were taught that adults wanted to believe, had no clue.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Now that you say it, I mean write it, I see that it's "whole" and not "hole".

I was today years old, folks

My poor younger self had a hell of a time visualizing what that meant. I thought it was a vagina metaphor.

 

[Endless_Night]

Chocolate also gives you dopamine

I might've had a little interlude with a couple of dark chocolate caramels earlier.


When I say couple I mean four.