Aussie's Self Pleasure Study Club

[MrMikelobe1952]

Did you used to think height was a personality trait? Yeah, me too...

I think there's a subtle narrative in the world that girls should be attracted to guys who hurt them. I can't tell you the number of times I was told that it was understandable that a boy hit me in the playground because "he probably likes you". Extrapolate that to adolescence and beyond and it's fucking confusing as all shit because boys have been taught to be dismissive and violent to show interest and worse, women have been trained to interpret it as affection.

And I see so many people unlearning this toxic mess we've gotten ourselves into.

I tell you what, Gen Z has me on fire for the way they were navigating sexuality. I'm obsessed with their level of sexual literacy. And a little envious. The one thing I missed was having a group of friends who I could talk to about sex. I had my family, but I didn't want to talk to them about everything. So then I found you. And now my life is getting closer to complete

I hope you are right about GenZ. I still think young people are receiving a lot of distorted images of what sex is about. But I'm not really up on what life looks like to people growing up on social media.

 

[Strixaluco]

I hope you are right about GenZ. I still think young people are receiving a lot of distorted images of what sex is about. But I'm not really up on what life looks like to people growing up on social media.

It's not something that changes completely in one generation. Yet I think it is going towards better.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Orgasm gap is kind of a sexy term.
It just sounds hot.
“I really want to investigate your orgasm gap. Just get in there and see what I can do.”

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Orgasm gap is kind of a sexy term.
It just sounds hot.
“I really want to investigate your orgasm gap. Just get in there and see what I can do.”

You just turned something that gets me all hot and bothered into something that gets me all hot and bothered.
So, thank you?

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

It's not something that changes completely in one generation. Yet I think it is going towards better.

That is a good point.
There does seem to be reason to believe that progress is being made. At least on this front.
From a broader perspective, I also used to believe that the arc of the universe bends toward justice. But now I'm concerned it bends toward ecological catastrophe. Which may be justice in an old testament sort of way. But not what I used to think of.

 

[Strixaluco]

That is a good point.
There does seem to be reason to believe that progress is being made. At least on this front.
From a broader perspective, I also used to believe that the arc of the universe bends toward justice. But now I'm concerned it bends toward ecological catastrophe. Which may be justice in an old testament sort of way. But not what I used to think of.

It could go into any direction. Usually progress must be specifically made, it won't happen on it's own, and things can go backwards just as well, especially when there are people wanting that.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

It could go into any direction. Usually progress must be specifically made, it won't happen on it's own, and things can go backwards just as well, especially when there are people wanting that.

Yes
Progress requires work.
The people wanting to go backwards also seem to be putting in a lot of work.
And in the US, they are the ones with the guns.

 

[Strixaluco]

Yes
Progress requires work.
The people wanting to go backwards also seem to be putting in a lot of work.
And in the US, they are the ones with the guns.

I avoided making that reference as this is not a politics thread, but,,, yes.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Yeah
Sorry.
I have a hard time keeping my politics out of my posts.
I have to be reminded periodically.

 

[Strixaluco]

Yeah
Sorry.
I have a hard time keeping my politics out of my posts.
I have to be reminded periodically.

I don't mind some progress-minded comments, just I've seen how it can go with that and rather avoid it...

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I don't mind some progress-minded comments, just I've seen how it can go with that and rather avoid it...

I understood what you were saying.

 

[NC_Coastal]

Having raised a couple of Gen Z girls, I can definitely say that, yes, it's going every which way. They tend to be better educated than previous generations but far more stressed and depressed. They have great manners and areaware of all the big global issues but they don't read books. It's strange.
We're in a fairly small town, and I know (in fact have coached) virtually every boy to grow up here. My girls were protected in that sense. But now they're in college (a sophomore and a freshman) and I know they're going through some trying times. They lean on each other. They always have. They also know they can protect themselves with a nail file if they have to. And also, daddy and his gun are about an hour away.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

daddy and his gun are about an hour away.

 

[Diosax]

Alright friends,

It's time we talk about the orgasm gap that exists in the world today. Blame whatever the fuck you want. But if you engage in that game, you must also listen to other people's perspectives and weigh opinions appropriately; ie- a woman talking about something that affects women  may know just a little more than your mansplaining buddy, ok?

Ok.

Heterosexual women are woefully unstimulated during sex (except in Scandanavian countries where their sex ed curriculum teaches how to sexually simulate erogoneous zones in women ). A 1994 study by Laumann et al. of sexual practices in the United States found that 75.0% of men and 28.6% of women always had orgasms with their spouse.

Y'all, I find this unacceptable. And I fully support someone giving themselves the orgasms they deserve because their partnered sex doesn't get there. Gay women do not have this gap, gay men don't have this gap. This is a uniquely heterosexual phenomenon.

I can tell you from experience that once you have exceptional sex, it's hard to want to just lie still and take one for the team. As was stated before, it's more than being a wet hole. I know the "any hole's a goal" crowd may disagree, and that's okay.

So, let's talk orgasms. Orgasm gaps. And how masturbating shapes our sexual expectations.

Lol bless your heart for trying to get through these animals

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Lol bless your heart for trying to get through these animals

We'll see how many are willing to listen

And in the meantime we'll enjoy our orgasms.
Alone.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm on a bit of a self discovery ride today...

Wanna come along?

I've been thinking about lit and how different it feels for me now and what that means for me in terms of my sex life. Lit used to have a steady supply of jovial, sexy fun where wit, humor and innuendo were a plenty. We laughed with each other and it felt so good to just hang out.

It was mental masturbation for me!!!

I just didn't know it.

While it still flares up here every now and then, I'm not finding the same pleasure as I used to. The way I interact here has changed, and that's part of what's prompting me to explore new avenues of pleasure. As someone who wants to be a sexual being, I owe it to myself to keep going in whatever direction I find myself traveling.

So, my question for those of you who relate: how do you mentally stimulate yourself? Does reading the stories help? Listening to audio? PMing. Have you got your sexy tribe here who helps? Are you getting enough?

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'm on a bit of a self discovery ride today...

Wanna come along?

I've been thinking about lit and how different it feels for me now and what that means for me in terms of my sex life. Lit used to have a steady supply of jovial, sexy fun where wit, humor and innuendo were a plenty. We laughed with each other and it felt so good to just hang out.

It was mental masturbation for me!!!

I just didn't know it.

While it still flares up here every now and then, I'm not finding the same pleasure as I used to. The way I interact here has changed, and that's part of what's prompting me to explore new avenues of pleasure. As someone who wants to be a sexual being, I owe it to myself to keep going in whatever direction I find myself traveling.

So, my question for those of you who relate: how do you mentally stimulate yourself? Does reading the stories help? Listening to audio? PMing. Have you got your sexy tribe here who helps? Are you getting enough?

Depends on mood.
Sometimes, I read.
Sometimes I watch videos.
When I am fortunate, I have had someone who inspired me.
It all depends.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Depends on mood.
Sometimes, I read.
Sometimes I watch videos.
When I am fortunate, I have had someone who inspired me.
It all depends.

Yeah. It fun to have a muse

 

[Azuldrgon]

Yeah. It fun to have a muse

A muse is wonderful.
The majority of my writings on here have been thanks to different muse.
But the thought of someone while you are "playing your instrument" does enhance it, especially when you can detect certain things about them.
Like their perfume.
Or their voice.
Or the intake of breath.

 

[munch2much]

Another fascinating subject!

When I first became sexually active, I didn’t have much of a clue. Now this wasn’t for want of trying. I guess I couldn’t see things from a woman’s perspective.

My point of reference was as a teen who could make himself cum by using my little finger at the base of my penis (not even the tip). And it didn’t matter to me how crap my day had been, it just worked. And no social pressures. I was a teen boy, I was expected to be a horndog.

It soon became clear that women had a different experience of sex. And that lots of guys just didn’t care about women’s pleasure or took offence if offered tips.
Now I personally wanted to understand. But it still took a while to get a better understanding. And just when you think you’ve got it, yup, all women are different.
And even the same woman is different over the month, from mood to the viscosity of lubrication.

And now I’m older, it seams women will happily tell me what works for them. Not so much in their teens and early twenties. There was definitely a fear back then. It felt maybe more taboo.

I consider myself lucky in that for me, a large part of sexual pleasure comes from the pleasure of my PARTNER. That will always be by far my biggest turn on.

Oh jeez, I’m going on a bit.

 

[Beholders_Eye]

I'm on a bit of a self discovery ride today...

Wanna come along?

I've been thinking about lit and how different it feels for me now and what that means for me in terms of my sex life. Lit used to have a steady supply of jovial, sexy fun where wit, humor and innuendo were a plenty. We laughed with each other and it felt so good to just hang out.

It was mental masturbation for me!!!

I just didn't know it.

While it still flares up here every now and then, I'm not finding the same pleasure as I used to. The way I interact here has changed, and that's part of what's prompting me to explore new avenues of pleasure. As someone who wants to be a sexual being, I owe it to myself to keep going in whatever direction I find myself traveling.

So, my question for those of you who relate: how do you mentally stimulate yourself? Does reading the stories help? Listening to audio? PMing. Have you got your sexy tribe here who helps? Are you getting enough?

A large screen monitor. Several windows - A Lit story, a reblogme dot com archived blog, a saved picture slide show, a lit forum to post in. Switching back and forth ramps up the concupiscence. And the pièce de résistance: the imagination.

 

[munch2much]

So, my question for those of you who relate: how do you mentally stimulate yourself? Does reading the stories help? Listening to audio? PMing. Have you got your sexy tribe here who helps? Are you getting enough?

For me, it’s all of the above.
Stories can be very powerful.
Listening to someone orgasm…hot!

 

[hotwords229_A]

So, my question for those of you who relate: how do you mentally stimulate yourself? Does reading the stories help? Listening to audio? PMing. Have you got your sexy tribe here who helps? Are you getting enough?

I have a sexy tribe who help stimulate my mind--you are one of them.
But I also “write” sexy storylines involving some, or all, of my tribe in my mind. I’m too lazy to write these stories down so I am basically my own favorite author.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I have a sexy tribe who help stimulate my mind--you are one of them.
But I also “write” sexy storylines involving some, or all, of my tribe in my mind. I’m too lazy to write these stories down so I am basically my own favorite author.

You're one of mine, too
Do you know what I mean about the cadence changing. We used to whip each other into a frenzy on the regular #everythursdayandsunday

 

[Endless_Night]

You're one of mine, too
Do you know what I mean about the cadence changing. We used to whip each other into a frenzy on the regular #everythursdayandsunday

#imisseverythursdayandsunday