Aussie's Self Pleasure Study Club

[AveryElle]

I understand what you are saying, and it makes sense.
However, I think that, regardless of what is taught in medical school, male doctors would recognize the importance of sexual function to their male patients because, well, because it is important to them. I'm not blaming the women docs. Even today, women face an uphill battle in the medical establishment, especially if they choose to enter surgery or another highly compensated specialty. But I would have hoped that the process of medical education would not have caused them to submerge their humanity to such an extent.

I think you over-estimate how much it comes up in care of men unless the treatment is for prostate-related care. It's also important to women - I'd say the fact that we have like 15 minutes with a doctor and insurance doesn't cover the best-recommended care for female sexual dysfunction means it's not really a priority. Anyway, back to the thread!

 

[Beholders_Eye]

I think you over-estimate how much it comes up in care of men unless the treatment is for prostate-related care. It's also important to women - I'd say the fact that we have like 15 minutes with a doctor and insurance doesn't cover the best-recommended care for female sexual dysfunction means it's not really a priority. Anyway, back to the thread!

I must admit that, when I was considering treatments for prostate cancer, I never thought to ask about sexual side effects, nor did the urologist nor oncologist bring up the subject. There was some allusion to 'quality of life' and explanation of potential incontinence, but nothing about sexual function, E.D., etc. On the one hand, I (as patient) could have asked questions. On the other hand, the patient is a little bumfoozled by the whole experience and is not (I was not) savvy/alert enough to know what to ask. This was 20 years ago, and we used to rely more on the wisdom(?) and authority of the physician. I like to think that I would have asked more questions if it were today. And no doubt I would today consult the great oracle of the internet ahead of time.

 

[jackdaw]

Does anyone else go through a phase of being sexually aroused but have no ability to reach a climax when masturbating?

It's incredibly frustrating and doesn't do anything for my mood

Let's just say, you're not alone there.

 

[Beholders_Eye]

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I've been freaking terrible at masturbating lately.
And I've never felt sexier...

I know what it is. I'm kinda kicking ass in other aspects of my life that give me the good feels. Returning to work has challenged me to the point of flat out not having time to do all the things I want every day. Towards the end of the night I have to decide whose needs I'm going up invest in, because there are a lot of competing priorities in the house with such young kids. Plus, I've learned how important it is to factor in "tomorrow Aussie". She definitely deserves considerations.

So... I get to the end of the day and have tu exercise this bullshit thing called "discipline" and decide to not binge watch gossip girl whilst scrolling aimlessly on my phone. Ugh. At that point I can't be arsed to stay up to masturbate, so I just go to bed.

But what I've learnt is that me getting to solve problems that matter to me is satisfying and pleasurable in a way that jerking off just can't match. I have to really be in the mood to start masturbating, and if that means I go without self pleasure for weeks on end, I'm totally cool with it.

 

[Lady2020]

I'm not into solo. It gets old. When I connect with someone who knows what he's doing my sex drive lights up. I also enjoy making him cum as much as I can. That he can do that one right after the other is delightful.

 

[Strixaluco]

Starting dating pretty much ended my masturbation. I long for His touch, so solo just isn't quite fulfilling.

 

[Endless_Night]

It’s too cold to do anything but huddle under a blanket.

Being too sedentary leads me down rabbit holes. In particular, a recent conversation with The Bestie.

Gen Z is becoming known for revolutionizing views on sex and consent. Sometime back, I read that pocket groups of Zoomers are making the choice to not masturbate to other people without their consent.

The Bestie is a no nonsense practical kind of soul and found the whole idea ridiculous. Her view is that what happens in your own mind is nobody’s business but your own.

My thinking was the idea opened up some interesting lines of thought.

Our discussion centered on parameters. Where are the lines drawn?

1) Purely mental thought, with no props?

2) Porn? If it’s a job, surely sexual arousal is the intent.

3) Amateur porn? Consent implied?

4) What about celebrity photos?

5) Photos of people you know, taken without sexy context?

6) Photos or audios of exes? Do those have a user expiration date?

Bestie paused on 5, but ultimately decided as long as the photos weren’t taken surreptitiously and with nefarious intent it didn’t matter as long as the masturbatory object’s space wasn’t violated by being told of the fantasizing.

Her reaction to 6: Gross.

My reaction to Her reaction to 6:

Six is the one where I got stuck. The items were intended for sexy and were a gift. On the other hand, how would the ex feel if they knew they were still being sexualized?

It could be they would never know, but…them not knowing doesn't really make any difference to the integrity of the act, right?

Yet, would it even be wrong, since the items are, in fact, yours?



Idk. It needs to warm up so I can get out of the house.

 

[Strixaluco]

6) Photos or audios of exes? Do those have a user expiration date?

Six is the one where I got stuck. The items were intended for sexy and were a gift. On the other hand, how would the ex feel if they knew they were still being sexualized?

It could be they would never know, but…them not knowing doesn't really make any difference to the integrity of the act, right?

Yet, would it even be wrong, since the items are, in fact, yours?

2 men have such material about me. I assume at least one, probably both masturbate to it - and I'm fine with it. As long as they keep the stuff to themselves, I don't care. It's even flattering. (Then again, we separated in good terms.) I could even imagine 1-2 other exes doing the same if they had any such material.

 

[Endless_Night]

2 men have such material about me. I assume at least one, probably both masturbate to it - and I'm fine with it. As long as they keep the stuff to themselves, I don't care. It's even flattering. (Then again, we separated in good terms.) I could even imagine 1-2 other exes doing the same if they had any such material.

So, I am curious. You mention having parted on good terms. Would you feel differently if it involved an ex were the separation wasn't so amiable? At least on your end.

 

[Strixaluco]

So, I am curious. You mention having parted on good terms. Would you feel differently if it involved an ex were the separation wasn't so amiable? At least on your end.

It's possible. I might be uncomfortable about the ex having material about me at all. Luckily I haven't had to think about it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

My Dear Pervs,

It has been far too long since we've met. I do hope you've been studious. Taking all this knowledge and applying it practically to your lives.

I had a few months there where I kind of tippled off the self pleasure bandwagon. I wasn't feeling it and decided to just let that be okay for a while. I'm thrilled to announce that time is over and I'm ready to get back to work.

I tried something new today I took a vibrator outside and just relaxed into the afternoon.
9/10

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Don't forgot to clean your tools everyone.

I love this photo. I look proud almost?
I have no idea why I felt compelled to take this photo..
I'm glad I did

 

[jason28053]

Don't forgot to clean your tools everyone.

I love this photo. I look proud almost?
I have no idea why I felt compelled to take this photo..
I'm glad I did

I clean my tool in the shower daily.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I clean my tool in the shower daily.

That solicited quite the belly laugh from me
Well done

 

[jason28053]

That solicited quite the belly laugh from me
Well done

You’re welcome! Thanks for the inspiration

 

[Bry1313]

I like my tool and I keep it clean. This looks like my kind of club.

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

Dig this thread.

Trying to reconnect to my sexual side lately. This video, a guided mindful meditation helped me a lot. I dig it anyway. Someone put there may too. Love you all.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Good evening Literotica

 

[Justabaldguy70]

Good evening Literotica

What scent is the candle

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Eucalyptus and mint

 

[Justabaldguy70]

Eucalyptus and mint

I bet that smells yummy

 

[Bry1313]

 

[aussiegeekygal]

This one goes out to @NRJLIVES4ever

Over in another thread a discussion was started about masturbating in front of a mirror. NRJ inspired me to give it a go, and... just WOW.

That was deeper and intimate in a way I didn't expect. I let my eyes wander to wherever they wanted and even though it's obvious because it's a mirror, meeting my own eyes every time I looked for them caught me off guard and yet was rather lovely. I can see how practicing this helps you build a relationship with yourself. It's the first time in a very long time I felt like I was masturbating for me. I didn't even realize that I'd been feeling this kind of disconnect with my body, thinking about coming for other people instead of myself.

I'm gonna get me a full length mirror for my bedroom so I'm not sitting on a towel in the bathroom drowning out the screaming of kids in conflict. I wanna lean all the way in to the experience and really let go

 

[Endless_Night]

This one goes out to @NRJLIVES4ever

Over in another thread a discussion was started about masturbating in front of a mirror. NRJ inspired me to give it a go, and... just WOW.

Wait. I mean, this is fantastic! It sounds ah-mazing. Yay, you!

But -

That post was about masturbating?! I thought it was about bathing in front of a mirror!