Aussie's Self Pleasure Study Club

[NRJLIVES4ever]

This one goes out to @NRJLIVES4ever

Over in another thread a discussion was started about masturbating in front of a mirror. NRJ inspired me to give it a go, and... just WOW.

That was deeper and intimate in a way I didn't expect. I let my eyes wander to wherever they wanted and even though it's obvious because it's a mirror, but meeting my own eyes every time I looked for them caught me off guard and yet was rather lovely. I can see how practicing this helps you build a relationship with yourself. It's the first time in a very long time I felt like I was masturbating for me. I didn't even realize that I'd been feeling this kind of disconnect with my body, thinking about coming for other people instead of myself.

I'm gonna get me a full length mirror for my bedroom so I'm not sitting on a towel in the bathroom drowning out the screaming of kids in conflict. I wanna lean all the way in to the experience and really let go

Omg that is absolutely amazing. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so glad I gave you the idea and you ran with it. It was beautifully worded and echos my own experience.

The eye contact is indeed intense. I was like "well hello, handsome." I kept thinking that if I can give myself this kind of experience and beautiful feeling, just imagine what I've made other partners feel.

Self love...its a beautiful thing

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

That post was about masturbating?! I thought it was about bathing in front of a mirror!

Oh my dear, dear girl. I was saying "bating" short for "masturbating."

 

[Endless_Night]

Oh my dear, dear girl. I was saying "bating" short for "masturbating."

Oh. My. God.

I thought it was a typo.

Let me just die.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh. My. God.

I thought it was a typo.

Let me just die.

I. Cannot. Breathe.

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

Oh. My. God.

I thought it was a typo.

Let me just die.

Hahaha awwww don't be embarrassed, my vernacular is wacky, I know.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

@LadyLascivious1

 

[Endless_Night]

Omg.
Omg.
Omg.
Omg.

*pulls covers over head*

 

[Bry1313]

This one goes out to @NRJLIVES4ever

Over in another thread a discussion was started about masturbating in front of a mirror. NRJ inspired me to give it a go, and... just WOW.

That was deeper and intimate in a way I didn't expect. I let my eyes wander to wherever they wanted and even though it's obvious because it's a mirror, but meeting my own eyes every time I looked for them caught me off guard and yet was rather lovely. I can see how practicing this helps you build a relationship with yourself. It's the first time in a very long time I felt like I was masturbating for me. I didn't even realize that I'd been feeling this kind of disconnect with my body, thinking about coming for other people instead of myself.

I'm gonna get me a full length mirror for my bedroom so I'm not sitting on a towel in the bathroom drowning out the screaming of kids in conflict. I wanna lean all the way in to the experience and really let go

This was fantastic and @NRJLIVES4ever congrats on one of the great dedication posts ever here.

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

This was fantastic and @NRJLIVES4ever congrats on one of the great dedication posts ever here.

Man, seriously. I feel like Mr. Holland at the end of Mr. Holland's Opus.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Does that make me Rowena?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Then you definitely had shitty partners
Pleasure is about giving and taking .. equally

Sure, but it's not always that simple.
There's a lot of social conditioning that shames the sexuality out of women. That's part of why I started this thread in the first place.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Omg.
Omg.
Omg.
Omg.

*pulls covers over head*

I. Cannot. Breathe.

I’m laughing so hard that my eyes are tearing up. I had to pause my tv show because I couldn’t hear it. And I got asked what was so funny because the sound carried through the house

And the best part is that it’s because of @NRJLIVES4ever-isms which I tease him about incessantly. I’m probably gonna have to stop for at least a month now because this was just a perfect Lit moment

 

[LustfulIntentions2]

There are some moments that can only be achieved in the presence of truly outstanding perverts. I think this is one of them.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

There are some moments that can only be achieved in the presence of truly outstanding perverts. I think this is one of them.

That's the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

I’m laughing so hard that my eyes are tearing up. I had to pause my tv show because I couldn’t hear it. And I got asked what was so funny because the sound carried through the house

And the best part is that it’s because of @NRJLIVES4ever-isms which I tease him about incessantly. I’m probably gonna have to stop for at least a month now because this was just a perfect Lit moment

I'm laughing my ass off and my heart is a glow at the same time. I absolutely fucking love you guys.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm laughing my ass off and my heart is a glow at the same time. I absolutely fucking love you guys.

Love you too!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Coming back to this because I've been chatting with a girlfriend about this and it's had a much more profound effect on me than I expected.

The shaman himself helped me understand the power of but loving yourself you can see how others love you through the love you show. And I really love that perspective. This unfucked me in a way that I needed to be unfucked.

By looking into my own eyes I felt myself step out of the male gaze for possibly the first time in my life.

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

Does that make me Rowena?

Whoa, deep cut reference! Also yes.

Coming back to this because I've been chatting with a girlfriend about this and it's had a much more profound effect on me than I expected.

The shaman himself helped me understand the power of but loving yourself you can see how others love you through the love you show. And I really love that perspective. This unfucked me in a way that I needed to be unfucked.

By looking into my own eyes I felt myself step out of the male gaze for possibly the first time in my life.

I'm really glad it was such a great experience. That's amazing.

I've also been messing around with porn free solo sessions. Honestly it's been kinda great. It makes you get into your head a little more and use your imagination. Sex meditation is a thing too.

(Gotdayum I need to jerk off. )

 

[hotwords229_A]

thinking about coming for other people instead of myself.

I need clarification on this.
When you masturbate, you mean you’re thinking about coming from someone else, or you’re trying to build yourself up to be able to cum and get it over with during sex?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I need clarification on this.
When you masturbate, you mean you’re thinking about coming from someone else, or you’re trying to build yourself up to be able to cum and get it over with during sex?

Great question!!

When I'm masturbating, I'm normally thinking of getting off with someone else. And because I have sex with dudes I'm routinely thinking about getting off with a dude. Sex for me has always been a team sport, even solo sessions. I just realized YESTERDAY that I can be my own team member

It was the first time I masturbated that didn't feel performative at all

 

[CuriousJInLA]

Do you ever use pics or videos of yourself? Or yourself and partner?

 

[hotwords229_A]

And because I have sex with dudes I'm routinely thinking about getting off with a dude.

This is ironic because I get off thinking about you with a woman!
Just kidding. (Totally serious).

Seriously though, I understand what you’re saying. And I’m glad you are getting some much needed “you time” with you.

Do you never masturbate to the idea of a bunch of dudes pleasuring only you? Where their hands, mouths and cocks are strictly for your enjoyment and not their own?

Are your masturbatory thoughts based more in the real world or fantasy?

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

Great question!!

When I'm masturbating, I'm normally thinking of getting off with someone else. And because I have sex with dudes I'm routinely thinking about getting off with a dude. Sex for me has always been a team sport, even solo sessions. I just realized YESTERDAY that I can be my own team member

It was the first time I masturbated that didn't feel performative at all

Yeah, being present and in the current moment was a new thing for me too. I apply it during meditation but during a solo session it's a trip. Concentrating on the pleasure you're currently feeling is a whole different vibe.

Also in honor of you have a new tagline

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Do you ever use pics or videos of yourself? Or yourself and partner?

Yes, to both.
But in those cases I'm still thinking of someone else too.

This is ironic because I get off thinking about you with a woman!
Just kidding. (Totally serious).

Seriously though, I understand what you’re saying. And I’m glad you are getting some much needed “you time” with you.

Do you never masturbate to the idea of a bunch of dudes pleasuring only you? Where their hands, mouths and cocks are strictly for your enjoyment and not their own?

Are your masturbatory thoughts based more in the real world or fantasy?

Ha! I have thought a lot about me getting off with a woman. I still view and experience that through the male lens, if that makes sense? For example, knowing that is something you think of and enjoy bleeds in to that scenario and frames the experience for me.

I do masturbate to the thought of guys (usually one) pleasuring me. Usually it's him going down on me and again, I'm thinking both about my pleasure and the pleasure he experiences because I'm enjoying myself. I don't think about it in terms of just myself.

All my fantasies are rooted in some kind of reality. It is not necessarily something I have had to have participated in to imagine, but there's a stimulus/response thing that goes on. For example; I may not have ever fucked a person but after seeing a photo of them that provides enough information to explore, I may wonder what it feels like to have their cock slide in to me.

Make sense?

 

[CuriousJInLA]

Yes, to both.
But in those cases I'm still thinking of someone else too.

Ha! I have thought a lot about me getting off with a woman. I still view and experience that through the male lens, if that makes sense? For example, knowing that is something you think of and enjoy bleeds in to that scenario and frames the experience for me.

I do masturbate to the thought of guys (usually one) pleasuring me. Usually it's him going down on me and again, I'm thinking both about my pleasure and the pleasure he experiences because I'm enjoying myself. I don't think about it in terms of just myself.

All my fantasies are rooted in some kind of reality. It is not necessarily something I have had to have participated in to imagine, but there's a stimulus/response thing that goes on. For example; I may not have ever fucked a person but after seeing a photo of them that provides enough information to explore, I may wonder what it feels like to have their cock slide in to me.

Make sense?

Yep, some of my favorites are pics/vids of my wife and me, separate or together