Bi married women!!
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PatchIsMe
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Like many of you my husband is supportive of my curiosity. He isn't wanting to watch or be involved, if I asked him to be so then he would consider it. He also wants to meet whom ever I choose to go out with for my saftey. That is his biggest concern.
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I love the fact that my husband is concerned about my safety, and now to find out that after he has meet my lovely lady, that he won't have a problem with me meeting her for one on one just makes things all the more exciting. Now if only I could find HER! lol
This is such a great thread! Knowing there are other women out there with similar desires with husbands who may or may not be supportive. It is nice to know I'm not alone.
My 13 yr old has seen some of the sights I'm on (no door on the den) and has been asking questions. She's asking questions and I am being as honest as I can with her. I told her there are lots of married women who like to talk to other married women about being with women. I also explained to her that yes, Dad knows, and he's okay with this.
I am hoping it will help her in her quest to discover herself. If she has questions about her sexuality I want her to know IT'S OKAY to have feelings for boys and girls. Wish I knew that when I was her age.
My 13 yr old has seen some of the sights I'm on (no door on the den) and has been asking questions. She's asking questions and I am being as honest as I can with her. I told her there are lots of married women who like to talk to other married women about being with women. I also explained to her that yes, Dad knows, and he's okay with this.
I am hoping it will help her in her quest to discover herself. If she has questions about her sexuality I want her to know IT'S OKAY to have feelings for boys and girls. Wish I knew that when I was her age.
AZLovelyLady
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You are very evolved...
When I have kids I'd like to have your open attitude about sexuality and sex! My parents never had any kind of "birds and bees" talk with me, so I had to find out all my info from books, magazines, and friends (not the most reliable!) Anyway, I am really impressed by your openness with your daughter--right on momma!
And I too am married and bi with an unsupportive husband
And because I can't do anything about my desires to be with a another delicious woman again, it completely takes over my thoughts and has become an obsession! Luckily it's not a bad obsession...
When I have kids I'd like to have your open attitude about sexuality and sex! My parents never had any kind of "birds and bees" talk with me, so I had to find out all my info from books, magazines, and friends (not the most reliable!) Anyway, I am really impressed by your openness with your daughter--right on momma!
And I too am married and bi with an unsupportive husband
And because I can't do anything about my desires to be with a another delicious woman again, it completely takes over my thoughts and has become an obsession! Luckily it's not a bad obsession...And I too am married and bi with an unsupportive husband
trust me i know how hard it can be...my husband doesn't even want me to talk about it and he doesn't even know i'm on the thread. So i have to be very quiet about it. It is really hard. granted i woul dnever cheat on my husband but i seriously miss being with a women....it has been very hard for me these past 3 years!!!
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wow, its nice to know I am not alone
So it feels incredible to find other people in the same position. My hubby and I got married about 3 years ago, and he Knew I was bi, I told him the day after we met. But unfortunately I also thought I was monogamous. Well three years later I have intense desires for a woman, and I would like more than a one night stand, I want the full blown relationship...I fantasize about opening up our relationship, but I know the very idea of it would terrify him. He is very insecure and doesn't want to share me. I don't want to hurt him, but not having a woman in my life is causing me too completely obsess about it. I am stressed about it, and sexually frustrated, and going slightly insane... but its really nice to know that other people are going through the same thing.
So it feels incredible to find other people in the same position. My hubby and I got married about 3 years ago, and he Knew I was bi, I told him the day after we met. But unfortunately I also thought I was monogamous. Well three years later I have intense desires for a woman, and I would like more than a one night stand, I want the full blown relationship...I fantasize about opening up our relationship, but I know the very idea of it would terrify him. He is very insecure and doesn't want to share me. I don't want to hurt him, but not having a woman in my life is causing me too completely obsess about it. I am stressed about it, and sexually frustrated, and going slightly insane... but its really nice to know that other people are going through the same thing.
touche
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I kind of understand what you mean, although I am lucky that my husband is very accepting of my desires. Until you firgure out what to do, the lovely ladies here will keep you company in cyber space!
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luv2playwithu
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I have always had a weakness for bi-fems
You both make sense. There is nothing more lovely and sensual than two women enjoying sex with one another. We men can learn much from the way you make love to one another. The subtly and art of cunillingus etc etc.
Sex is ultimately about giving and sharing pleasure. Why miss out on something that can be so very enjoyable and pleasureable, it is a just another way of expressing our sexuality. I cannot understand why men often feel so threatened. It can add so much to a relationship.
LOL. You made sense. My hubby is of the understanding that being with another woman isn't cheating. To him he just finds the idea erotic. Like when I play with myself when he's not there and tell him about it. He know's how hot he makes me, and I can never seem to get enough of him, but being with a woman is just another way for me to express my sexuality.
Now I hope I made sense. LOL
You both make sense. There is nothing more lovely and sensual than two women enjoying sex with one another. We men can learn much from the way you make love to one another. The subtly and art of cunillingus etc etc.
Sex is ultimately about giving and sharing pleasure. Why miss out on something that can be so very enjoyable and pleasureable, it is a just another way of expressing our sexuality. I cannot understand why men often feel so threatened. It can add so much to a relationship.
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My husband knows and has encouraged me to pursue female partners. When we were dating I shared with him that I had been intimate with "a few" of my girlfriends over the years. At first he was very excited about this and almost immediately started angling for a threesome. However, I had done that twice and both times were a disaster. I am just not good with sharing. Anyway for the first few years of our relationship I had no desire or opportunities to be with woman, though I would occasionally fantasize about women when masturbating. Then my husband's best friend and his gorgeous wife moved into our neighborhood. She and I quickly became best friends and I soon found myself fantasizing about Ann on a regular basis. After a rather wild night of love making my husband asked me what had gotten into me. I confessed that it was Ann. We talked for along time that night and he told me that if I chose to pursue her I needed to use discretion her. Well my opportunity came a few weeks later on the first warm day of spring. The boys went to Palm Springs to play golf so I invited Ann over to layout by the pool and drink margaritas. Halfway through our first pitcher we had shed our tops and were giggling like schoolgirls. When we finished the first pitcher Ann jumped up and announced she was going to make me a special drink, in doing so she lost her balance and stumbled. She caught herself by grabbing the top of my chaise lounge. This left her right breast just inches from my face. She was laughing hysterically at herself and was taken by complete surprise when I sucked her nipple into my mouth. She froze, but she did not pull back right away. She let me roll my tongue around her nipple for several seconds. Then she straighten up and reached out her hand and said "let go shower and then go to bed". Ann and I were intimate friends for the next 5 years until we moved away.
When I have kids I'd like to have your open attitude about sexuality and sex! My parents never had any kind of "birds and bees" talk with me, so I had to find out all my info from books, magazines, and friends (not the most reliable!) Anyway, I am really impressed by your openness with your daughter--right on momma!
And I too am married and bi with an unsupportive husband
Thank you very much, LovelyLady. Your support helps me a great deal. I had one friend very concerned about what my daughter might say to someone and the fallout from that. I try to be as open with my kids as possible, without making them too uncomfortable. But of course, just because she is 13, my daughter is uncomfortable about many things!!! At least now when she is learning about her sexuality, she knows it's okay. No matter what she chooses, it's okay. That is the greatest gift I can give her right now.
And Bequ it is a amazing gift! to be able to have you daughter know that she can have feeling for whoever she wants a wonderful thing. Now she won't be scared about talking to you about it. We all support you and i know that i support you
Things are kinda shitty over on my end. I still can't find a freaking job and its getting really hard to deal with. I feel like a nothing all over again. And it sucks!!! All of my friends here have jobs and i have no one to talk to during the day. ARGH i hate it here!
gonna go back to reading my book.
Things are kinda shitty over on my end. I still can't find a freaking job and its getting really hard to deal with. I feel like a nothing all over again. And it sucks!!! All of my friends here have jobs and i have no one to talk to during the day. ARGH i hate it here!
gonna go back to reading my book.
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That's pretty Hot!
Can't say that I would have been that bold... Wish I could be though!I too have a friend that I fantasize about. She and her hubby came to visit my hubby and I about a week ago and stayed with us for 5 days. She's a cute, busty, and very attractive woman! My hubby knew of my attraction to her (and shares that attraction) so every time he had a chance to leave us two alone, he did. It paid off too! Well, let's just say the seed has been planted....
In previous visits, I could hear her and her hubby having sex in the guest room. I shared this information with her on this trip and told her that we liked hearing her moan and it turned us on so much. I told her that my hubby woke me up when he heard her moaning and we started having sex too. This didn't seem to bother her... She actually smiled when I told her. The day after I told her this, the guys went out to do guy stuff and I started talking to her about bras and where she buys hers. *I'm very busty myself and I have a hard time finding good bras that are sexy* She told me she also had a hard time so i suggested that we go look at bras together
So, we did! We went to several places and tried on bras in the same dressing room. She has a VERY NICE set... I might add! I saw them over and over again! We also tried on clothes and shared a dressing room together. Afterwards, she wanted to go to the sex store to look at toys and lingerie. We were in that store for hours and we had lots of fun looking at all the toys and playing with them. We both made purchases and planned to use our toys with the guys when they got home later that night. I was assuming we would be in different rooms (at least this first time), but would definitely be able to hear one another (we are both loud!). So, we met up with the guys and hung out with them for a bit. Well, wouldn't u know that she would get into an argument with her hubby and our plans would be foiled for that night (That was their last night too!). But, we will see them again in July and who knows... As far as I know she is straight and they don't swing, but I think she is a little more open to things. Who knows....
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When I have kids I'd like to have your open attitude about sexuality and sex! My parents never had any kind of "birds and bees" talk with me, so I had to find out all my info from books, magazines, and friends (not the most reliable!) Anyway, I am really impressed by your openness with your daughter--right on momma!
And I too am married and bi with an unsupportive husband
You have much support to live the life YOU want.
AZLovelyLady
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I have much support to the life I want? Does that mean to just indulge my desires no matter my husband's feelings about it? I'm just a bit confused to what you mean....explain please.
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You joined in a marriage and it's only fair that you consider his feelings and not go behind his back because he doesn't agree. It's unfortunate that he doesn't support your feelings, but a marriage consists of 2 not 1. You both made the decision to be in a marriage together and if you want it to work, you gotta play by the rules.
