Bi married women!!

[LadyC]

Hi Firebrain

My husband was always very accepting as well. He did express interest in watching or joining in, but he understands this is for me. At some point we might have a threesome or a foursome, but for now it's just me and my girlfriend.

He does like to hear about it, though!!

I don't mind my husband watching (joining in if we girls are in the mood). In face, I love him and anyone else to watch me having sex.

How you doing, Bequ?

 

[HDSpicy]

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I've missed all of you so much!!

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It's nice to meet you.
I have been married for 18 years and was bi-curious for many of those years. My husband knew how I felt and was all for me experimenting. Last year I finally was with a wonderful woman from Lit. We are very good friends and talk about maybe getting together again. I now have a girlfriend I see about once a week. I would really like to have a woman in my life like Claire does, but for now I will take what I can get!

I have had the wonderful opportunity to have a foursome with my husband and another couple. The experience was wonderful and certainly brings back fond memories. I hope the opportunity comes again soon!
I have had a strong desire lately to explore more one-on-one with a woman, and would love the chance to have a regular girlfriend - as you mention. I would love the chance to have regular "girl time" =) and build that special relationship.

 

[hottalyssa]

I have had the wonderful opportunity to have a foursome with my husband and another couple. The experience was wonderful and certainly brings back fond memories. I hope the opportunity comes again soon!
I have had a strong desire lately to explore more one-on-one with a woman, and would love the chance to have a regular girlfriend - as you mention. I would love the chance to have regular "girl time" =) and build that special relationship.

hello ms.b.and spicy.long time no see. pm me ladies.

 

[touche]

Just stopping by to say "Hi!" to all the lovely ladies here.
Smooches

 

[hottalyssa]

good morning ladies.che',good to see you also.kisses to all the ladies,alyssa

 

[CorsetLvr]

Hey

Yeah, my husband isn't quite that understanding, lol. I think he feels that anything I do 'outside' of our marriage should be of benefit to us both, so to speak. And I can't argue with that in many respects. I'm not sure that I'd want a girlfriend anyway, just someone to play with when the mood takes us...I like being married, I'm just greedy

Oh dear. I appear to be a bi tourist.

OK, I haven't contributed here in a while and I though it might be time for another of my long winded, philosophical posts. Today's topis is my thoughts on men in relationships with actively bi women. Over the years I have had to deal with all of the three basics types I will describe below. Enough so that I developed clear idea on what kind of man I could only be happy with in a LTR. OK, so here goes, for better or worse.

Type 1 : I would generally describe #1 as being characterized by low self esteem and confidence. He feels threatened by anything that doesn't place him in the center of a woman's sphere of interest. Everything seems to be a threat to his ego and sexuality. Sometimes this takes the form of egotistical bulster and swagger as he tries to over compensate for his lack of confidence. Typicall comments from him when learning that a woman is bisexual include: "The only reason that you like women is because you have never been with me," or "what can a woman do for you that I can't?" or some other similar, totally clueless, totally insensitve remark. This is the type of man that I would suggest that you run, not walk, away from. His insensitivity and self-confidence issues extend to other parts of his sex life and it has been my experience that he is generally a pretty lousy lover anyway.

Type 2: I laughingly refer to #2 as the "porn director." He greets the news that a woman is bi as if mana was falling from heaven. This news is generally followed by the following question, "Great, when can we do a 3-way with your girlfriend," or something similar. A woman's bisexuality has nothing to do with her or her needs to him, it does have everything to do with him and fulfilling his own, mostly porn inspired, fantasies. A bisexual woman is a means to an end. A selfish end, I might add. Here's the funny thing. He's mostly disappointed when and if a FMF 3-sum does occur, as are the female particpants as well. First off, he expects the event to be like a porn movie, with his as the director and star. His own physical limitations and need to control the action usually result in less than a satisfying sexual even for all parties involved. Its as if the mere event is capable of stimulating him to the superhuman sexual performance that he expects of himself. On top of that, he doesn't understand that sometimes the women involved just need for him to sit back and enjoy the view as they do their own thing. He needs to be in the center of action at all time.

Type 3: The kind of man that is comfortable with his own sexuality and secure in his ability as a man and a lover. He is supportive of his lover's needs and may go out of his way to make sure they are met, often sacrificing for her. Above all things, he understands that a bi woman has needs that he can't satisfy and is not threatened by it. Furthermore, he understands that as long as he doesn't pressure the woman, that the benefits of her sexuality will come back to him in the form of a happier, more balanced lover. I refer to this as "good things come to those that wait." Even if he is not involved sexually with his lover's "Other Woman," he still reaps the rewards of her being happy and satisfied. He's secure in his relationship with her and never feels threatened by a sexual relationship with another woman. He understands that she feels the need for both a malke and female in her life, to varying degrees. This needs can simply be sexual or emotional as well. In either case, he is confident in his own role in his lover's life. Good communication is integral to his realtionships. He is able to talk to her and negotiate terms that both can live with in order that both of their needs are being met and thus allow their relationship to grow and deepen.

OK, enough for now. I hope my thoughts on this matter will help you better consider where the man in your relationship falls. Of course I am painting with broad strokes here. I'm know that there are many men that fall in between the cracks of my generaliations and may demonstrate qualities of more than one type. Feel free to dispute me on this. However, my 30 years as an actively bi woman has served to support my classifications for the most part. It took me almost 20 of those years to find the #3 of my dreams that I knew would make me happy. Its not that I didn't meet other #3's along the way. But often they were in dedicated relationships with other women, who sometimes became my lovers as well, or we simply lacked the needed chemistry to click.

OK, I'll shut up now. I hope that my thoughts were useful to at least some of you.

 

[Firebrain]

OK, I haven't contributed here in a while ...

Thanks for your thoughts

You know, if I had told him before we got married, "I'd also like to fuck girls" then I think I'd have a right to protest a little. But I didn't - mainly because I wasn't sure - so I think whatever I do has to be a compromise. I'm ok with that.

Even if he didn't want to be involved, I still can't imagine where I'd find a girl; it's funny, I'd have no qualms telling a guy that I just wanted to screw him, but it seems crass to say that to a woman...

 

[_spitfire_]

My current hubby has no clue I'm Bi...to him it's beyond disgusting. But I do miss the feel of a beautiful woman.

 

[curiousisjane]

Hello Girls

Married but very bicurious and he does'nt know either. Dont you dare tell him...!

 

[LadyC]

Married but very bicurious and he does'nt know either. Dont you dare tell him...!

I'm married too, but given a choice between husband and lover (Teri) I'll go with her. It's a choice I'm sure I'll never have to make. We all live together and Teri and I often refer to Billy as our husband.

 

[annayarnkitten]

HI, i wanted to add my little tale. I have been married for 18 years and my husband and I have had a very active sex life and done many things finding out what turns us on most. I knew long ago I was Bi but never had any chances and never really had the confidence to do anything. I have been searching for a girlfriend for a couple years now, on Friend finder and fling and also a few posts here. I"ve had one date so far but no sparks. Honestly I am getting very frustrated. A few weeks ago we went to a Alternative club but nothing, in fact I think the gay guys were pretty interested in my husband! (shh).

He is fine with my interests, No guys though. He just wants me to be safe also and be careful with my drinking if I am out.

I am so frustrated though!!I would like any ideas as to where or how any of you meet anyone.

thanks
A

 

[hottalyssa]

Married but very bicurious and he does'nt know either. Dont you dare tell him...!

i wont tell, jane.lol. i hope our paths cross soon.

 

[LadyC]

The last post was 20 days ago. Where has everyone gone?

 

[jill33female]

mine does

i let him watch from time to time if he is good

 

[LadyC]

i let him watch from time to time if he is good

After giving his behind a good whipping with a riding crop or bamboo cane, I like to bind him to a hard wooded chair beside my bed and blindfold him so he may listen to our love making, but not see us. I am usually quite quiet when making love, but when Billy-boy is blindfolded beside the bed, I make a lot of noise. Some times, when my lover and I have sated ourselves, one of us may offer a hand to satisfy him.

 

[ShyLana]

Not a clue

Just need that itch scratched once in awhile. It would make life way too complicated. I keep most of what I need online, looking, reading, toys, etc.

XO
LAna

 

[StrayKat]

Yes, my husband knows. My ex husband knows too, all my boyfriends knew and most of my friends know. I had my first experience with a woman when I was 15 and I enjoy them every since. I never had to hide it, its one part of my sexuality I express very openly.

I had lot of threesomes, foursomes and many-somes together with my husband. Lately I am trying to explore something new in my (sex) life and my passion for women wore off for a bit, probably just a phase.

 

[amandablue469]

Yes he knows

My husband loves the fact that I love women on occasion. I can't go with out my husband though. The trouble is that it is so hard to find the right woman. I am in great shape and 40, but a little shy, so it's kind of tough.

 

[LadyC]

My husband loves the fact that I love women on occasion. I can't go with out my husband though. The trouble is that it is so hard to find the right woman. I am in great shape and 40, but a little shy, so it's kind of tough.

I'm sure there must be Gay Bars in Orlando, Amanda. Just dress nicely, and when someone smiles, return the smile....DO NOT look away.

 

[bequ23]

Claire!!! It is so good to see you on here! I haven't been around very much, but I am trying to get back into things.
I have a date tomorrow with a woman from Lit with whom I have talked a lot but have never met. Tomorrow will be very exciting for both of us, I think.

My husband has said many times he would like to watch me with a woman. He has seen me once with another woman and has always wanted another showing.

And now that he is actively revisiting his bisexual side, we are looking for another bi couple. Unfortunately, most of the couples on dating/sex sites are Straight male and Bi or Bi-curious female.

 

[OzDvl]

Hi girls, just stopping by to say hello, first time posting on this thread..been reading some of the posts and its great that so many of you have supportive hubbys.

I have been with my man for 13 years, i was 17 when i got with him, so never really had a chance to experiment and explore my own sexuality. I think i have always been interested girls and turned on by them, but as a teenager good never really work out what that all meant to me, because girls go with guys, not girls go with girls right? So a couple of years into my relationship these feelings and desires stirred up inside me again..and a couple of years after that one thing lead to another with a friend and we had a brief encounter, I am not proud of going behind my partners back, and i never have since, but she blew my mind and i have never been the same again. If i had to stick a lable on myself now yes, i would say i was bisexual, and sometimes the desires and cravings i have to feel all that again consumes me, its always on my mind. Don't get me wrong i love my husband, he is my best friend, but i think that if i was not with him i would be with a woman, i just don't 'look" at other guys. I have spoken to another friend about how i feel, and she asks why i am still with my husband, so many reasons, fear that my desires for a woman are really only fantasies because something is lacking my my relationship, fear that i am wrong and that i would me making a huge mistake if i left him, that i would realise i really do want to be with him forever after its all too late, my kids, they deserve a mother and father together and i am not selfish enough to stuff that up for them, its not like i don't love him, because i do as i said my best friend..what if i only have these feelings because i have been with him so long, what if its really all in my head?
Sorry about that, just think i needed to vent some of my feelings and thoughts, somewhere, anywhere, where it is safe to do so..most of this is bottled up all the time..and even as i write this now i have to urge myself to keep typing the words that come to my head, and keep myself from hitting the delete button..because once it is written it all seems more real.

 

[all_the_goodies]

Well my husband is aware but he doesn't care. I even offered to let him watch me with another girl and he said NO! ... still I haven't BEEN with a girl but I wanna.

 

[LadyC]

OzDvl, Married at 17....A virgin bride?

My friend Kay was married at 17 too. She was thirty-something when she met up with one of the girls in our little circle of bi-married women for occasional afternoon get togethers (we call them tea parties even though no tea is served). Her husband knows about this side of her sex life and it is fine with him. He confessed to her that he is also bi and has had "friends" behind her back. Now it is out in the open and everyone is happy.

 

[OzDvl]

oh no not married at 17..lol we got together when i was 17 nearly 18 and married 5 years later..I think he knows that i am interested in woman to some extent, but he just thinks that it means i would be happy to have a threesome, or be with another girl and he can watch, but i would rather go without, either of his 2 options makes me feel like its all a show for him, not about me..so abstinence is better..right? lol

 

[Tornia]

Although I am not married, I have always told my partners (male or female) that I am essentially bi. I cannot imagine every being able to settle down with a member of one or other sex - unless they were prepared for me to have lovers. I'm open to threesomes - have enjoyed quite a few, strangely enough they have nearly always been mff rather than mfm. On the odd time when I have had the pleasure of two men at the same time, I have always felt that it has been more for me than my partner.

I love sex, be it with a cock or a pussy or just little ole me! xx