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Hey BBWlynn I may be wrong and it will not be the first time or the last but here goes Most men your age still uses the wrong head to think with!!!!!
And yes I date BBW’S
And yes I date BBW’S
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pipercatt
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Thanks to all, and keep it up!
As a semi-secure (it's an open battle) BBW, I just want to thank everyone for the positive comments, and insightful notions. It does this little catt good to see that other people feel and think the same way about this subject.
Take care all,
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As a semi-secure (it's an open battle) BBW, I just want to thank everyone for the positive comments, and insightful notions. It does this little catt good to see that other people feel and think the same way about this subject.
Take care all,
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sandy211,
I don't ever recall getting a PM or an email from you. So I am not quite sure how you could know that I don't write back (which in fact I always write back unless the message was offensive to me in some way!
) Besides I was talking about in real life, not on here! 
I don't ever recall getting a PM or an email from you. So I am not quite sure how you could know that I don't write back (which in fact I always write back unless the message was offensive to me in some way!
) Besides I was talking about in real life, not on here! I share your frustration. I'm 6' 270 and 65. Strike two. I get so pissed when I hear the nasty things that are said, never very discretely. I love a woman because of what she is inside, not outside. I love to eat a woman till she screams and it doesn't make a bit of difference what she looks like. I'm too busy tasting her. I love a woman with sensitive breasts and the ability to be loud if she wants, or soft and sensous if that' s waht she likes. Ihope you find a man that can do that for you. I'm still looking for my fantacy woman.
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My post was not meant to bring offense to anyone here so let me rephrase My earlier statement....yes I do have my own personla tastes for BBW's instead of teir thinner counterparts....but does that mean I look for that and that alone, NO. I look for the bigger picture..<bah..excuse the pun not intended>..personality is a big one..if I cannot connect with you no matter who you are it just istn going to work out..and I do seem a bit picky..because I want the best. Is that so bad on me to wnt thevery best for myself, no I personally dont think so. To mystique, your words moved me greatyl and you are correct in every word you say. "many gents will go for a less endowed lady, mainly because it's what society dictates; just look at the ads on TV, on billboards, in magazines, and movies, how many BBWs do you see featured advertising products or as prominent stars? no matter how capable or qualified they may be. One of my pet peeves. " this one in particular and it is sad how jaded our society has become that a larger woman loses out because her body isnt as "perfect" as the society's eye wishes them to be...Bah I say to that I think society needs to change and here and now I take a stand on it..anyone with Me in this rebellion?
My post was not meant to bring offense to anyone here so let me rephrase My earlier statement....yes I do have my own personla tastes for BBW's instead of teir thinner counterparts....but does that mean I look for that and that alone, NO. I look for the bigger picture..<bah..excuse the pun not intended>..personality is a big one..if I cannot connect with you no matter who you are it just istn going to work out..and I do seem a bit picky..because I want the best. Is that so bad on me to wnt thevery best for myself, no I personally dont think so. To mystique, your words moved me greatyl and you are correct in every word you say. "many gents will go for a less endowed lady, mainly because it's what society dictates; just look at the ads on TV, on billboards, in magazines, and movies, how many BBWs do you see featured advertising products or as prominent stars? no matter how capable or qualified they may be. One of my pet peeves. " this one in particular and it is sad how jaded our society has become that a larger woman loses out because her body isnt as "perfect" as the society's eye wishes them to be...Bah I say to that I think society needs to change and here and now I take a stand on it..anyone with Me in this rebellion?
I love all ladies
I've been very lucky throughout my life with ladies of all shapes and sizes and ages, I've found enjoyment with different ones for different reasons but prefer a lady with some meat on her as they seem to enjoy life more and are willing to please(and they do).
Any ladies in Sydney Aust please contact me as I'm single now and need to find a partner be it just sex,occasional meetings or more please try me i'm late 40's and willing to please
I've been very lucky throughout my life with ladies of all shapes and sizes and ages, I've found enjoyment with different ones for different reasons but prefer a lady with some meat on her as they seem to enjoy life more and are willing to please(and they do).
Any ladies in Sydney Aust please contact me as I'm single now and need to find a partner be it just sex,occasional meetings or more please try me i'm late 40's and willing to please
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Just curious, do you, or any of these other BBW
"overlook" the BHM (big handsome men?)
I little chunk (esp in the right places) can be sexy, but
I think fat women are disgusting. No accounting for
taste! But, I bet a lot of these BBW (not necessarily BBWlynn)
are hypocrites in that they are holding out for that skinny guy with
the fat fetish. I bet a lot of you are as disgusted by
fat men as I am by fat women (and men).
I'm not a bitter BHM btw: 6'3", 185lbs
BBWlynn said:
Just curious, do you, or any of these other BBW
"overlook" the BHM (big handsome men?)
I little chunk (esp in the right places) can be sexy, but
I think fat women are disgusting. No accounting for
taste! But, I bet a lot of these BBW (not necessarily BBWlynn)
are hypocrites in that they are holding out for that skinny guy with
the fat fetish. I bet a lot of you are as disgusted by
fat men as I am by fat women (and men).
I'm not a bitter BHM btw: 6'3", 185lbs
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I gotta disagree with you there, Topher. I don't think that BBW's are holding out for skinny guys with a fat fetish. I've met a couple of guys like that, and frankly I haven't felt comfortable with them.
I think the point most people here are making is that it's what's on the inside that counts, not outside.
You may find BBW's "disgusting," and that's your right. However, don't assume that because you choose not to see the beauty in people who don't match society's declaration of what is pretty or handsome, everyone else feels the way you do.
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Topher said:
I gotta disagree with you there, Topher. I don't think that BBW's are holding out for skinny guys with a fat fetish. I've met a couple of guys like that, and frankly I haven't felt comfortable with them.
I think the point most people here are making is that it's what's on the inside that counts, not outside.
You may find BBW's "disgusting," and that's your right. However, don't assume that because you choose not to see the beauty in people who don't match society's declaration of what is pretty or handsome, everyone else feels the way you do.
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well said pipercatt it is what’s on the inside
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I don't want to get into a bitter argument with pipercatt because there is merit to what she says. But I am insulted by the intimation that I am somehow shallow because I am honest about my tastes. I don't think *any* person here is so enlightened that he is some kind of bodhisattva. None of us are so enlightened that we aren't influenced by society. But, hey, I prefer smaller breasts; society says "bigger". I like asian women; society says "They're ok, but Pam Anderson (Lee whatever her self-indulgentness's name is these days) is better".
I like men; society says, "I'm starting to get more comfortable with that, but it would be best if you liked white women". I like men and women; gay society says "You're riding the fence, and will eventually admit you're gay".
So don't imply that society rules my tastes, and that, all things being equal, men undirected by society would be attracted to fat women as well as slender women. The simple fact is, though
there is a lot of statistcal variation and cultural influence, "beauty" is based on mathematical principles, and obesity doesn't balance the equations. There's a lot of evidence that we are hardwired to be attracted to health, and being fat is not healthy. True, there are *many* men who develop a taste for fat, but I think it is unfair for men to be accused of being shallow because they are not attracted to fat women.
I admit that no one really did imply that in so many words before my post, so I kind of trolled it out of pipercatt (sorry pipercatt) and she didn't say it outright herself - I am inferring that she thought I was shallow.
No one has taken a poll here, but I guess my main point is that, were a poll taken, the majority of obese women respondants (notice I did not say ALL) would, all things considered, prefer a slender man to an obese one. I just resent that more-enlightened-than-thou attitude people get about sexual preferences. I have a hard time believing that bodhisattvas follow what transpires on erotica websites.
I don't want to get into a bitter argument with pipercatt because there is merit to what she says. But I am insulted by the intimation that I am somehow shallow because I am honest about my tastes. I don't think *any* person here is so enlightened that he is some kind of bodhisattva. None of us are so enlightened that we aren't influenced by society. But, hey, I prefer smaller breasts; society says "bigger". I like asian women; society says "They're ok, but Pam Anderson (Lee whatever her self-indulgentness's name is these days) is better".
I like men; society says, "I'm starting to get more comfortable with that, but it would be best if you liked white women". I like men and women; gay society says "You're riding the fence, and will eventually admit you're gay".
So don't imply that society rules my tastes, and that, all things being equal, men undirected by society would be attracted to fat women as well as slender women. The simple fact is, though
there is a lot of statistcal variation and cultural influence, "beauty" is based on mathematical principles, and obesity doesn't balance the equations. There's a lot of evidence that we are hardwired to be attracted to health, and being fat is not healthy. True, there are *many* men who develop a taste for fat, but I think it is unfair for men to be accused of being shallow because they are not attracted to fat women.
I admit that no one really did imply that in so many words before my post, so I kind of trolled it out of pipercatt (sorry pipercatt) and she didn't say it outright herself - I am inferring that she thought I was shallow.
No one has taken a poll here, but I guess my main point is that, were a poll taken, the majority of obese women respondants (notice I did not say ALL) would, all things considered, prefer a slender man to an obese one. I just resent that more-enlightened-than-thou attitude people get about sexual preferences. I have a hard time believing that bodhisattvas follow what transpires on erotica websites.
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Whoa...I am impressed with your thoughts, Topher, as well as your way of expressing them. But I have to remind you: I said you were entitled to your opinion, but don't assume that BBW's are holding out for skinny guys with a fat fetish. No where in that statement is an implication that I think you are shallow.
I did take offense that you said fat women were disgusting. It's a pretty harsh word, considering the thread you are in. Again, it's your opinion, and your right to express it is not in dispute. However, did you honestly think that it would go unchallenged to use an insulting word to discribe other human beings?
I don't consider myself "enlightened," just looking not to be called names. I thought I expressed my personal views in such a way so as not to provoke an attack, but I was mistaken. So, Topher, you have my apologies.
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Topher said:
Whoa...I am impressed with your thoughts, Topher, as well as your way of expressing them. But I have to remind you: I said you were entitled to your opinion, but don't assume that BBW's are holding out for skinny guys with a fat fetish. No where in that statement is an implication that I think you are shallow.
I did take offense that you said fat women were disgusting. It's a pretty harsh word, considering the thread you are in. Again, it's your opinion, and your right to express it is not in dispute. However, did you honestly think that it would go unchallenged to use an insulting word to discribe other human beings?
I don't consider myself "enlightened," just looking not to be called names. I thought I expressed my personal views in such a way so as not to provoke an attack, but I was mistaken. So, Topher, you have my apologies.
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To Cyn1969 or whatever the number is
The problem is not your weight, its looking at bars as a place to meet men. I never did well at bars either. Every woman I ever met was at a place where I was doing something I liked - this goes back to when I was 9
Fat is a problem, but it is not a fatal problem. I have had many bbw lovers throughout my life, and I do not regret any of it. You said you do not like rejection - well guess what thin people do not like rejection either! Let me tell you I've been rejected a lot - rejection sux! And although I was always outcast for my nerdiness rather than my weight, with a little work and effort I have for the most part been able to find sexual partners.
Although its nice to fantasize about meeting someone on day 1 and falling madly in love and having great wild intense sexual passion, what I have had to settle for is meeting someone, becoming friends with this woman, then maybe later getting into good sex and such. No one ever writes songs about this, and society seems to think that this is a wimpy thing to do, but its what gets the job done for me.
The bbw lovers I have had have been EXCELLENT lovers. The pleasure I have shared with them has brought much joy and satisfaction and just plain sexual ecstacy to my life.
The problem is not your weight, its looking at bars as a place to meet men. I never did well at bars either. Every woman I ever met was at a place where I was doing something I liked - this goes back to when I was 9
Fat is a problem, but it is not a fatal problem. I have had many bbw lovers throughout my life, and I do not regret any of it. You said you do not like rejection - well guess what thin people do not like rejection either! Let me tell you I've been rejected a lot - rejection sux! And although I was always outcast for my nerdiness rather than my weight, with a little work and effort I have for the most part been able to find sexual partners.
Although its nice to fantasize about meeting someone on day 1 and falling madly in love and having great wild intense sexual passion, what I have had to settle for is meeting someone, becoming friends with this woman, then maybe later getting into good sex and such. No one ever writes songs about this, and society seems to think that this is a wimpy thing to do, but its what gets the job done for me.
The bbw lovers I have had have been EXCELLENT lovers. The pleasure I have shared with them has brought much joy and satisfaction and just plain sexual ecstacy to my life.
I'll accept your apology if you'll accept mine. I guess it was a strong word, but it is the word I would use if I were on my soapbox expounding to a friend. It might not be precise, however. "Having sex with a fat woman doesn't appeal to me" might be better. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
If you called skinny guys disgusting I might be hurt too (well, nah, not really). I just want the cards to be on the table. I think honest expression about such issues, when everyone may remain anonymous, can only be beneficial. I'm interested in what people *really* think and feel.
I'm sorry if my rhetorical choices cause pain to anyone. Thanks for the feedback pipercatt.
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If you called skinny guys disgusting I might be hurt too (well, nah, not really). I just want the cards to be on the table. I think honest expression about such issues, when everyone may remain anonymous, can only be beneficial. I'm interested in what people *really* think and feel.
I'm sorry if my rhetorical choices cause pain to anyone. Thanks for the feedback pipercatt.
-T
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Big, bigger, bigot?
No big thing
Thanks Korelon and Fireya for your comments about my post, I never did hear from Lynn.
Anyway, I've been reading the latest additions and happy to see the interesting discussion taking place. It is beneficial to air our grievances and voice our opinions, whether we are all in agreement or not. The exchange between pipercatt and Topher demonstrates that communication is alive and well.
Personally, I stay away from the so-called "BBW lovers" because, the way I see it, I don't want to be the target of a fetish, that's what it boils down to, in my humble opinion. Whether the term used to describe someone who is not slim be chubby, chunky, big, fat, large, obese, overweight, or "Rubenesque", the fact remains that a person is a person and the whole person is what matters, not just the sexual aspect, although it is a plus when we can become acquainted with that someone who we find attractive, intelectually as well as physically, who stimulates our minds as well as our bodies, and loves us for who we are, now wouldn't it be loverly?
Where the BHM are concerned, I've been friends, socially and intimately with BigBodiedMen, and they had to have been some of the happiest people I ever knew! They have a tendency to enjoy life and spend time on the relationship , not flexing muscles for all the world to admire and compliment, and let me add, (before the slim muscular guys tar and feather me lol) it comes back again to the who and not what the physical makeup of the man is.
Sadly, in a society where bigger is usually considered better, there seems to be a double standard when it comes to those of us with more substantial physical attributes. But, thankfully, we are free to make choices, according to who tickles our fancy, and that in itself, is a big step.
No big thing Thanks Korelon and Fireya for your comments about my post, I never did hear from Lynn.
Anyway, I've been reading the latest additions and happy to see the interesting discussion taking place. It is beneficial to air our grievances and voice our opinions, whether we are all in agreement or not. The exchange between pipercatt and Topher demonstrates that communication is alive and well.
Personally, I stay away from the so-called "BBW lovers" because, the way I see it, I don't want to be the target of a fetish, that's what it boils down to, in my humble opinion. Whether the term used to describe someone who is not slim be chubby, chunky, big, fat, large, obese, overweight, or "Rubenesque", the fact remains that a person is a person and the whole person is what matters, not just the sexual aspect, although it is a plus when we can become acquainted with that someone who we find attractive, intelectually as well as physically, who stimulates our minds as well as our bodies, and loves us for who we are, now wouldn't it be loverly?
Where the BHM are concerned, I've been friends, socially and intimately with BigBodiedMen, and they had to have been some of the happiest people I ever knew! They have a tendency to enjoy life and spend time on the relationship , not flexing muscles for all the world to admire and compliment, and let me add, (before the slim muscular guys tar and feather me lol) it comes back again to the who and not what the physical makeup of the man is.
Sadly, in a society where bigger is usually considered better, there seems to be a double standard when it comes to those of us with more substantial physical attributes. But, thankfully, we are free to make choices, according to who tickles our fancy, and that in itself, is a big step.
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My first few girls were thin and shapely, and very "average" in just about every way. For years (and especially now), I have been exclusively with women with some flesh on theirr bones. My current lover (about a year) is chubby to a point that there are limited ways that I can get deep inside her, but when we do ..... she is the most responsive, multiple-orgasmic woman I have ever met. Sexiest woman alive, in my opinion. And the fact that she is very intelligent doesn't hurt at all. I'd love to talk with you by e-mail or IM. :>)
I am straight, so I personally do not want to go out with a woman that looks like a 12 year old boy, only in a dress!!(laugh) I don't understand what all the hoopla is about with these ads that depict bony women?? I don't SEE many of them in the REAL WORLD..and I for one don't really want to.
I want a woman to look like a WOMAN. Breasts, butt, and a face that would launch ships!! Or any one of the three will usually do!(laugh)
IF you have ever blown $200 on a really good dinner, to sit across the table from someone that just ORDERED IT, and watch them pick at a few veggies on the plate, and not even ask for a doggie bag, then you will know EXACTLY how I feel!! If you WANT it, ORDER it, if you ORDER IT, Eat it, and when you eat it..ENJOY IT!! I know I will.
Size like ALL OTHER THINGS is relative.. what may be skinny to ME, may be HUGE TO YOU..and vice versa..but I do know this, when a man marries a LARGE woman..they USUALLY STAY married!! It is usually only when he marries a skinny one, and then she blows up, that they split up. So what does that tell ya? I have stepped in puddles that were as shallow as men like that, and never gotten my feet wet!..Or women for that matter.
I want a woman to look like a WOMAN. Breasts, butt, and a face that would launch ships!! Or any one of the three will usually do!(laugh)
IF you have ever blown $200 on a really good dinner, to sit across the table from someone that just ORDERED IT, and watch them pick at a few veggies on the plate, and not even ask for a doggie bag, then you will know EXACTLY how I feel!! If you WANT it, ORDER it, if you ORDER IT, Eat it, and when you eat it..ENJOY IT!! I know I will.
Size like ALL OTHER THINGS is relative.. what may be skinny to ME, may be HUGE TO YOU..and vice versa..but I do know this, when a man marries a LARGE woman..they USUALLY STAY married!! It is usually only when he marries a skinny one, and then she blows up, that they split up. So what does that tell ya? I have stepped in puddles that were as shallow as men like that, and never gotten my feet wet!..Or women for that matter.
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'Evening BBWlynn
No reply to me was necessary lynn, I meant in general, since it was your post that caught my eye when I read and posted on this thread the first time, and so much has been discussed since then, and most interesting too. Hope you're doing fine
the gunman speaks his mind! makes sense, and I know I enjoy my meal when a gent takes me out, see, that's all part of it, we're big on enjoying the good things in life and I always have room for dessert
wascalwabbit, you're a sweetheart, and thanks for telling it like it is, you're a lucky man and that's one fortunate lady
No reply to me was necessary lynn, I meant in general, since it was your post that caught my eye when I read and posted on this thread the first time, and so much has been discussed since then, and most interesting too. Hope you're doing fine
the gunman speaks his mind! makes sense, and I know I enjoy my meal when a gent takes me out, see, that's all part of it, we're big on enjoying the good things in life
and I always have room for dessert wascalwabbit, you're a sweetheart, and thanks for telling it like it is, you're a lucky man and that's one fortunate lady
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Running late as always...
I always seem to find these great posts a day late or so it seem. I myself am a BBW and in reading the discussions on here, I was reminded of a poem that a friend sent to me years ago that really made me rethink about how I felt about myself. I still carry a copy of it in my purse and I'd like to share it with you guys......
Walk With Me
I may not be your greatest passion,
But lower flames burn longer;
And I may not overwhelm your soul,
But a gentle strength is stronger;
I may not be the most beautiful,
But with time, all beauty fades;
And I may not be your sunshine,
But when you rest you choose the shade;
I may not fill your heart with laughter,
But there is joy in just a smile;
I could be everything you always wanted,
Come walk with me awhile.
---Debbie Stevens
I always seem to find these great posts a day late or so it seem. I myself am a BBW and in reading the discussions on here, I was reminded of a poem that a friend sent to me years ago that really made me rethink about how I felt about myself. I still carry a copy of it in my purse and I'd like to share it with you guys......
Walk With Me
I may not be your greatest passion,
But lower flames burn longer;
And I may not overwhelm your soul,
But a gentle strength is stronger;
I may not be the most beautiful,
But with time, all beauty fades;
And I may not be your sunshine,
But when you rest you choose the shade;
I may not fill your heart with laughter,
But there is joy in just a smile;
I could be everything you always wanted,
Come walk with me awhile.
---Debbie Stevens
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