BPD.. Borderline Personalities & Relationships

[nottee_1]

What is BPD?

Borderline personality disorder is a mental health condition that affects the way people feel about themselves and others, making it hard to function in everyday life. It includes a pattern of unstable, intense relationships, as well as impulsiveness and an unhealthy way of seeing themselves. Impulsiveness involves having extreme emotions and acting or doing things without thinking about them first.

Borderline personality disorder is an intense disorder, and I'm starting this thread because I have rarely seen it discussed on Lit.

Do you have BPD, or know a special person with the disorder?

Here is a safe space to discuss it..
Or check in on good or bad days..

 

[nottee_1]

What does it present as?

 

[nottee_1]

Hi, I have BPD and it effects my daily life..
And has interfered in 99% of my close relationships.
It's very difficult to have healthy relationships when you or somebody you love has it..

I'm not ashamed to admit it makes me insane at times.. But, of course, extra loving at others..

I have severe abandonment issues..
And black*white thinking at times.

I know that several relationship issues are here on lit threads.. and BPD is definitely a relationship issue.

 

[diavolo2025]

Interesting, thread, subscribed.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

A common side effect of civilization is unhappiness and madness.

 

[nottee_1]

Bpd is a side effect of PTSD... At least for me it is.
I read the other day people who have fear of abandonment issues do so because they've been abandoned in the past.

 

[nottee_1]

I met a guy when you could chat and comment easy on their amateur xxx videos...17 years ago...

It was supposed to be a fun friendship.. But I started feeling intense for him...I needed constant contact online as much as possible.. And I had just got separated from a 12 year marriage..
I left my husband... So I didn't feel abandoned... Not until later on...

But, this guy from the porn site had a history of dating crazy chicks. I ended up having the worst mood swings during the first 2 years of that connection.. Only knowing about bipolar..I didn't exactly fit that.. It was more.

After a while, I learned about borderline personality disorder. And a bright light came on!!! That!!

You know what??
17 years later.. We're still friends online!???

It's possible to have people stand by you.. Regardless of what shape your mind is in

 

[nottee_1]

I love tiktoks... And they're great ones on BPD!!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTBtwvLoX/

 

[nottee_1]

Are you now, or have you been in a friendship or relationship with a person who has BPD??

It can be as difficult for the "favorite person", or FP..as it is for the BPD sufferer.

A "FP" is what we refer to as the person we are fixated on.
It can be a friend, lover, family member, even ones therapist.

I have a fp currently.. But before them, I have had one since childhood.

My current knows, all too well , about my BPD, how I see things as black or white.. And has been the ride for many of my splitting episodes.

 

[nottee_1]

Favorite Person article
https://brookeglenhospital.com/blog/favorite-person-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/