Brutal Honesty.

[25MalePhx]

I'm sorry if this is in the wrong spot, i'm new here. For once I wanted to start something new off with some brutal honesty about myself and why i'm here.

I am 25 year old male and have been married for a few years now. I'm not really happy. Let me try to explain why...

I probably got married too young, but those things happen -- Young people make mistakes! Anyway, I've only ever had sex with my Wife and while at the time I didn't think it would make any difference, now I find myself wanting to taste different women and enjoy different women. I haven't cheated on my Wife at this point, but I do find myself constantly fantasizing every time I see a beautiful woman.

My Wife has kind of let herself go. She complains about the way she looks but seems to refuse to do anything about it. She prefers to complain than to fix the problem at hand.

I now find myself wanting to find a discrete relationship just to try something new with someone new. Just a hot, brief, taboo romance with a young, energetic, sex crazed woman that I know would have as much fun as I was having...

So I found my way here, and i'm not sure why exactly i'm posting here, but i'm just posting what i'm feeling. Horny, bored, and really curious about other women.

Thanks.

 

[koalabear]

welcome to the me,me,me generation.

 

[flyjenny]

Welcome fellow phoenixian... Is that a word? haha

 

[25MalePhx]

welcome to the me,me,me generation.

Not sure how to take that? Thanks?

Welcome fellow phoenixian... Is that a word? haha

Hah. I think i've heard that a few times, but I'm not originally from here, so I wouldn't call myself that.

 

[lovin69]

Check out the "Happily Married, Sexually Unfulfilled" thread here in the Playground. If nothing else, you will find folks to talk to and get some (wanted or unwanted) advise.

Welcome to Lit.

 

[25MalePhx]

Check out the "Happily Married, Sexually Unfulfilled" thread here in the Playground. If nothing else, you will find folks to talk to and get some (wanted or unwanted) advise.

Welcome to Lit.

Thanks for the point in the right direction. Sorry for posting in the wrong place.

And thank you for the welcome!

 

[ima6uldv8]

Well, if you're horny, you've certainly cum to the right place. To me, happily married is an oxymoron. But it's not for everyone. Do you think your wife senses how you feel and that's why she's let herself go? I would suggest talking to her about your feelings. You could encourage her by getting gym memberships and going to work out together.

 

[25MalePhx]

Well, if you're horny, you've certainly cum to the right place. To me, happily married is an oxymoron. But it's not for everyone. Do you think your wife senses how you feel and that's why she's let herself go? I would suggest talking to her about your feelings. You could encourage her by getting gym memberships and going to work out together.

I tried to take her to the gym. I went for months and asked her every day if she'd like to go... She finally went and she refused to push herself. She'd say it hurt and she just couldn't do it without even trying. She refused to try and eat properly and learn with me how to eat properly...

She'd workout then stop at McDonald's on the way home... I really have tried with her, now when I mention it it turns into a "You think i'm fat?" argument... I know i'm her Husband, but i'm just not happy.

 

[juicybaby]

I tried to take her to the gym. I went for months and asked her every day if she'd like to go... She finally went and she refused to push herself. She'd say it hurt and she just couldn't do it without even trying. She refused to try and eat properly and learn with me how to eat properly...

She'd workout then stop at McDonald's on the way home... I really have tried with her, now when I mention it it turns into a "You think i'm fat?" argument... I know i'm her Husband, but i'm just not happy.

Well, it is called brutal honesty so here goes.

Some questions to ask yourself.

Do you love her, is that the same as being in love with her, as far as let herself go,has she had kids,if yes how many, do you have the money of Mdonna to fix what pregnancy and child birth does to the shape of your average woman?, when was the last time you handed over the money for her to have her hair done,nails done, a day at a spa? stuff that by design will make her feel good as opposed to making your cock feel good, have you considered she has let herself go because you are no longer simply worth the effort (by your post i gotta say she is probably right if this is your level of feeling after afew years), and she is as bored and let down by your coupling as you obviously are.

Solely from a womans POV who from your post hears a man who simply wants a bit of strange.

Talk to her,if you feel the way you do guarentee she not too happy either.

 

[25MalePhx]

Well, it is called brutal honesty so here goes.

Some questions to ask yourself.

Do you love her, is that the same as being in love with her, as far as let herself go,has she had kids,if yes how many, do you have the money of Mdonna to fix what pregnancy and child birth does to the shape of your average woman?, when was the last time you handed over the money for her to have her hair done,nails done, a day at a spa? stuff that by design will make her feel good as opposed to making your cock feel good, have you considered she has let herself go because you are no longer simply worth the effort (by your post i gotta say she is probably right if this is your level of feeling after afew years), and she is as bored and let down by your coupling as you obviously are.

Solely from a womans POV who from your post hears a man who simply wants a bit of strange.

Talk to her,if you feel the way you do guarentee she not too happy either.

I'll try to answer your questions.
We have no children, she goes to get a manicure/pedicure every week and her hair gets done whenever she wants it. I take her out on dates every couple weeks and we spend a lot of time together usually doing what she wants to do because I just want to spend time with her.

I do love her and I do think i'm in love with her (which I realize isn't exactly a good sign as I should KNOW i'm in love with her). I don't understand what i'd have done to not be worth the effort... But I don't know, I suppose sometimes those things just happen.

I understand it sounds like i'm just wanting some "Strange," and I knew that's how it would come across when I posted it. Sadly, though, I think I just shouldn't have gotten married so young. I should have "sowed my wild oats" and then settled down. But I didn't, so here I am.

And that's brutal honesty.

 

[juicybaby]

I'll try to answer your questions.
We have no children, she goes to get a manicure/pedicure every week and her hair gets done whenever she wants it. I take her out on dates every couple weeks and we spend a lot of time together usually doing what she wants to do because I just want to spend time with her.

I do love her and I do think i'm in love with her (which I realize isn't exactly a good sign as I should KNOW i'm in love with her). I don't understand what i'd have done to not be worth the effort... But I don't know, I suppose sometimes those things just happen.

I understand it sounds like i'm just wanting some "Strange," and I knew that's how it would come across when I posted it. Sadly, though, I think I just shouldn't have gotten married so young. I should have "sowed my wild oats" and then settled down. But I didn't, so here I am.

And that's brutal honesty.

And again.....


Talk to her,if you feel the way you do guarentee she not too happy either.....

 

[25MalePhx]

And again.....


Talk to her,if you feel the way you do guarentee she not too happy either.....

If only it were that simple.

 

[witch_fire]

I'm sorry if this is in the wrong spot, i'm new here. For once I wanted to start something new off with some brutal honesty about myself and why i'm here.

I am 25 year old male and have been married for a few years now. I'm not really happy. Let me try to explain why...

I probably got married too young, but those things happen -- Young people make mistakes! Anyway, I've only ever had sex with my Wife and while at the time I didn't think it would make any difference, now I find myself wanting to taste different women and enjoy different women. I haven't cheated on my Wife at this point, but I do find myself constantly fantasizing every time I see a beautiful woman.

My Wife has kind of let herself go. She complains about the way she looks but seems to refuse to do anything about it. She prefers to complain than to fix the problem at hand.

I now find myself wanting to find a discrete relationship just to try something new with someone new. Just a hot, brief, taboo romance with a young, energetic, sex crazed woman that I know would have as much fun as I was having...

So I found my way here, and i'm not sure why exactly i'm posting here, but i'm just posting what i'm feeling. Horny, bored, and really curious about other women.

Thanks.

Take it from someone who got married to young and regrets it everyday of her life. For so many reasons that i wont get into. Get out now! Before there are children and other things clouding the issue. I had 3 years of sexual experience before i married and i still regret marrying him.

 

[juicybaby]

Take it from someone who got married to young and regrets it everyday of her life. For so many reasons that i wont get into. Get out now! Before there are children and other things clouding the issue. I had 3 years of sexual experience before i married and i still regret marrying him.

Well said witch, too late for you AND for her pheonix

 

[25MalePhx]

You're right... But it's not that simple. There are some things I just can't say publicly unfortunately...

I wish it were a normal relationship.

 

[witch_fire]

Well said witch, too late for you AND for her pheonix

Thanks juicy. You grow up, you mature and your personality grows into itself then if your with the wrong person, its hell.

 

[ljiowa]

Shot in the dark here: does your wife have a background of being sexually abused as a child?

 

[smotherman]

My Wife has kind of let herself go. She complains about the way she looks but seems to refuse to do anything about it. She prefers to complain than to fix the problem at hand.

Have you encouraged your wife to fix the problem? maybe all she's looking for is a little encouragement.

Ya know, marriage is through the bad times as well as the good times.


Welcome to Lit!

 

[Dark_Moon00]

Thanks juicy. You grow up, you mature and your personality grows into itself then if your with the wrong person, its hell.

Yeah thats what I'm going through right now.

 

[25MalePhx]

Shot in the dark here: does your wife have a background of being sexually abused as a child?

No.

Have you encouraged your wife to fix the problem? maybe all she's looking for is a little encouragement.

Ya know, marriage is through the bad times as well as the good times.


Welcome to Lit!

Thanks for the welcome.

Yes, I have. We went to the gym for a while but then she quit and wouldn't work hard... Then she questioned why I continue to go and why I wanted to lose some weight.

 

[gjd83]

I wanted to make a final post on here...

If I talked to you about anything, I was lying... Whether it was about someone else or about me, consider it a lie. If it wasn't a "lie," per se, it was bullshit...

I've made a few posts on here and blamed a lot of things on my Wife; in fact I've blamed everything on my Wife. I'm not happy, that's my Wife's fault. I feel alone, that's my Wife's fault. I feel unsatisfied, frustrated, angry -- obviously that's my Wife's fault. At least that's what I thought until very recently. I said cruel things about her and lied to justify my reason for being here.

I cheated my Wife, I cheated on my Wife, I cheated our relationship together. I wasn't open and honest with her about how I was feeling and what I was doing or what I wanted to do... I was taking time talking with other people and posting on here when I should have spent that time talking with HER and enjoying life with HER. I have some problems of my own that I'm now getting help for to help me straighten myself out... I want my life back, I want my life with my Wife back. I love my Wife more than anything but I can't be truly happy, I can't make US truly happy, until I figure out what's wrong with me and make myself happy.

I love her, more than anything, more than anyone, more than I even know... Now that I've stopped blaming her for MY faults I have started remembering and realizing just truly how much I love her. Every day it's something new and something exciting that I fall in love with her all over again for...

I vowed to her to be truly devoted to her, to be a good husband, to be a good friend -- Everything I should have been to this point but wasn't. I love her and only her...

I want her to know that I'm truly sorry and truly love her. I want her to know that I will do anything I need to do to prove that to her for as long it takes.


-Gary (25malephx)

 

[call_me_Melody]

I wanted to make a final post on here...

I vowed to her to be truly devoted to her, to be a good husband, to be a good friend -- Everything I should have been to this point but wasn't. I love her and only her...

I want her to know that I'm truly sorry and truly love her. I want her to know that I will do anything I need to do to prove that to her for as long it takes.


-Gary (25malephx)

I hope you told HER that.
I'd do just about anything to hear those words...

 

[gjd83]

I hope you told HER that.
I'd do just about anything to hear those words...

I've been telling her this every minute of every day since the day I realized I fucked up.

 

[bellaitalliana]

I've been telling her this every minute of every day since the day I realized I fucked up.

If you realized all of this, why are you here "confessing" your sins? Go make your marriage work and leave everything else behind. Your lies hurt the people you lie to, the woman that you profess to love so much, and I am sure at some level, even yourself.

Be a bigger man. Be a better man. Apologize to all the people that you have hurt and take responsibility for your own actions.