can you tell me how to...

[vffan]

This is my first time posting, but I am really addicted to these boards! My DH and I have been married for 4 years and we have two small children. However, we still have sex frequently! I know it would excite him to hear me talk dirty to him, but I must confess, I am not sure what to say. Can anyone help me?

Guys-What do you like to hear?

Girls-What have you said to great effect?

Or should I just not worry about it? Just go with the flow?

Thanks

J

 

[MsTerious]

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I'd say, definately go with the flow. You don't want to sound rehearsed, ya know? I have a hard time talking dirty too, but what I lack in words, I make up for in other ways.

 

[dpod]

go with the flow

Total agreement with MsTerious.
What as a guy what do I like to hear. Well.
She wispers," I love the feel of your cock in my pussy"
"Your tongue is making my pussy wet and hot."
Just express what is going on at the time. If words are hard, gunts moans and other sounds from deep inside your heart also works.
Have you talked to him about talking dirty. He may want to also, but is afraid to scare you.

 

[MsTerious]

Thank you dpod. You're a very wise man indeed, for agreeing with me.

 

[vffan]

Thank you both

I guess, what holds me back, is the fear that something I want to say might not be what he wants to hear. Does that make any sense at all? Kind of hard to explain. But, I appreciate the advice and will give it a try

J

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Thank you both

I guess, what holds me back, is the fear that something I want to say might not be what he wants to hear. Does that make any sense at all? Kind of hard to explain. But, I appreciate the advice and will give it a try

J

It makes perfect sense, but don't let your fear of the unkown hold you back. You really just have to try it and (like everyone else said) go with the flow. Part of the excitement comes from trying something new and expanding your sexual limits. Just be yourself and say what you feel. If you don't feel it excited him like you wanted it to, don't just blow it off as something that didn't work. Talk to him about it....

 

[vffan]

Thanks La_Reina

I don't know why this is one of the things I am insecure about. Actually, saying that just made me realize something, but that's another thread

J

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Thanks La_Reina

I don't know why this is one of the things I am insecure about. Actually, saying that just made me realize something, but that's another thread

J

*smile* No thanks needed..just trying to help in my own little way....

It's natural to feel a little hesitant about trying something new. The first step is sometimes the hardest. You may surprise yourself with deliciously naughty words that just flow right from your mouth....and then wonder what took ya so long to try it...


*smile*
Reina

 

[BigTexan]

I don't know about other guys, but I loved it the one time my wife told me how to please her.

Now if I could just get her to talk to me more, I'd be happy.

To make this clearer: Tell him where to touch you, where not to touch you, how to touch you. Where to kiss you, where not to kiss you, etc.

Guide him in making love to you. It will make him a better lover and it will probably excite the hell out of him.

You see, my experience is that when men make love to women there is a hell of a lot of insecurity. We want to know. Are we pleasing her? Are we boring the hell out of her? Is our dick living up to her expectations? How about our tongue?

Just hearing from the girl something other than. "Hold on while I change the channel, I want to watch Jay Leno tonight." does a lot to help our ego's.

If you want to please your SO then help him to please you and then let him know he pleased you.

And ladies this doesn't mean some insignificant body language thing that we men are supposed to understand. Tell him straight up. "Damn honey, that was incredible. You fuck like a trained stud!"

Remember if you say "Mmm that was nice." He's thinking "Nice? Shit my oatmeal this morning was NICE. I'm as bland in bed as cold oatmeal."

This doesn't really make us want to work harder, it just deflates our ego some.

Well anyway, that's how I feel.

BigTexan

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Here is my 2 cents

If you are at a lose for works just try this. When he does something you like say "yes" or " oh" or "MMMM"

If he is doing something that you don't like, redirect him to something you do. Always keep your coments Positive.

Next if you want him to go: Faster, Harder, Deeper TELL HIM.

If you are worried about what he will think if you use "dirty" words then simply ask him sometime when you are not having sex what words he wants to hear or even What phrases. The key here is comunication.

Good luck and have fun!

Holden

 

[Hotred911]

I agree with everyone else, talk to him, and go with the flow. I never knew how to talk dirty to my man until we talked about. Plus if he talks dirty to me, it makes it easier for me to talk dirty back. Once I got into the hang of it, I loved it, and now it's a natural part of our sex life.

 

[capricious_chic]

I absolutely agree with all the past words of wisdom here..

One thing you might try is practice while you are by yourself... I know, sounds silly. But actually verbalizing the words, getting used to hearing yourself say them w/o blushing and giggling. Practice while having a "hot" conversation on the telephone, once you are used to saying the words, it will come as a natural flow to the act.

Most importantly, enjoy!

 

[Guest]

i see that a lot of people gave you good advice. namely go with the flow and be yourself.

however, with that in mind i used to date a woman that liked to talk dirty in bed and here are a few of the things that she used to say that were on my list of favorites, in case you are looking for a few ideas to throw in the mix. I can assure you that although most of them are not true the power of the spoken word is very powerful.

your cock is huge
fuck me, fuck me, fuck me harder
moaning...with my penis in her mouth
cum for me...now!
I love to feel your cock in me

 

[vffan]

Thanks again, everyone, for your advice! I will let you know how it goes when it happens!

J

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

we are looking forward to

a complete and detailed report!

Have fun

Holden

 

[vffan]

Well, nothing last night He was mad about something and really cranky! maybe tonight...but I do promise a report for all those involved/interested

J

 

[peachykeen]

Okay maybe I'm just brain dead at the moment, but I've been staring at the original post in this thread and trying to figure out:

What is a DH?

 

[Davey J.]

DH = Designated Hitter?

 

[Weird Harold]

What is a DH?

DH = Darling Hubby, Dear Husband or similar sentiment.

 

[peachykeen]

DH = Darling Hubby, Dear Husband or similar sentiment.

oooooohhhhh. Duh. And I even have one of those! LOL

 

[Weird Harold]

oooooohhhhh. Duh. And I even have one of those! LOL

I suppose that if she's not married, it could be "Dumb Hunk," but it's usually the male equivalent of "SO" for Significant Other.

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