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lifeis2short2b
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Never experienced this. I guess I know how to keep my women satisfied.
Or, you've just never found out and your women are good at giving you that impression.
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This is more correct.. he didn't even notice
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Lmao ! OK let's say EVERY woman that I've been with are good at keeping this a secret. I guess I'm OK with that. But the last thing I'm going to do is brag about it on social media if I do know.
It makes people wonder how much less of a man you really are.
Funny, I find someone judging others for their kink makes them less of a man rather than someone who enjoys being cheated on.
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Love this
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LMAO !! This quote is hysterical.
I didn't know that when your partner is not satisfied by you. Knowing that another person can do for them what you can't. This is considered a kink ?
I think the proper word is inadequate. It's actually in the dictionary. LOL. But hey if your OK with this that's OK with me.
The proper word is kink. It's actually in the dictionary too. So is "you're."
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You got me. I tend to not check the auto correct when I have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard.
I hope you continue to enjoy your " Kink". All the guys banging these women sure do. LMAO!
Right. There's nothing more hilarious than kink-shaming strangers in a fetish forum. I hardly need to make this obvious point, but your reaction says much more about you and your limitations than us.
You know what's funny about this is this guy thinks that women cheat because they aren't sexually satisfied (and thinks he's actually satisfying them) when the reality is that most women cheat because they aren't being fulfilled in the relationship in some other way. And this is exactly the type of man who inevitably gets cheated on. I guess ignorance really is bliss for many though.
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Why on earth one can think women do cheat because they are not satisfied sexually? I'm happily married for many years and completely satisfied with my wife but this didn't stop me from having sex with other women more than once. And I can't see why it could be different for woman.
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Maybe she knows her to play her games
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Many people - men and women - crave sexual variety. The premise that if a person was satisfied at home they would never want another is fundamentally flawed.
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You are correct in that "Most women/Men cheat because they aren't being fulfilled in the relationship in some other way" I believe though the ignorance is on your part. Is not having your partner unfulfilling in a relationship a Kink ? NO!
One thing which is a fact. I know how to treat my woman. It starts with respect and understanding. Reading her emotions and navigating her feelings through good times and bad. Sex ? We don't have sex. We make Love.
So every time your partner goes out to shop. run errands, see a family member or friend she could be out screwing around. That's your mindset EVERY TIME she walks out that door ? Do you think she respects you when she drives the car your paying for, shopping for that outfit using your credit card to look good for someone else ? Once you accept her "cheating" and call it something else, You just gave up. And you claim I'm the ignorant one.
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Not always inadequate.
My ex is MtoF transgender. I supported her privately for 34 yrs - our whole marriage.
I am not a lesbian. MtoF, with top surgery, eliminated any chance for intimacy.
I suggested we live as roommates, open marriage to include ENM and polyamory.
Not because my ex was inadequate.
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Ron White has a good line where he says "Once you have seen one woman's boobies.....you pretty much wanna see all of them."
It is an accepted premise among men that being with one beautiful and sexually fulfilling woman does not necessarily diminish our desire to be with other women. If a man can get away with having a woman on the side we generally think that it is natural for him to want to do that because it is in his nature, not because his wife is somehow unable to satisfy him. Metaphorically just because he has one nice shiny "thing" (I put that in quotes because I don't mean a woman is a thing, it is just a metaphor) doesn't mean he doesn't want more.
The premise that women are somehow fundamentally different is false. It is just part of the narrative that has allowed men to justify the double standard and deny its intrinsic hypocrisy.
Individuals of either gender are quite capable of not having a monogamous nature or having a high sex drive that increases the chances they will give into temptation or craving variety or wanting someone new in their sex life (the one thing that an established partner cannot really be even if the are a wonderful lover is "new"). Meanwhile, in general women have more opportunity to cheat.
Not being happy in your primary relationship may increase the chances of cheating for either partner. But the idea that having a good sex life in your primary relationship is somehow the fool proof means of avoiding cheating - and therefore cheating is proof positive that the partner is inadequate - is silly.
It is an accepted premise among men that being with one beautiful and sexually fulfilling woman does not necessarily diminish our desire to be with other women. If a man can get away with having a woman on the side we generally think that it is natural for him to want to do that because it is in his nature, not because his wife is somehow unable to satisfy him. Metaphorically just because he has one nice shiny "thing" (I put that in quotes because I don't mean a woman is a thing, it is just a metaphor) doesn't mean he doesn't want more.
The premise that women are somehow fundamentally different is false. It is just part of the narrative that has allowed men to justify the double standard and deny its intrinsic hypocrisy.
Individuals of either gender are quite capable of not having a monogamous nature or having a high sex drive that increases the chances they will give into temptation or craving variety or wanting someone new in their sex life (the one thing that an established partner cannot really be even if the are a wonderful lover is "new"). Meanwhile, in general women have more opportunity to cheat.
Not being happy in your primary relationship may increase the chances of cheating for either partner. But the idea that having a good sex life in your primary relationship is somehow the fool proof means of avoiding cheating - and therefore cheating is proof positive that the partner is inadequate - is silly.
Yes. My wife and I after many years of marriage still have a fantastic sex life. Filled with fun, intimacy and orgasms. But no matter what we do to keep the fires burning, I simply just cannot be another man! Fortunately we both like her having sex with other men!
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I think that most men like the idea of being with a woman who has a high sex drive. Such a woman is more likely than most to want to have more than one sexual partner, whether or not they choose to act upon that desire. It is childish to think otherwise. It is like saying "I want a woman who enjoys fine cuisine but only likes my cooking."
So even if she is "satisfied" she will still desire others. As a man matures and starts to see that aspect of his wife it becomes rationale to wonder what is being achieved by denying her the latitude to pursue those desires if it can be done in a way that doesn't damage the relationship. If she is mature and level-headed there is no reason she can't keep it all in perspective. As a result, the only threat to the relationship is the potential for the husband to be insecure about it all. If he is that is on him - it isn't an inevitability.
From that level of acceptance it is only a short leap to accepting the totality of her sexuality and wanting to revel in it.
So even if she is "satisfied" she will still desire others. As a man matures and starts to see that aspect of his wife it becomes rationale to wonder what is being achieved by denying her the latitude to pursue those desires if it can be done in a way that doesn't damage the relationship. If she is mature and level-headed there is no reason she can't keep it all in perspective. As a result, the only threat to the relationship is the potential for the husband to be insecure about it all. If he is that is on him - it isn't an inevitability.
From that level of acceptance it is only a short leap to accepting the totality of her sexuality and wanting to revel in it.
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She sounds very naughty…Agree.
I think a hundred years from now, having sex outside of a primary relationship won't necessarily be viewed as "Cheating." Indeed, it will be viewed as just a normal, healthy thing people do to maintain better physical and mental health. And one that actually helps to keep the primary relationship healthy and strong. In other words, it will be normative behavior and not exceptional.
Why not sooner? Because "fidelity" needs to be redefined and that will take generations to achieve. "No sex with others - ever!" needs to evolve into "Sex with someone else is fine, if..." and what follows will be sensible rules that minimize the risk it poses to the primary relationship. For example, having a one-night stand with someone you'll never see again will no longer be considered cheating. But forming attachments and conspiring to grow a relationship with someone other than your spouse will continue to be considered cheating.
If you think I'm crazy, think again... Think of how homosexuality, bi-sexuality, transgenderism were perceived 100 years ago. Thankfully, we've evolved and come to realize that these are normal, healthy people who are living their lives as authentically and happily as they can. I think the same will happen with non-monogamy.
Why not sooner? Because "fidelity" needs to be redefined and that will take generations to achieve. "No sex with others - ever!" needs to evolve into "Sex with someone else is fine, if..." and what follows will be sensible rules that minimize the risk it poses to the primary relationship. For example, having a one-night stand with someone you'll never see again will no longer be considered cheating. But forming attachments and conspiring to grow a relationship with someone other than your spouse will continue to be considered cheating.
If you think I'm crazy, think again... Think of how homosexuality, bi-sexuality, transgenderism were perceived 100 years ago. Thankfully, we've evolved and come to realize that these are normal, healthy people who are living their lives as authentically and happily as they can. I think the same will happen with non-monogamy.
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