Tell me about your transition from monogamy to non-monogamy or straight to bisexuality as a married/partnered couple.

[TonyF862]

We went from monogamous to non monogamous by accident. In short we were together since 19, in our mid 20s I spent time overseas with work a lot, a few years later she told me she had slept with a few men while I was away. We got over it and it became a big turn on and a great laugh for us. Early 30s after getting married we started having kids and all went very quiet and busy for a long time. Was my mid 40s before I tried meeting men. Late 40s we decided to spice things up and find a guy for a 3sum. She ends up chatting to a guy, meets him some time later and has been seeing him alone for the last 3 years. He was only 26 when she first slept with him. Has kept us closer and our sex life alive. Keeps us talking all the time.

Our sex life and level of communication has never been better since we started swinging. We are not the "down for anything" type swingers. Actually more of a "swingers light" - but enough to keep things spicy.

Speaking of swinging and "spicy", wife invited her "crush" over last night - first time as a threesome. I offered to leave but they both wanted me to stay (especially since it was the first time).

Turned into a truly magical evening - with wife experiencing her first orgasm with another man - in her entire life (We've been together for 32 years). As a matter of fact, she liked it so much she ended up having about 4-5 more before the night was over! What a beautiful site!

 

[jakie69]

With regards to being bisexual, both my wife and I were always bisexual and knew it. We hid it from each other until we started to have threesomes and then started dogging and swinging. That was the turning point for us both to start to convince the other to explore our sexuality and also our kinks and fetishes. When we eventually indulged she thought for a long time that she turned me bisexual because she wanted to see me with another man once. It went well beyond that though. Once we had to have a clear the air talk and we laid ourselves bare to each other it became clear we shouldn’t have hid who we were.

As for monogamous to polygamous, that happened as a result of us swinging and an issue with a stalker. My wife’s best friend moved in with us because she had to move out of her place but also because of the problem we had had. Michelle had been in threesomes with us but spending all our time together moved us from friendship to something else and soon Michelle wasn’t a best friend but a girlfriend. Unfortunately it ended when we realised we wanted different things and we split amicably and stayed as good friends as ever. We tried a couple of other polyamorous relationships with men and women until eventually giving up on it.

During the time I came out as trans we decided to move and start fresh because it felt right and we were leaving some toxicity and heartache behind. Sarah who was our closest swinging partner and who spent most of her time with us anyway, came out to us and told us she felt more than sexual attraction and that she loved us both. This prompted a long talk and led to us moving in together as a trial. Fast forward four and a half years and we are cemented as a throuple (hate that term) but we are still in love and lust with each other.