cunnilingue questions

[Gallow]

I haven't found any women who weren't interested in recieving oral, with the partial exception of one (when we were young) who said she "didn't know me that well."

Reading this thread I was kind of surprised to see that there are a number of women who don't climax from oral sex. I'll stop beating myself up over the times it hasn't worked out- I've always sort of taken it as a personal failure of some type- that I couldn't figure out her exact preferences.

And as far as guys who dont' do oral... exactly how would you end up filling the time when having sex for hours?

 

[pink swirl]

And as far as guys who dont' do oral... exactly how would you end up filling the time when having sex for hours?

oh my, i never thought if it as 'filling time'...

maybe you start with a long, slow, sensual massage along her back, her ass, her thighs, all the way down to her toes. and then you turn her over and repeat the gentle stroking. add some licking and sucking on her nipples - that alone could fill vast amounts of time.

using your fingers to tickle her clit, steady, steady, steady rhythm until she's writhing and begging for a finger inside her pussy. slip, slide, and probe inside. slip one into her ass and listen to her moan as your fingers work both sensitive openings at the same time. make her cum.

maybe then she does the same for you, touching your body back to front with her soft hands, her lips, her breasts, running her nipples along your spine, squeezing your dick between them, licking and sucking you.

and then maybe you get around to fucking.

then there's all the teasing and tempting and lap dancing and blindfolds and ice cubes and whipped cream and tying up and spanking or tickling and...

oral sex is just one of a delicious buffet of options!

 

[Gallow]

oh my, i never thought if it as 'filling time'...

Oh... poor choice of words on my part.

What I meant to say is that I usually find long sexual sessions tend to involve more time spent in oral and 69 than spent in intercourse.

I also tend to use my hands a lot in cunnilingus, so I wasn't really thinking of that as a separate activity, exactly. It's all part of the fun- the hand wanders, the mouth wanders. There are things that the fingers can do that the tongue can't, and vice versa.

then there's all the teasing and tempting and lap dancing and blindfolds and ice cubes and whipped cream and tying up and spanking or tickling and...

Don't forget massage!

I really, really love to give a sensual massage. It's a great way to warm up to the whipped cream

 

[FinePhilly]

This is something that frustrates me a little. I enjoy the feeling when my husband does it, but I just can't get off on it. I've only had one other guy do it to me, and I couldn't get off on it when he did it either.

I don't know. Maybe I just feel like I should be getting off and the fact that I'm not makes me feel like I'm making him work too hard and then I just fake it so he feels good about himself.

My husband is an awesome guy, but I think I've faked it too many times for us to get it right now. For all I know, I can't have an orgasm from oral alone. I'd feel terrible if he knew he'd never gotten me off that way because he really likes doing it.

(Sigh)

 

[SweetErika]

This is something that frustrates me a little. I enjoy the feeling when my husband does it, but I just can't get off on it. I've only had one other guy do it to me, and I couldn't get off on it when he did it either.

I don't know. Maybe I just feel like I should be getting off and the fact that I'm not makes me feel like I'm making him work too hard and then I just fake it so he feels good about himself.

My husband is an awesome guy, but I think I've faked it too many times for us to get it right now. For all I know, I can't have an orgasm from oral alone. I'd feel terrible if he knew he'd never gotten me off that way because he really likes doing it.

(Sigh)

Touchy subject, and I often feel the same frustration. Is there any chance you've been vague on whether or not you've had an orgasm? I don't know how your husband would react, but perhaps you could tell him how good he is and how much it turns you on, but you might need something else to cum. You could also fess up that you thought every woman got off on it and you were embarrassed and thought there was something wrong with you until you read this thread and it just doesn't push you over the edge.

I'm sure someone else has dealt with this and can give better advice...good luck!

 

[bibphi]

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[cryptictravler]

I dunno, as a guy, I think the stop faking could be just as bad. I mean, nobody wants to believe they lost their game, and most guys would assume it was them and just try harder.

If you think you will be able to cum with a different technique, that might work, but there is a way easier way. Just tell him you want to try something new, and not that his old way doesn't work anymore. If he succeeds then be the worlds biggest kiss ass and hope he gets the message...new way is the good way.

If not, just be honest, but diplomatic, "head feels great, but not cumming great, but dear god do I like fucking, which is not only great but cumming great. "

 

[Gil_T2]

Ladies you are the best judge of where you want to be licked so try jently guiding them to the spots that work best for you (to find these try masterbating & explore your bodies so you find the right spots ti get you cumming).Do they use their fingers in you pussy as well? Do they suck your pussy lips, tongue your pussy or finger your butt hole? all these can help you get there ladies & I'm sure each of you are able to cum orally.

At least do a search on the subject & study up on it.

 

[Gil_T2]

Ladies try this link for a starter.


http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/acunn.html


Explore & good cumming.

 

[Gil_T2]

http://sexuality.about.com/cs/sexualtechnique/ht/cunnilingus.htm

another link for you ladies & a 4 second google brought up around a million hit so happy reading guys & gals & cum back to let us know how it is.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Gil is correct Don....it's a myth are winters are long and we live in igloos...where I live is actually south of some of the US...and on a one of the great lakes so our winters are moderate.

And even if I was on the prairies where it is deathly cold in winter...you think that would stop us from enjoying our sexuality? More likely an increased need to get warm...and skin on skin works wonderfully

And I'll have you know I very rarely watch TV In fact I'm getting ready to pack some of those clothes you referred to Gil...my bathing suits and camisoles with spaghetti straps where you can't wear a bra underneath...and heading off to a warmer climate for a few days...gotta keep the juices running in case I run across an older Aussie.

Hmmmm . . . I'm finding Canadian women intriguing . . . especially ones who like aussie groups like Savage Garden, the boys from just down the road in Newcastle, Steamer country . . .

 

[Gil_T2]

Hmmmm . . . I'm finding Canadian women intriguing . . . especially ones who like aussie groups like Savage Garden, the boys from just down the road in Newcastle, Steamer country . . .

DON maybe we can PM our email addy to WW so she can send the pics of here in her sexy Canadian bathing suited body & the camisoles along with the image of the skin for the on skin you refered to as well . Damn my memory is sliding as I don't need to PM my email addy as you have it, it will be just DON needing to PM you.

MMMMMM now I'm all hot.

 

[Don K Dyck]

DON maybe we can PM our email addy to WW so she can send the pics of here in her sexy Canadian bathing suited body & the camisoles along with the image of the skin for the on skin you refered to as well . Damn my memory is sliding as I don't need to PM my email addy as you have it, it will be just DON needing to PM you.

MMMMMM now I'm all hot.

uhm . . . why do we need the bathing suits or camisoles?

 

[Gil_T2]

uhm . . . why do we need the bathing suits or camisoles?

It's always nice to unwrap an exciting package then just have it in front of you isn't it?

 

[freethinkingman]

This is soooooo true. We watch and listen to you guys laugh about 'fishy' jokes. Then we're supposed to relax and open up for you after that!??! Its not that easy. And it only takes one idiot to make us uncomfortable for years. A former lover of mine (who was younger and inexperienced I'll admit) gagged and told me I had too much 'juice' down there and I was 'drowning' him. Well - gee - that made me feel really self conscious for quite awile.

Another thing is - many men don't have a clue what they're doing down there. I mean - you should at least know where my clit is - that would be a help - or that I HAVE a clit would be a good start! lol

But I agree with those that said age makes all the difference. I quit fooling around with younger men (after the 'drowning' remark). My current lover is 8 years older than me and he was taught the art of oral by two old lesbian friends. I swear if I knew who they were I'd send them both a dozen roses every week!

Anyone who complains about "too much juice" needs to get a life! I so love the feeling of wetness covering my face, the mix of saliva and womanly arousal, the scents and sounds, thighs gripping, body shaking ... sorry getting carried away! I love it.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by Don K Dyck
Hmmmm . . . I'm finding Canadian women intriguing . . . especially ones who like aussie groups like Savage Garden, the boys from just down the road in Newcastle, Steamer country . . .

mmmm intriguing is good ....not a bad start....


ah yes loved the CD with Affirmation on it....have it at work...Darren Hayes first solo CD was a bit of a disappointment though.

*thanks to freethinkingman for bumping this thread so I could see Don and Gil's responding play*

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by Gil_T2
DON maybe we can PM our email addy to WW so she can send the pics of here in her sexy Canadian bathing suited body & the camisoles along with the image of the skin for the on skin you refered to as well . Damn my memory is sliding as I don't need to PM my email addy as you have it, it will be just DON needing to PM you.

MMMMMM now I'm all hot.

Gil! now who's being wicked?! and aren't you being generous offering to have me share my pics with Don also Actually my friend did take a few pics of me in my bathing suit, and in an oasis on the desert in a camisole, and if I recall correctly...*giggle*....modeling a few corsets I bought....*that may show up as AVs if they turned out at all...well at least the WW standard pose part of them*

but Don's free to PM me for my email addy any time he likes....and yes you with the fading memory and the steam coming off you...you do know where to find me ...ooo in keeping with the thread guess that should be

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by Don K Dyck
uhm . . . why do we need the bathing suits or camisoles?

It's always nice to unwrap an exciting package then just have it in front of you isn't it?

*snickers* isn't that always the dilemma? to entice and be unwrapped or just go for the gusto! ....but Don, I hardly know you *blushes*

 

[Don K Dyck]

*snickers* isn't that always the dilemma? to entice and be unwrapped or just go for the gusto! ....but Don, I hardly know you *blushes*

Aw . . . there is something very erotic about slowly disrobing a beautiful woman . . . watching each of her feminine delights come into view . . . before stimulating, sexciting and sampling . . . yep, I think you may have a point, Gil . . . a nice slow unwrapping does have appeal . . .

beautful body . . . bibliomania . . . slow sensuous massage . . . Jacques Loussier Trio quietly in the background . . . all the makings of a delicious evening . . .

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by Don K Dyck
Aw . . . there is something very erotic about slowly disrobing a beautiful woman . . . watching each of her feminine delights come into view . . . before stimulating, sexciting and sampling . . . yep, I think you may have a point, Gil . . . a nice slow unwrapping does have appeal . . .

beautful body . . . bibliomania . . . slow sensuous massage . . . Jacques Loussier Trio quietly in the background . . . all the makings of a delicious evening . . .

oh my yes.......hope that wasn't just meant for Gil

 

[freethinkingman]

mmmm intriguing is good ....not a bad start....


ah yes loved the CD with Affirmation on it....have it at work...Darren Hayes first solo CD was a bit of a disappointment though.

*thanks to freethinkingman for bumping this thread so I could see Don and Gil's responding play*

Happy to be of use

 

[vargas111]

I agree with what everyone as said here so far....I'm generally very concerned about taste/odor when I guy goes down on me. I just make sure that I'm extra clean if I know things might be heading south.

[Very considerate, but I actually don't like too "clean" (soapy flowery) smell. A woman should smell like a woman.]

I particularly agree with W&U (you give great advice girl!) A lot of times women associates received oral sex as a guy just trying to butter them up to get a blow job. Make sure that you tell your wife, girlfriend, etc how much you want to do this. How hot it makes you, how great she smells, tastes, feels, etc and that this is all about her, that you expect nothing but for her to enjoy this. There's no saying that she really will, but my theory is that you never know what you're gonna like until you try it at least once....

I would nevr dream of demanding a BJ and I know my wife would never give one if I did. I just want to do her.

I've had girlfriends that wul let me and I don't think I'm that bad, but she will not let me try. She won't let me get anywhere close!

 

[vargas111]

What can I Say? i love going down on women. Last time was with a definite "I dont do blowjobs" lady. *knock knock* Hello? I'm not doing this because I want a blowjob, I'm doing this because I enjoy it and after 10 years of surreptitiously reading cosmo I'm lead to believe you might as well (though I do recall an article in the self same publication by a woman who picked up a "fuck" for the night and then whined about how he tried to get her off by going down on her and continued despite her lack of indication that it wasn't doing anything to get her rocks off).

I did go out with a lass who wouldn't let me go down on her, the reason she gave was that "she didn't know me well enough" despite the fact we were naked in the same bed together.

If, as Volz suggests, its a pleasant rather than earth moving experience for you, then TELL US! And we'll move on to something you do really like. And if you do enjoy it but we aren't quite getting it right give us a clue, contrary to popular belief we can take directions.

The only advice I would give to anyone wanting their man to go down on them is, if they have been wearing tights all day (pantyhose), invite them into the shower first.

A quick straw poll amongst friends suggests that if asked, 90% of them would, with no expectations, go down on their ladyfriend and enjoy it for what it is

I believe that more men would go down on women (if they thought they would not be rebuffed) than women who will offer blowjobs. And I wonder it ANY man would refuse to go down on a woman if she asked.

It's part of my general theory that men like to do more differnt things than women.

 

[VSE]

I'm not sure about that, I do know a few people who believe it is their divine right to get a blowjob but have no intention of ever returning the favour

As for being more up for variety, might it have anything to do with (cue violins) having to do most of the work when you get jiggy with it and anything for a few minutes respite is worth investing effort into?

 

[SweetErika]

I believe that more men would go down on women (if they thought they would not be rebuffed) than women who will offer blowjobs. And I wonder it ANY man would refuse to go down on a woman if she asked.

It's part of my general theory that men like to do more differnt things than women.

I don't have first-hand experience with one, but there definitely are men who refuse to give oral. There are also plenty of men who do it grudgingly/out of obligation or for the sole purpose of getting a blowjob in return.

As for your general theory...well, it could be a real impediment.