Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[barefootgirl69]

It’s weird when someone has their Profile About Description with a wall of text on his being a Dom in search of sub. During conversation it becomes apparent something is off about them and when I politely decline, the response is Fuck you too.

Is it just me or would you expect better emotional regulation from someone claiming to be a Dom? This is probably one of those cases where he really means he just wants to act out misogynistic fantasies on an unsuspecting victim.

I've found that the better types of daddies are the ones who don't advertise. But, I'm also the type that "doesn't search" for one. I like talking and getting to know people, and if it happens, it happens.

Yes, I'd definitely expect more emotional maturity from someone who wants to Dom. Sometimes two people simply don't mesh and that's normal. Both sides need to be able to handle disappointment.

 

[FreckledSprite]

I've found that the better types of daddies are the ones who don't advertise. But, I'm also the type that "doesn't search" for one. I like talking and getting to know people, and if it happens, it happens.

Yes, I'd definitely expect more emotional maturity from someone who wants to Dom. Sometimes two people simply don't mesh and that's normal. Both sides need to be able to handle disappointment.

I wasn’t searching, mostly because I feel the search is pointless and have never liked anyone who advertised themselves as a Dom. I want to see their actions, not their words. Never, ever, ever worked out when someone is self proclaiming to be a Dom. But yeah, this guy was something else.

Someone contacted me out of the blue. Usually, I hope for things to happen organically as a relationship progresses. We just naturally fall into roles of Caregiver and Little. It doesn’t even have to be declared, it just happens.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

It’s weird when someone has their Profile About Description with a wall of text on his being a Dom in search of sub. During conversation it becomes apparent something is off about them and when I politely decline, the response is Fuck you too.

Is it just me or would you expect better emotional regulation from someone claiming to be a Dom? This is probably one of those cases where he really means he just wants to act out misogynistic fantasies on an unsuspecting victim.

I am under the impression that the majority of “Doms” on here are fake wanna-bes. Yes, in a real Dom you should expect, and demand, better.

 

[cascadiabound]

I wasn’t searching, mostly because I feel the search is pointless and have never liked anyone who advertised themselves as a Dom. I want to see their actions, not their words. Never, ever, ever worked out when someone is self proclaiming to be a Dom. But yeah, this guy was something else.

Someone contacted me out of the blue. Usually, I hope for things to happen organically as a relationship progresses. We just naturally fall into roles of Caregiver and Little. It doesn’t even have to be declared, it just happens.

I tend to be pretty leary of anyone who contacts me out of the blue, especially if they have little posting history. I expect people to interact with me on the boards here so I can get a sense of them. (This is true of friendships here for me, not just possible romantic/sexual partners).

Trust your gut. Pay attention to the red flags.
Don't ever feel bad about walking away.

Edit: I have a rule to not engage in PM with people with zero posting hx - especially if their acct isn't brand new. Life lessons are hard.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I like to try to take the chill off by lighting kerosene lamps or candles. This is a new one and it smells so good. (Spiced Apple Toddy)

 

[barefootgirl69]

I love being little and being cared for, but I detest being treated like a child. I don't need someone coming behind me telling me "it's this way" and they'll handle it, when I've already done my research and made my mind up.

It never fails! Give an inch, he wants the mile. If we hadn't needed to discuss curriculum, I never would have bothered contacting him, because NOW he wants to discuss other things. I'm angry that I had to open that door.

*this is my ex hubby, not my sweet bat man, for the record.

 

[FreckledSprite]

I love being little and being cared for, but I detest being treated like a child. I don't need someone coming behind me telling me "it's this way" and they'll handle it, when I've already done my research and made my mind up.

It never fails! Give an inch, he wants the mile. If we hadn't needed to discuss curriculum, I never would have bothered contacting him, because NOW he wants to discuss other things. I'm angry that I had to open that door.

Is your Daddy an INTJ?! I have noticed certain personalities make good daddies BUT then they get a fucking ego and think only their way is right. Also, they don’t realize they’re being condescending because they just feel they’re showing you what’s right. Even when presented with data which contradicts them, they tend to blow off any additional info.

I have had to state my case, say it’s important to me they look at my work, and then walk the fuck away until they process it.

I wish I could MBTI-type my former Daddy. He was very receptive and didn’t make me feel like an idiot.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Is your Daddy an INTJ?! I have noticed certain personalities make good daddies BUT then they get a fucking ego and think only their way is right. Also, they don’t realize they’re being condescending because they just feel they’re showing you what’s right. Even when presented with data which contradicts them, they tend to blow off any additional info.

I have had to state my case, say it’s important to me they look at my work, and then walk the fuck away until they process it.

I wish I could MBTI-type my former Daddy. He was very receptive and didn’t make me feel like an idiot.

I wasn't talking about my sweetheart, but my narcissistic ex-hubby. He loves to treat me like I know nothing.

Usually, grey rocking works, but having to have a conversation about one thing had him wanting to be back in charge of  other things.

 

[FreckledSprite]

I wasn't talking about my sweetheart, but my narcissistic ex-hubby. He loves to treat me like I know nothing.

Usually, grey rocking works, but having to have a conversation about one thing had him wanting to be back in charge of  other things.

My bad. I’m sorry.

Ugh, I was right about the ego thing at least.

 

[barefootgirl69]

My bad. I’m sorry.

Ugh, I was right about the ego thing at least.

You're definitely right about that!

Thanks for making me laugh.

I think what I was trying to say but was too angry to get across is...

I love DDlg and being cared for and coddled, but not treated like a child. Maybe it's because of trusting someone whose intentions are good vs. The Other Type. Thinking out loud here.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Colored in my new book today. It helped me focus on something other than my irritation. I decided to use my journaling markers instead of my pencils. It wasn't as satisfying. There's something about the pressure of pencils on paper, and the - not thrill, and not patience - of having to sharpen them...tediousness? Anyway, it seems I enjoy my pencils more. I have more colors to choose from, too!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Usually, grey rocking works, but having to have a conversation about one thing had him wanting to be back in charge of  other things.

I had to look up "grey rocking". The more you know!

 

[Masters_slutpussy]

I had to look up "grey rocking". The more you know!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

 

[FreckledSprite]

Is it possible to think of someone as Daddy, like, your own husband, without being in a declared DDlg? Our marriage in a lot of aspects meets what I would want from a DDlg.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Is it possible to think of someone as Daddy, like, your own husband, without being in a declared DDlg? Our marriage in a lot of aspects meets what I would want from a DDlg.

Most certainly! My husband is my Daddy, though we were married for five years before we became DDLG. I was totally unaware of this dynamic until I found a wise woman who directed me to this forum. Has he given any indication that he might be open to it?

 

[FreckledSprite]

Most certainly! My husband is my Daddy, though we were married for five years before we became DDLG. I was totally unaware of this dynamic until I found a wise woman who directed me to this forum. Has he given any indication that he might be open to it?

I don’t know how to bring it up. I’ve mentioned it to him but he’s always so busy chasing his ambitions I’m not sure he’ll take the time to look into it. I should be more strategic and make she he understands it’s important to me and not just another of my ENFP-crazed moments.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I don’t know how to bring it up. I’ve mentioned it to him but he’s always so busy chasing his ambitions I’m not sure he’ll take the time to look into it. I should be more strategic and make she he understands it’s important to me and not just another of my ENFP-crazed moments.

I spent hours researching DDlg and reading this thread, starting with the First Edition. I had a clear idea of what I needed. We sat down and discussed it at length.
Sounds like you might need to distract him. Maybe a weekend away?
Have you read my story?

 

[Endless_Night]

Is it possible to think of someone as Daddy, like, your own husband, without being in a declared DDlg? Our marriage in a lot of aspects meets what I would want from a DDlg.

Absolutely.

Even once a dynamic is identified, not everyone wants, likes, or feels comfortable with a label. It's how a relationship makes you feel that counts.

I spent hours researching DDlg and reading this thread, starting with the First Edition. I had a clear idea of what I needed. We sat down and discussed it at length.
Sounds like you might need to distract him. Maybe a weekend away?
Have you read my story?

Good advice. It's much easier to present to another person if you understand and are able to articulate clearly what it is that you want.

 

[Endless_Night]

I had to look up "grey rocking". The more you know!

I had to look it up also! Great term.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Hello everyone! Here's a quickie before I head off to work. I think I'll adopt this as my daily affirmation. I hope your day was/is/will be absolutely grand.

 

[dreamyjane]

Hello everyone! Here's a quickie before I head off to work. I think I'll adopt this as my daily affirmation. I hope your day was/is/will be absolutely grand.

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Very nice affirmation. Thank you for sharing!

 

[Strixaluco]

Sometimes it's the little practical things...

We were discussing my latest feedback/session diary, and I was partly exempted from position as my tomcat wanted scritches. Until my he suddenly didn't (my attention was obviously a bit scattered) and basically hit me with a nail. With the, you know, the pointy end. A little piece of skin missing there. Me spontaneously screaming.

So, off we go to fix it. Not an actually big deal, I've had worse wounds from cats before (have you ever stopped a cat that's about to attack another cat? I have - twice) and I obviously know best what kind of bandaids I have in store etc. I didn't actually *need* help. But he stayed close to me. With half a meter or so. Kept talking to me so it was easier to stay grounded.

And then when we settled to continue what has been stopped (minus the cat who had hid himself), no sitting in position for me. No, without further ado he just took me in his lap and comforted me.

The previous times in similar situations I have either been alone, or gaslit by my late partner when I've asked for help with worse wounds. Despite my body actually sometimes going into shock from wounds (with claw wounds it just depends on where it hits). I know it's crazy, but it's not something I can choose. And now this y wonderful man doesn't even need to be asked, because he just knows!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

And now this wonderful man doesn't even need to be asked, because he just knows!

I'm so happy for you!

 

[FreckledSprite]

I spent hours researching DDlg and reading this thread, starting with the First Edition. I had a clear idea of what I needed. We sat down and discussed it at length.
Sounds like you might need to distract him. Maybe a weekend away?
Have you read my story?

We totally need a weekend away. That’s just challenging at the moment.

I have not read your story. Where do I find it?