Do you ever just ASK to be gotten off?

[Hiliburn]

lol ya lazy git!
I am really rather selfish. If I am gonna do some work I want to be rewarded. But at the same time, I'd love to lay there and take it. So if you are in a trusting/caring relationship you WANT to help your partner, and in turn he would want to help you another time. It could be quid pro quo, but it also could be called a good relationship.

 

[Ariel_Marie]

ill ask right now...

I want to get off....

 

[In Anticipation]

I want to get off....

I'm guessing you are the wrong side of the ocean, otherwise I'd be happy to help, no expectation of reciprocation, unless you insist of course!

 

[GrnEyedGrl]

I have never been in a situation where a guy has asked me that....however, I do tend to recognize my husband's "moods" and can tell when he really doesn't want sex, but would like to get off. So, I have frequently asked him if I could just blow him with no expectations of anything in return....I then just go upstairs and get myself off after I please him. I imagine most women wouldn't be okay with that, but it turns me on to please him that way, so I love doing it.

 

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[auslit]

Wow... so many of the female posters here just reinforced why I've had to turn to the BDSM pool for dating. This is coming from women on an erotic forum even! You won't take care of your partners needs and desires? Even when they flat out ask you? Just...wow.

The last girl I was with, I had trained very well. If I took her hand and placed it in my lap, she knew what I needed and promptly took care of it. That's the kind of service that keeps a man loyal to you. It's a shame I had to move, I miss having that very much.

yeah probably best that you did head to the dungeon
out of sight


i prefer to give my parnters a quick hand job or head job when they don't ask for it, however relationships aren't one sided and altho a tab shouldn't be kept a woman should feel her needs are being met as well, whether they be emotional or sexual. What i don't like about the OP is the whole "i'm stressed could you just give me a hand job" if it's 'just' a hand job do it yourself, it just wasn't sexy at all, we aren't flesh lights. And if you're stressed go take a run or meditate or something.

 

[auslit]

My man doesn't like to ask me because he feels like he's using me in that particular situation. It's offensive to him. I wish he would ask because I would love to do it for him.

But the minute I even mention feeling frisky I quickly find myself being treated to mind blowing oral from him.

He's obsessed with licking me, not that I mind. But I would like to return the favor sometimes.

Though he does let me give him oral after he's satisfied me first. It's his golden sexual rule "The lady always cums first".

This wouldn't work for me because i perform much better if i'm turned on and if i've already cum then i wouldn't be as turned on

 

[auslit]

I do that for my partner. Sometimes a mind blowing orgasam is what he needs to take his mind off of a bad day. He has joked though that he has created a Pavlovian response in me to him being stressed.

A

my ex was never in the mood when stressed
then again his sex drive was whacked

 

[fireymatt]

I have in the past and i believe a couple things have to be taken into consideration. Your own mood is obvious.... you want to get off.... but your partner or SO's as well.... if it is totally a bad time, i would never ask. But when the timing was OK, i did and it was great... usually lead to more but not always. I have reciprocated as well, and love the fact that they would just ask me like that..... huge turn on.... just getting to the bare bones of it all.... the release of endorphines...

 

[In Anticipation]

I have never been in a situation where a guy has asked me that....however, I do tend to recognize my husband's "moods" and can tell when he really doesn't want sex, but would like to get off. So, I have frequently asked him if I could just blow him with no expectations of anything in return....I then just go upstairs and get myself off after I please him. I imagine most women wouldn't be okay with that, but it turns me on to please him that way, so I love doing it.

It's all a matter of balance and what works. If you are both happy with that then it's great. In my relationship this kind of thing happens, and it all evens out in the end, so everyone can be happy.

my ex was never in the mood when stressed
then again his sex drive was whacked

I'm only in the mood when stressed, calm, or something in between . . .

 

[chelleb]

I think we're, as a culture, entirely too stuck up about sex. We should feel comfortable enough as to just ask for what we want, and to not mind giving what somebody else wants.

It's a shame most of us aren't like that, though.

I totally agree with this. Assuming a relationship had reached a sexual level, I see nothing wrong in requesting what you want, when you want it. I would do as asked, but also expect him to when I asked.

 

[female_slut]

i have no problems in asking. if i just want to get off, i'll ask.

 

[NerdyOne]

i have no problems in asking. if i just want to get off, i'll ask.

I wish more women were like that. I've never minded just 'putting out' a bit with my tongue or fingers to get the job done, then returning to the day's normal activities. I think it's hot!

On the flip side though I've always felt selfish to ask for the same without being ready to give back in full.

In college I dated a girl who I had a wonderful system with though. We'd both often tell one another "I need some" and just go to town on the other for 2-3 minutes to 'release the demons' then go about our normal business. That was fun.

 

[vanias73]

Admittedly, I haven't had the most normal relationships in the past, but I disagree with most of the girls' responses. I would love it if my man came to me with a request like that, letting me know he was stressed and that I could do something for him. I think it's open and honest. I wouldn't necessarily say yes 100% of the time, but I would (and have) done it many times.

 

[johnnynice02]

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[wild-thing]

Had a gf once that wasn't shy about asking. We'd be watching TV and she would just strip naked, lay down next to me and ask me to finger her for awhile. I'd get her off 3 or 4 times and then by that point my jeans were bursting and the TV would get turned off while other things got turned on!

 

[midwestyankee]

No, I don't think I've ever asked for this but I sometimes insist on it.