Do you have a fuck buddy?????

[PyroDemon]

Sometimes I get carried away and just go on and on and on and on..... Just like with sex. LOL Leave it to me to have an opinion and not keep it to myself. But really, how many are just playing and how many really are searching for the FB of their dreams ? And if you are really , honestly, searching then you should figure out what you want, and go get it. You only have the rest of your life to waste if you don't. You have to go thru alot of oysters to find a pearl. Sometimes the hunt is as good as the find.

 

[Missingmeds]

Sometimes I get carried away and just go on and on and on and on..... Just like with sex. LOL Leave it to me to have an opinion and not keep it to myself. But really, how many are just playing and how many really are searching for the FB of their dreams ? And if you are really , honestly, searching then you should figure out what you want, and go get it. You only have the rest of your life to waste if you don't. You have to go thru alot of oysters to find a pearl. Sometimes the hunt is as good as the find.

I, for one, am honestly searching. I know what I want, I know what I need. I know that I have to look to find it.

 

[PyroDemon]

MM , I remember a while back I talked to you a few times. I truely believe you are looking and that while you may play some games, you really know what you want and will one day get it. Nothing good ever comes easy, without effort things have no value. I applaud your honesty and your drive to find that perfect piece to your puzzle. But have you ever thought that it might take more than one FB to fill the missing pieces ? As in you may need more than one FB. The odds of finding one are small at best, we both know that, but do you think one buddy would be all you would want ? What if you all of a sudden found two ? Or three ? What would be your reaction ?

 

[hot4teacher1975]

Damn, who doesn't want a fuckbuddy? That seems like a more appropriate question.

 

[Missingmeds]

MM , I remember a while back I talked to you a few times. I truely believe you are looking and that while you may play some games, you really know what you want and will one day get it. Nothing good ever comes easy, without effort things have no value. I applaud your honesty and your drive to find that perfect piece to your puzzle. But have you ever thought that it might take more than one FB to fill the missing pieces ? As in you may need more than one FB. The odds of finding one are small at best, we both know that, but do you think one buddy would be all you would want ? What if you all of a sudden found two ? Or three ? What would be your reaction ?

I have answered all your questions Toy. You might have to refresh your page to find them, but they are there.

 

[Spenser41]

Re: Re: did you know

who said anything about no commitment?? Not me. Hell yes, I want commitment! I'm not looking for a one night- or two night- stand, or even a week long thing....IF I find a friend/lover, he will be someone who will care about me, not just what I can do in bed...someone I can talk to, and care about. The lover part comes second for me.
If I had to settle for just a "let's fuck, good fuck, see you next week", then I don't need it.

So there's my two cents as well

Well it seems I have touched a nerve here. But Meds knows me well enough to know I was kidding. But also there are many here on this thread that are married and it is very hard to commit to someone as a FB when you are married or committed to someone else. And Mrs Babydoll, I read on another thread how you are married but looking for FBs or have had some already. Not judging here.. far from it... but again, it is very hard to tell someone that you want commitment when in fact you are already married and committed to someone else.
So that was my point in the no committment. Which was marriage or living together. That is what I was saying. You can't do that and be married or with a SO already.

 

[Missingmeds]

Dear sweet Spencer, you know about open marriages don't you? I know you well enough to know that they are probably not your thing but they are for some people.

 

[maniac1967]

Yes? what if those pesky states weren't in the way?

You'd be on your back

 

[PyroDemon]

There are as many different types of mariages as there are people. Some are looser than otheres. There are some people who realize that they do not have the sexual drive to take care of their partner and understand that they are not losing anything by allowing their mate to play. It is all in how you think and act. I might just be luckier than some in that mine is like that.

MM, you always answer and I knew what you would say. Just wanted to hear it from you personally.

 

[Spenser41]

Dear sweet Spencer, you know about open marriages don't you? I know you well enough to know that they are probably not your thing but they are for some people.

Meds,
Yes hon I do know about Open Marriages and I have no problems with them. I think they are great if both parties are ok with them.
But if I understand Open Marriages is that you are still committed to the one you are married to. That is the one thing about open marriages is that it is open for you to have sex but not to be committed to another woman or man. That is what I am talking about. MOST open marriages - and this is from people who I know are in them - and that is there is only ONE commitment and ONE love... your mate. All the other is just icing. Now, not ever been in an open marriage - I am not an expert in it. I was just making a statement (and I think it has been really misunderstood) and that was FB are friends with benifits and if you are someone who has the chance to have it.. then that is great. FB if I remember from when I did it, was that it was 2 people who were friends who enjoyed each other when needed but did not take it into the romantic committed relationship level. If they did, they would not be a FB BUDDY but instead be a lover and someone you were in love with. Those are two different things from what I understand. Now if you all are talking about wanting relationships and commitements... I don't believe that is really a FB but in fact a relationship.
But HEY I COULD BE WRONG... it's not the first time nor the last.

 

[jhn64012]

Fuck Buddy??

No, but looking.....

Had one, but now she is gone so here I sit closing my eyes and stroking it while thinking about sucking on her clit.

sorry been a long day.......

 

[babydoll2u]

Re: Re: Re: did you know

Well it seems I have touched a nerve here. But Meds knows me well enough to know I was kidding. But also there are many here on this thread that are married and it is very hard to commit to someone as a FB when you are married or committed to someone else. And Mrs Babydoll, I read on another thread how you are married but looking for FBs or have had some already. Not judging here.. far from it... but again, it is very hard to tell someone that you want commitment when in fact you are already married and committed to someone else.
So that was my point in the no committment. Which was marriage or living together. That is what I was saying. You can't do that and be married or with a SO already.

Oh no no no Spenser, you didn't hit any nerve.. I was mostly teasing in that first sentence *sigh* guess i haven't given y'all enough time to get to know me yet...sorry!

When I talk about commitment between FB's... I'm mostly talking about a commitment to the friendship...and yes...I guess to the sexual part of the relationship as well. Other than his spouse, I really don't want my FB doing it with anyone else...for several different obvious reasons. So there is commitment to a degree there.

and yes Spenser, I'm married (that's never been a secret)...no, we dont have an open marriage, no, my hubby doesn't know about my desire to have a lover, and no, I haven't "had some already"...I'm like MM I guess.... looking for that one sweet FB....and I havent found my him yet... but I know he's out there

 

[Missingmeds]

Spencer do you believe in being polyamorous? Or do you believe that someone else can be polyamorous? That would be the best way to ask that I guess.

 

[Spenser41]

Re: Re: Re: Re: did you know

Oh no no no Spenser, you didn't hit any nerve.. I was mostly teasing in that first sentence *sigh* guess i haven't given y'all enough time to get to know me yet...sorry!

When I talk about commitment between FB's... I'm mostly talking about a commitment to the friendship...and yes...I guess to the sexual part of the relationship as well. Other than his spouse, I really don't want my FB doing it with anyone else...for several different obvious reasons. So there is commitment to a degree there.

and yes Spenser, I'm married (that's never been a secret)...no, we dont have an open marriage, no, my hubby doesn't know about my desire to have a lover, and no, I haven't "had some already"...I'm like MM I guess.... looking for that one sweet FB....and I havent found my him yet... but I know he's out there

Babydoll,
Glad we cleared that up. I thought I had stepped on your toes, and I am glad I didn't.
I also know about your marriage and what is going on there. I also was in that kind of place and know what you are going through. I hope you find someone who can make you feel desired and wanted again.
Hugs...

 

[Spenser41]

Spencer do you believe in being polyamorous? Or do you believe that someone else can be polyamorous? That would be the best way to ask that I guess.

Meds,
I believe there are many people who are polyamorous. I also believe that some Open Marriages TRY to be that way. But I also know how people can feel jealous if they think the person they married perfers to be with someone else more then with them.
Human nature as it is tends to be is self centered. To be truly in an mutil-partner marriage or a truly open marriage where you love more then one person will be hard to find. Oh I am sure you can find many that are doing it, but to find one that really works that never had problems will be very rare. Because when it comes right down to it... everyone wants to be loved by one person 100% committed to each other. And if you loved someone and you felt they loved someone more then you and you were married to them, it would effect the relationship. I don't think that is something you can turn off and on. I think that is just plain on natural human nature.
So... do I believe people can do this? Sure I believe people can love more then one. But I also know that if a person is truly like this, they have no business being in a committed relationship, because there is no way they can truly commit to one person.
Even Babydoll, who just said she wants a FB who is free to be with her even tho she is married to someone else - who her husband would divorce her in a heartbeat if he knew she was doing this - wants someone to only have sex with her and no one else. So going back to what I said.. it is very easy to talk about wanting to be free to love many, but hard to do because we want them on only be with us and no one else.
And even tho I do know people who are in open marriages and multi-open marriages where you are married to more then one person, if one thought the other was being loved or wanted more by the other, human nature comes to play as well as the heart and you will find it very hard to make this kind of a relationship to really work.
But if a person wants to be that way and wants to live that way, and finds others that will be that way... go for it. And if they can really make it work... more power to them.

 

[Missingmeds]

Thank you for voicing your thoughts on this one Spencer. Just so I know where you are coming from.

 

[PyroDemon]

Ahh, the human mind, what a wonderful thing to waste. LOL People will always have some problems sometime with anyone they are in contact with closely. Be it a one on one marriage or relationship, or a one on a hundred. The idea you will always agree and will never make a mistake with another is never going to happen and would be boring and too predictable. Life is a commitment, we all know it. You commit to yourself ( the most important ), to others, to a spouse. You cannot help it. Man basically is like most creatures and is not mean't to be with only one person their whole life or we would all be with our first love or encounter. Nature is not that way. Marriage is a man made contract and idea. Monogamy is another of those rules and moral taboos we installed. I will probably die married to my spouse. I do not forsee me ever finding another that I can live with day to day like her. but that is a contract of both heart and law. But like all creatures of nature the call to mate with another, to feel the heat of a different body under mine, to hear the thoughts of another mind are way to strong to ignore or to keep hiding from myself. Like all things in life, where there is a will there is a way.

 

[babydoll2u]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: did you know

Babydoll,
Glad we cleared that up. I thought I had stepped on your toes, and I am glad I didn't.
I also know about your marriage and what is going on there. I also was in that kind of place and know what you are going through. I hope you find someone who can make you feel desired and wanted again.
Hugs...

aww thanks sweetie
I'm glad we got that all cleared up as well.

 

[Missingmeds]

Ahh, the human mind, what a wonderful thing to waste. LOL People will always have some problems sometime with anyone they are in contact with closely. Be it a one on one marriage or relationship, or a one on a hundred. The idea you will always agree and will never make a mistake with another is never going to happen and would be boring and too predictable. Life is a commitment, we all know it. You commit to yourself ( the most important ), to others, to a spouse. You cannot help it. Man basically is like most creatures and is not mean't to be with only one person their whole life or we would all be with our first love or encounter. Nature is not that way. Marriage is a man made contract and idea. Monogamy is another of those rules and moral taboos we installed. I will probably die married to my spouse. I do not forsee me ever finding another that I can live with day to day like her. but that is a contract of both heart and law. But like all creatures of nature the call to mate with another, to feel the heat of a different body under mine, to hear the thoughts of another mind are way to strong to ignore or to keep hiding from myself. Like all things in life, where there is a will there is a way.

I do like the way that you think ToyDoc. But then you already knew that didn't you?

 

[PyroDemon]

And here I sat and thought you only where interested in my body MM. And now you like my mind too? Finally I am not just a sex object to be used and abused by sexually frustrated females. Wait .... on second thought, that is why I am here. LOL. It is nice to know someone feels the same about life in ways as I do. As humans we of course all want to find people with similiar interests. We natually gravitate toward it. And thank goodness there are so many different kinds of interests in this life. I know that on here most of the conversations and ideas are one dimensional and revolve around sex before anything else. I like living in a 3 demensional world with a few trips into the fourth demension when possible.Unfortunately it makes me both enemies and friends in that I am brutally honest and cannot help but voice my opinions,usually when not asked. People ask for honesty and when they meet it it scares them. So remember in your search for the perfect buddy you will have to find someone that can deal with that issue. In the last two days that has seemed to be an issue I have come across alot. Some people don't want to know the truth. Specially about themselves.

And like the song says, " I stand alone today, don't ask me why I feel. I just know I feel this way, I stand alone today."( Jackyl)

* Never surrender when it comes to the battle between you and the world. Fight like your life depends on it, because it does. And if the fates are kind and you are blessed, fight like someone elses life depends on it. *

 

[Missingmeds]

If my brain isn't stimulated, my body won't follow. After the biggest sex organ that I have is my brain.

 

[PyroDemon]

That is why we are all here to some point, is it not? We need more than just physical stimulation and alot on here find the mental aspect even more fullfilling. I have to have both, because without the mind the body just is wasted. Atleast after two or three hours. LOL I mean, an orgasm from having your cerebelum tickled while you are having your body excited has got to be the best. But not being a female I only know what makes me explode. And it is always the best when it is both physical and mental.

 

[Missingmeds]

That is why we are all here to some point, is it not? We need more than just physical stimulation and alot on here find the mental aspect even more fullfilling. I have to have both, because without the mind the body just is wasted. Atleast after two or three hours. LOL I mean, an orgasm from having your cerebelum tickled while you are having your body excited has got to be the best. But not being a female I only know what makes me explode. And it is always the best when it is both physical and mental.

I am female, and that is what works for me as well ToyDoc.

 

[Dietrich K.]

Still looking.

 

[rsmt]

i would love to be a fuck buddy, and to have one.
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