Does BDSM on line work for you ?

[sweettalk4u]

In answer to this question, a one word answer:
Abso-fucking-lutely.

Yes it can be intensely satisfying day in and day out

 

[midwestyankee]

Seems to me that, at least in part, there is an underlying constraint hiding in the question, and I sense that it has to do with familiarity. The OP seems to be based on online-only D/s arrangements that arise out of whole pixels with little or no knowledge of one another beforehand. My take is that such arrangements are no more or less likely to succeed than relationships that begin fifteen minutes before closing time and an hour later there’s a soiled condom on a bedroom floor.

As for cases where the partners are pretty well acquainted, as is often the case with relationships that begin in the threads here at Lit, all I can say is mothers, necessities, inventions.

 

[RacyWilde]

Short answer: yes...lol.

It all depends on the type of relationships you want. There are no rules, just do what you want.

 

[dirtylittlecucker]

This is a good thread.
I am someone who spent quite some time exploring my kinks virtually, and when I did come across a play partner who said the right things and spoke my sexual language, it was thrilling and enjoyable. Some people write well, sexually.
But for me, it was 100% fantasy, even though I developed feelings for my play partners. And they claimed they did, too.
But once I began to experience things in the flesh, I haven't found the desire for virtual. I do like a partner who uses words however. Almost all my stimulation starts in my brain. I suppose that would make the case for me to keep up the virtual. But touch is important to me, too.

 

[lanceGibs]

This is a good thread.
I am someone who spent quite some time exploring my kinks virtually, and when I did come across a play partner who said the right things and spoke my sexual language, it was thrilling and enjoyable. Some people write well, sexually.
But for me, it was 100% fantasy, even though I developed feelings for my play partners. And they claimed they did, too.
But once I began to experience things in the flesh, I haven't found the desire for virtual. I do like a partner who uses words however. Almost all my stimulation starts in my brain. I suppose that would make the case for me to keep up the virtual. But touch is important to me, too.

You write well lil cuck

 

[dirtylittlecucker]

You write well lil cuck

Thank you

 

[Dosxx82256]

I posted this in another thread, but it's relevant here as well:

As someone who practices online D/s, I've been faced with the question myself several times. My response is this. Sure, there is often something being hidden, but that's not always the case. Sometimes people feel more comfortable online, in fact, in this day in age we are often closer to our real selves online than we are in real life. It's a way to be who we want to be when real life doesn't always present that opportunity.

Even more importantly to me is that I find online play to be extremely erotic in the sense that you are essentially writing your own erotic story. Given the website we are all on, we likely all find pleasure in the written word. When I have an online interaction with a sub, our dialog writes the erotica for me. Taking a part in that story that's being written dynamically is a true rush and fully pleasurable to me. I can read it over and over again with delight. Just like reading the many stories here on Lit, only this one was lived by me.

The relationship can be truly special when two people who line up well meet and connect. It's a safe, fun, and most importantly pleasurable way for two people to interact and satisfy their desires. It gets knocked and dismissed often as being a scam or trick by those attempting it and it's frustrating for people like me who enjoy it.

 

[KimGordon67]

I'm not sure if phone mediated relationships count, but if they do, then definitely yes. My first real d/s thing was with someone in another country. It lasted a year, was very intense, and was only every online (messaging etc) or phone. We never saw each other, never exchanged photos of our faces.

 

[Lady2020]

It won't work if you can't look at your calendar and realize you don't have the time or energy to start anything. For those with that kind of schedule, don't start something you know you don't have the time for.

 

[WannabeMontrealSlut]

Sadly, not really. Gets boring real fast for me.

 

[masterslave00]

It worked for me and it did not work for me. Part of my problem is being in Australia and finding partner in mutually suitable timezone. And when it works, boy what a pleasure...

 

[HUNGRYHOLLOW]

I posted this in another thread, but it's relevant here as well:

As someone who practices online D/s, I've been faced with the question myself several times. My response is this. Sure, there is often something being hidden, but that's not always the case. Sometimes people feel more comfortable online, in fact, in this day in age we are often closer to our real selves online than we are in real life. It's a way to be who we want to be when real life doesn't always present that opportunity.

Even more importantly to me is that I find online play to be extremely erotic in the sense that you are essentially writing your own erotic story. Given the website we are all on, we likely all find pleasure in the written word. When I have an online interaction with a sub, our dialog writes the erotica for me. Taking a part in that story that's being written dynamically is a true rush and fully pleasurable to me. I can read it over and over again with delight. Just like reading the many stories here on Lit, only this one was lived by me.

The relationship can be truly special when two people who line up well meet and connect. It's a safe, fun, and most importantly pleasurable way for two people to interact and satisfy their desires. It gets knocked and dismissed often as being a scam or trick by those attempting it and it's frustrating for people like me who enjoy it.

Exactly

 

[LauraWilling]

No Not at all and I have tried it several times and it just does not do anything for me and I am a natural submissiv and absolutely love being used sexually by Dom's. I love being pushed to my limits and beyond in real life. But try as I might I have not found any satisfacion from trying it online.

For me I would like chatting with serious Dom's or Domme's and hearing them tell me how far and what the would enjoy doing to me. I would enjoy that I feel.

 

[OldDogMD]

Role Play in a chatroom is boring.

It got old and frustrating fast. However, using apps to chat with your sub can be fulfilling. It really depends on how your relationship has developed.

 

[Shuttermaster65]

It Depends

Can you really get turned on with online D or S ?

I think a lot of it has to do with the connection you make with a person. I've had an online relationship in the past that lasted almost 2 years. (I miss yahoo messenger)
If two people find they are compatible and each has the time to spend with the other, then I say it can absolutely work and be very rewarding. Especially, if they can connect with voice chat or some other means to strengthen the connection, if that makes sense?
However, if they want different things, and have incompatible schedules, then I would say no.

So far, I'd say my experience has been much more positive than negative because I think it's easy to tell right away if a potential partner is on the same wavelength.

 

[ADevilishAngel]

Can you really get turned on with online D or S ?

It’s possible. But not as satisfying imo. I love a good hard spanking and it just ain’t the same when you do it yourself.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

It’s possible. But not as satisfying imo. I love a good hard spanking and it just ain’t the same when you do it yourself.

While this is definitely true, I am still shocked some times at things my ex got me to do to myself while he watched over Skype.

 

[victorious]

Online BDSM

Hello from Victorious- been a member here for several years- but offline since 2018 due to some difficult situations in life with now ex-wife because of toxic and abusive relationship involving physical violence by her against me.
I think that yes a BD/relationship ( not into SM stuff) can occur online and may at some point turn into a real life meeting a relationship.
For me, to start off with an Online BD relationship would be to share erotica that I previously wrote and when sharing incorporate use of skype or video chat in the conversation.
Can be a very nice and satisfying turn on for both parties.

 

[Sweet_n_SpicySprite]

Hello from Victorious- been a member here for several years- but offline since 2018 due to some difficult situations in life with now ex-wife because of toxic and abusive relationship involving physical violence by her against me.
I think that yes a BD/relationship ( not into SM stuff) can occur online and may at some point turn into a real life meeting a relationship.
For me, to start off with an Online BD relationship would be to share erotica that I previously wrote and when sharing incorporate use of skype or video chat in the conversation.
Can be a very nice and satisfying turn on for both parties.

Finding the right partner would be essential, and then, a bond would need to develop. I also think you need to have chemistry and be willing to explore each other's needs. I would love to learn more and find out.

 

[Tallcajun]

Online can and does work for some.
My experience has online has been mostly on the co writing of stories and role playing. But occasionally I run across one who wants to be controlled and given tasks.

Everyone is different.

 

[victorious]

Finding the right partner would be essential, and then, a bond would need to develop. I also think you need to have chemistry and be willing to explore each other's needs. I would love to learn more and find out.

Sweet and Spicy- PM Me if you want to explore and learn more

 

[OldDogMD]

Only as a starting point

On line chats are good for meeting and exploring basic desires and needs. Moving the relationship to video chat and phone calls is more satisfying. But there is still nothing better than real life.

 

[MrDevereaux]

In short: no.

As OldDog said: online chats can come close to what you want from the relationship, but some aspects of D/s do not translate well into the conversational format. There are elements that do, but it is really down to the individual to keep the relationship alive. Ways and means are within the grasp of anyone to do this, it requires as much imagination and commitment as you would put into any real world D/s relationship.

 

[Sweet_n_SpicySprite]

Sweet and Spicy- PM Me if you want to explore and learn more

Thank you for the sweet offer; please feel free to message me sometime!!

 

[Sweet_n_SpicySprite]

In short: no.

As OldDog said: online chats can come close to what you want from the relationship, but some aspects of D/s do not translate well into the conversational format. There are elements that do, but it is really down to the individual to keep the relationship alive. Ways and means are within the grasp of anyone to do this, it requires as much imagination and commitment as you would put into any real world D/s relationship.

And, how would you go about that?