Does literotica ever depress you?

[LadyJeanne]

Yeah it depresses me a bit. Mostly because I feel a bit ignored sometimes and I wonder if I'm invisible or just really uninteresting. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in school where you have to be one of the cool kids for anyone to talk to you. And I've been here for a couple of years and I don't have one friend to show for it.

And everyone seems to be getting it but me, so definately jealousy. There are amazing women here and I know I'll never meet anyone like them.

On the up side you can certainly kill some time here.

You're neither invisible nor uninteresting. I don't know that there are any cool kids here - just ones that are more vocal??

It also depends on where on Lit you hang out, I think. I'm usually in the Author's Hangout, and have made Lit friends there, though I've never met anyone in person. Familiarity makes people more comfortable - if you hang around one place and contribute to discussions often, people get to know who you are.

Before the HT Cafe, most people just dropped in to HT to give or ask for advice and then popped back out. The ones who came back more frequently didn't really start developing a sense of community here until more recently. Once you get to know people and start talking to them directly, it's easier to make Lit friends. The HT Cafe made it easier to talk to each other rather than just to meet in advice threads.

And everyone is not getting it! Look at all the "my wife/husband/SO isn't interested in sex anymore" threads! All the cheating and break-up threads! You are not alone.

I'm not getting it so much - my guy is long distance, we don't see each other particularly often, and I've no idea what's going to happen with our relationship in the future. We may end up breaking up when I move back home, or sooner. So, you are not alone. Neither am I. That's what makes Lit a nice place to visit.

 

[Munachi]

Yeah it depresses me a bit. Mostly because I feel a bit ignored sometimes and I wonder if I'm invisible or just really uninteresting. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in school where you have to be one of the cool kids for anyone to talk to you. And I've been here for a couple of years and I don't have one friend to show for it.

And everyone seems to be getting it but me, so definately jealousy. There are amazing women here and I know I'll never meet anyone like them.

On the up side you can certainly kill some time here.

As for me, I am not ignoring you either. Just each time I see your posts I start wondering what your avatar is and thus can't reply to the post. Maybe that's it for others too...

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

As for me, I am not ignoring you either. Just each time I see your posts I start wondering what your avatar is and thus can't reply to the post. Maybe that's it for others too...

That avatar is indeed frightening, human_male. On the other hand, your actual picture looks quite friendly.

Anyway, I just wanted to express my surprise at the life this thread has had. I posted it in a fit of angst one day and it keeps popping back up.

Thank you so much for the good wishes, Asian Princess. It sounds like you have a good thing going with your guy despite the distance.

And I hope to get back on the boards soon. This whole holiday season drives one insane in my line of work.

M-Y

 

[mcopado]

Yeah it depresses me a bit. Mostly because I feel a bit ignored sometimes and I wonder if I'm invisible or just really uninteresting. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in school where you have to be one of the cool kids for anyone to talk to you. And I've been here for a couple of years and I don't have one friend to show for it.

And everyone seems to be getting it but me, so definately jealousy. There are amazing women here and I know I'll never meet anyone like them.

On the up side you can certainly kill some time here.

Well I have to echo a couple of sentiments here that others have said...I don't know how long you've used that Av, but it is frankly hideous...Sorry to be blunt, but if you haved used it for awhile...I wonder if people are put off by it, I was...I only glanced back after seeing a reply somebody wrote...

There are some very funny, very ironic, very sacrastic and very beautiful and very creative AV's here, just like there are those same personalities behind them...The there are others here who post simply their pictures...nothing fancy, I choose to because I don't want to hide behind a masque, or a fake persona, here or in real life...That's just me, take it or leave it...

Other's chose to live out a persona, nothing wrong with that either...some need to live out something they can't get in the real world, but can do it here in a relatively safe environment...

most the people on lit who I have become closest too are those who either wear no mask, or step out of their personas on a particular thread and show their real selves, their joys, fear, pains, warts, and what they are passionate about... They let it all hang out, and those that accept them, gravitate to them...those that don't pass on by...

I guess what I'm saying is, well first use a less grotesque Av for one thing...I bet if you changed it to something less innocuous and even more ironic (like a picture of a robot female)...you may find less people will pass you by and read what you have to say...then you may click with people...secondlly try to be real, share what you are comfortable sharing, get beyond the inarticulate "bumping the Thread" ,"I'd like to bump against your thread" style of participation here...

Especially within a thread that has a topic you are passionate about, or start a thread of your own, about something your into...and you may find yourself the most popular guy on lit...which could transfer beyond the confines of this marvelous and sometime frustrating place...

michael

 

[LadyJeanne]

I guess what I'm saying is, well first use a less grotesque Av for one thing...I bet if you changed it to something less innocuous and even more ironic (like a picture of a robot female)...you may find less people will pass you by and read what you have to say...then you may click with people...

michael

Or just put a Santa hat on it - everyone looks more approachable if they're wearing a Santa hat.

 

[virgin_not]

Lately yes..anyway I occasionally get depressed once in a month..but somehow this past couple of days..reading some posts in LIT add more some depression on me and oh some post makes me feel a lil bit jeaolus...(that's insane..lol*)

 

[mcopado]

Or just put a Santa hat on it - everyone looks more approachable if they're wearing a Santa hat.

Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still looking for one of the guys who usually post their as their AVs to put a santa hat on that....

So is that a santa hat on you? Looks like one of those russian sable hats...it may not be santa, but it is sexy

 

[mcopado]

Or you can do the sexy Av like milady Virgin there...heck even if you're a guy (Which she is definitely not ) Pretty women get attention (Especially wearing Santa Hats)...

 

[virgin_not]

*pointing up my avi* hehe..me woman and oh *straight*

 

[mcopado]

*pointing up my avi* hehe..me woman and oh *straight*

OOOOPS

 

[SweetErika]

Well I have to echo a couple of sentiments here that others have said...I don't know how long you've used that Av, but it is frankly hideous...Sorry to be blunt, but if you haved used it for awhile...I wonder if people are put off by it, I was...I only glanced back after seeing a reply somebody wrote...

There are some very funny, very ironic, very sacrastic and very beautiful and very creative AV's here, just like there are those same personalities behind them...The there are others here who post simply their pictures...nothing fancy, I choose to because I don't want to hide behind a masque, or a fake persona, here or in real life...That's just me, take it or leave it...

Other's chose to live out a persona, nothing wrong with that either...some need to live out something they can't get in the real world, but can do it here in a relatively safe environment...

most the people on lit who I have become closest too are those who either wear no mask, or step out of their personas on a particular thread and show their real selves, their joys, fear, pains, warts, and what they are passionate about... They let it all hang out, and those that accept them, gravitate to them...those that don't pass on by...

I guess what I'm saying is, well first use a less grotesque Av for one thing...I bet if you changed it to something less innocuous and even more ironic (like a picture of a robot female)...you may find less people will pass you by and read what you have to say...then you may click with people...secondlly try to be real, share what you are comfortable sharing, get beyond the inarticulate "bumping the Thread" ,"I'd like to bump against your thread" style of participation here...

Especially within a thread that has a topic you are passionate about, or start a thread of your own, about something your into...and you may find yourself the most popular guy on lit...which could transfer beyond the confines of this marvelous and sometime frustrating place...

michael

This bears repeating. Beautifully said, really!

 

[virgin_not]

I guess what I'm saying is, well first use a less grotesque Av for one thing...I bet if you changed it to something less innocuous and even more ironic (like a picture of a robot female)...you may find less people will pass you by and read what you have to say...then you may click with people...secondlly try to be real, share what you are comfortable sharing, get beyond the inarticulate "bumping the Thread" ,"I'd like to bump against your thread" style of participation here...

Especially within a thread that has a topic you are passionate about, or start a thread of your own, about something your into...and you may find yourself the most popular guy on lit...which could transfer beyond the confines of this marvelous and sometime frustrating place...

michael

vow... to Revvy Mike..hmm..

 

[mcopado]

This bears repeating. Beautifully said, really!

This coming from one of the loviliest and the sweetest of lit denziens...thank you dear... X12

 

[virgin_not]

Yeah it depresses me a bit. Mostly because I feel a bit ignored sometimes and I wonder if I'm invisible or just really uninteresting. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in school where you have to be one of the cool kids for anyone to talk to you. And I've been here for a couple of years and I don't have one friend to show for it.

And everyone seems to be getting it but me, so definately jealousy. There are amazing women here and I know I'll never meet anyone like them.

On the up side you can certainly kill some time here.

Hmm..just checked your profile and looks like your a nice guy..I agree with the other posters in here. Why don't try cahnging your avi..Im sure you'll have or meet nice people here..trust me I got a very good instinct and oh you can play/join some of the games in here..its really fun and you'll get a chnace of meeting ppl.Look at my sig..got some games there and cause of that I met some friends here.

 

[mcopado]

Hmm..just checked your profile and looks like your a nice guy..I agree with the other posters in here. Why don't try cahnging your avi..Im sure you'll have or meet nice people here..trust me I got a very good instinct and oh you can play/join some of the games in here..its really fun and you'll get a chnace of meeting ppl.Look at my sig..got some games there and cause of that I met some friends here.

Just took virgin's advice and checked out your profile also...seems like the kind of guy you'd have a couple of beers with...I think it may be tha Av that's so off putting...

 

[virgin_not]

and oh one more thing I wanna say..no offense human_male..honestly I myself scared of your avi..first time I saw that..I don't even bother reading your post cause I was frighten with your avi.Again I said no offense and apologize for me being blunt

Here's for ya!

 

[LadyJeanne]

Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still looking for one of the guys who usually post their as their AVs to put a santa hat on that....

So is that a santa hat on you? Looks like one of those russian sable hats...it may not be santa, but it is sexy

Thank you!

I'm not sure what it is, really. A muff?

But it looked appropriately festive, so I went with it. So many AVs, so little time...

 

[human_male]

Thanks for your comments everyone. I was feeling a little sorry for myself at the time. I doubt my AV makes much difference though really, because I've only been using it for four months or so and haven't noticed any change. Before that I just used a picture of my mug. I might change it though. There's an awesome picture of Aribeth de Tylmarande that I like if no one thinks it's weird for a dude to use a female pic.

I did have a close friend once, as it happened. It was great for a while but she said she couldn't talk to me anymore because her bf had found our PMs, or something. There were a couple of others here and there, but they just sort of fizzled out. I even met someone in person, she bought me lunch, but I can't seem to hold on to anyone.

It's good though. I look forward to coming here every day and contributing and seeing what people have said to a post I may have made. On the whoe it's a positive experience. You never get flamed or abused here. There's a dating site called nzdate.com that has a similar message board and just about every post I made someone would make fun of me. This place is certainly the best.

 

[mcopado]

Thank you!

I'm not sure what it is, really. A muff?

But it looked appropriately festive, so I went with it. So many AVs, so little time...

"Muff"...such a fitting word for this place

 

[Munachi]

that sounds normal though - i think most internet "friendships" aren't lasting. iat least for me, the majority is something that lasts for a few months of regular talking (or less), and then somehow it ends. or others, with whom all i ever really do is say "hi" in their thread and they do so in mine... some people i met over the internet i would refer to as friends - but either because i got to know them in person so now they aren't of that forum to me, but a friend outside that... or they are just great people... but that is rare...

though i must admit i also sometimes find it harder to "know" people and "be known" here. i guess in part this is because there are a lot of people coming and going. in the german forum, for example, it is quite different. there are only maybe ten regulars, so you just know a lot about each of them, and thus interact in a different way. also in my case i think it might be partly cultural. a lot of the chat is about events or things that belong to the context of where someone is from, so i can't always participate in that when most people here are from english speaking countries...

 

[mcopado]

though i must admit i also sometimes find it harder to "know" people and "be known" here. i guess in part this is because there are a lot of people coming and going. in the german forum, for example, it is quite different. there are only maybe ten regulars, so you just know a lot about each of them, and thus interact in a different way. also in my case i think it might be partly cultural. a lot of the chat is about events or things that belong to the context of where someone is from, so i can't always participate in that when most people here are from english speaking countries...

I think that's why having a "home" thread is a good thing, whether one you started or someone elses..but something that you are interested in...it is there where you end up getting the closest to other people.

There's only five of us who are regular posters on my sex and spirituality thread, and in the few weeks since it was started I'd say we've gotten emotionally close to each other...because we find that we're like minded...

It may not even appear so on the thread that some of us have become close...that tends to happen in pm, emails and chatting...

Thee funny thing is we end up popping up on other threads too, not purposefully, unless we're lit stalking each other ...I think we just scan the topics in playground or AH find something that interests us, post and next thing you know the rest of the gang shows up...then a few hours later we gravitate back to the sex and spirituality thread...kind of like drifting into the kitchen during a party....

 

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[virgin_not]

virgin not: have you really posted 4300+ times in less than a month? seems like you've been busy.

hahaha..yeah been really busy and no time in here..that's life..bah.

 

[silverwhisper]

human male: i can't recall interacting w/ you to date but if we have and my crappy memory is at it again, i apologize. :>

might i suggest starting a discussion thread of your own? it's easier to talk w/ people if you can identify common interests. it's part of the reason i like to create polls: when there's commonality, there's community, IMHO.

ed

 

[Munachi]

I think that's why having a "home" thread is a good thing, whether one you started or someone elses..but something that you are interested in...it is there where you end up getting the closest to other people.

There's only five of us who are regular posters on my sex and spirituality thread, and in the few weeks since it was started I'd say we've gotten emotionally close to each other...because we find that we're like minded...

It may not even appear so on the thread that some of us have become close...that tends to happen in pm, emails and chatting...

Thee funny thing is we end up popping up on other threads too, not purposefully, unless we're lit stalking each other ...I think we just scan the topics in playground or AH find something that interests us, post and next thing you know the rest of the gang shows up...then a few hours later we gravitate back to the sex and spirituality thread...kind of like drifting into the kitchen during a party....

Hm well in a way I joined the twenty-somethings thread because of that... though I must say, I am starting to realize that most of the regulars there are in their very early twenties, while I am approaching my late twenties, and that there are occasions where I would like to shake some of them and tell them to grow up a bit... So anyway this leads to me feeling a bit out of place there at times... Ah well, I guess a "home thread" isn't really something you can plan, it just happens at some point. Either way, I am fine with it. I read here and there in HT and HT Cafe, but my "home" on lit is the german forum, and to a lesser extent the Spanish one and the Portuguese thread... and of course all my other forums. I have one forum that is very hidden and secret, and only has a few regulars that have been there for years though, and that is probably most "home" to me...