Down the rabbit hole

[Apisto42]

 

[Apisto42]

Yesterday was bad.

I’ve been thinking about this. English has so many adjectives and then degrees of adjectives when sometimes just a simple basic word actually completely encapsulates the thing/emotion/action.

Anyway. Clearing out some stuff today. Not hers necessarily, just that we have 2 houses worth of stuff in one house because life says “you’ve got plans? I have a different idea dude, how do you like this?” It’s a task that was planned out 4 years ago. That never happened. So today it starts.

 

[Apisto42]

And, here’s my dog tax for the day:

 

[Apisto42]

 

[asian2015]

Yesterday was bad.

I’ve been thinking about this. English has so many adjectives and then degrees of adjectives when sometimes just a simple basic word actually completely encapsulates the thing/emotion/action.

Anyway. Clearing out some stuff today. Not hers necessarily, just that we have 2 houses worth of stuff in one house because life says “you’ve got plans? I have a different idea dude, how do you like this?” It’s a task that was planned out 4 years ago. That never happened. So today it starts.

Relatable. A decluttering project that's been years on the list. I'm only now starting to make some progress. We should trade notes.

 

[Apisto42]

Honestly not feeling very motivated to do anything today. She comes home sometime this week, get the death certificates. Then I can finally start all the official stuff. So many government forms to be filled out.

Which is really leading me to just say fuck it for today.

I’d kind of like an orgasm, but it just seems like something else to tick off the to do list.

 

[cheekygirl75]

And, here’s my dog tax for the day:
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Omg, is that a westie? We had a westie growing up, looove them! So cute & sassy!

Honestly not feeling very motivated to do anything today. She comes home sometime this week, get the death certificates. Then I can finally start all the official stuff. So many government forms to be filled out.

Which is really leading me to just say fuck it for today.

I’d kind of like an orgasm, but it just seems like something else to tick off the to do list.

You deserve a do nothing day, for sure. It's been almost 6 months since my mother passed and we're still figuring out all the official stuff. It's so much, you need to rest up to be able to deal with it. Hugs.

 

[Apisto42]

Omg, is that a westie? We had a westie growing up, looove them! So cute & sassy!

He’s a Cairn! Same as a Westie in attitude and temperament, but different color.

You deserve a do nothing day, for sure. It's been almost 6 months since my mother passed and we're still figuring out all the official stuff. It's so much, you need to rest up to be able to deal with it. Hugs.

 

[Endless_Night]

You deserve a do nothing day, for sure. It's been almost 6 months since my mother passed and we're still figuring out all the official stuff. It's so much, you need to rest up to be able to deal with it. Hugs.

Agreed. The wrap up on this kind of thing just keeps on giving. We had a family member pass last November and didn't manage to wrap things up until mid-April.

Don't push yourself too hard. Rest, and not pushing yourself too hard are important.

 

[cheekygirl75]

He’s a Cairn! Same as a Westie in attitude and temperament, but different color.

Oh, we had a Cairn, too! He was a goofball

 

[Anastasia1999]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Mind yourself.

May she rest in peace.

 

[Apisto42]

The newish microwave that we put in 3 years ago died while she was in the hospital earlier this month. Cheaper to buy a replacement than to fix it. So I took down the old one yesterday. This is the conversation with my son just now:

“It’ll take five minutes, it’s the same model.”

“It’s going to take much longer and you’ll be bleeding at the end.”

Guess what? The guys who put in the first one didn’t drill the holes correctly. So it’s going to take more than five minutes.

Oh, and yes. I’m bleeding.

 

[barefootgirl69]

The newish microwave that we put in 3 years ago died while she was in the hospital earlier this month. Cheaper to buy a replacement than to fix it. So I took down the old one yesterday. This is the conversation with my son just now:

“It’ll take five minutes, it’s the same model.”

“It’s going to take much longer and you’ll be bleeding at the end.”

Guess what? The guys who put in the first one didn’t drill the holes correctly. So it’s going to take more than five minutes.

Oh, and yes. I’m bleeding.

Did your son watch them install the last one three years ago?

 

[Apisto42]

No. I did. I know why they did what they did, but I’m afraid it’s too janky to repeat. I need to drill holes closer to the edge. Which also makes me wonder.

Physics. Balance. Weight tolerance. Bleh.

 

[StillRain]

I’m so sorry for your loss @Apisto42 and thankful she is now at peace and pain free. Sending much love.

 

[Apisto42]

@cheekygirl75 and @Shymidwestgirl :

I have so much stationery here in the house. She never could resist a good stationery store. No idea what to do with it all. Any ideas?

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

@cheekygirl75 and @Shymidwestgirl :

I have so much stationery here in the house. She never could resist a good stationery store. No idea what to do with it all. Any ideas?

Donate to a school? Depending on what it is as stationery is wide range of “stuff” but maybe a local library or school could use it for classes. Unless, there are any pens that are sentimental to you (or if you have children) - I’d keep those.

Or is there anything in it that is of value and interest to you?

 

[Apisto42]

It’s lots of cards, pretty journals, all adult level stationary. Not really anything kids would use.

And all the scrapbooking supplies!

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

It’s lots of cards, pretty journals, all adult level stationary. Not really anything kids would use.

And all the scrapbooking supplies!

The scrapbooking supplies could be used in an art class possibly.

Cards maybe donate to a senior center? They would be able to use those. The journals - perhaps again a school - an English class for the students interested in journaling?

 

[humanmale]

Maybe, keep one pen and one journal and write in the journal, when you feel like sharing something with her?
I don't know. Maybe it's not your thing at all. Just throwing ideas around…

 

[cheekygirl75]

@cheekygirl75 and @Shymidwestgirl :

I have so much stationery here in the house. She never could resist a good stationery store. No idea what to do with it all. Any ideas?

Maybe see if a school could use it? Or see if there’s a Buy Nothing group in your town? My town has a group on Facebook where you can list things you’re giving away.

 

[Apisto42]

Morning drive music.

 

[Apisto42]

Fuck yeah, microwave installed with extra brackets and it works.

No bleeding.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I've gone back and forth on posting something about my life recently and decided this might be the best way. We found out my wife had cancer in summer of 2023. It has been a nightmare the past 3 years. I think one of the hardest things as her husband and care giver was the relentless cycle of hope and depressing news. Brutal chemo for 4 months, watching her fight through it, grace and determination day in a day out, an 11 hour surgery. More months of chemo. Then pain starting again, debilitating life altering pain. Months of trying to find out why it was happening. Then the news that it had metastasized, followed by more chemo. That worked in some areas but not all. The elevation to "take any of this stuff that might help slow it down" chemo.

The past month involved two hospital stays along with her getting to go to our son's college graduation. Last week we came home and that was about it. She died during the witching hour of Saturday to Sunday. I am so relieved that she is no longer in pain. There are some things for which the end is the only hope of peace.

Which is fitting, since she was a good witch. Helping people her whole life and truly wanting the best for people she knew.

Thank you to all of you who have reached out to support me, listened to me scream and cry and most importantly made me laugh and take a break. My circle of people offline had gotten very small during covid and then even smaller during the cancer trail. My friends on lit, you have made me smile, laugh and take a step away from some really dark times. The boobs have been great too.




So I suppose this will be a bit of diarist thread. Whatever I'm thinking about, plans, probably some links which @Endless_Night won't ever click on, and links which I'll shamelessly steal from @PrettyLilPussy19.

I know and understand what you have been through. My wife also had cancer and I was her caregiver. She also struggled through the chemo and surgeries. Finally, they said she was cancer free from breast cancer. Then, with in a year she developed liver cancer and had a heart attack as the result of the chemo. She passed back in 2016.
It is some relief when they are no longer in pain. Your life is suddenly changed immeasurably.
It does get better with time. All my best to you

 

[hotoldrguy]

The newish microwave that we put in 3 years ago died while she was in the hospital earlier this month. Cheaper to buy a replacement than to fix it. So I took down the old one yesterday. This is the conversation with my son just now:

“It’ll take five minutes, it’s the same model.”

“It’s going to take much longer and you’ll be bleeding at the end.”

Guess what? The guys who put in the first one didn’t drill the holes correctly. So it’s going to take more than five minutes.

Oh, and yes. I’m bleeding.

I went through the same thing replacing mine