Down the rabbit hole

[Zumbamami_69]

You know one of the really shitty things about cancer is that it consumes your life so details that could have been handled before death easily come back to be a real pain in the ass.

Ah, red tape and bureaucracy, the life blood of modern society.

It’s all right to pissed at your dead spouse sometimes right?

Yes. Anger is part of the process, just as fear, sadness, and ambivalence are.

 

[Apisto42]

Current mood:

 

[Apisto42]

Followed by:

 

[EyesOnHers]

You know one of the really shitty things about cancer is that it consumes your life so details that could have been handled before death easily come back to be a real pain in the ass.

Ah, red tape and bureaucracy, the life blood of modern society.

It’s all right to pissed at your dead spouse sometimes right?

Every emotion you feel is valid, fair and the correct one for the moment

 

[CuriousCat89]

I have a belt. If I cinch it any tighter I can’t get stuff off the ground. I can literally just pull my pants down without taking off the belt.

I had a nice ass when I was 18. The girls used to like to grab it and watch it during marching band practice in my short gym shorts.

I miss my ass.

you can have some of mine. I'll gift you some.

 

[Apisto42]

Taking a break from legal shit for lunch.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Taking a break from legal shit for lunch.
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Weird.... my invitation must've gotten lost in the mail...

 

[Apisto42]

Weird.... my invitation must've gotten lost in the mail...

You always say you’re busy, so you know.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

You always say you’re busy, so you know.

I'm never too busy for tacos

 

[Apisto42]

They were amazing btw. I thought of you while I was eating those amazing fish tacos…

 

[CuriousCat89]

Taking a break from legal shit for lunch.
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that's a sexy photo and I don't even eat meat or drink alcohol. the tortillas look gooood

 

[Apisto42]

that's a sexy photo and I don't even eat meat or drink alcohol. the tortillas look gooood

They weren’t meat, they were fish…

But the tortillas were freshly made.

 

[CuriousCat89]

They weren’t meat, they were fish…

But the tortillas were freshly made.

fish is meat. the meat of a fish!

 

[Apisto42]

fish is meat. the meat of a fish!

Definitionally you’re wrong.

 

[CuriousCat89]

Definitionally you’re wrong.

Flesh is flesh!

 

[Apisto42]

Flesh is flesh!

Look lady, I’m a SME on this topic. Meat is only the flesh from red blooded mammals. Everything else is poultry, or seafood/fish.

You’re meat though. Probably need a good poking to see if you’re ready.

 

[Apisto42]

At some point I’m going to stop running into people who ask how my wife is doing.

That day was not today.

But it is nice to be reminded of how many people in so many different parts of society she had an impact on.

We also brought her home today. That was a tough drive and a tough welcome home.

 

[Shenanigans90]

At some point I’m going to stop running into people who ask how my wife is doing.

This is the reason I haven’t started back at the gym yet.

But it is nice to be reminded of how many people in so many different parts of society she had an impact on.

Sounds like she was an amazing woman.

We also brought her home today. That was a tough drive and a tough welcome home.

 

[hotoldrguy]

At some point I’m going to stop running into people who ask how my wife is doing.

That day was not today.

But it is nice to be reminded of how many people in so many different parts of society she had an impact on.

We also brought her home today. That was a tough drive and a tough welcome home.

my thoughts are with you I am sure questions about you wife will come up for some time.

 

[Olderwiserstillhorny]

At some point I’m going to stop running into people who ask how my wife is doing.

That day was not today.

But it is nice to be reminded of how many people in so many different parts of society she had an impact on.

We also brought her home today. That was a tough drive and a tough welcome home.

My heartfelt condolences.
Going down the same road, I can understand the emotions you've dealt with.
May you find your peace.

 

[PrissOff]

I know that you don't know me, at all.. But I understand what you're going through. I lost my own husband to cancer over 9 years ago and I was his caretaker as well. I took a substantial hiatus from the board before and after in order to deal. I'm glad you have people here to lean on but if you ever need another ear to bend, I'm just a message away.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[Apisto42]

Today is my son’s birthday. He wanted to keep it low key so no big plans. But I know he’s struggling today. My birthday is Wednesday and Father’s Day is Sunday. Historically, pre-cancer, this was a week we spent at the beach.

Now it just feels, blah.

But friends invited us to a Father’s Day cookout this weekend so I’ve got that to do. It’s a plus (being with friends), but it’s also going to suck (talking about cancer, death, loss). Hopefully can keep that part short.

 

[EyesOnHers]

Oh, babe.
A tough week ahead.
Significant anniversaries are always hard but three in the same week

It's lovely you have 'real life' friends who are wanting to support you but understand that that in itself can bring in a load of emotions.
My only advice would be to be clear in advance that unless you or your son want to talk about it then the subject should be avoided.

And remember you always have you Lit friends to lean on too

 

[MissSNG]

Oh, babe.
A tough week ahead.
Significant anniversaries are always hard but three in the same week

It's lovely you have 'real life' friends who are wanting to support you but understand that that in itself can bring in a load of emotions.
My only advice would be to be clear in advance that unless you or your son want to talk about it then the subject should be avoided.

And remember you always have you Lit friends to lean on too

This!

I would maybe shoot the friends a text in advance and say exactly this .. you don’t want it brought up unless you guys broach the subject yourselves.
Sometimes you just need a “normal” day out where you don’t have to talk about the thing

 

[ScarletDaisy]

This!

I would maybe shoot the friends a text in advance and say exactly this .. you don’t want it brought up unless you guys broach the subject yourselves.
Sometimes you just need a “normal” day out where you don’t have to talk about the thing

All great ideas. It might be a good idea to have a code word for you and your son. That way if either of you just can't do it on Sunday, you can drop the code word and bail.