earing your red wings

[burrish]

how do you men feel about getting red wings and how to do cover up the smell or taste that might go along with that. and if my hubby so says no then how do i get him to say yes to earning his wings. he has done it in the past but all of a sudden, well in the past 6 months he says no

 

[StoneTheCrow]

how do you men feel about getting red wings and how to do cover up the smell or taste that might go along with that. and if my hubby so says no then how do i get him to say yes to earning his wings. he has done it in the past but all of a sudden, well in the past 6 months he says no

EWWWWWWWW there ain't enuff fuckin money in the world to get me to do that. But to each hi own, right?

 

[dollface007]

if you get him turned on enough, he just might do it.

 

[Bobmi357]

Red Wings? I'll pass on that.

But I am somewhat confused. In another thread you've stated that you've caught your husband cheating on you. And now you're looking for oral sex during your period from him??!??!

Perhaps its presumptous of me, but I think this should be the last thing on your mind at the moment. Consider it this way. He's been caught, he's already confessed to the deed. Perhaps he'll agree to what you ask as a way of trying to lower your anger somewhat. Or he might consider this as pressure unfairly put upon him because he knows you're angry with him. In either case, he'll probably resent you for it. I know I would.

Quite frankly pressing this issue at this point in time is akin to forcing someone to make a decision while under duress. He might go along with it, but you'll end up damaging the relationship nearly as badly as he has.

 

[burrish]

don't be confused bobmi357 your right i did catch him cheating, but right now i am trying to save my marriage so in my thinking (i may be wrong) he cheated because i either didn't satisfy him enough or i didn't know how to satisfy him, among other things i am sure. so i was thinking the more i have sex with him when he wants, the less he'll want to stray again later. so my question was how to approach him to see if he wanted to, knowing he has done it before with no problems.

 

[Lust Engine]

don't be confused bobmi357 your right i did catch him cheating, but right now i am trying to save my marriage so in my thinking (i may be wrong) he cheated because i either didn't satisfy him enough or i didn't know how to satisfy him, among other things i am sure. so i was thinking the more i have sex with him when he wants, the less he'll want to stray again later. so my question was how to approach him to see if he wanted to, knowing he has done it before with no problems.

Whoa whoa...how is HIS cheating reflective of something you did wrong?? He cheated on you emotionally as well as physically. If you have ANY chance of reeling him back in, it's going to be because he wants to come back in. And he damn well better be repentant and HE should be the one trying to satisfy you so you don't take his sorry ass to the cleaners.

Don't think that more sex is going to keep him emotionally bound to you in any way shape or form. The both of you will need counselling to regain one another's trust, not some sexual technique to mend the fences here.

I wish you well but I really wish you don't think that what he did was reflective of what you did or didn't do.

 

[burrish]

no, no, no, you are right i agree but i did or didn't do somethings that didn't help him from saying no to the other girl. you would have to read my other post to understand a little better. but i do agree with you, i am going to a therpist this friday and am very excited about it, but i could have done somethings to keep his eyes on me. so in the process i am learning new things and studing marriage sites trying to fix our marriage for us not just me or him, he wants to work it out and i want to work it out but before we do that we have to work out the kinks first and then improve what isn't broke

 

[Lust Engine]

no, no, no, you are right i agree but i did or didn't do somethings that didn't help him from saying no to the other girl. you would have to read my other post to understand a little better. but i do agree with you, i am going to a therpist this friday and am very excited about it, but i could have done somethings to keep his eyes on me. so in the process i am learning new things and studing marriage sites trying to fix our marriage for us not just me or him, he wants to work it out and i want to work it out but before we do that we have to work out the kinks first and then improve what isn't broke

My apologies for jumping the gun here. I really hope that seeing a therapist will help the BOTH of you guys mend what he's done and help you with things too. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

I'm not a man, but I have to say this is something that I wouldn't ask nor want my lover to do.

 

[Jenny _S]

how do you men feel about getting red wings and how to do cover up the smell or taste that might go along with that. and if my hubby so says no then how do i get him to say yes to earning his wings. he has done it in the past but all of a sudden, well in the past 6 months he says no

One term comes to mind - Fucking Nasty-Ass. Rethink this whole thing, would ya?

 

[sheath]

don't be confused bobmi357 your right i did catch him cheating, but right now i am trying to save my marriage so in my thinking (i may be wrong) he cheated because i either didn't satisfy him enough or i didn't know how to satisfy him, among other things i am sure. so i was thinking the more i have sex with him when he wants, the less he'll want to stray again later. so my question was how to approach him to see if he wanted to, knowing he has done it before with no problems.

Hey, now. I don't think LE was very far off the mark when he responded to this.

I have responded to your other threads about a husband cheating, and I sincerely hope that counseling helps. Yet the more I read your posts, the more it seems like you are falling into believing it was all your fault that he strayed. So this post might sound harsh, but it's all honest.

As a woman who has been there...

If you didn't satisfy him, or if you didn't know how, it was HIS JOB to tell you that. It was his job, as your husband, to explain exactly what the problem was before he went looking elsewhere. The fact that he had a problem with talking to you does not excuse him for having an affair.

You said that if you have sex with him when he wants, the less he'll want to stray later? That's bullshit. It is his fault that he strayed. No one put a gun to his head and demanded that he fuck your best friend. No one tied him down and raped him. He went willingly, of his own accord, and he knew damn well what he was doing. Saying that you can keep him from straying later is hopeful, but not true.

He could have looked at you and said, "hey, I'm not happy with what is happening in bed." He could have said, "We need to talk about some things." He even could have said, "Hey...I'm tempted to have an affair, talk to me about this." Instead, he took the easy way out and fucked someone else. You didn't make him do it. No one made him do it. He is entirely responsible for making the choice to climb into someone else's bed.

I'm sorry that is so harsh. The more you post, the more desperate you seem to change things, and the more it sounds like he's feeding you bullshit whenever you discuss it. I hope that counseling helps.

Best of luck to you,



S.

 

[Etoile]

Re: Re: earing your red wings

One term comes to mind - Fucking Nasty-Ass. Rethink this whole thing, would ya?

It really amazes me that people have this reaction. I suspect in some cases it's lack of education or experience with the subject. Sex during a woman's period - including cunnilingus is not disgusting or harmful. While the saying "don't trust anything that bleeds for seven days and doesn't die" is amusing, it's also a sign of real ignorance about the female reproductive process.

Going down on a woman during her period feels much the same to both partners as it does when she's not having her period. There is a slight difference in taste, but the amount of blood involved is minimal. The term "red wings" is because sometimes the licker might end up with a little bit of red on their cheeks, but it is by no means a lot or disgusting. Even the worst-case scenario (which I guess is having a clot in your mouth) is tolerable and can be moved past.

Anyone who says this is gross is entitled to their opinion but should not be telling others not to try it.

 

[Etoile]

I have responded to your other threads about a husband cheating, and I sincerely hope that counseling helps. Yet the more I read your posts, the more it seems like you are falling into believing it was all your fault that he strayed. So this post might sound harsh, but it's all honest.

As a woman who has been there...

If you didn't satisfy him, or if you didn't know how, it was HIS JOB to tell you that. It was his job, as your husband, to explain exactly what the problem was before he went looking elsewhere. The fact that he had a problem with talking to you does not excuse him for having an affair.

You said that if you have sex with him when he wants, the less he'll want to stray later? That's bullshit. It is his fault that he strayed. No one put a gun to his head and demanded that he fuck your best friend. No one tied him down and raped him. He went willingly, of his own accord, and he knew damn well what he was doing. Saying that you can keep him from straying later is hopeful, but not true.

He could have looked at you and said, "hey, I'm not happy with what is happening in bed." He could have said, "We need to talk about some things." He even could have said, "Hey...I'm tempted to have an affair, talk to me about this." Instead, he took the easy way out and fucked someone else. You didn't make him do it. No one made him do it. He is entirely responsible for making the choice to climb into someone else's bed.

I'm sorry that is so harsh. The more you post, the more desperate you seem to change things, and the more it sounds like he's feeding you bullshit whenever you discuss it. I hope that counseling helps.

Excellent, excellent post, sheath. Very well said.

 

[Lust Engine]

Thanks for the support there, sheath.

Admittedly I fired from the hip based upon what I had read here and JUST here. I haven't read any of the other threads but I really don't want burrish being the constant victim here.

It appalls me to see burrish blame herself for all of her husband's transgressions. Could she have done a few more things to help the relationship out? Probably; but then hone up to those. But as far as him straying, that's his responsibility 110%. Like sheath said, no one forced him to stray from the relationship; that was his conscious decision to abandon the relationship.

Each side needs to admit some culpability in this relationship. If this relationship has ANY chance of survival, some immediate communication with some harsh words needs to be levied. Some honest and direct from the heart things needs to be said to each other here.

 

[Bobmi357]

No one tied him down and raped him.

Where can I sign up for this?

One word of caution I'll drop here Burrish concerns your visit to the counselor. Its not uncommon for people to find they need to go through several counselors before they find one they can work with. Its good that you are willing to go, but I've not heard anything about hubby being willing as well. And that concerns me.

Don't be disappointed if you don't find this counselor all that helpful, if he/she isn't, then find another and keep trying.

 

[StoneTheCrow]

If some bitch did deceive me into going down on her and she was bleeding that fucker better sleep lightly is all I can say. That would be so traumatic, that could be enough to turn a straight man gay!!!! The idea of "red wings" is as repulsive as the idea of someone shitting on you. To me anyway. Maybe I am a bit of a prude but I think doo-doo and wee-wee are better left in the toilet along with menstrual by-products.
Chris

 

[Etoile]

If some bitch did deceive me into going down on her and she was bleeding that fucker better sleep lightly is all I can say. That would be so traumatic, that could be enough to turn a straight man gay!!!! The idea of "red wings" is as repulsive as the idea of someone shitting on you. To me anyway. Maybe I am a bit of a prude but I think doo-doo and wee-wee are better left in the toilet along with menstrual by-products.
Chris

Wow, there's so much offensive stuff in this post I don't know where to start. I'm satisfied that I've clarified for other readers that this is your opinion, at least, though I maintain that it is formed out of ignorance. Your comments about sexual orientation are also pretty revolting and sound based on prejudice. And finally, using the words "doo-doo" and "wee-wee" was an obvious ploy to belittle what for some people is a sexual turn on, or at the very least not repulsive.

Must you be so stone age?

 

[StoneTheCrow]

Actually the "doo-doo" and wee-wee" was made in a successfulk attempt to rattle some cages. I just like getting a rise out of everyone sweetheart. I didn't mean to offend you.

 

[SlickTony]

The idea of "red wings" is as repulsive as the idea of someone shitting on you. To me anyway.

Stone, do you also refuse to shake hands with any female on the grounds that she might be on her period?

That off my chest, I will say that I've never thought red wings were necessary--when I still had my period and we wanted to have sex, I just put in my diaphragm. It held the flow back for as long as we needed it.

WRT the other issue, of Burrish thinking that if she just puts out on demand the cheating will stop--eh. It depends. My opinion is that in this case her husband is either being a dog or he has some emotional need that doesn't have that much to do with sex per se. She probably can't meet it but that doesn't necessarily mean that's her fault. It's something he needs to work on.

 

[SlickTony]

Stone, do you also refuse to shake hands with any female on the grounds that she might be on her period?

That off my chest, I will say that I've never thought red wings were necessary--when I still had my period and we wanted to have sex, I just put in my diaphragm. It held the flow back for as long as we needed it. That's also said to be what the Instead is good for.

WRT the other issue, of Burrish thinking that if she just puts out on demand the cheating will stop--eh. It depends. My opinion is that in this case her husband is either being a dog or he has some emotional need that doesn't have that much to do with sex per se. She probably can't meet it but that doesn't necessarily mean that's her fault. It's something he needs to work on.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sheath]

If some bitch did deceive me into going down on her and she was bleeding that fucker better sleep lightly is all I can say. That would be so traumatic, that could be enough to turn a straight man gay!!!! The idea of "red wings" is as repulsive as the idea of someone shitting on you. To me anyway. Maybe I am a bit of a prude but I think doo-doo and wee-wee are better left in the toilet along with menstrual by-products.
Chris

Huh.



Good job, dude! You have admirably succeeded in making yourself look like an intolerant, immature little boy who is still worried about whether or not a girl has cooties.

I'm impressed. Seriously.

S.

 

[sheath]

Excellent, excellent post, sheath. Very well said.

Thanks, Etoile.

LE, I agree that when an affair happens, it is not all one-sided. I'm sure there are issues they both have to work on. But you are also right when you say that cheating was 110% HIS fault.

No matter what goes wrong between two people in a relationship, cheating on the other person is a very clear choice, and cannot be blamed on ANYONE but the person who fucks around.

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And in the midst of all of this, I haven't answered her question about red wings, I know. I'm not sure how to answer that particular question in light of her circumstances, other than in general terms.

I think that as long as both of you are free of STDs, why not? But at the same time, I would never push my man to do that if he didn't want to. He has earned his, but it's not something he is entirely fond of, and that's cool.

A woman's menstral cycle is a completely natural thing. A guy should be GLAD when she has her period, because that usually indicates his woman's reproductive system is healthy. And that's a very, very good thing.

S.

 

[Etoile]

As for covering up the smell or taste - I can't think of a way, but it's not that strong anyway. It's really not very different from cunnilingus any other time.

 

[dollface007]

Re: Re: Re: earing your red wings

It really amazes me that people have this reaction. I suspect in some cases it's lack of education or experience with the subject. Sex during a woman's period - including cunnilingus is not disgusting or harmful. While the saying "don't trust anything that bleeds for seven days and doesn't die" is amusing, it's also a sign of real ignorance about the female reproductive process.

Going down on a woman during her period feels much the same to both partners as it does when she's not having her period. There is a slight difference in taste, but the amount of blood involved is minimal. The term "red wings" is because sometimes the licker might end up with a little bit of red on their cheeks, but it is by no means a lot or disgusting. Even the worst-case scenario (which I guess is having a clot in your mouth) is tolerable and can be moved past.

Anyone who says this is gross is entitled to their opinion but should not be telling others not to try it.

Thank you, Etoile. You are always right on the money. Some people have a serious aversion to blood, and that should be taken seriously. I can't even have my blood taken at the doctor's office without nearly panicking. However, how many times have we all cut our fingers and immediately stuck it in our mouths to stop the bleeding? Just because (minimal amounts of) blood comes from a woman's vagina automatically makes it repulsive and disgusting??? That's misogyny if i've ever heard it...and yes girls, you too can be misogynistic. I'm not sure what you guys think happens when women are on their periods. We don't exactly *gush* blood. And if i was having a very heavy period, i probably wouldn't be in the mood for oral sex anyways. Why are women supposed to relish drinking semen when men (and women) on this board are allowed to use such insulting language regarding menstrual blood? I didn't say it was for everyone or that men should like it or they're chauvinist pigs, but stop being so fucking paranoid!!!