Edging Your Woman

[PaulBlart]

I like being edged (repeatedly brought to the brink of orgasm with or without release), but my wife prefers to just get me off. In an effort to show her the joys of being teased, I've edged her a few times. It's hot for me to watch her squirm and she seems to be incredibly turned on by it, but after a few minutes, she just gets really pissed off and demands that I get her over the edge. Have other women or their partners experienced this and did you/she like it? For men, these leads to a much more intense orgasm and heavier semen production. For the women, has your orgasm been more intense after being edged?

 

[anne22]

For the women, has your orgasm been more intense after being edged?

YES!!

However, there's a reason why I love it, and that reason is all in my head. For a woman who doesn't use much psychology in her sexlife, or who has a different psychology than mine, I can see where this would be simply an irritation, and not at all exciting.

I love it because it causes some measure of pain, or at least discomfort, and that makes me feel like I'm being Dominated. I'm sure there are also women out there who enjoy it but not in the same way as myself.

Be sensitive to your wife. Sex is an insanely rewarding thing in marriage if you put in the time to figure each other out. Especially when it comes to introducing something new, please please don't underestimate the phrase "talking is the best foreplay."

 

[Eilan]

I don't mind edging as long as I'm masturbating/in control of it. Otherwise, I get pissed off and lose all interest in the orgasm.

Other ladies' mileage may vary.

 

[Etaski]

I'd have to vote for "Please don't do that."

I edge a little bit while masturbating (because I control it and know the precise moments to slow/speed up/stop), but if someone else tries it on me....any build-up kind of fizzles, I may not even cum, and I may even become irritated for losing the focus.

I'd listen if someone else wanted it, though, so long as they listened to me when I say that I don't.

 

[GracefullyYours]

I don't mind edging as long as I'm masturbating/in control of it. Otherwise, I get pissed off and lose all interest in the orgasm.

Other ladies' mileage may vary.

Yep. What she said.

 

[RAddams]

Edging wouldn't make sense for any woman who is capable of have multiple orgasms during sex.

 

[GracefullyYours]

Edging wouldn't make sense for any woman who is capable of have multiple orgasms during sex.

Thank you!

Unless, of course, it's a control issue for the dude. Bastard.

 

[RAddams]

Bastard.

What did I do now?

 

[GracefullyYours]

What did I do now?

Not you, sweet man

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

It's fun for a little while, but there's definitely a point where my body figures out the game, and says 'screw you, hippies, I'm going home'. And then I probably won't cum. Or if I do it won't have been worth the effort.

 

[RAddams]

Not you, sweet man

I thought you were about to break out the whip, cuffs and gab ball for minute there.

 

[Wife of Bath]

I'd have to vote for "Please don't do that."

I edge a little bit while masturbating (because I control it and know the precise moments to slow/speed up/stop), but if someone else tries it on me....any build-up kind of fizzles, I may not even cum, and I may even become irritated for losing the focus.

I'd listen if someone else wanted it, though, so long as they listened to me when I say that I don't.

This.

 

[GracefullyYours]

I thought you were about to break out the whip, cuffs and gag ball for minute there.

Well I am....but I'm not mad or anything.

 

[RAddams]

Well I am....but I'm not mad or anything.

Good but I like you when you're mad too.

 

[Leon_k]

For men, these leads to a much more intense orgasm and heavier semen production.

Well not for me
if I edge and stop too many times while jacking off,
I get extreme irritation in peeing later on.

 

[NikkiBastion]

Well not for me
if I edge and stop too many times while jacking off,
I get extreme irritation in peeing later on.

TMI. TMI.

 

[PhilGarlic]

just right

I have found that edging the wife and have her enjoy it is a very fine line, as some of the girls have said already very easy to go off the boil, I think I now know when she says fuck me now she wants it then, not ten or twenty mins from then.

You women are so complicated, all those erogenous zones, g spots an all, and I lost my instruction manual on how to work mine

 

[NikkiBastion]

Ohhh, nonsense. We're not at all complicated. We know exactly what we want.

What we want is for you to figure out what we want so we don't have to tell you...nothing complicated about it.


It's the oldest little test in the book. The book being The Book, written long ago by the alpha females and handed down to all the daughters across the planet. We all get one when we reach puberty. It tells us lots of great tricks.

But yeah, the Test Of How Well He Pays Attention is one of our long cherished tests. See, if we have to tell you, it shows you weren't paying attention. The guy we don't have to tell, he's the one who's bothered to plug into us enough to really get to know us...understand us, intuit everything about us...and in return we give him tremendous amounts of sex. He paid attention.

It's the second rule: Pay Attention = get pussy.
Not to be confused with the Cardinal Rule, mentioned elsewhere: Gross Out = No pussy.

 

[Leon_k]

TMI. TMI.

what does that mean? :Confused: please tell.

 

[NikkiBastion]

TMI = too much information

regarding you burning, itching, etc while peeing

 

[Etaski]

Mm, on the contrary, I found that tidbit academically interesting as I haven't heard that before.

(But I have heard the TMI at places other than my own family's dinner table, so I understand. We're just mostly Iron Stomachs and Book Brains.)

 

[Leon_k]

TIM = too much information

regarding you burning, itching, etc while peeing

Well I had seen some online instructional video on "how to last longer"
and it basically this go to edge and then delay orgasm.
While trying it, this *tim* happens.

if i don't break my rhythm while jacking off, I don't have the TIM problem but then I get the PME problem lol .

 

[NikkiBastion]

TIM was a typo hahah. Meant TMI! But I gotcha!

 

[PhilGarlic]

ok

TIM was a typo hahah. Meant TMI! But I gotcha!

OK I've paid attention, stored that information away, sex now??

 

[MadeYaLook]

Ohhh, nonsense. We're not at all complicated. We know exactly what we want.

What we want is for you to figure out what we want so we don't have to tell you...nothing complicated about it.
[...]
But yeah, the Test Of How Well He Pays Attention is one of our long cherished tests. See, if we have to tell you, it shows you weren't paying attention. The guy we don't have to tell, he's the one who's bothered to plug into us enough to really get to know us...understand us, intuit everything about us...and in return we give him tremendous amounts of sex. He paid attention.

It's the second rule: Pay Attention = get pussy.
[...]

I don't mind the attention paying game, and I even agree with you there - I wouldn't want to spend my time with a woman who keeps babbling about the latest celebrity gossip and doesn't pay any attention to what I say, either (hinty hint hint). You can and should expect the same from a man. (But then, don't punish him for pointing out that you've said the complete opposite last week)

The problem for me starts where some examples of your species don't want a guy who has paid attention but a fucking mind-reader. Excuse me, but I simply cannot predict what kind of food your tummy is lusting for tonight. I'm only a man.

I had this very issue last weekend with my latest acquaintance (reads: former acquaintance). I would have gladly cooked something for her (you can criticise my stories all you want, I've never claimed I'm a good writer, but I do know how to cook ) - 'course, that idea fell through, because the contents of her fridge were: one banana, one apple, one salad, and enough chocolate to survive WW III from a calories point of view. Obviously most of that chocolate would go bad because she needs to stay skinny.

So I asked her where she wanted to eat. She said she didn't know. I started making suggestions for restaurants, literally anything that came to my mind, Italian, Spanish, vegetarian, sushi, Chinese, Indian, a traditional restaurant, a relatively expensive fusion kitchen place - she didn't agree to any of it (maybe she wanted McD, but I don't do that). Of course, she wouldn't say flat out 'no', she'd say things like 'Hmm, I don't know' or 'I've only been there last week' or my favourite, she just sighs audibly. After ten minutes, I took out my cell phone, and ordered fried veggies with rice from a Chinese take-out. When the delivery guy said it'd take him an hour because they had a busy night, I took my jogging shoes out of my gym bag and went for a run to pass the time.

Pussy is nice and everything, but I do have five fingers on my right hand, and if the situation demands it I'm not afraid to use them. Besides, you might not like to admit it, but there is a certain cock-carving in most women, too. Also, you want to cuddle after sex. I'm perfectly fine sleeping alone

Ok, enough ranting All I wanted to say is that yes, you can and should make your man subject to any reasonable testing you want - I personally do the same with women I meet - but don't expect him to have supernatural powers.

by the way: love how this thread got hijacked