Endless Curiosity

[JennyNo1]

Sooooooo.....

What you're really saying is guys on dating sites are the same as guys on Lit?

Feel free to correct me, Jenny.

Well guys are guys- DUH.

They're not as likely to send you a dick pic right off the bat, and maybe not as blatant as here. And I guess they're better on some sites than others.

To be fair, though, I've become friends with most guys I talk to regularly here without them pushing the sex talk.

So basically, I think I don't know what I'm talking about.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Well guys are guys- DUH.

They're not as likely to send you a dick pic right off the bat, and maybe not as blatant as here. And I guess they're better on some sites than others.

To be fair, though, I've become friends with most guys I talk to regularly here without them pushing the sex talk.

So basically, I think I don't know what I'm talking about.

I think you're pretty accurate.

 

[Endless_Night]

Honestly, it sounds like the dating sites are far worse than Lit! LOL.

 

[LeinadVirgo]

Honestly, it sounds like the dating sites are far worse than Lit! LOL.

The free ones are, i would venture to guess.i don't know about any of the paid ones though

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Honestly, it sounds like the dating sites are far worse than Lit! LOL.

I think the rules of engagement are better defined here, and the balance of power is almost overwhelmingly in a woman's favor.

You're more likely to have to work harder to get and keep the attention of a top-drawer fella (assuming you find one) that you meet on a dating site. It's not an adult erotic site and there are guys who have never been in a chat room, so you need to expect a wider variety of backgrounds and expectations, and be prepared with a wider variety of approaches.

Serious flirting is taken more seriously because the guys are (usually) single-ish and have a reasonable expectation of meeting in person.

One thing remains the same: douchebags abound.

 

[Trekka]

Online dating is a fucking blast!

I get to present myself via the written word? And a few hand-picked pics? It's like fish in a barrel.

Lit has given me the wherewithal and confidence to flirt circles around them boys till they're whipped into a frothy frenzy, and also tell them where they can stick it if they get fresh.

What? Some chode requires I submit a full body shot for his inspection before he will chat beyond three lines of text? Bahaha! *Almost* as much fun as a guy I *actually* like. I usually tell them at that point that I've got three tits. Responses are mixed.

I met my BF online. He was sweet, funny, warm, assertive but not aggressive--he pursued me--and he didn't ask for titty pics! What a gem!

Little did I know we'd be playing Me Tarzan You Jane a few weeks later.

And he's one kinky motherfucker! But he was a perfect gentleman with me. At first.

 

[Endless_Night]

< One thing remains the same: douchebags abound.

< And he's one kinky motherfucker! But he was a perfect gentleman with me. At first.

And, that right there, ladies. You've summed up the dating process.

 

[ViciousTease]

Wow, this topic is one I've long wondered about. I'm glad so many have shared!

I've never made the transition from online to in person. I hope to someday test the chemistry and see if it translates, but no such luck yet.

I've never done the online dating thing either. I think I'm in the "sheltered life" camp. We have granola bars.

I want smores, dammit!

 

[Azuldrgon]

Wow, this topic is one I've long wondered about. I'm glad so many have shared!

I've never made the transition from online to in person. I hope to someday test the chemistry and see if it translates, but no such luck yet.

I've never done the online dating thing either. I think I'm in the "sheltered life" camp. We have granola bars.

I want smores, dammit!

Smores are awesome!!!

 

[Trekka]

I've never made the transition from online to in person. I hope to someday test the chemistry and see if it translates, but no such luck yet.

Whatcha doin' next week, darlin?

 

[UnchainedWordist]

Whatcha doin' next week, darlin?

Bazinga!

 

[ViciousTease]

Whatcha doin' next week, darlin?

Nothing that can't be rescheduled.

 

[beachbaby179]

This is a fascinating conversation. Ok. I admit, I've been lurking again. There. I said it.

I've never used an online dating site. The advantage they have, of course, is that you can find local people to date. But Lit has other advantages. I think you can really get to know a person here, and there's no expectation of meeting in person until you've shared a WHOLE LOT of yourselves, in conversation and otherwise. And at that point, the whole awkward first date thing doesn't exist. I've met several Litsters. Not all visits included sex. But I'll admit to getting on planes to spend some quality time with one. Maybe two. But that's all I'm saying. And they're still dear friends to this day. Always will be, regardless of whether I ever see them again or not. One has evolved into more. So yes. After all that rambling, just yes. It translates.

 

[JennyNo1]

Online dating is a fucking blast!
*snip*

I met my BF online. He was sweet, funny, warm, assertive but not aggressive--he pursued me--and he didn't ask for titty pics! What a gem!

Little did I know we'd be playing Me Tarzan You Jane a few weeks later.

And he's one kinky motherfucker! But he was a perfect gentleman with me. At first.

Dammit! I missed that website, I guess!

 

[MessierObject]

Fascinating reads and opinions!
I've been curious about this too. Lit is my first and only online anything slightly romantical or sexical, and I was a little nervous joining. I didn't know what the "expectations" would be. I was otherwise employed overseas during the formative years of dating sites and now apps and always dismissed them as something for "those punk kids that won't get a job!" After that time passed I spent a few years avoiding people in general until I reached a point that I forgot how to flirt, socialize, etc. For me, the goal here is not to find something that has to transition into real life so to speak (though I don't rule it out either), but more of a first step towards transitioning myself back to real life.

I'm not sure if that makes sense, but the alcohol made me say it!

 

[Endless_Night]

< So yes. After all that rambling, just yes. It translates.

So, that's another yes. I have to admit I am a little surprised by the avalanche of ayes. Who knew? Apparently everyone but me.

PS: We like your ramblings, beachbaby.

Fascinating reads and opinions!
I've been curious about this too. Lit is my first and only online anything slightly romantical or sexical, and I was a little nervous joining. I didn't know what the "expectations" would be. >

This. "First and only online anything slightly romantical or sexual."

Of course, I didn't join for the romantical or even the sexical. My motives were purely information driven.

I stay for the romantical and sexical.

*considers adding sexical to Lit lexicon*

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I second the motion!

 

[Trekka]

Of course, I didn't join for the romantical or even the sexical. My motives were purely information driven.

I just laugh-snorted banana up my nose.

 

[beachbaby179]

It's my new favorite word!
sexical...great word!

 

[Endless_Night]

I second the motion!

Thirded! We're in business.

I just laugh-snorted banana up my nose.

Dang it! It's true!

 

[MessierObject]

*considers adding sexical to Lit lexicon*

I didn't mean to sound too technical. It's not because I'm egotistical about my intrinsical grammatical lexical. It just really was logical to make the endings identical even if it was nonsensical. But now I'm just making a spectacle and being theatrical and maybe a bit hysterical...Our orbit is elliptical

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Somebody sit on his face.

 

[beachbaby179]

Somebody sit on his face.

Yeah really. I'm imagining his tongue saying all those L's now...dammit, I was almost asleep!

 

[Endless_Night]

It's my new favorite word!
sexical...great word!

I think we may be putting in the 'lexical'.

I didn't mean to sound too technical. It's not because I'm egotistical about my intrinsical grammatical lexical. It just really was logical to make the endings identical even if it was nonsensical. But now I'm just making a spectacle and being theatrical and maybe a bit hysterical...Our orbit is elliptical

I wanna know what you're drinking. And how much of it you've had!

Somebody sit on his face.

Is no one else just a bit curious as to how many other words he can come up with that end in -cal?

 

[MessierObject]

Somebody sit on his face.

That sounds..... oratorical and topical. I can be multifocal, erotical, and definitely not electrical.
And now I'm done...
Would you like some of my popsicle?
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