Female Lit authors: How much unsolicited sexual advances have you dealt with as a result of your writing?

[M_K_Babalon]

Has there ever been a thread that's gone so far off the rails?

 

[onehitwanda]

All of them?

Em

I'm pretty sure that you and I have caused more chaos elsewhere. This one feels like a team B thread, one that had promise but ultimately had to walk down the corridor where there may or may not be Velociraptors.

 

[AmberSolis]

I've had several offers. Quite a few. I try to gently break it to them that my avatar pic is not me. It's an illustration from a stock photo agency. The other humorous bit is: I'm 63. And the years have not been kind to my looks. To paraphrase a line from Mystery Men, anyone who met me would say, "Sorry lady. There's not enough beer in the world."

I've had requests for e-mail chats. If it's about writing, great! If it's about me, sorry. I don't give any personal details about myself. I'm still paranoid my regular job would find out about the writing for Lit, and I'd be fired. In addition to that, nobody's missing anything, I'm not that interesting.

 

[onehitwanda]

I'm still paranoid my regular job would find out about the writing for Lit, and I'd be fired.

Yep. I'd be fired into the sun so fast that Physicists would have to admit that it was possible - in certain circumstances - for massive objects to move faster than the speed of light.

 

[Euphony]

Yep. I'd be fired into the sun so fast that Physicists would have to admit that it was in certain circumstances massive objects can move faster than the speed of light.

"Hey, I KNOW her!!!"

 

[onehitwanda]

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"Hey, I KNOW her!!!"

NASA: Hey, NORAD, what the fuck is that?
NORAD: We have no idea but we're watching it as well.
NASA: How fucking fast is it moving?
NORAD: Fucking fast.
Wanda: I'm Mary Poppins y'all!

 

[Euphony]

Wanda: I'm Mary Poppins y'all!

I suppose this counts as "close enough."

 

[EmilyMiller]

Now see, that right there is what you call a Mediocre joke.

But every joke on AH is above average, surely?

Em

 

[Kelliezgirl]

But every joke on AH is above average, surely?

Em

It's the Lake Wobegone of jokes!

 

[MediocreAuthor]

But every joke on AH is above average, surely?

Em

Not when I make them up.

 

[ElectricBlue]

But every joke on AH is above average, surely?

Em

The problem you have is when half the people you meet are below average. Do you cater for them or pretend they're not there?

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

Today on twitter someone asked me for feet pics.
Wasn't the first time. Won't be the last. But today I realized I get asked for photos of my feet more than anything else.

 

[StillStunned]

Today on twitter someone asked me for feet pics.
Wasn't the first time. Won't be the last. But today I realized I get asked for photos of my feet more than anything else.

Perhaps your admirers are after something they lack?

 

[EmilyMiller]

Today on twitter someone asked me for feet pics.
Wasn't the first time. Won't be the last. But today I realized I get asked for photos of my feet more than anything else.

I don’t seem to attract that crowd. Then I’m not on X, well not as Miller anyway. I do get leg requests sometimes. Not sure why given my [lack of] height.

Em

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

I don’t seem to attract that crowd. Then I’m not on X, well not as Miller anyway. I do get leg requests sometimes. Not sure why given my [lack of] height.

Em

my hypothesis is there's significant overlap between the feet crowd and the yellow fever crowd.

*p.s. not kink-shaming, I totally get that feet can be sexy

 

[EmilyMiller]

my hypothesis is there's significant overlap between the feet crowd and the yellow fever crowd.

That’s interesting. Any reason why you think that?

Em

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

That’s interesting. Any reason why you think that?

Em

Was completely meant to be a humorous non-sequitur, but now that you posed the question, I'm curious
I dropped into foot fetish reddits to see which are the most popular by ethnicity. r/AsianFeet has the most with 93,173 members, r/ebonyfeet is a very close 2nd with 92,700, and a distant third is r/latinafeet with 31,572.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Was completely meant to be a humorous non-sequitur, but now that you posed the question, I'm curious
I dropped into foot fetish reddits to see which are the most popular by ethnicity. r/AsianFeet has the most with 93,173 members, r/ebonyfeet is a very close 2nd with 92,700, and a distant third is r/latinafeet with 31,572.

People are strange (self-referential comment obviously).

Em

 

[MediocreAuthor]

Feet stuff always amuses me. Especially shoe worship.

I like a nice foot massage, and I'll give a nice foot massage. I'll even kiss a foot (if it's clean) the same way I'd basically kiss anywhere else on the body... I don't mind, and I don't mind my feet being kissed. It's kinda nice, I suppose.

But shoe stuff? I just don't get it. I even included a tiny bit of shoe stuff and feet stuff in Rescuing the Fallen to appeal to the source material's fans. But I don't understand it.

(I have zero hatred or disgust for that kink, mind you. Just a general puzzlement)

 

[HordHolm]

Feet stuff always amuses me. Especially shoe worship.

I like a nice foot massage, and I'll give a nice foot massage. I'll even kiss a foot (if it's clean) the same way I'd basically kiss anywhere else on the body... I don't mind, and I don't mind my feet being kissed. It's kinda nice, I suppose.

But shoe stuff? I just don't get it. I even included a tiny bit of shoe stuff and feet stuff in Rescuing the Fallen to appeal to the source material's fans. But I don't understand it.

(I have zero hatred or disgust for that kink, mind you. Just a general puzzlement)

The theory goes that the first encounter boys have with shoes is crawling around at home at toddler age, and being rug-rats they're at a height to have mum's footwear imprinted into their consciousness. True? No idea, but it's a theory...

 

[AwkwardlySet]

Feet stuff always amuses me. Especially shoe worship.

I like a nice foot massage, and I'll give a nice foot massage. I'll even kiss a foot (if it's clean) the same way I'd basically kiss anywhere else on the body... I don't mind, and I don't mind my feet being kissed. It's kinda nice, I suppose.

But shoe stuff? I just don't get it. I even included a tiny bit of shoe stuff and feet stuff in Rescuing the Fallen to appeal to the source materials fans. But I don't understand it.

(I have zero hatred or disgust for that kink, mind you. Just a general puzzlement)

Well, same as any other kink, it is beyond explaining rationally. I mean, rationally speaking, why would anyone find nonconsensual or to name it properly, rape sex exciting and arousing? I am not trying to poke at you, just saying that our rational brain has nothing to do with what we find arousing.
I am still going to try to explain it from the point of view of someone who finds pretty (and clean) feet very arousing. For me, elegant shoes, high-heeled mostly, but flat sandals work sometimes too, are something that is a decoration on a foot and thus by extension something that arouses. For me, sneakers and such don't do anything, but elegant high-heeled pumps or sandals... yeah

 

[djrip]

Well, same as any other kink, it is beyond explaining rationally. I mean, rationally speaking, why would anyone find nonconsensual or to name it properly, rape sex exciting and arousing? I am not trying to poke at you, just saying that our rational brain has nothing to do with what we find arousing.
I am still going to try to explain it from the point of view of someone who finds pretty (and clean) feet very arousing. For me, elegant shoes, high-heeled mostly, but flat sandals work sometimes too, are something that is a decoration on a foot and thus by extension something that arouses. For me, sneakers and such don't do anything, but elegant high-heeled pumps or sandals... yeah

I like a gal in Converse all stars.

 

[MediocreAuthor]

Well, same as any other kink, it is beyond explaining rationally. I mean, rationally speaking, why would anyone find nonconsensual or to name it properly, rape sex exciting and arousing? I am not trying to poke at you, just saying that our rational brain has nothing to do with what we find arousing.
I am still going to try to explain it from the point of view of someone who finds pretty (and clean) feet very arousing. For me, elegant shoes, high-heeled mostly, but flat sandals work sometimes too, are something that is a decoration on a foot and thus by extension something that arouses. For me, sneakers and such don't do anything, but elegant high-heeled pumps or sandals... yeah

That actually makes sense. Thank you.

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And I don't feel poked in the slightest. I can explain my fascination with rape.

On the giving end, it's a longing for power and control. You see what you want and you take it. That's conceptually arousing.

On the receiving end, it's being given pleasure that secretly wanted, but you refuse to ask for. When you receive it, you can't be blamed. And also there's the idea that you're so desirable, you overwhelm your paramour's ability to contain themselves.

In real life, both of those concepts don't work that way AT ALL... But within fantasy they do.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I've written a story about a man stealing women's shoes and, you know. But I haven't, and may not, publish it. It was quite fun to write but sort of icky to read.

Feet stuff always amuses me. Especially shoe worship.

I like a nice foot massage, and I'll give a nice foot massage. I'll even kiss a foot (if it's clean) the same way I'd basically kiss anywhere else on the body... I don't mind, and I don't mind my feet being kissed. It's kinda nice, I suppose.

But shoe stuff? I just don't get it. I even included a tiny bit of shoe stuff and feet stuff in Rescuing the Fallen to appeal to the source material's fans. But I don't understand it.

(I have zero hatred or disgust for that kink, mind you. Just a general puzzlement)

 

[StillStunned]

I've written a story about a man stealing women's shoes and, you know. But I haven't, and may not, publish it. It was quite fun to write but sort of icky to read.

Go for it. Sure, it will upset some readers, but if you enjoyed writing it, that's all that matters. Write the weird icky stuff, publish it, and jolt the readers out of their cosy little comfort zone!