First time Anal Fisting advice. Please?

[herotica]

My wife has been fisting me every each month since january and I return to normal within an hour or so. Enemas are important, but it is the self giving or deep relaxation you need to enjoy with your partner, you will know it is 'the moment' as it feels like a rose opening inside you - both of you will feel it as it happens, be patient and gentle with each other. Some people say they feel 'blissed out' after the experience and this is different to anal orgasm.

Ask to reciprocate on him, it may help.

On the doctor stuff - a recent court case in the UK about fisting found the defendent not guilty, doctors from both sides gave evidence and one said it was bad the others said there was no harm or lasting effect if done properly, so they must be right

 

[analgirl69]

My wife has been fisting me every each month since january and I return to normal within an hour or so. Enemas are important, but it is the self giving or deep relaxation you need to enjoy with your partner, you will know it is 'the moment' as it feels like a rose opening inside you - both of you will feel it as it happens, be patient and gentle with each other. Some people say they feel 'blissed out' after the experience and this is different to anal orgasm.

Ask to reciprocate on him, it may help.

On the doctor stuff - a recent court case in the UK about fisting found the defendent not guilty, doctors from both sides gave evidence and one said it was bad the others said there was no harm or lasting effect if done properly, so they must be right

Oh, he can barely take a finger or two back there. Lol. Let alone a fist. I have been fucked by him a toooon back there- with toys too. His fetish is doing things like this to me, but not receiving. I was convinced he'd like a little play but he goes soft when I touch him there. I ask to maybe rim him, but he said no and then did it to me for the first time out of no where. Lol. I want to do stuff to him too because I think he would feel good with a finger or little p vibrator and a blow job but I can't make him like something. I am convinced he's afraid to like it so I will maybe try again. He's given hints of this, but I don't know. (??) Fisting though, no. Lol. He does NOT want me to do that to him.

 

[herotica]

Sorry to hear that he doesn't want to play analgirl69. My lady likes lots of outside pleasures and rimming though does not like penetration per se. We did talk a lot about anal play quite a while before we even started on this, indeed, I was really surprised at how casual the first time happened for us. Perhaps it would be good to find out why your guy wants to fist you and also what his 'issues' are around his own sphincter, Fisting is very pleasurable if done well but there must be a mutual trust and understanding.
My concern for you is that his hand is much bigger than yours, so you will have to start stretching before he gets near you. If YOU really want it then go for it, if he wants it you have to understand his 'issues' before you give yourself.

 

[analgirl69]

Sorry to hear that he doesn't want to play analgirl69. My lady likes lots of outside pleasures and rimming though does not like penetration per se. We did talk a lot about anal play quite a while before we even started on this, indeed, I was really surprised at how casual the first time happened for us. Perhaps it would be good to find out why your guy wants to fist you and also what his 'issues' are around his own sphincter, Fisting is very pleasurable if done well but there must be a mutual trust and understanding.
My concern for you is that his hand is much bigger than yours, so you will have to start stretching before he gets near you. If YOU really want it then go for it, if he wants it you have to understand his 'issues' before you give yourself.

He just doesn't particularly like the feel and is (like I am even though I always enema) worried something might be in there. (also won't let me rim him.) I did it to him not too long ago and he just went totally soft. I was even letting him touch my ass at the same time. It came back a little but I'd barely even call that an erection. And he is normally rock hard when he touches my ass..He also is a bit of a homophobe (sorry.. I'm not. I find it weird that he knows I've had sex with a girl and doesn't care but is so grossed out by guys..? People are weird that way. Double standard.) so anything his mind correlated with being gay turns him right off. Actually, that's why I thought he'd never go for anal when I introduced it-but he did, obviously. Lol. I guess it was fine for him since it was on a chick.

I love doing stuff for his pleasure. I am a submissive (and he is hesitantly working on being more dominating for me-I think he's confused on why I would want the things I do.) and allowing myself to be so vulnerable for the sake of something that is just to bring him pleasure- especially knowing just how much he likes it- well. How could I not? I thought fisting looked horrific, honestly, always avoided it.. until I saw that's what he liked (that and huge toys and gaping) and now it just really turns me on that we are going to try.

Yea, he has huge hands. The fact that I am terrified by that also turns me on a little, honestly. He is actually worried. He keeps saying I don't have to if I don't want to. He really worried I secretly don't want to but will because I always do what will make him happy-sex or otherwise-, but he still hasn't wrapped his head around the fact that I get turned on when I do things solely to make him happy. Anywho, he wants me to try with my hand before he goes in. I got almost all of my hand in alone but got freaked out since no one was there if something went wrong and stopped. My hand is little. Sort of long fingers cuz I'm tall but small frame and skinny fingers. He got his hand to the knuckles in twice but he hurt his hand the next day at work (cuts all over) so we've had to wait. But he was talking about Saturday... Scared and excited.

 

[herotica]

Sorry to read of the Phobia with your man. Does he want to partake as a dom? you mentioned girl/girl would you both be happy to have a lady join you initially?

On cleaning, get him to help you or get him to look at some enema forums so that you both understand the mechanics of them and buy some exam gloves from the local store.

My wife's hand is very small but that is a butt plug 2.5inches diameter, so unless you have had the correspnding size inside you already, you need to practice. Good to read you have tried already, dont be scared about getting stuck your bottom is designed to expel so when you do insert your hand, practice flexing your muscles so you understand what you can achieve. Sounds like you really want to go for it soon, why not perform for your guy and see how it goes first, it will give you confidence and encourage him and who knows.

Your bottom and pussy are muscles and like Olympic athletes have to be trained, if you want to go big use any opportunity to stretch shower/bath use shaped shampoo bottles just to open you out, it doesnt have to be for long but you do have to get used to 'the stretch', and then you have to clench back after, this works as the bottles are narrow shapes rather than round plugs, remember you are only stretching for 2 inches in so you are not going lose the container. When you are happy with how your body responds, you can have confidence to direct him for your pleasure.

Gloves no gloves? well for us first few times no gloves no mess, recently tried glove and wife says it was easier to slip in and worked well with the lube. remember latex gloves and baby oil don't mix. Use 'anal lube' as it is really good though wife says it makes her itch. We have tried baby oil Gel recently for deeper penetration and worked well.

Most of all Go slow and keep safe, if in your passion to have him you get ripped that will stop things for some time, you will get to your goal but it will take time and you both have to be confident with each other. Have a wild time, look forward to reading the outcome

 

[analgirl69]

Sorry to read of the Phobia with your man. Does he want to partake as a dom? you mentioned girl/girl would you both be happy to have a lady join you initially?

On cleaning, get him to help you or get him to look at some enema forums so that you both understand the mechanics of them and buy some exam gloves from the local store.

My wife's hand is very small but that is a butt plug 2.5inches diameter, so unless you have had the correspnding size inside you already, you need to practice. Good to read you have tried already, dont be scared about getting stuck your bottom is designed to expel so when you do insert your hand, practice flexing your muscles so you understand what you can achieve. Sounds like you really want to go for it soon, why not perform for your guy and see how it goes first, it will give you confidence and encourage him and who knows.

Your bottom and pussy are muscles and like Olympic athletes have to be trained, if you want to go big use any opportunity to stretch shower/bath use shaped shampoo bottles just to open you out, it doesnt have to be for long but you do have to get used to 'the stretch', and then you have to clench back after, this works as the bottles are narrow shapes rather than round plugs, remember you are only stretching for 2 inches in so you are not going lose the container. When you are happy with how your body responds, you can have confidence to direct him for your pleasure.

Gloves no gloves? well for us first few times no gloves no mess, recently tried glove and wife says it was easier to slip in and worked well with the lube. remember latex gloves and baby oil don't mix. Use 'anal lube' as it is really good though wife says it makes her itch. We have tried baby oil Gel recently for deeper penetration and worked well.

Most of all Go slow and keep safe, if in your passion to have him you get ripped that will stop things for some time, you will get to your goal but it will take time and you both have to be confident with each other. Have a wild time, look forward to reading the outcome

He's not interested in being dominating, but he's made an attempt to be more passionate and a little more aggressive, which is nice. No, no girl. I had an affair with a girl when I was young for a while but I am not attracted to them. It was an accident. I wouldn't be really opposed to a 3 some fmm or mff but he is. Does not want someone else in our bed. And I get it, because I don't think I would be happy if it happened either. The idea of him fucking another girl makes me feel super jealous.. so thank God I'm his one and only ever. Lol. And the idea of fucking another guy or girl- doesn't really appeal to me except that more pleasurable things could happen at a time. But that's what toys are for.

Don't gloves take away from the experience as the giver though? This experience isn't really for my benefit. It's for his. And I want him to enjoy it. I heard crisco works well, have you tried it?
Hmm... stretching in one session, even slowly, isn't good enough? Plug, or otherwise?
I was thinking a satin care venus shave gel looked big and rounded. Lol. But i'd be worried of the cap coming off. Lol. Biggest I've had in there was 1.5-1.75 diameter. Well...besides half his fist and most of mine. Is it really that huge of a jump that it may not work right away?

 

[1410gsr]

You should post some pics up of the attempts and the completions.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Another head rolling thread.

 

[analgirl69]

Hahahaha. Hello again.

Talk to my husband about, he's the one who enjoys it. Lol. I enjoy doing things he enjoys. I was freaked when I first saw it.. now the idea gets me hot well, because he gets me hot. But I tried watching the porn.. did nothing for me. Only the idea of doing it for him.

Lol. Seriously, if you see "analgirl" look away. But you won't because I AM the giant rolling head.

 

[analgirl69]

You should post some pics up of the attempts and the completions.

Hahaha he'd never let me do that. He won't let me record anything we do just for my own benefit. Boo.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Hahaha he'd never let me do that. He won't let me record anything we do just for my own benefit. Boo.

He won't "let" you? Interesting. I mean, you let him stick his fist up your ass. Seems like you have some leverage.

 

[analgirl69]

He won't "let" you? Interesting. I mean, you let him stick his fist up your ass. Seems like you have some leverage.

Seems pointless to push something that makes him uncomfortable/irriated when I am trying so hard to please him, no?

 

[analgirl69]

Have a wild time, look forward to reading the outcome

Got drunk and tried. Lol. He said he got almost all the way past the knuckles this time but that mixed with the vibrator up front pushed me over the edge and once I came, it was too intense. We tried one more time but the same thing happened, so we took a break and he fucked my ass instead and then he just finished there. Lol. Ah, well...progress.. another time for the whole thing. I got about as far as he did because I started before he went in.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Seems pointless to push something that makes him uncomfortable/irriated when I am trying so hard to please him, no?

I agree. I'm just saying, he is literally making you his puppet (by sticking his hand up your ass). I would think if you want to take pics, he would give in. You seem rather eager to please. Good on you.

For the record, this sex act should be called puppeteering. (trademark Pmann)

 

[analgirl69]

I agree. I'm just saying, he is literally making you his puppet (by sticking his hand up your ass). I would think if you want to take pics, he would give in. You seem rather eager to please. Good on you.

For the record, this sex act should be called puppeteering. (trademark Pmann)

I am submissive, (even if he isn't all that dominating) so I better be eager to please.
I get satisfaction from doing anything that pleases him/brings him pleasure. I rarely ask twice about things that he says don't turn him on. I wouldn't like it even if he did give in, just because it would not be a turn on for him. But that's ok. I can live without the photos I guess. The only photos he is fond of is the dirty ones I send him.

 

[Drexen]

For the record, this sex act should be called puppeteering. (trademark Pmann)

Well played, Im gonna have to steal that one. checks in the mail ! lol

I am submissive, (even if he isn't all that dominating) so I better be eager to please.
I get satisfaction from doing anything that pleases him/brings him pleasure. I rarely ask twice about things that he says don't turn him on. I wouldn't like it even if he did give in, just because it would not be a turn on for him. But that's ok. I can live without the photos I guess. The only photos he is fond of is the dirty ones I send him.

Im rather surprised he is opposed to the photos. Sounds like the type of guy that would like a pic of this accomplishment when it happens.

 

[RuReal]

It is funny watching people try to manipulate someone into photos.

 

[analgirl69]

Well played, Im gonna have to steal that one. checks in the mail ! lol



Im rather surprised he is opposed to the photos. Sounds like the type of guy that would like a pic of this accomplishment when it happens.

He's self conscious. He likes me to send photos of me to him but no photos of him to me. I don't know why he can't see that he is attractive...
I mean, geez, he works in a very labour intensive job. He is just stuck in the past. He was uuber skinny in high school, but he has a lot of muscle now. He's gained 35 lbs of pure muscle. But he still thinks he looks like a twig. Lol. Silly hubby. And I wouldn't care if he looked the same as he did in high school anyway. I mean, gee, that's when I fell in love with him. He just looks extra sexy now he's all muscly and strong.

 

[herotica]

He's not interested in being dominating, but he's made an attempt to be more passionate and a little more aggressive, which is nice. No, no girl. I had an affair with a girl when I was young for a while but I am not attracted to them. It was an accident. I wouldn't be really opposed to a 3 some fmm or mff but he is. Does not want someone else in our bed. And I get it, because I don't think I would be happy if it happened either. The idea of him fucking another girl makes me feel super jealous.. so thank God I'm his one and only ever. Lol. And the idea of fucking another guy or girl- doesn't really appeal to me except that more pleasurable things could happen at a time. But that's what toys are for.

Don't gloves take away from the experience as the giver though? This experience isn't really for my benefit. It's for his. And I want him to enjoy it. I heard crisco works well, have you tried it?
Hmm... stretching in one session, even slowly, isn't good enough? Plug, or otherwise?
I was thinking a satin care venus shave gel looked big and rounded. Lol. But i'd be worried of the cap coming off. Lol. Biggest I've had in there was 1.5-1.75 diameter. Well...besides half his fist and most of mine. Is it really that huge of a jump that it may not work right away?

Hey Analgirl, hope things are progressing for you both? just a few more hints really, my suggestion of another girl in the mix was not really for ffm or for him to service, but for a small hand to get into yu whilst you both watch and touch. once you have achieved once there should be no stopping you both.

With regard to stretching with bottles, here in uk many shower products have the cap as a flat base to stand and drain the product. in turn 'the base' which is now the top is shaped a bit like a fish and the container is oblong rather than round, so is perfect for stretching and makes going around the store most interesting. Remember round shapes are best when more experienced, the flatter shape helps to stretch you front to back and gives more success quicker as you are training your muscles to expand.

Gloves are optional, but we found gliding in easier with them on but have had much success without. you did express concern about mess but you have choice. as for loss of sensation, you will feel everything, he will get pins n needles in his hand once inside cus you will be clamping off his blood supply!! it is very different being fisted to being the fister, if you are equal in the task it can be quite euphoric, but if not, it is just mechanics for the fister.

unless you are both willing partners in this, it will never really be the wonderful experience you hope for.

 

[dkak001]

At the same time, I've heard that for anal. And we had it every day for months and now we have about 50/50 vaginal anal. so still a lot. I don't THINK I have any difference?? Some times I get worried that maybe it's been bad for me, but I don't really think any permanent damage has been done. And we use other decent sized toys (getting bigger ones too, is this bad?) on me as well 'cus he likes that. Doesn't seem to have done anything. Is fisting really that much worse?

PM Me. I'm will share some personal info on the subject...

 

[analgirl69]

Hey Analgirl, hope things are progressing for you both? just a few more hints really, my suggestion of another girl in the mix was not really for ffm or for him to service, but for a small hand to get into yu whilst you both watch and touch. once you have achieved once there should be no stopping you both.

With regard to stretching with bottles, here in uk many shower products have the cap as a flat base to stand and drain the product. in turn 'the base' which is now the top is shaped a bit like a fish and the container is oblong rather than round, so is perfect for stretching and makes going around the store most interesting. Remember round shapes are best when more experienced, the flatter shape helps to stretch you front to back and gives more success quicker as you are training your muscles to expand.

Gloves are optional, but we found gliding in easier with them on but have had much success without. you did express concern about mess but you have choice. as for loss of sensation, you will feel everything, he will get pins n needles in his hand once inside cus you will be clamping off his blood supply!! it is very different being fisted to being the fister, if you are equal in the task it can be quite euphoric, but if not, it is just mechanics for the fister.

unless you are both willing partners in this, it will never really be the wonderful experience you hope for.

Hey Analgirl, hope things are progressing for you both? *just a few more hints really, my suggestion of another girl in the mix was not really for ffm or for him to service, but for a small hand to get into yu whilst you both watch and touch. *once you have achieved once there should be no stopping you both.




With regard to stretching with bottles, here in uk many shower products have the cap as a flat base to stand and drain the product. *in turn 'the base' which is now the top is shaped a bit like a fish and the container is oblong rather than round, so is perfect for stretching and makes going around the store most interesting. *Remember round shapes are best when more experienced, the flatter shape helps to stretch you front to back and gives more success quicker as you are training your muscles to expand.




Gloves are optional, but we found gliding in easier with them on but have had much success without. *you did express concern about mess but you have choice. *as for loss of sensation, you will feel everything, he will get pins n needles in his hand once inside cus you will be clamping off his blood supply!! *it is very different being fisted to being the fister, if you are equal in the task it can be quite euphoric, but if not, it is just mechanics for the fister.




unless you are both willing partners in this, it will never really be the wonderful experience you hope for.

OH, this is entirely for the fister... it's like his personal porno in live action. But..I'm getting progressively more scared every day..Last time was..fine.. very very intense and we didn't make it all the way again.. that was last Saturday. I was drunk because I was scared. I didn't do anything dumb, was careful, but was still sore the next day. I thought I was ok enough to at least fuck by Monday... I was wrong. It hurt a bit while it happened, but after, oh my. Very, very sore... couldn't even open it with a finger to check.. I normally have sex every day but I have avoided it now since Monday.. afraid to do anything anal right now and afraid this isn't going to work... But we always have some form of anal when we have sex.. what do I do while I sort out y head?

 

[Lord Pmann]

This is my personal, non anal fisting opinion. Take that for what it is worth.

But when a woman has a baby, her vagina opens up so that baby and it's big ass head can squeeze through. So, if you want to fist up your vagina, then that's not really unsafe, because the vagina is made to expand. In fact, when women are pregnant, they like to shout it from the rooftop how much they are dilated, which is fucking disgusting, so stop it ladies. I realize that's the cervix or whatever. But that was a selfish plug (heehee, plug).

But the ass doesn't expand. Has anyone ever shit something the size of a fist? I certainly hope not. If so, stay away because that scares me. But seriously, the ass isn't made to expand all that much, from my limited knowledge of the ass. Of course you are hurting. You tried to shove a fist up there.

You seem pretty awesome and willing to try whatever. That's great. But I might suggest keeping his arm out of there. I never thought I'd warn someone of that.

 

[imemkay]

Having said that, I know he really wants to try this on me, also very large plugs, but he doesn't want to do it if it will hurt me.

I don't get the whole anal/fist attraction, but hey to each their own. However,
I get that you want to please him; but you are in pain! You are also getting progressively more scared. It seems to me that you are the one with all the control in this situation. What should you do while you sort things out in your mind? You should tell him to keep his fingers, fists, arms or whatever else he can think of out of your ass. Your health is more important than his own personal porno and you said he doesn't want to hurt you so I am sure he will understand. I really think you should get yourself to a doctor and don't put anything in your ass until you get the OK.

Good luck!

 

[LettersFromTatyana]

alcohol + kink = bad idea

 

[Sistinas74]

hmmm

I am wondering if you enjoy these extreme anal play activities or if you are solely doing it to please your man? I do understand what you mean about getting turned on about things that turn him on, however, that doesn't mean you have to follow through on every fantasy that gets him hot and bothered. We all are different so just because some people can tolerate certain things being done to their bodies doesn't mean we all are capable of those same things. You have to listen to your own body and the little voice in your head or feeling in your gut telling you when something may be going to far. Another thing I think is key for most things sexually is that YOU are really wanting to do these things and they feel good to you. If you are mentally truly into it and wanting to accommodate these things into your body, it would make it easier for that to happen. Keep in mind this isn't something a lot of people could do and it wouldn't make you any less sexual or desirable if you chose to stop.