Fuck It: Refux

[RosewoodTulip]

I think @hopeful_wife had some great advice for @Lindi37 earlier in the thread...

Keep a small tube of lube with you when you wear it, and reapply it often to stop it rubbing.

From talking to people who've worn them for a long time, the shape of the stopper at the end seems to be key. A round one often looks prettier, but can dig into your cheeks somewhat. I'd suggest a plug with a thin bar type end as it doesn't press into you so much

Thank you.
The one I have has a round, heart shaped, stopper so I'll definitely look into other types (and then eventually get a tail )

 

[Saltfountain]

Thank you.
The one I have has a round, heart shaped, stopper so I'll definitely look into other types (and then eventually get a tail )

Oh wow! That's hot! Idk why, but I fucking love seeing tails

 

[Saltfountain]

That's common with a plug... You do sort of have gas, because when we push the anus and rectum open to insert the plug, air goes in, too. And it's not TMI. Anyone who enjoys anal sex knows about this part. I've had the slight discomfort when wearing a plug... and my pants fit a little tighter the day after I've fucked my ass with a dildo. The thing about anal play is that you have to get real comfortable with your bodily functions. You're going to fart the next day. You just are.

Now, what to do about it? I adjust. I have a travel-size bottle of lube that I put in my pocket, and when I use the restroom, I take care of making myself more comfortable. Putting a little lube around the neck of the plug keeps me from getting sore because things have dried out, and I move the plug a little bit to let the air pass out... If necessary, I fully remove and reinsert the plug to add more lube.

For the balls, mine never travel... Is it a factor of my having a cervix, or because of the style? Mine have a silicone "pull" that I use to retrieve them (and a silicone connector between them). That pull is always outside my body. Would something like that help? If you have balls that are disconnected from each other and free-floating, maybe this style would be better for you?

If the issue is simply related to not having a cervix, and not something that could be fixed with a different kind of balls, maybe you need to be stuffed with something that is held in place externally? Panties that have a small dildo attached? Or something with a strap meant to keep it from falling out, but that you use to keep it from travelling in?

@RosewoodTulip

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Oh wow! That's hot! Idk why, but I fucking love seeing tails

Me too. @PlanetaryNebula actually very kindly hunted down a squirrel style one for me the other day that looked frickin amazing

 

[Saltfountain]

Me too. @PlanetaryNebula actually very kindly hunted down a squirrel style one for me the other day that looked frickin amazing

She's an utter sweetheart! One of my very favouritest peoples and a great mate

 

[RosewoodTulip]

She's an utter sweetheart! One of my very favouritest peoples and a great mate

She does seem to be. Always super kind whenever I see her about.

Lots of amazing people in this little perv haven

 

[mousse29]

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[PlanetaryNebula]

She's an utter sweetheart! One of my very favouritest peoples and a great mate

MAAAAAAAATE!!!!!!

 

[PlanetaryNebula]

Good morning gorgeous pervs. So last night I had a lovely chat with my Dom and he suggested that I plug myself for bed. I did and it felt great! Somehow, during the day, I usually end up sore and with a lot of discomfort but in bed was fine!
Anywho, have a great day

You can sleep with it in???

 

[Lindi37]

You can sleep with it in???

Mhmm. The positive about hubs not wanting to touch me is no questions were asked (and I sleep naked

 

[PlanetaryNebula]

Mhmm. The positive about hubs not wanting to touch me is no questions wete asked (and I sleep naked

Silver lining butt plugs

 

[MrsPassion]

Y’all going into the booty plug business? cause “Silver Lining Butt Plugs” has a nice ring to it and I’d like to make a bulk purchase

 

[MrsPassion]

Just to add my little perspective, when I have posted pics it's been when my mind has been in the more body positive/encouraging state.

I won't pretend that I'm always in that state of mind, and it's taken a lot of work to get into those places.

I think it's a combination of facing the fears and anxieties that push you down, embracing and loving your body in whatever shape or form it is at that time*, and also just allowing yourself to have fun.

My photos are more for and about me than anybody else, that's how I can enjoy them : ]

*also just to add, my body is gonna go back and forth between slimmer and chunkier, I'm okay with that.

Sorry for the longwinded response

I've only been naked outdoors a couple of times and only in places where I was quite confident I wouldn't be caught. The only regret I have about my trip to Australia last November was that I didn't make it to a nude beach. The husband wasn't keen on the idea but agreed to go with me if that was what I wanted to do. I had looked up a couple beaches in Sydney that were supposed to be smaller and less touristy. Unfortunately, the descriptions did not discuss how easy or difficult it was to get to each beach. When we made it out to this little beach on the last day of our vacation, we found out that we would have to pick our way down a rocky and somewhat makeshift path along the outcropping in order to reach the small strip of sand that made up the beach. We debated, but, in the end, decided that we didn't trust ourselves to navigate the pathway.
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I would tell her that I have found Lit to be a welcoming environment in which to post pics. The vast majority of people are encouraging and give positive feedback. I've found that taking and sharing photos has made me more comfortable with and confident in my body. I can be a perfectionist as well, but am learning that I can be happy with perfectly imperfect.

No I think that's all totally fair and not long winded at all.

I share my pics mainly for me. I know I don't have the best relationship with the mirror so by sharing something here, and having people be so supportive and kind, I'm gradually relearning how I see myself.
Of course getting positive attention does feel really good too, I'm not going to pretend it doesn't.

My weight fluctuates all the time but I am always gonna be big. Sometimes I just like myself a little more than other days and I try to take pictures then to show myself that I can look good.

Oof I meant to respond sooner but I had a really busy week at work and couldn’t get to it sooner.
First; you are all lovely people and thank you for the encouragement so it’s not really body issues for me; I’m really comfortable in my skin more like I want everything to look like a penthouse centerfold production I’m going to get over it I’m sure. I just wish I had paid more attention in photography classes. Either way, you all made me feel really good and supported so thank you

 

[hopeful_wife]

Mhmm. The positive about hubs not wanting to touch me is no questions were asked (and I sleep naked

I had the same experience when we were still sharing a bed. He never noticed anything I was up to. The freedom of my own room/ bed allows me to play with abandon, though, and I'm glad I made the switch.

Y’all going into the booty plug business? cause “Silver Lining Butt Plugs” has a nice ring to it and I’d like to make a bulk purchase

I was thinking the same! It's a great name.

 

[Saltfountain]

Is that because it lines your butt with silver?

 

[Saltfountain]

Oof I meant to respond sooner but I had a really busy week at work and couldn’t get to it sooner.
First; you are all lovely people and thank you for the encouragement so it’s not really body issues for me; I’m really comfortable in my skin more like I want everything to look like a penthouse centerfold production I’m going to get over it I’m sure. I just wish I had paid more attention in photography classes. Either way, you all made me feel really good and supported so thank you

If people wanted Penthouse centrefold perfection production, they will find Penthouse perfection production on a porn site somewhere. I believe there are a few of them on something or other called the interweb or some such...

However, I'm sure I'm not alone in actively not wanting to see bodies so perfect that they lose all elements of reality...

I think the reason people spend time here is that it's real people. People you can converse with. People you can connect with. People who are as real as we are.

Production values aren't sexy. Someone confident despite their imperfections is sexy. Someone who knows their worth without trying to inflate their value is sexy.

Be you, and trust that you're enough. Because you are.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

If people wanted Penthouse centrefold perfection production, they will find Penthouse perfection production on a porn site somewhere. I believe there are a few of them on something or other called the interweb or some such...

However, I'm sure I'm not alone in actively not wanting to see bodies so perfect that they lose all elements of reality...

I think the reason people spend time here is that it's real people. People you can converse with. People you can connect with. People who are as real as we are.

Production values aren't sexy. Someone confident despite their imperfections is sexy. Someone who knows their worth without trying to inflate their value is sexy.

Be you, and trust that you're enough. Because you are.

Well said, Salty.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

This actually brings up a question I had for people who regularly post photos

Let’s say a lovable sweetheart wanted to post pictures but was horrifically nervous and shy but also an extreme perfectionist how would you encourage me her to get started?

I think lingerie and black and white tend to be the most forgiving for a perfectionist going for artsy, for like body positioning, angles, and such and most coverage for shy. I like outdoors as less background and lighting concerns too. Nude video is the most difficult I think for those points, it generally comes out porn, but video can be useful as you can pull a still from it.

Totally get the nerves. I love posting pics but I rarely can work up the courage to because whenever I do it takes me a few days to calm down from feeling so overwhelmed.
Just feeling comfortable enough to be naked outside? Would love to but I know I have a long way to go before that could actually happen.

I actually miss nerves. I interpreted them as exciting.

Oof I meant to respond sooner but I had a really busy week at work and couldn’t get to it sooner.
First; you are all lovely people and thank you for the encouragement so it’s not really body issues for me; I’m really comfortable in my skin more like I want everything to look like a penthouse centerfold production I’m going to get over it I’m sure. I just wish I had paid more attention in photography classes. Either way, you all made me feel really good and supported so thank you

good luck on the penthouse centerfold production goal. I think you will end up needing a camera with a remote trigger or help, lighting, and such to nail that. of course, I don't know squat about photography lol. I am just a crappy cellphone on a self timer on a mount kinda gal lol. I look forward to seeing your attempts, but they sound lofty without a partner to take the pictures.

 

[MrsPassion]

I think you will end up needing a camera with a remote trigger or help, lighting, and such to nail that. of course, I don't know squat about photography lol. I am just a crappy cellphone on a self timer on a mount kinda gal lol. I look forward to seeing your attempts, but they sound lofty without a partner to take the pictures.

So the good news is I have all this stuff (husband loves photography). The bad news is the unrealistic expectations of my own photography prowess but if there’s anything I love in this world it’s a “Nailed It” moment I currently don’t have the time or bandwidth to really do it how I would like but I’m hoping work slows down and I can focus on doing fun things again and trying my hand at taking the kind of photos I like. I think the biggest thing will be practice and a whole lot of grace for myself while I figure it out

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I need distracting this week so thought I'd try a new topic.

Car sex.

Have any of you had it, want to, don't want to?

I never have and doubt very much that my knees would forgive me if I tried at this point

My best friend, when we were about 19, got a boyfriend who drove an original mini. She said she had bruises all down her back from being so cramped

Any do's and don't's for the uninitiated?

 

[hopeful_wife]

I need distracting this week

Have you another challenge?!

an original mini. She said she had bruises all down her back from being so cramped

Someone sent me a link yesterday that showed a couple in the backseat of some sporty little car... And that was my very first thought: I'd be far too tall to be going at it in such a little car.

As for car sex, I haven't. But ask me about solo play in my car/truck, and then I have some stories.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Ha no, no challenges. Just an emotional week at home.

Yeah my friend is about 5'7 and her then boyfriend, now husband is over 6 foot. No idea how they managed but it's amazing what you can do I guess when you're horny with nowhere to go.

Oh, I should have totally asked. Solo car sex definitely counts too

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

I need distracting this week so thought I'd try a new topic.

Car sex.

Have any of you had it, want to, don't want to?

I never have and doubt very much that my knees would forgive me if I tried at this point

My best friend, when we were about 19, got a boyfriend who drove an original mini. She said she had bruises all down her back from being so cramped

Any do's and don't's for the uninitiated?

I haven't had sex in a car since I've been old enough to have my own home.

I wouldn't mind if this changed, though. The idea that my person needs to take me right there instead of waiting till we're home is pretty hot.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I haven't had sex in a car since I've been old enough to have my own home.

I wouldn't mind if this changed, though. The idea that my person needs to take me right there instead of waiting till we're home is pretty hot.

Totally agree

I think I'd like to, at least once, just to say I've done it. I wish I'd had the chance when I was younger, smaller and more flexible though. Think these days I'd need a camper van or an RV

 

[Deleted member 6607120]

I need distracting this week so thought I'd try a new topic.

Car sex.

Have any of you had it, want to, don't want to?

I never have and doubt very much that my knees would forgive me if I tried at this point

My best friend, when we were about 19, got a boyfriend who drove an original mini. She said she had bruises all down her back from being so cramped

Any do's and don't's for the uninitiated?

I've had car sex with a few partners. It's fun and feels naughty but it can get a bit cramped if you don't have enough room lol. My best experiences have been in the back seat of a big truck, and also in a truck bed. Being on top always worked best for me but you have to watch your head so you don't bang it on the roof.