Game - private question, public answer

[FlyingThruLife]

I'm definitely down for a question.

 

[Anononly1992]

I've wanted to tell my wife that I want to use her vibrator on her, but think she will just get embarrassed and laugh it off!

 

[Kraken_96]

Ask away!

 

[FlyingThruLife]

I never would have predicted that being a Dom would be something that gets me going so much. I was never very assertive in my youth, but I'm learning more about it and it's really intriguing.

 

[Masters_slutpussy]

CNC and Breath play

 

[Kraken_96]

Oof here we go!

She was the one that started all of...this for me. Looking outside my relationship that is.

It was a couple of years of what we thought was friendship, supporting eachother through a  lot of awful things in both of our home lives. Then one day it just...wasn't that any more. I think we both realised we held each other's opinions and love in higher regard than our partners or even our own.

And it really almost happened one day.

I'm not talking some giant run away to a hotel and fuck each other til we couldn't continue further...just...almost kissed our way into reality.

But I chickened out. It wasn't guilt, it was shame over what everyone outside the relationship, all my family and friends would think.

I was weak and regretted it for years after. Still in many ways do. We still talk, and are still very close - but that really put the wall up on that road.

 

[FlyingThruLife]

Thank you for sharing.

I'm open for another question if anyone wants to ask.

 

[brokenbutcute]

I'm open for questions.

 

[Anononly1992]

I would open to sharing my wife and myself with others, but never have! It's a kink I think I'd like to explore. Don't like the idea of my wife quietly having sex with someone else, or cheating, but some consensual play between 4 people I'd like to explore alright!

Saying that, I love having sex with my wife and would happily just have sex with her for the rest of my life, all be it with a little extra spice!

 

[MiaBabe23]

I've wanted to tell my wife that I want to use her vibrator on her, but think she will just get embarrassed and laugh it off!

Worth asking, in as fun and relaxed way as possible

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I'll try one more time...if anyone has a question for me, I'd be game...

 

[Anononly1992]

Worth asking, in as fun and relaxed way as possible

Thanks, and definitely think it is worth asking! I always chicken out when we are in the middle of sex, cos I don't want to put her off! So I think it might need some pre sex chat and having a nice conversation about a non penetration evening or something!

 

[FlyingThruLife]

You could always try asking when you guys are not having sex. Bringing it up in a non-sexual context has worked wonders for me in the past. You remove a lot of the pressure from needing to keep it intimate in the moment, and I have found that it has made conversations about what you do or do not appreciate sexually way easier to have.

 

[Anononly1992]

You could always try asking when you guys are not having sex. Bringing it up in a non-sexual context has worked wonders for me in the past. You remove a lot of the pressure from needing to keep it intimate in the moment, and I have found that it has made conversations about what you do or do not appreciate sexually way easier to have.

Yes, think that's the way to go. She gets embarrassed when I start talking about or previous nights sex, but definitely need to have more of a conversation outside of the intimate moments alright! Thank you!

 

[FlyingThruLife]

If I might throw in one more suggestion, don't bring it up in the context of previous experiences.

If you can bring it up as more of a 'hey, I've had a thought recently that I think it would be incredibly sexy if you let me....'

If you can frame it as something that you are interested in exploring, and not talking about something that happened in the past, it is far less likely to be met with a feeling of failure on her part.

Just my two cents though

 

[FlyingThruLife]

My answer to a question:

I have always loved the idea of playing with hot and cold, especially if my partner is tied down, blindfolded, and has headphones on.
I love the idea that by depriving certain senses, others can be vastly heightened.

I can't help but picture a massage table being incredibly useful in this situation. Also, to heighten the experience it would be something that takes a while. Starting with a massage, and moving through various means of stimulation. Maybe a feather, maybe an ice cube, maybe some wax dripping from a candle. The little touches on various points of the body, but mixing up the consistency and pressure.

 

[Fiestykitten]

I'm in

 

[Fiestykitten]

It was a spontaneous combustion of a thought when wires were crossed. It had intimacy, craving, and straight up need. It sent a jolt through me straight to my core. No one has ever spoken words like that to me before and it instantly sent a craving so strong through me.

 

[base10]

I’ll take another one

 

[CuriousJInLA]

Deep down I think I knew I wanted to have a lot of sexual experiences, even as far back as middle school. So I had to think about it. But my younger self probably wouldn’t believe I’d fantasize about being a sub for a couple

 

[R_Clairmont]

I’ll take a question…

 

[R_Clairmont]

I’ve been on Lit for about 4 months, this was my only account. Perhaps I remind you of someone?

 

[UWERETHINKINGIT]

I’ll answer.

 

[UWERETHINKINGIT]

In order-
Seeing her pretty smile for the first time
Resolution to a lingering problem
Lifelong friendships

 

[R_Clairmont]

Answering a second question.

I was expecting amazing sex, people who were willing to take me in exciting new directions. Definitely found that!

What I didn’t expect were the deep conversations and the (sometimes) very thoughtful men.