Has you Lit motives changed?

[Fmature2play]

I found this site thru a link to another adult erotic literature sight that had no forum. When I first joined the forums I did the whole cyber thing. Played with men mostly - got a cam and barely used it until my pup chewed it to bits. I tried phone sex and found that my career as a sex talk goddess was not meant to be. Then I opened up to the glbt forums and found sooo many lovely ladies like myself. Somewhere along the way......and the point of this thread.....my reasons for coming to Lit have changed. I don't sign on now to cyber away and attempt to drown my fingers but rather I have found that the playful banter, utter silliness and occasional serious argument / discussions are what I prefer. I don't feel like my sex drive is diminishing but I don't look at Lit for that purpose anymore. Just wondering if anyone else has started feeling like that.

 

[Papa_Cali]

I come by to steal margaritas!

I think we share a similar story, FM. The way people come and go on LIT, I have a lot of cyber friends who have disappeared forever. It is to the point where I don't even want to bother making those kinds of connections anymore. I would rather make connections with people that I enjoy goofing off with and sharing a nice laugh. I guess in a way, laughing is one of the sexiest things humans do. It brightens our spirit, it puts a smile on our face, it makes us lose control momentarily. Yeah, I am totally in your boat, FM. *raises your stolen margarita in a toast*

 

[sereneone4u]

I was separated from my husband a few years ago and going to get a divorce. I had joined another site for meeting people, went on a few dates...some how wrote some erotic vignettes and people loved them so much they said I should join Literotica. Read the stories here, found the board...discovered cyber...had a couple of online affairs, made friends, etc. Still married to my husband by the way, we reconciled...

I mainly come to Lit to goof off, destress. I flirt, I tease, I joke and catch up with friends. I occasionally cyber but I prefer to do it with a long term online partner, not random. I will say I was like a kid in a candy store for the first year, haha.

So yes, my motives have changed in the time I have been here. I also have learned a lot about myself thanks to Lit.

That might make an interesting thread, how has Lit changed you, for better or for worse.

 

[janeyl]

I found this site thru a link to another adult erotic literature sight that had no forum. When I first joined the forums I did the whole cyber thing. Played with men mostly - got a cam and barely used it until my pup chewed it to bits. I tried phone sex and found that my career as a sex talk goddess was not meant to be. Then I opened up to the glbt forums and found sooo many lovely ladies like myself. Somewhere along the way......and the point of this thread.....my reasons for coming to Lit have changed. I don't sign on now to cyber away and attempt to drown my fingers but rather I have found that the playful banter, utter silliness and occasional serious argument / discussions are what I prefer. I don't feel like my sex drive is diminishing but I don't look at Lit for that purpose anymore. Just wondering if anyone else has started feeling like that.

I guess we're very different. I, like you, followed the links to the stories and then found the forums but I've never really got into the whole cyber/phone thing. That doesn't mean to say I haven't felt a real connection with some people from here and had my "moments" but it really doesn't do much for me. Ironically, I can do casual sex but not casual cyber...go figure

I've always enjoyed the banter, the silliness and the "debates". I've made some fabulous friends here, some of whom I meet regularly in real life and others who I will probably never meet but adore just the same, I've had fall outs with people I would cross the street to avoid and who would probably do the same if they saw me coming.

I come here to be entertained and sometimes challenged. I've learned things about myself and my sexuality that I don't think I would've been able to any where else and feel I'm a better and more confident woman because of it.

I like to flirt, laugh and be silly. My real life isn't perfect but I'm not here looking for someone to fill a gap or meet a need. I have to rely on myself to do that and I'm perfectly content with that.

As an inveterate people watcher, Lit is a fascinating microcosm of people, personalities and situations that just entrances me. It's a strange addiction. If I'm away and either can't get access or I'm busy, I never give it a second thought, you won't find me posting from my holidays away but as soon as I get the opportunity easily when I'm home, I have to look straight away. I don't scroll back through weeks of posts but you can pick up the mood of the place very quickly if you're even a tiny bit perceptive.

J

 

[sereneone4u]

I guess we're very different. I, like you, followed the links to the stories and then found the forums but I've never really got into the whole cyber/phone thing. That doesn't mean to say I haven't felt a real connection with some people from here and had my "moments" but it really doesn't do much for me. Ironically, I can do casual sex but not casual cyber...go figure

I've always enjoyed the banter, the silliness and the "debates". I've made some fabulous friends here, some of whom I meet regularly in real life and others who I will probably never meet but adore just the same, I've had fall outs with people I would cross the street to avoid and who would probably do the same if they saw me coming.

I come here to be entertained and sometimes challenged. I've learned things about myself and my sexuality that I don't think I would've been able to any where else and feel I'm a better and more confident woman because of it.

I like to flirt, laugh and be silly. My real life isn't perfect but I'm not here looking for someone to fill a gap or meet a need. I have to rely on myself to do that and I'm perfectly content with that.

As an inveterate people watcher, Lit is a fascinating microcosm of people, personalities and situations that just entrances me. It's a strange addiction. If I'm away and either can't get access or I'm busy, I never give it a second thought, you won't find me posting from my holidays away but as soon as I get the opportunity easily when I'm home, I have to look straight away. I don't scroll back through weeks of posts but you can pick up the mood of the place very quickly if you're even a tiny bit perceptive.

J

I come here to be entertained and sometimes challenged. I've learned things about myself and my sexuality that I don't think I would've been able to any where else and feel I'm a better and more confident woman because of it.

As an inveterate people watcher, Lit is a fascinating microcosm of people, personalities and situations that just entrances me. It's a strange addiction. If I'm away and either can't get access or I'm busy, I never give it a second thought, you won't find me posting from my holidays away but as soon as I get the opportunity easily when I'm home, I have to look straight away. I don't scroll back through weeks of posts but you can pick up the mood of the place very quickly if you're even a tiny bit perceptive.

I agree

I have long periods of no posting at Lit and then I post with a vengeance...Lit is like the mafia, once your in, your in for life, lol

 

[janeyl]

I agree

I have long periods of no posting at Lit and then I post with a vengeance...Lit is like the mafia, once your in, your in for life, lol

Does that make us made women?

I can't think of an equivalent of Goodfellas...Goodchicas?

 

[tolyk]

I came to Lit at the recommendation of a friend. I was suffering severe writer's block for the novel I was working on, and was dabbling in writing smut to get at least some creativity out and try to break my block. It was a failed experiment, I still couldn't write. I stayed because I met so many fascinating people on the forums, first at the Author's Hangout, and then on the playground.

I met my wife right here on the Playground, in a Canadian thread. We hit it off just over 5 years ago, have been living with each other for 3 years and married for just shy of 1. I still flirt and play around, because it's fun and does stimulate my creativity. (I've got so many stories brewed up in my head that want to come out, but my writer's block just makes me unable to put the words down).

Anyway, so yes. My motives for joining Lit changed. I did the whole cyber anyone who was interested thing. Then they changed again after I met my wife. I'm barely even online these days.

 

[Pirates_Wench]

I came to Lit as an escape from the realities of my life. I made several very good friends. I also met and fell in love with someone from Lit. The amount of time that I spend posting varies based on what is going on in my life. There have been many times when I have not been on for very long periods of time. However, when my life become chaotic or sucky, I always come back and post like crazy. There are few places that I can truly be myself, and few people with whom I can be myself. Lit provides me the opportunity to be myself and is still my escape from real life.

I came here looking for an escape, and found not only an escape, but also a place where I can simply be me.

 

[Papa_Cali]

As an inveterate people watcher, Lit is a fascinating microcosm of people, personalities and situations that just entrances me. It's a strange addiction.

What a great analogy. LIT is like people watching without actually watching people. You definitely see the best and worst of personalities. Anytime you mix raw sexual tension into a random group of thousands, interesting things happen (most of the time, not for the best). It is very addicting.

 

[NorthernPA4U]

Yes. I came looking for answers to questions after realizing I was getting divorced. I think I got those answers, not always but sometimes good ones. I don't really need to look for those things any more.

While I agree that Lit is a fascinating place to watch people, I don't feel as great a desire to peoplewatch here any more. It's still fun to escape to here from time to time, however.

 

[sereneone4u]

Does that make us made women?

I can't think of an equivalent of Goodfellas...Goodchicas?

lol yes, we are Goodchicas

What a great analogy. LIT is like people watching without actually watching people. You definitely see the best and worst of personalities. Anytime you mix raw sexual tension into a random group of thousands, interesting things happen (most of the time, not for the best). It is very addicting.

I agree Papa_Cali

I love to people watch, I do it all the time at restaurants, stores, airports, etc. I make up little stories in my head, sometimes putting them down on paper of what I think the person's life is or what will happen next with what small scene that I happened to observe.

There are times at Lit I just observe. Sadly when I go to post during those times I feel I know certain people so well and they do not know me at all. Then like preacherswife, I have these moments of frenzied posting where I am the active one, the doer, not the observer.

I find I seek Lit when life is its hardest for me, it provides solace...how strange that a place like this would do that.

 

[koalabear]

I'm just here for the popcorn.

 

[Kat73]

I started on Lit as a reader. I don't much care for porn and I would much rather read for my enjoyment! Then I decided to attempt writing a few stories. I got a screenname and posted a few. I loved the feedback, but didn't know about the forum until about a year ago.

My first night on the forum I went crazy. I had never done any online sex before. I was on the masturbating thread a lot at the beginning. I would meet my husband at the door (he worked nights) after having 3 or 4 orgasms already and practically throw him down on the porch and screw him silly. That has calmed down a bit.

I discovered that my bisexual side wasn't so uncommon and that I wasn't some weirdo who checked out the moms at the pool instead of the dads. I have become much more comfortable in who I am here. This is a place that I can be me and not worry about being judged for it.

I still cyber some, but like others, I have a few people who can really get me going and know just what buttons to push. Some of those people have come and gone and that has saddened me, but we all have our reasons.

Friends... Lit has really become about the friends for me. I was pretty standoffish at first with anyone who wanted personal information. I had heard all the stories about the weirdos. I think I lost out on a few friendships because I just didn't understand the dynamic of Lit. Some of my closest friends right now are from here. There are those that I talk to almost every single day. I am a part of their lives and they are a part of mine. We laugh together, we cry together, we share our lives and it doesn't matter that we are 90 miles or 3000 miles away. There has been joy and there has been heartbreak, but all in all I wouldn't change anything.

Lit is my hang out. I come here to watch the people, the banter, the sex, the fun.

 

[kendra1980]

I came to the playground for fun and to ease some boredom...I do the same now, with the benefit of having friends here to ease that boredom with, and a very lovely man to tease and play with when he is in his office working

 

[RyanBlack]

I guess we're very different. I, like you, followed the links to the stories and then found the forums but I've never really got into the whole cyber/phone thing. That doesn't mean to say I haven't felt a real connection with some people from here and had my "moments" but it really doesn't do much for me. Ironically, I can do casual sex but not casual cyber...go figure

I've always enjoyed the banter, the silliness and the "debates". I've made some fabulous friends here, some of whom I meet regularly in real life and others who I will probably never meet but adore just the same, I've had fall outs with people I would cross the street to avoid and who would probably do the same if they saw me coming.

I come here to be entertained and sometimes challenged. I've learned things about myself and my sexuality that I don't think I would've been able to any where else and feel I'm a better and more confident woman because of it.

I like to flirt, laugh and be silly. My real life isn't perfect but I'm not here looking for someone to fill a gap or meet a need. I have to rely on myself to do that and I'm perfectly content with that.

As an inveterate people watcher, Lit is a fascinating microcosm of people, personalities and situations that just entrances me. It's a strange addiction. If I'm away and either can't get access or I'm busy, I never give it a second thought, you won't find me posting from my holidays away but as soon as I get the opportunity easily when I'm home, I have to look straight away. I don't scroll back through weeks of posts but you can pick up the mood of the place very quickly if you're even a tiny bit perceptive.

J

SLUT!!!

Hiya miss J
I know the real reason you come here is only to get a peek at my penis!! Admit it!!!

 

[aniram]

I came to this place to meet new people. I find the mix of people here very interesting.
Although i have had some really good times here, i have had some really bad times here as well.

 

[janeyl]

SLUT!!!

Hiya miss J
I know the real reason you come here is only to get a peek at my penis!! Admit it!!!

You say that like it's a bad thing...

(I so want an eyelash batting smilie...)

Darling I just need to close my eyes and there it is...in my dreams...

 

[RyanBlack]

You say that like it's a bad thing...

(I so want an eyelash batting smilie...)

Darling I just need to close my eyes and there it is...in my dreams...

BIG missed you SQUEEZY HUG and sneaky BOOB GROPE!

I can give you something batting your eyelashes smile or is that eye lash splattering. . .

 

[RyanBlack]

I came to this place to meet new people. I find the mix of people here very interesting.
Although i have had some really good times here, i have had some really bad times here as well.

I always have a good time when you are around miss ANI---course the boob pics make my day too. . . that does not mean Im shallow---It just verifies that I have excellent taste and dont just taste excellent

 

[slumbermama]

i have not been here long enough for my reasons to change. i came simply because sometimes i get soooooooooo stinking bored. i have been reading stories here for years...kept seeing the link for the boards and one night signed up on a whim.

also, it is fun to just read some of what others put out there.

 

[Grifters]

Nope, still a dirty old man

 

[RyanBlack]

Nope, still a dirty old man

one of my very mostest favorite things about you too!! well that and the whole lovely penis part. . . .

 

[Grifters]

one of my very mostest favorite things about you too!! well that and the whole lovely penis part. . . .

if I wasn't so flattered I would be scared.

 

[RyanBlack]

if I wasn't so flattered I would be scared.

LOL!!!

 

[sunshinegirl05]

When I came to lit, I wasn't sure what to expect. I came over here to the boards after one of my best friends had ventured over here. She was like
"we'd fit in good here........." lol.

I have been here a year. I have enjoyed my time here.......as you can tell by the number of posts. I like to banter, joke, flirt, tease.....do the word games......interact with the friends I have made here.

I have done my part in cybering, phone sexing, sexting.......lol. I have met some interesting people.........found my naughty side is not really as naughty as some of you people's......lol.

There have times I've thought about taking breaks...........but I always end up keep coming back.

I think I am more open minded about accepting what I might have once viewed as weird or freaky..............and now some of this stuff doesn't bother me.