How’s your married sex life?

[Jay_78]

Both 44, married 13 years.

On average we have sex around twice a week, maybe every 3-4 days. I'm assuming times we play but don't have penetrative sex as counting as sex.

Before we were married we have a few friends we played with but have been strictly monogamous since we married. We fantasise together about playing with friends and we sometimes talk about things we did to instigate sex.

Looking back we've been pretty consistent in our sex frequency, certainly since we married. Before, we were like sex pests for each other. As much fun as that was, I'm pretty happy with what we do these days.

 

[Smtg1]

Early 50s and it’s great. Just finding the time is the only issue now.

 

[Analsexlover]

Me 40 her 39 it's not what it used to be. My wife got upset with me and my anal fetish. She said I eat her asshole more then her pussy and I would only cum with some sort of anal simulation like a dildo or buttplug so she said no more anal for either of us

 

[Smtg1]

Me 40 her 39 it's not what it used to be. My wife got upset with me and my anal fetish. She said I eat her asshole more then her pussy and I would only cum with some sort of anal simulation like a dildo or buttplug so she said no more anal for either of us

All I can say is focus on something she likes and get a new kink

 

[SubtleJenna]

Together for 17 years, married for almost 8. He is 43 and I’m 40. We don’t have sex near enough. Fucking sucks.

 

[Smtg1]

Together for 17 years, married for almost 8. He is 43 and I’m 40. We don’t have sex near enough. Fucking sucks.

That’s tough.

 

[SubtleJenna]

Sure is.

 

[hot hugo]

Together for 17 years, married for almost 8. He is 43 and I’m 40. We don’t have sex near enough. Fucking sucks.

Sounds so familiar… in my case it went down to basically no sex any more.

 

[SubtleJenna]

We’ve been trying to make an effort to do it more. This month has been great so far. I also have a friend that keeps me hot that helps to always have me in the mood.

 

[hot hugo]

We’ve been trying to make an effort to do it more. This month has been great so far. I also have a friend that keeps me hot that helps to always have me in the mood.

Lucky you… that you have a friend… sounds like he comes with some benefits. Or all just platonic?!

 

[SubtleJenna]

Lucky you… that you have a friend… sounds like he comes with some benefits. Or all just platonic?!

Definitely benefits. Huge benefits.

 

[hot hugo]

Definitely benefits. Huge benefits.

Seems you found a great work around for your problem… does your husband know about it?

 

[SubtleJenna]

Seems you found a great work around for your problem… does your husband know about it?

Absolutely fucking not.

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

Married life is wonderfull, married sex life has been better... there are reasons one starts snooping around on Lit
Love,
Thom

 

[hulmule]

Shame but wife in menopause and other issues. Sexless, im so horny but she just has no desire. Plus my hand and cock arent getting along !! So lit and Whereby when i can !

 

[hot hugo]

Absolutely fucking not.

I wish I had a female friend like you

 

[hot hugo]

Absolutely fucking not.

Sent you a pm (I hope you don’t mind)

 

[lustingmoment]

Appallingly
3 times a year

Me too so bad I have online girl friends I cum with in same situation

 

[drobert44]

I can relate to this

Join the club, sweetie. I married a smart dame, maybe should got a nympho.

 

[steveturner]

We have a good sex life, which is always a bonus

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Well, I had been requesting more sex or permission to screw around for a long time now. He finally relented and picked option B. well then lol. and I guess it would be a good way to go. it is possible in this case. I don't know the girl that was over at the time really well, met her like 2 or 3 times, so it felt rude to pry for all the details. All I know is he got up to go to grab a drink, and dropped dead in the hallway. the joys of getting to the age where people just drop dead. all the other deaths in this friend circle where either chronic long term where they knew they were going to die young or car accidents. oh and a murder/suicide like 5 years ago. The college circle is getting smaller and smaller though.

How did your husband react initially to you asking for permission to screw around? Was he upset?

 

[Ingenue844]

My husband is and always will be “The One.” Turns out, as much as I’ve fantasized about stepping out in person, I think I need the commitment level of marriage to feel safe and loved. I always hated feeling used.

Fortunately we have sex twice a week. I could use it more frequently but he doesn’t seem to need it. I’m tired of being the one who initiates. And I do wonder if we’d be more frequent if the cockblockers would stop trying to enter the room.

I’ve been buying lingerie to spice things up. Recently getting into corsets matched with garters. I’ll look at more elaborate lingerie too. Also considering more toys. I’d give anything to have him be a Dom…but I suspect we’re both Subs

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

How did your husband react initially to you asking for permission to screw around? Was he upset?

not really. Our relationship has been open in the past. He was always the one to close it, but he was also the one to reopen it. When we were younger, after our relationship first closed, we opened usually because he had a specific women in mind. Back then, I think his ideal though, would be he did what he wanted and I sat home watching TV. Obviously he never said that, because that would be stupid, but I think he would have preferred that. It had been closed for a long time now though as we did the family thing. I have been asking for a while as one of his choices. It is not like open relationship was the only thing that would make me happy, or happy enough, he had choices. I don't think he really likes that something changing did become my hill to die on, like I think he'd prefer we live the rest of our live like 90 year olds, and me be happy like that. Getting him to accept I am not happy like that and that something was going to change eventually so he best pick how was more the problem area.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

not really. Our relationship has been open in the past. He was always the one to close it, but he was also the one to reopen it. When we were younger, after our relationship first closed, we opened usually because he had a specific women in mind. Back then, I think his ideal though, would be he did what he wanted and I sat home watching TV. Obviously he never said that, because that would be stupid, but I think he would have preferred that. It had been closed for a long time now though as we did the family thing. I have been asking for a while as one of his choices. It is not like open relationship was the only thing that would make me happy, or happy enough, he had choices. I don't think he really likes that something changing did become my hill to die on, like I think he'd prefer we live the rest of our live like 90 year olds, and me be happy like that. Getting him to accept I am not happy like that and that something was going to change eventually so he best pick how was more the problem area.

Did his sex drive change drastically or has it always been like this? Sorry im really curious to talk to another female with a husband with a lower drive.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Did his sex drive change drastically or has it always been like this? Sorry im really curious to talk to another female with a husband with a lower drive.

yes, as time went by, with age, and adulting I guess. Plus, I think mine was always higher, but earlier in relationships, I think people try more. Same old story.