How’s your married sex life?

[Trubbycat]

...my WHAT life?

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

My husband is and always will be “The One.” Turns out, as much as I’ve fantasized about stepping out in person, I think I need the commitment level of marriage to feel safe and loved. I always hated feeling used.

Fortunately we have sex twice a week. I could use it more frequently but he doesn’t seem to need it. I’m tired of being the one who initiates. And I do wonder if we’d be more frequent if the cockblockers would stop trying to enter the room.

I’ve been buying lingerie to spice things up. Recently getting into corsets matched with garters. I’ll look at more elaborate lingerie too. Also considering more toys. I’d give anything to have him be a Dom…but I suspect we’re both Subs

Having to initiate all the time is hard. I try to hold off sometimes but then I feel like nothing will happen for like two weeks if I dont initiate...

 

[IndianaStevenJones]

Freaky. I'm married to a woman who likes sex as much as me.

 

[Ingenue844]

Having to initiate all the time is hard. I try to hold off sometimes but then I feel like nothing will happen for like two weeks if I dont initiate...

I tend to blurt out what I want when I want. Not really a hold off type.

Parading around in lingerie works.

One awkward thing that happens too is I’ll be eFucking a Lit guy and husband walks in. That’ll get dick in me but I feel bad for having to drop LitGuy with no explanation

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I tend to blurt out what I want when I want. Not really a hold off type.

Parading around in lingerie works.

One awkward thing that happens too is I’ll be eFucking a Lit guy and husband walks in. That’ll get dick in me but I feel bad for having to drop LitGuy with no explanation

I stopped the lingerie parading after getting rejected once cause I got my feelings really hurt. :/
Im sorry for your lit guy haha

 

[Ingenue844]

I stopped the lingerie parading after getting rejected once cause I got my feelings really hurt. :/
Im sorry for your lit guy haha

Don’t feel sorry for him. He took it out on me. Thank god it’s all fantasy because someone could die playing out that violent of a throat fuck

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Having to initiate all the time is hard. I try to hold off sometimes but then I feel like nothing will happen for like two weeks if I dont initiate...

I get that, but don't recommend the refusing to initiate, you can end up in a year long stalemate.

I tend to blurt out what I want when I want. Not really a hold off type.

Parading around in lingerie works.

One awkward thing that happens too is I’ll be eFucking a Lit guy and husband walks in. That’ll get dick in me but I feel bad for having to drop LitGuy with no explanation

to a point. I am not a real quiet girl, have always loved lingerie, have a shit ton. Year 5, saying what you want still kind of works, year 10, lingerie helps, year 25, just call me Zorro. Are you familiar with that joke? An engaged woman, a mistress, and a woman who's been married 20 years get together. The engaged woman tells about the prior night where her boyfriend came over and found her in a black leather bodice, heels and a mask. Saw her, professed his undying love, and they had crazy sex all night long. Mistress is like omg me too. Married woman decides to try it and greets her husband at the door after work like that. He walks in, looks at her, sees the outfit, says "so what's for dinner Zorro?" I'm fucking Zorro, and not in the good way.

efucking walk-in did not work for me. I got a judgy look, scoff, eyeroll. lol. it gets harder as the decades go by.

 

[Seadog777]

Almost non-existent. She has given me permission to find FWB(s).

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I get that, but don't recommend the refusing to initiate, you can end up in a year long stalemate.

I dont think we are so bad he would go a year but i think it was 3ish weeks once when I just wanted to see how long it would be...

Year 5, saying what you want still kind of works, year 10, lingerie helps, year 25, just call me Zorro.

We are year 15 of be being together and the husband is at the point of frequently turning down blow jobs. Not sure how much worse it can get?

 

[tnhardon]

It’s solid when we do have it, but frequency is a lot less than I prefer. I’d say we average once every two weeks. My drive would prefer 2-3 times a week.

The quality of the sex is still pretty good, although it lacks the variety we had when we were dating/newlywed.

Kids and work are the main reasons why we go as long between. We both stay busy and are tired from chasing the kids. That affects her sex drive a lot more than it does mine.

 

[Winchester3030]

It has been terrible but I think it might be getting better now! It has been excellent the last few days! I am hoping that we have turned a corner and might get to explore some fantasies!

 

[rwk77la]

Mine is pretty great. She almost has a higher sex drive than me. There's kids around so that blocks sometimes but we make it work.
She knows I'm on lit and like looking at pics and vids. As long as I bring the D to her it's all good

 

[Mtnmike]

I get that, but don't recommend the refusing to initiate, you can end up in a year long stalemate.

to a point. I am not a real quiet girl, have always loved lingerie, have a shit ton. Year 5, saying what you want still kind of works, year 10, lingerie helps, year 25, just call me Zorro. Are you familiar with that joke? An engaged woman, a mistress, and a woman who's been married 20 years get together. The engaged woman tells about the prior night where her boyfriend came over and found her in a black leather bodice, heels and a mask. Saw her, professed his undying love, and they had crazy sex all night long. Mistress is like omg me too. Married woman decides to try it and greets her husband at the door after work like that. He walks in, looks at her, sees the outfit, says "so what's for dinner Zorro?" I'm fucking Zorro, and not in the good way.

efucking walk-in did not work for me. I got a judgy look, scoff, eyeroll. lol. it gets harder as the decades go by.

You are correct on both accounts, turning them down usually backfires, least did in my case. Sexless over 14 year's and she told me it'll never change, why I come here, least I can refresh my memory of what used to be.

 

[Mtnmike]

I dont think we are so bad he would go a year but i think it was 3ish weeks once when I just wanted to see how long it would be...

We are year 15 of be being together and the husband is at the point of frequently turning down blow jobs. Not sure how much worse it can get?

Sorry you're dealing with this but believe one who knows, it can and probably will get a lot worse.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Sorry you're dealing with this but believe one who knows, it can and probably will get a lot worse.

 

[RustyIron]

Pffttt, That bus left the station loooong time ago.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Pffttt, That bus left the station loooong time ago.

Is that why youre rusty?

 

[techiedude71]

My wife's an amazing human being. Solid mom. Awesome wife. Our sex life has been crappy but there are factors. Kids, work.. we took in her parents.. We have plenty of room and privacy but after 25 years of marriage and 30 plus years together, I admit I don't care much anymore. She's so vanilla and we fought about it but I gave up caring so I could just relax and enjoy the parts that work. I've had many affairs (offline) and the online thing is just blah.. I can beat off on my own time and not stress anything so it's just whatever's easy.

What is funny though is my wife is insecure so she will go through my shit. I've gotten caught and forgiven but it's like a trap. I don't get that sometimes. If you're not going to be interested and not going to come on to me in any way shape or form, why be so nutty about what I do on the side? I'd never leave my wife for another woman. All the affairs were sex only. Typically I only mess around with married women my age purposely to avoid nonsense.

Who knows. In the end I do love my wife and I am enjoying her still but sometimes it's frustrating.

 

[LeeKee]

My husband is and always will be “The One.” Turns out, as much as I’ve fantasized about stepping out in person, I think I need the commitment level of marriage to feel safe and loved. I always hated feeling used.

Fortunately we have sex twice a week. I could use it more frequently but he doesn’t seem to need it. I’m tired of being the one who initiates. And I do wonder if we’d be more frequent if the cockblockers would stop trying to enter the room.

I’ve been buying lingerie to spice things up. Recently getting into corsets matched with garters. I’ll look at more elaborate lingerie too. Also considering more toys. I’d give anything to have him be a Dom…but I suspect we’re both Subs

Wife and I are improving and last week would have been a great time after a long drought but our little “cock blocker” came banging on the door. Of course with perfect timing! But I hope we are on the path back to being as horny as we were before!

 

[PMarky2]

Everything was going great with my "best friend, sounding board and lover" until she developed an autoimmune disease and was then diagnosed with a form of lymphoma, both of which are chronic, not acute conditions. Unfortunately both tend to affect the mucous membranes making sex painful except when she is in partial remission, at which point it is mildly uncomfortable. The discomfort from those two brings out the insecure and bitchy side of her personality, so even when she is up for giving it a go, her "comments" have killed any attraction. In among all this, she has had another go around with cancer, and a minor stroke. On its own, I could probably cope with all this and chalk it up to life's rich tapestry. Every now and again when horny I might look at some woman and think 'I wouldn't mind getting between those thighs,' but I think every guy has that every now and again.

The real downer has been running into my muse, who shares a lot of my outlook and interests even though I am a generation older than she is. We started out as acquaintances, and became friends. She is not a looker - 5 or 6 at best - unless you are turned on by tiny tits, an unmusical voice, and acne scars. The dynamo for this relationship is that intellectually we tango very nicely together and have the big, and a lot of the small, stuff in common despite being of different generations. Everything was going nicely until the day a chance remark was made about kids, which led to a conversation and the destruction of my fifty year long aversion to the idea of having a family. I realized that, although my purely sexual interest in her was not strong, I wanted to have kids with her. However, any deeper relationship with My Muse is a non-starter as I need to stick with the missus and look after her.

 

[Ingenue844]

Wife and I are improving and last week would have been a great time after a long drought but our little “cock blocker” came banging on the door. Of course with perfect timing! But I hope we are on the path back to being as horny as we were before!

Mine never learn. The little one doesn’t understand. But the tween does and still forgets that when the door is closed, stay TF out. It’s so awkward.

 

[LeeKee]

Mine never learn. The little one doesn’t understand. But the tween does and still forgets that when the door is closed, stay TF out. It’s so awkward.

We eventually resumed but it was rushed and wasn’t long before he almost gonna pull a Kool-Aid Man and bust thru. Wife and I were in a very “compromising position” had he busted thru the door, or wall. Crazy kids.

 

[Ingenue844]

We eventually resumed but it was rushed and wasn’t long before he almost gonna pull a Kool-Aid Man and bust thru. Wife and I were in a very “compromising position” had he busted thru the door, or wall. Crazy kids.

And that’s the other thing that has been bothering me…being rushed.

I’m all for frantic sex when we’re both turned on and it happens organically. But I hate having to rush because we hear the two little beasts moving about.

We’re going to start taking romantic weekends away by dumping the kids at a friends. We need a chance to take things slow and reconnect.

 

[LeeKee]

And that’s the other thing that has been bothering me…being rushed.

I’m all for frantic sex when we’re both turned on and it happens organically. But I hate having to rush because we hear the two little beasts moving about.

We’re going to start taking romantic weekends away by dumping the kids at a friends. We need a chance to take things slow and reconnect.

I really think that Is what wife and I need. Between kids, work, sports, school, and our youngest, it kicks our asses. And we have become almost robots. We need to ditch them with aunty and take a holiday, like Greece and spend some “adult time” together. This spast week was when we arrived to the hotel in UK, we were exhausted but little slept the whole way and there was no stopping him, full power Samoan kiddo energy. We just needed a good quickie and a nap before dinner!

 

[Wishingbox]

I really think that Is what wife and I need. Between kids, work, sports, school, and our youngest, it kicks our asses. And we have become almost robots. We need to ditch them with aunty and take a holiday, like Greece and spend some “adult time” together. This spast week was when we arrived to the hotel in UK, we were exhausted but little slept the whole way and there was no stopping him, full power Samoan kiddo energy. We just needed a good quickie and a nap before dinner!

Same I think this is a very natural tendency for kids to become all consuming. At some point you wake up and realize 90% of what you talk about is kids or life stresses. Even hobbies or activities to do together.

I believe a lot of sexual issues do stem from not prioritizing or being aware of the slipping in curiosity and wonder of your significant others or them in us.