How’s your married sex life?

[SSDD322]

Over 30 years it went from multiple times a day to nothing. My wife used to have a huge sex drive till her hysterectomy, now none. She’ll make excuses, I ask to just pleasure her, which I love doing, but she doesn’t even want that. I’m horny all the time and left to my imagination and memories…

 

[kinkincguy]

Nonexistent

 

[Strixaluco]

Over 30 years it went from multiple times a day to nothing. My wife used to have a huge sex drive till her hysterectomy, now none. She’ll make excuses, I ask to just pleasure her, which I love doing, but she doesn’t even want that. I’m horny all the time and left to my imagination and memories…

Possibly some nerve damage happened? I've understood it's not exactly rare in the case of hysterectomy.

 

[hulmule]

Sadly im wasting away. My wife is in menopause for years, wants nothing to do with it... I love to deep kiss etc, So dont get to be intimate anymore. If i try then its a hot flash and " get away from me " . I feel for you ladies that have had it, have it or just starting.

 

[fishnfool]

I’m here. Next question.

 

[Strixaluco]

Much like others on this thread, it’s pretty much nonexistent. I don’t think that’s an issue though, it is more that she refuses to see it as an issue or problem. How can you fix something in a relationship if one partner doesn’t think it’s broken?

Well, you can't, obviously. And if the other one refuses to acknowledge that it IS a problem for YOU...

Counceling, maybe. If that would help her see.

 

[RoanMtn]

My wife never really liked sex. As a result, I haven't had any in 22 years. Me 68, she 65.

 

[Homealone47M]

Currently going through a dry spell

 

[Polranny]

I think it was about 12 years ago

 

[SSDD322]

Possibly some nerve damage happened? I've understood it's not exactly rare in the case of hysterectomy.

Mostly related to hormones she says, I don’t know. I get age factors in as well, she’s is 62 and I’m 3 years younger. It is what it is. Did some PM messaging with someone a few years back, not quite the same but was fun…

 

[gbhl44]

i am 68. for the past 4 years or so, i discovered that my now-60YO wife has cheated on me with 2 guys from our local catholic parish, including one of our priests.

during that time, we have sex maybe once every 2 months or so.

for a variety of reasons, i decided that i am not going to confront here about the cheating.

 

[Strixaluco]

i am 68. for the past 4 years or so, i discovered that my now-60YO wife has cheated on me with 2 guys from our local catholic parish, including one of our priests.

during that time, we have sex maybe once every 2 months or so.

for a variety of reasons, i decided that i am not going to confront here about the cheating.

That's your choice of course. I doubt I would have been able to do that if I had found out when my husband was still alive, instead of 8 months after his death. Then again, we were gradually totally sexless and everything else wasn't as it should have been, either.

 

[ccs29745]

Me 47, her 46. Married 20 years. Once this year, once 3 years before that, once 3 years before that 3 year run. Now she wants an open marriage. Spent whole marriage turning down others and making sure I didn't slip up somewhere, now I don't know how to react.

 

[Wriggle]

It's got better since I started my Lit journey.

 

[ccs29745]

A conundrum for sure

Indeed

 

[Wriggle]

Sounds promising

It's made me think more about our sexual adventures. It's made me more open and willing to be vocal during sex.

 

[Deleted member 6353684]

On life support me thinks. But it's ok.

 

[mode042]

Once this year so far....lol

 

[Polranny]

Thats twice more than me

 

[rodeoclown]

The desert. Soooo quiet.

 

[wifewatcher1997]

We're both nearly 50 and we go 2-3x per week, sometimes more. Work gets in the way but being empty nesters helps!

 

[isharemywifespictures]

Very slow...

 

[Polranny]

What married sex life? It has been non-existent for many years

 

[Series 6]

Been divorced for 11 years, and mostly single since. Had some fun partners, but nothing consistent.

 

[wifewatcher1997]

I'm 41 my wife is 40 and we haven't had sex in over 6 months and before that it was an 8 month dry spell.

Sorry for you guys