How’s your married sex life?

[ffdan]

That’s an oxymoron

 

[Noedel]

So sad to read some of your replies

37F me and 38M husband
Together for 20 years next February
Married for almost 8 years (August)
Have sex at least once every two days but oftentimes daily. Try to invite our regular third (M) at least once a month.

 

[RoanMtn]

So sad to read some of your replies

37F me and 38M husband
Together for 20 years next February
Married for almost 8 years (August)
Have sex at least once every two days but oftentimes daily. Try to invite our regular third (M) at least once a month.

I can't even begin to imagine something like that. It's been over 20 years for me. It's not just the sex either, but the intimacy of it, and cuddling afterwards.

 

[Noedel]

I can't even begin to imagine something like that. It's been over 20 years for me. It's not just the sex either, but the intimacy of it, and cuddling afterwards.

I'm so sorry to hear that I can't even imagine that... I absolutely love the cuddling afterwards. It's a bit harder to divide the attention between two but aftercare is so important

 

[Sgts19]

After 46 years the lust is gone. There no surprises. Been there done that a 100 time, ho hum. Once or twice a week is good for me if she had a vote she'd say more. And I'm certainly no stud. The only times I get really excited is if we play with our friends, can't get enough of her for a week

 

[Trubbycat]

My what...?

 

[zcraft5]

Once a day.

30 and 30

13 years together 10 years married. Got to give my man his love. Keep his balls empty

orals good allothersparts suck for me thus i am inhere to chat and cum

 

[nothingatall27]

I don't remember how long it has been. I'd say at least 8 years. It's not a good feeling. My wife has no interest in anything sexual or even intimate anymore.

 

[PMarky2]

Still inhabiting the SFZ (Sex Free Zone.) After the last go-round I have not even felt like initiating.

 

[Paguy8641]

Male 62 female 63 married since 1983 and together since 1980. Still making love and having sex3 to 4 times a y. More if our
Schedule allows.

 

[Tweedledude]

Sex a number between five and seven

 

[Guillermo54]

I am ashamed to be writing this as self respecting man.
1-2 times a year for the last 6 years. I am 54 we have been married 22 years. Like others it is not just the sex but she shows almost no affection and I am a touch person. I feel so alone.

 

[Winchester3030]

Non existent

 

[Jander1]

I'm 48 and she is almost 50. Just as good, or even better, sizzling in fact.

 

[Trubbycat]

Worse than my single sex life. And that was bad.

 

[sexymilf44]

44 and 46. 0 in the last month

 

[Dubinsky]

Oh, it's shit. Lol.

There are many worthwhile compensations, but "sex" ain't one of them.

 

[Greaseman93]

our sex life leaves much to be desired. She only wants to do it at night, in bed and that only happens maybe once every couple weeks. She cant have an orgasm from vaginal penetration, so the routine is always the same. I try to get her to be a little more spontaneous but she won't give. Kinda frustrating to say the least. no affection, no build up. I rarely see her naked, and she never initiates. We havn't been married that long, less than 10 years. She is 56 I'm 57

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I’m so curious and have so many questions about this. It seems a common theme that men are in sexless marriages and at least here, seem to be open to doing anything to please and pleasure their spouses.

How did things get there?
What is the health of the rest of the relationship?
Are there conversations about this or only fighting?
What is the perspective of the wife?

All things I want to know!

 

[Dubinsky]

I’m so curious and have so many questions about this. It seems a common theme that men are in sexless marriages and at least here, seem to be open to doing anything to please and pleasure their spouses.

How did things get there?
What is the health of the rest of the relationship?
Are there conversations about this or only fighting?
What is the perspective of the wife?

All things I want to know!

Who can say? I’m sure there are as many answers as there are couples.

We had kids. They slurped up a lot of energy from us, and I think it changed the way my wife saw herself? If that makes sense? There was a general lack of interest I picked up on.

Other than that, it’s a very healthy relationship.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

Who can say? I’m sure there are as many answers as there are couples.

We had kids. They slurped up a lot of energy from us, and I think it changed the way my wife saw herself? If that makes sense? There was a general lack of interest I picked up on.

Other than that, it’s a very healthy relationship.

That sounds reasonable. I too have kids and they for sure added to dysfunction between my spouse and I.

I agree that there isn’t a one size fits all answer to my questions. Curious nonetheless.

 

[Dubinsky]

That sounds reasonable. I too have kids and they for sure added to dysfunction between my spouse and I.

I agree that there isn’t a one size fits all answer to my questions. Curious nonetheless.

Yes, but you still see yourself as sexual?

Mine sees herself as Mom, I think. She doesn’t think Mom should go wild in bed. It is an interesting question, definitely, and Lit is a perfect place to ask it.

 

[Paguy8641]

Yes, but you still see yourself as sexual?

Mine sees herself as Mom, I think. She doesn’t think Mom should go wild in bed. It is an interesting question, definitely, and Lit is a perfect place to ask it.

Do you make
Sure she knows that she is still a very desirable woman. When was the last time you brought her flowers for no reason other than to tell her that her beauty is far more than the bouquet. When did you compliment her last. Maybe walk past and give her ass a little pat and make a comment about it still looking as fine as
Ever ?

 

[BackwoodsMama]

Yes, but you still see yourself as sexual?

Mine sees herself as Mom, I think. She doesn’t think Mom should go wild in bed. It is an interesting question, definitely, and Lit is a perfect place to ask it.

It took me a bit to get back to the sexual part, but yes I am now able to hold both the mom role and my sexual role at the same time. I know I was motivated because my partner is highly sexual and the health of our relationship was and is important to me. So ignoring the dysfunction there would be ignoring a big issue in our relationship and I didn’t want sex to be eliminated or have it feel obligatory or like a chore because that was damaging to both of us.

I wish women had more support in expressing and understanding their sexuality, so there wasn’t so much avoidance going on. The book Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski is a really informative read for those trying to reroute their relationship with sexuality.

 

[NightOfPassion2]

Sex...we don't talk about that word...
Sad but true.