How do i tell him i want too..

[sweetmegbee]

How do i tell him i want to lick his ass and maybe finger... i have an ass obsession for some reason and i love to lick and finger while i give a bj, but most guys arent into it so i need to know how to politely ask him to spread em so i can lick

 

[Monster66]

Hellz ya

I'd let you do it anytime!

 

[Monster66]

Hellz ya

I'd let you do it anytime!

 

[SweetErika]

Unless you think he'd freak out with any ass play, I'd suggest stroking and rubbing his perineum ('taint) with a well-lubed finger or two when he's highly aroused during a blowjob or handjob. If he doesn't stop you, move your slick finger(s) down, and just gently stroke/stimulate his anus while continuing the cock/ball stimulation. You might want to be a little tentative at first to see how he reacts - if it's not a negative or uncomfortable reaction, keep it up (and if it is, back off and return to something he clearly enjoys). If you get clear encouragement, keep experimenting to see which moves he likes, but I don't suggest attempting tongue action or penetration on this first attempt unless one or both are obviously something he wants.

Then talk about it after that first session. Request his honest feedback, make it clear that giving analingus and finger play drive you wild, and ask if he'd be open to experimenting and allowing you to indulge in whatever way(s) he feels comfortable doing so. If he's tentative or uncomfortable, you might ask if there's any way to make it more pleasurable for him (e.g., a sexy shower beforehand if cleanliness is an issue, dental dam/cut condom for safety, using a glove if he's concerned about clean-up, etc.), and try to compromise so you'll both be able to enjoy experimenting.

Does it sound like something like that could work for you two?

 

[infinity706]

I've actually had good luck with just going for it right in the middle of a blowjob/cunt licking. I can count the number of people on one hand that have objected. (all the anal objectors have been guys, though) I doubt it's all because I'm a guy, either. I've actually had more objection to kissing than anal play. The only concerns that have typically been voiced are whether reciprocation or penis in anus are necessary.

 

[literalwife]

Tell him how badly this excites you and how it makes you so wet.

 

[MTChevy]

Just ask. People need to be open minded

 

[nakdsub]

Write him a love poem

The last line of which goes like;

My darling, into my life you have brought love, respect, honor, and class
so when we're in bed, may I please lick your ass?

But seriously folks...

Talk to him up front is always the best way.

One of my former girlfriends however did it as some has suggested, lightly brushed a finger over my anus during a blowjob. That worked.

 

[NaturistLouise]

Natural Progression

From licking his cock, I also carefully licked and sucked his balls, then started working South ..... he didn't object, in fact, he made his ass more accessible, so I took the invite. Later on, hubby returned the the beautiful sensation on me.

 

[RAddams]

You are right that not all guys may be into it but you won't know if he is until you try. If he doesn't like it, he will proably tell you so. If he is into to the licking than it is time to play the rusty trombone.

 

[TheDoubleU]

How do i tell him i want to lick his ass and maybe finger... i have an ass obsession for some reason and i love to lick and finger while i give a bj, but most guys arent into it so i need to know how to politely ask him to spread em so i can lick

Best thing to do is work up to going all the way down (if you can control yourself). My Girlfriend starting first with sucking my balls and taint before finally going all the way and rimming when she realized that I enjoyed it (even though I told her I love it when someone does that to me).

I am still waiting for her to finger me though. She knows I enjoy it and that I'm bisexual, however maybe she doesnt want to potentially get her finger dirty (even though I've fucked her anally)

That being said, when I rim her I have to just go for it cause if she thinks of what I'm doing (and she isn't inebriated) she doesn't like it.

 

[roomfor1more]

There are two options. First is during foreplay give him a lot of attention to his cock and balls. Then while you are giving him that attention slowly begin working your way towards his ass and if he does not resist then continue your movement. However, if he does show some sign of resistance then find a way to overcome it, you may want to say in a suggestive voice, "do not resist until you know what I have planned." With that said If you are going to insert your finger you will need to ensure your finger is well lubricated and his anus too, otherwise it will be painful for him. From my own experience, this is the way I have introduced the idea of anal play.

Second option is to suggest it to him during foreplay or in the cold light of day. My own feeling, I would opt for this only if the first suggestion fails and it gives you the opportunity to discuss his concerns.

 

[Carnevil9]

The last thing you want to do is discuss it with him beforehand. He might say NO.

Just get him horned up, dick stiff as all hell, and then have your way with him. When the blood is in his brain, he might argue. But when all his blood is busy keeping his cock as rigid as a mizzen-mast, he won't have the resources to argue. He'll just enjoy the hell out of it, and thank you for your decisive action later.

Trust me, I speak from experience. I've had plenty of crazy freaky lovers, and if they had told me before the fact what they planned to do, I'd have headed for the hills. But when they sprang it on me unannounced, I LOVED it! And always asked for an encore.

 

[firenzi]

I agree about not discussing it beforehand- I'm not a huge fan of that when it comes to sex in general.

BUT- once I got an EXTREMELY bad reaction from a guy when I tried gently working my fingers/tongue down there naturally during a blowjob. It made things really awkward and I was mortified.

So now I favour a sort of in-between approach that's worked well for me:

Look your best, get him relaxed and happy, start sucking or stroking him and make sure to adore and admire his cock. After a while, stop for a moment- go up to where he is and kiss him or bring his mouth to your nipples or whatever. Grip his cock firmly in your hand. Then start telling him how much you love his cock- you love sucking it, stroking it, tasting it, feeling it, you're a slut for his cock, it makes you wet, you love his cum, etc etc. Slip in a couple of easy questions- ie ask him if he will cum in your mouth, if you can drink all his cum, if you can keep sucking his cock, if you can suck or lick or fondle his balls, etc. Get him thinking and saying yes.

While you're doing that, it's easy to tell him you want to run your tongue along his ass. If he's unambiguously up for it, then you can get right to it.

If he doesn't say no but doesn't really say yes either, keep dirty talking to him about it and maybe start rubbing the head of his cock in the palm of your hand. Ask him if you can lick or fondle his ass. If he says yes, go back to sucking his cock and slowly make your way to his ass.

If he says no, drop that topic immediately and go back to talking about his cock, then finish his blowjob without making any moves towards his ass. You want to show him that you respect his word. Don't bring it up again for a long time. With a bit of luck you will have planted the idea in his head and he might bring it up sometime. If not, try one more time and if he's still not interested, drop it completely.

 

[deyv]

maybe start with a massage / tongue bath

I had an early uncomfortable experience with a girlfriend who unexpectedly tried to finger my ass - (in her defense though, she was only trying to please me and if we had talked about it beforehand then I probably would've been against it - such is youth).

So from that point on I had always been a bit squeamish (sp?) whenever a girl would start to fondle my ass... but years later, there was an occasion where after the first round the girlfriend rolled me over and began giving me a shoulder/back massage which turned into a tongue bath... after a bit she started kissing and licking my shoulders and as she worked her way down she began to lightly caress my ass cheeks and eventually my asshole - no insertion, just gentle caressing...

I knew where things were leading and wasn't sure of how I'd react, but between the massage, the kissing and caressing I was ready to give it a shot and when she started licking my ass... OMG!!!

Although I'm still not comfortable with a finger - someone else tried it years later and it just wasn't comfortalbe - but a tongue... that's a completely different story.

Good Luck!

 

[sweetmegbee]

thanks guys for all the advice

 

[Dat510]

Lick and suck on the under side off his balls almost to the asshole for a couple weeks to get him used to you bein down there then just go for it!!

 

[iadoremywife]

thanks guys for all the advice

Wife had same fantasy for years without telling me. On one session we did a lot of anal play with her. She complained later that she was sore. I laughed. She said how would you like it to have you asshole played with and streched for an hour. More of an angry come back to my laughing. I replied "I don't know you never tried it". You will never guess what our next session included.

 

[skippycheese]

My girl's friends apparently do this. I'm not really for it, but I don't wanna get shut out of sexual fantasies... Conundrum.

 

[Kojote]

So now I favour a sort of in-between approach that's worked well for me:

Shit! That one would probably even have worked with me when I was a little less open minded. And I can honestly say that my brain doesn't get under supplied even when higly aroused.
It's sneaky. I really like it!

 

[MNNiceSquirt]

...but most guys arent into it so i need to know how to politely ask him to spread em so i can lick

Don't be so sure of that... I'm willing to bet many more are into it than aren't (present company included). The only thing you're competing with is his ego so don't make bringing up the subject harder than it needs to be. Everyone's given good advice, so since you know your lover the best, pick an idea and run with it. Good luck!!

 

[NippleMuncher]

How do i tell him i want to lick his ass and maybe finger... i have an ass obsession for some reason and i love to lick and finger while i give a bj, but most guys arent into it so i need to know how to politely ask him to spread em so i can lick

If you can have an open and honest conversation about it, do so, you might be surprised that he'd be up for your experimentation. If you can't, then just go about it gently and surreptitiously. When you're giving him a blowjob, massage his balls, taint, and anus. Get sloppy with the BJ to lubricate his taint and anus and start being a bit more "exploratory" with your musings.

As you're doing this, pay close attention to his physical and verbal cues. A slight protest can usually be quelled by either backing off a bit and continue teasing the area until the resistance is quelled or ignoring it and enforcing your will, depends on his temperament.

If he doesn't protest, then that is your cue to continue to explore at your leisure.

Another sneaky trick would be to have your finger and his ass well lubed with saliva while giving him a BJ, wait for him to give you the money shot, then gently slip your finger in. He should be too busy with the moment to put up much protest about the finger.

Only YOU can decide if he'd be willing to allow you to play with his ass without being offended or getting pissed off. That is why I suggest an honest conversation with him first.

 

[amofiga]

I agree with the person who suggested lots of lube for any sort of penetration or it could be a negative effect. I've never personally been a fan of rimming either giving or receiving, but I've had a couple of women do it to me during a blowjob and I didn't object despite my slight "embarrassment" with it. However, one also on on occassion shoved and unlubed finger up into my ass and it wasn't at all comfortable. It was something to endure more than enjoy. If your going to put a finger in his ass, at least lube it with some of your saliva or pussy juice if not KY. Before I ever put my finger in my wife's ass (and she likes it while I'm eating her) I make sure to get it well lubed with spit and/or her natural pussy lube.

 

[Maxell46]

This is how I was introduced to anal penetration ...a very wet and wonderfull blowjob that had me so lubricated I wasn't sure if my GF realized her fingers were rather close to my opening as she squeezed my balls and let her hand slide all over the place.

Well...she knew exactly what she was doing and where she was headed.
We had never broached the subject but I let her know that whatever she was doing felt great...
When her finger began to gently slide inside I moaned...
When she slid it in further I moaned some more...
And when her hand that was stroking me off while her mouth sucked the head began to bring me to the point of no return she pressed on my prostate.

Thankfuly I was not standing up because the intensity of my orgasm was enough to make me dizzy.

Been a fan of anal ever since

If you can have an open and honest conversation about it, do so, you might be surprised that he'd be up for your experimentation. If you can't, then just go about it gently and surreptitiously. When you're giving him a blowjob, massage his balls, taint, and anus. Get sloppy with the BJ to lubricate his taint and anus and start being a bit more "exploratory" with your musings.

As you're doing this, pay close attention to his physical and verbal cues. A slight protest can usually be quelled by either backing off a bit and continue teasing the area until the resistance is quelled or ignoring it and enforcing your will, depends on his temperament.

If he doesn't protest, then that is your cue to continue to explore at your leisure.

Another sneaky trick would be to have your finger and his ass well lubed with saliva while giving him a BJ, wait for him to give you the money shot, then gently slip your finger in. He should be too busy with the moment to put up much protest about the finger.

Only YOU can decide if he'd be willing to allow you to play with his ass without being offended or getting pissed off. That is why I suggest an honest conversation with him first.

 

[ManInIronMask]

1. start with a shower together where you say you want to clean yourself up very well and ask him to do the same.
2. when you're giving him a blowjob, let your hands run all over his legs and his balls
3. use your finger a few times that you give him BJs; increase your finger's role incrementally each time you are at it.
4. Feedback time - ask him during pillow talk about how it felt
5. If he says anything positive, go for it further and then broach how you want to perform analingus on him after he's all cleaned up because it is going to be damn sexy to try that out.

I'm sure a stepwise slow approach will work wonders. At least that's how I'd want my woman to approach it - good luck!