How do I tell my boyfriend...

[onlyeighteen]

that I have fantasies?
I'm too scared to tell him, we're still young and I don't want him to think I'm weird.

Thanks xox

 

[Dusty_Traveler]

That's an easy one..!

You know how most guys have little ego's (they never would admit to this).

Tell him you have never been as comfortable with ANYONE like you are with him... let him know he brings a new excitement from within you.

As long as he knows he is partly the reason you want to play out some fantasies... he will be excited and love ya for it. He will not think you are weird. From looking at your photo... he is a lucky guy for sure. What I wouldn't do for that *smile*

Rick

 

[StevenWill]

Have these converstations...

outside the bedroom. It would be good to establish a regular dialog about your sex life anyway. That is how you grow, experiment and build intimacy. If you don't talk now, just establish the fact that you both are committed to have the best sexual relationship possible. He has fantasies too and would probably enjoy sharing them with you.

 

[JuanVato]

Bring to up when you are alone.
Ask him what his are.
He has the too.

 

[RockHardKP]

Just tell him you had a wild "dream" last night and then start telling him about it. You can whisper the details of your fantasy in his ear while you nibble on his neck, etc. As things heat up, you can alternate between telling him about your dream and sucking his cock.

 

[Hotcappucino]

Well, what kind of fantasy is it? Do you fantasize him crawling around naked with just a collar on and barking like a dog? Then, yeah, he might think that was kinda weird . Have him browse around here on the Literotica forum and he'll find out that nothing's really weird when it comes to sex.

In fact, there's a suggestion. Find a story on Lit that follows your fantasy, send him a link, and find out what he thinks of the story. If he likes it, ask him if he'd like to act it out with you. If he thinks it's sick, then you'll have your answer without telling him.

 

[susanr33]

Fantasies are healthy and normal. Depending on what they may be, acting them out may be not so normal. More info would help us help you.

 

[coastal-boy]

It is only kinky the first time...then it simply becomes a life style.

 

[duke1421115]

I think my girlfriend has been in a similar situation to you lately - we've been together for a few months and the subject of sexual kinks and fantasies has been brought up a few times... (We're both 20; she's never had sex, but we're working up to it slowly.)
I'm a bit more open about sex than her, and a bit more experienced, and I don't have any issues about making dirty jokes or generally talking about sex. (Not that I'd be on these forums if I did have those kind of issues!) I think that's made it easier to bring things up - knowing that I'm less likely to mind her talking about it. I don't know how much your boyfriend talks about sex, but if he's comfortable doing so then you're probably on safe ground.
We first started talking about our fantasies while I was sleeping over at her room (after some, um, heavy petting ). I think the fact that we were alone, but not currently doing anything explicitly sexual, made it seem less awkward to talk. These days we talk about a "list" of fantasies we'd both like to fulfill...

We're both pretty open now about our sexual preferences and fantasies and that's definitely a good thing. I'm very grateful that we can talk about that sort of thing without worrying about it, and I think it will make it much easier once we actually do have sex.
I presume that you've had sex with your boyfriend already, but the same idea holds. Bring it up when you're alone, but not during sex, and don't neglect to ask him about things he fantasises about - in fact, that could be a good way to start talking about fantasies in the first place.

Hope that all helps, and best wishes

 

[silverwhisper]

your boyfriend either suspects or should know that you have fantasies--most folks do!

i agree with all the advice that you discuss this at a non-sexual moment. maybe it can be a good way for you two to grow together. ask him what some of his are (and yes, he does have them--promise). besides, you might wanna help one another fulfill them!

ed