How do you like/Hate to be approached here at Lit?

[fun1269u]

What DO you like?

Ladies,
I haven't been unfortunate enough to be PM'ed with any "Wanna fuck?" messages, but I'm still hoping......

Seriously, no excuses for rudeness. People should be a little more sensitive, I agree. Men are wired a little differently than women and we don't always "get it". So I appreciate the discussion.

I've heard a lot of discussions about what you don't like....Maybe you can discuss what you do like or how we CAN approach you if we feel we would like to get to know you better. I've always felt open forums are a good way to start a discussion with someone, but how should we approch the next step.

Thanks for the discussion!

 

[fun1269u]

What DO you like?

Ladies,
I haven't been unfortunate enough to be PM'ed with any "Wanna fuck?" messages, but I'm still hoping......

Seriously, no excuses for rudeness. People should be a little more sensitive, I agree. Men are wired a little differently than women and we don't always "get it". So I appreciate the discussion.

I've heard a lot of discussions about what you don't like....Maybe you can discuss what you do like or how we CAN approach you if we feel we would like to get to know you better. I've always felt open forums are a good way to start a discussion with someone, but how should we approch the next step.

Thanks for the discussion!

 

[done_got_old]

Great thread Tonie!

I always get the same requests...younger guys wanting an older woman to "teach" them...then proceed to tell me how mature they are for their age when I say thanks but no thanks. I tell them I don't date anyone younger than my kids and they still try to convince me how mature they are. When I decline, some of them show their maturity by giving me an attitude. I say they need to let their mother's finish raising them and TEACH them how to be a gentleman before they attempt to contact other women.

Other requests I get as a introduction is..."wanna do phone?", I either ignore or reply to say I do not have a phone fetish. And of course the all the other "basics": What are you wearing right now, wanna cyber, etc. OR they just proceed to tell me all those "wonderful" things they want to do to me.

I say if a guy cannot be a gentleman right off, I really don't want to talk with them or try to get to know them.

I think we have the same guys sending us pms!

 

[yourdestonie]

Ladies,
I haven't been unfortunate enough to be PM'ed with any "Wanna fuck?" messages, but I'm still hoping......

Seriously, no excuses for rudeness. People should be a little more sensitive, I agree. Men are wired a little differently than women and we don't always "get it". So I appreciate the discussion.

I've heard a lot of discussions about what you don't like....Maybe you can discuss what you do like or how we CAN approach you if we feel we would like to get to know you better. I've always felt open forums are a good way to start a discussion with someone, but how should we approch the next step.

Thanks for the discussion!

I'd say do it like you would if you were standing in front of me. be yourself and remember were all humans. Use plenty of respect and treat us like ladies not Sluts (at least till we get to know one another)

tonie

 

[yourdestonie]

I think we have the same guys sending us pms!

Its probly the same guys sending all of us PM's they get no response from one so they move on to the next.

 

[omahaman2]

Found the perfect thing for you ladies, a service called rejection hotline.

If they ask for your email addy,you give them; anything@noitcejer.com,
this is what they will receive back;

The e-mail you sent to somebody @ noitcejer.com was NOT received. "Noitcejer" was created by The Rejection Hotline and is actually "Rejection" backwards, so the person who gave you this e-mail address really just didn't want to hear from you!

Damn, that sucks! But hopefully you didn't spend too much time writing your e-mail. That would be a shame if you agonized at your computer, searching for that perfect combination of words to eloquently express your thoughts and feelings... only to find that you were given a bogus e-mail address and nobody is ever going to read what you wrote!

Please don't take this too hard. There is probably a perfectly good explanation for why you were given The Rejection Hotline's "noitcejer" e-mail address (and you can call 617-861-3962 for some possible explanations!)

Anyway, please accept the fact that you (and your email) were rejected and then GET OVER IT!

Have a nice day/week/month/year/life!

www.RejectionHotline.com


If they want phone sex,they also have 50 some local phone numbers you can
give out and they are adding about 30 more march 9.
Boston
617-861-3962
**New York
212-660-2245
***Miami
305-241-0033
***Orlando
407-338-0036
Phoenix
602-230-4210
Las Vegas
702-386-5397
New Jersey
201-808-6011
Philadelpha
215-618-1505
San Diego
858-492-8002
New Hampshire
603-413-2340
Rhode Island
401-648-6543
Maine
207-376-0768
Atlanta
770-908-7383
San Francisco
415-356-9833
Denver
303-607-7527
Los Angeles
310-217-7638
Washington DC
202-452-7468
Chicago
773-509-5027
Seattle
206-376-9798
Baltimore
410-347-1488
Virginia
703-912-1725
Detroit
248-262-6861
Houston
713-866-6249
Dallas
972-504-6270
More Massachusets #s
617-861-3962
508-556-3549
781-654-2925
978-364-8939
413-351-2684
More New York #s
212-660-2245
718-971-5245
516-730-7245
914-269-4245
845-259-2245
518-935-4012
More Florida #s
305-241-0033
407-338-0036
321-844-0033
561-986-0035
954-287-0023

Portland (OR)
Sacramento
San Jose
San Antonio
Austin
Ft. Worth
Salt Lake City
Idaho (1 state number)
Delaware (1 state number)
Minneapolis
St. Louis
Memphis
Nashville
Cleveland
Columbus (Ohio State)
Pittsburgh
Pennsylvania (814, includes Penn State)
Atlantic City
Richmond
Jacksonville
Tallahassee
Colorado Springs
Tucson
Tampa

When you call these numbers,its hilarious!

 

[yourdestonie]

Found the perfect thing for you ladies, a service called rejection hotline.

If they ask for your email addy,you give them; anything@noitcejer.com,
this is what they will receive back;

The e-mail you sent to somebody @ noitcejer.com was NOT received. "Noitcejer" was created by The Rejection Hotline and is actually "Rejection" backwards, so the person who gave you this e-mail address really just didn't want to hear from you!

Damn, that sucks! But hopefully you didn't spend too much time writing your e-mail. That would be a shame if you agonized at your computer, searching for that perfect combination of words to eloquently express your thoughts and feelings... only to find that you were given a bogus e-mail address and nobody is ever going to read what you wrote!

Please don't take this too hard. There is probably a perfectly good explanation for why you were given The Rejection Hotline's "noitcejer" e-mail address (and you can call 617-861-3962 for some possible explanations!)

Anyway, please accept the fact that you (and your email) were rejected and then GET OVER IT!

Have a nice day/week/month/year/life!

www.RejectionHotline.com


If they want phone sex,they also have 50 some local phone numbers you can
give out and they are adding about 30 more march 9.
Boston
617-861-3962
**New York
212-660-2245
***Miami
305-241-0033
***Orlando
407-338-0036
Phoenix
602-230-4210
Las Vegas
702-386-5397
New Jersey
201-808-6011
Philadelpha
215-618-1505
San Diego
858-492-8002
New Hampshire
603-413-2340
Rhode Island
401-648-6543
Maine
207-376-0768
Atlanta
770-908-7383
San Francisco
415-356-9833
Denver
303-607-7527
Los Angeles
310-217-7638
Washington DC
202-452-7468
Chicago
773-509-5027
Seattle
206-376-9798
Baltimore
410-347-1488
Virginia
703-912-1725
Detroit
248-262-6861
Houston
713-866-6249
Dallas
972-504-6270
More Massachusets #s
617-861-3962
508-556-3549
781-654-2925
978-364-8939
413-351-2684
More New York #s
212-660-2245
718-971-5245
516-730-7245
914-269-4245
845-259-2245
518-935-4012
More Florida #s
305-241-0033
407-338-0036
321-844-0033
561-986-0035
954-287-0023

Portland (OR)
Sacramento
San Jose
San Antonio
Austin
Ft. Worth
Salt Lake City
Idaho (1 state number)
Delaware (1 state number)
Minneapolis
St. Louis
Memphis
Nashville
Cleveland
Columbus (Ohio State)
Pittsburgh
Pennsylvania (814, includes Penn State)
Atlantic City
Richmond
Jacksonville
Tallahassee
Colorado Springs
Tucson
Tampa

When you call these numbers,its hilarious!

You do understand you just started a revolution I love that Idea

My thoughts for this thread were for people to understand the way to approach so we don't have to use those but Its great we have that to fall back on though *grins* thanks

 

[mansome]

I've been "chatting" on the internet in one form or another for 10 years... My goal is to have fun and be entertained when I'm on a site like this.. and that's all....

It's amazed me over the years how upset people get when someone sends them a private message... I don't get many private messages in here but the ones I don't "like" I just delete... it's really simple to do.. I don't get upset or I don't even reply with a nasty message.....

getting worked up about sexually suggestive posts on an erotic website just isn't worth it...
so my answer to this is....

approach me anyway you want... if it's not fun, I normally won't respond and that's it.....


feel free to pm me with any kind of "suggestive" sexual posts that you want.... ;^)

 

[Hornymama]

I've been "chatting" on the internet in one form or another for 10 years... My goal is to have fun and be entertained when I'm on a site like this.. and that's all....

It's amazed me over the years how upset people get when someone sends them a private message... I don't get many private messages in here but the ones I don't "like" I just delete... it's really simple to do.. I don't get upset or I don't even reply with a nasty message.....

getting worked up about sexually suggestive posts on an erotic website just isn't worth it...
so my answer to this is....

approach me anyway you want... if it's not fun, I normally won't respond and that's it.....


feel free to pm me with any kind of "suggestive" sexual posts that you want.... ;^)

so it's ok if you get a PM by mistake?

 

[mansome]

so it's ok if you get a PM by mistake?

well yes.... especially if it's by YOU sexy lady.. ;^)

I have received messages by mistake before and I just shrugged it off.....

people act too often as if sending a sexually suggestive private message to someone on an erotic website is some great taboo... that there are certain "rules" you should follow .... Have fun and don't sweat the small stuff that's what I say.....

I really don't send that many private messages at all.. and I certainly don't use the e-mail function in here... but I'm definitely not opposed to others doing it and I would never get pissed off about it...

 

[No.1Pinklady]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

The phrase "preaching to the choir" comes to mind. And a long as we are on the subject, not every story is based on real life. Don't assume that because I wrote it, I lived it, or that I want to live it.

 

[yourdestonie]

The phrase "preaching to the choir" comes to mind. And a long as we are on the subject, not every story is based on real life. Don't assume that because I wrote it, I lived it, or that I want to live it.

LOL I forgot that one thanks sis *hugs* I get that too.

 

[mansome]

I challenge women and men to come up with the most salacious ways to "approach" me ... *EG*

 

[morag]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

wow! well put, y~d!! as a mature 'newbie', i am careful ... but i still appreciate your wisdom verry much

i hope all the younger newbs read and follow your wise advice

 

[yourdestonie]

wow! well put, y~d!! as a mature 'newbie', i am careful ... but i still appreciate your wisdom verry much

i hope all the younger newbs read and follow your wise advice

I hope so too most really don't mean to be rude they just don't realize how things work. I thought this might be a way to help them figure that part out before they go and piss someone off. I try to tell them that in PM if I get one of those type but some will just either ignore them or tell em off and that gets their stay here at lit off to a really bad start.

 

[mansome]

I like being approached with a link to hers/his naughty pics with an invitation to fuck them......

I don't like....... hell I don't dislike anything.. getting pissed off about a private message on an erotic website seems silly to me....

and I'd bet there are more people that have been on this site for at least a year who send "unwanted" private messages than those who have been here less than a year..

*shrugs*

 

[olivia drake]

Ooo...just found this thread! I shall add my 2 cents!
I hate when men pm me out of no where and send me a pic of their cock!! WTF! First of all..I didn't ask to see it...second...there is more to a man then a cock...was I suppose to swoon? There is enough cock pics on Lit to last a life time...

Next...just because I post doesn't mean I am some cock fiending woman who needs sex and only sex...that perhaps if you PM me I will want to cyber and have phone sex...that is not going to happen...EVER...I am a passionate woman...sexual at times...I like to entice and flirt a bit...we all do...but don't think for one second that I am going to rip off my clothes...sit at my computer and fuck talk with some strange person who happens to PM me...

I may post to certain threads to give my opinion...or share the like of something with others...but don't get excited that I may want to do the same thing with you...

Lit is fun...I have many friends here...people are usually nice...I just wish people could see out side of the box as well....

 

[Guest]

Heres a few examples of good and bad "can I get to know you" pm's that I have received.

A nice one first, from someone who took the time to read my profile before pm'ing me...

just have to say hello to someone who is flirtysomething ...




This next one was a bit too full on for me...

21/m/(location deleted) here who likes the sound of u

if you're looking for a toyboy im ur guy lol.

You've got a sexy attitude and i love a woman that likes her football mmmm u in ur (wrong footie team named) kit lol *drools*

you have msn? if you do may i have ur addy to add you?

thanks for reading and keep up your great posts i enjoy reading them


And finally, didn't know whether to laugh or be flattered by this one. I received this a fortnight ago and had not replied then low and behold it came again today. The sender obviously goes for the blanket approach and does not remember who he has sent it to before so I shall go for the laughing option

here to steal your bra

how are you doing today

 

[mansome]

Blue..


but none of these get you upset right? I mean at the best I hope they are a mere annoyance..... many on Lit seem to get in a Tizzy if you don't private message them the "correct" way...

now, this hasn't happened to me and the private messages I send.. but I see the replies on threads with women getting all bent out of shape and pissed off because of a private message.....

it's funny to see how easily someone can get pissed off at something that should be so benign....

btw

can I steal your bra?

*laughs*

 

[chromebutterfly]

I guess I'm still a newbie and don't get too many pms. And I guess I dont mind some heavy duty flirting. I've gotten some pretty forthright pms on other instant message programs. I usually ask them to slowwww down (national vagina anthem, LOL from the Vagina Monologues) or I let them know I'm not interested in being quite so direct so quickly. I also like to get to know people, and I'm not always interested in cybering or - yikes- meeting someone. It takes time, but I'm not gonna get bent out of shape by the bold ones. Sometimes, they turn out to the most interesting...

 

[mansome]

I guess I'm still a newbie and don't get too many pms. And I guess I dont mind some heavy duty flirting. I've gotten some pretty forthright pms on other instant message programs. I usually ask them to slowwww down (national vagina anthem, LOL from the Vagina Monologues) or I let them know I'm not interested in being quite so direct so quickly. I also like to get to know people, and I'm not always interested in cybering or - yikes- meeting someone. It takes time, but I'm not gonna get bent out of shape by the bold ones. Sometimes, they turn out to the most interesting...

ahhh.. you are a keeper for sure....

pleasure to meet you young lady.. *extends hand*

what's the point of getting bent out of shape anyway.. just have fun.. that's what this place is for.....

 

[chromebutterfly]

Nice to meet you, too, mansome.

 

[mansome]

Nice to meet you, too, mansome.

well that was a nice "approach" wasn't it?

hmm wonder if I violated any of these rules that were set up.. *laugh*

I may have with that pm I sent you though.... heehee

 

[KnightWing]

Still waiting..........

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Still waiting..........

For?