How do you like/Hate to be approached here at Lit?

[KnightWing]

A PM approach!

 

[bowtie4u]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

Thanks for the advice, I am a relatively newbe, cheking out your pics, O so many

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

Thanks for the advice, I am a relative newbe, looking at your pics, O so many

 

[Guest]

Blue..


but none of these get you upset right? I mean at the best I hope they are a mere annoyance..... many on Lit seem to get in a Tizzy if you don't private message them the "correct" way...

now, this hasn't happened to me and the private messages I send.. but I see the replies on threads with women getting all bent out of shape and pissed off because of a private message.....

it's funny to see how easily someone can get pissed off at something that should be so benign....

btw

can I steal your bra?

*laughs*

Evenin Mansome

only one pm was ever "strong" enough for me to block the person straight away. I took that step and so now I am protected from anymore from him and I don't think about it. I was fairly new at the time and as this is the first site of any type I have ever been a member of it could have frightened me off. Luckily I had already made a couple of good friends on here who were more experienced than I and told me how to block the other person and also reassured me that it was unlikely to happen often.

The one from the 21/m/location was just not replied to, neither was the bra stealing one. Now if I was to give you my bra what on earth would happen to my av??

btw love the piccie on your profile

 

[mansome]

Evenin Mansome

only one pm was ever "strong" enough for me to block the person straight away. I took that step and so now I am protected from anymore from him and I don't think about it. I was fairly new at the time and as this is the first site of any type I have ever been a member of it could have frightened me off. Luckily I had already made a couple of good friends on here who were more experienced than I and told me how to block the other person and also reassured me that it was unlikely to happen often.

The one from the 21/m/location was just not replied to, neither was the bra stealing one. Now if I was to give you my bra what on earth would happen to my av??

btw love the piccie on your profile

yeah.. nothing you can steal on me from my pic on my profile... =^P

and If I took your bra.. your Av would be just how I imagine it anyway... *laughs*


Nice to see you are good natured and have a fun time with this place... there's no point in being here if it isn't fun.... and see how hard was it to put that person on ignore? wasn't hard at all....

nice to see your reply sexy lady.. hope to see more of you.. and less of your clothes... ;^)

 

[yourdestonie]

I like being approached with a link to hers/his naughty pics with an invitation to fuck them......

I don't like....... hell I don't dislike anything.. getting pissed off about a private message on an erotic website seems silly to me....

and I'd bet there are more people that have been on this site for at least a year who send "unwanted" private messages than those who have been here less than a year..

*shrugs*

Sweetie its not that I get pissed off I just don't answer them. Its all about Respect. I expect it no matter where I am.

as to those who have been here longer well those are the ones who should know that behind the posts is a human being who deserves to be treated just as if you were meeting them face to face. Only thing is here one cant slap the face of someone who has been disrespectfull.

If a man walked up to me in a bar and said some of the things that come to me in pm's he'd be slaped before his mouth closed.

 

[yourdestonie]

Thanks for the advice, I am a relative newbe, looking at your pics, O so many

thats exactly what it was for Advice *smiles* thanks for the compliments

 

[mansome]

Sweetie its not that I get pissed off I just don't answer them. Its all about Respect. I expect it no matter where I am.

as to those who have been here longer well those are the ones who should know that behind the posts is a human being who deserves to be treated just as if you were meeting them face to face. Only thing is here one cant slap the face of someone who has been disrespectfull.

If a man walked up to me in a bar and said some of the things that come to me in pm's he'd be slaped before his mouth closed.

I see what you are saying.. but there's a big difference between sitting in a bar by yourself.... and making posts on an erotic website with links to pics of you fucking yourself with your fingers... showing pics of your entire naked body... I'm not talking about you specifically but posters in general...

it's like hopping into a strip club...don't you think the women that strip there should expect lude remarks from the men and women looking at them take off their clothes?

I flirt in here and make it fun.. I never private message someone out of the blue with naughty/nasty messages......

Like I said.. just brush them off.. don't worry about "rules" and have fun.....


My opinions definitely aren't a slam on you specifically destonie... just MY opinions sugar.....

I do think it is a great thread.. with some wonderful points of discussion

 

[Guest]

yeah.. nothing you can steal on me from my pic on my profile... =^P

and If I took your bra.. your Av would be just how I imagine it anyway... *laughs*


Nice to see you are good natured and have a fun time with this place... there's no point in being here if it isn't fun.... and see how hard was it to put that person on ignore? wasn't hard at all....

nice to see your reply sexy lady.. hope to see more of you.. and less of your clothes... ;^)

Yes it is fun on here!!!

But I do also agree with yourdestonie that as we don't have the opportunity to slap a guys face (or gals if the boot on the other foot) perhaps people should think twice about the respect they show for each other.

I remember an incident in a bar many years ago. I had just (literally that week I think) separated from my husband and was out with a couple of girlfriends
who were trying to cheer me up. The trousers I had on had a zip on the back pocket and while I was stood minding my own business a younger guy unzipped it!! I was horrified, too horrified to slap his face, all I could do was move elsewhere. I often wonder, nearly 12 years later, what I would do in the same situation. Now I have been on Lit for about 6 months would I react in the same way to a similar pm to the one that I blocked????

 

[mansome]

Yes it is fun on here!!!

But I do also agree with yourdestonie that as we don't have the opportunity to slap a guys face (or gals if the boot on the other foot) perhaps people should think twice about the respect they show for each other.

I remember an incident in a bar many years ago. I had just (literally that week I think) separated from my husband and was out with a couple of girlfriends
who were trying to cheer me up. The trousers I had on had a zip on the back pocket and while I was stood minding my own business a younger guy unzipped it!! I was horrified, too horrified to slap his face, all I could do was move elsewhere. I often wonder, nearly 12 years later, what I would do in the same situation. Now I have been on Lit for about 6 months would I react in the same way to a similar pm to the one that I blocked????

Well I can certainly separate a cyber-erotic site from what happens in my real life... and I certainly don't approach women at a bar or not at a bar.. that's not my style.. I'm not going to be one more guy there to just flatter them.. they have enough doing that.. I wait for them to approach me and go from there...


I sure hope this place hasn't desensatized you from real life dilemmas.... I know it hasn't for me... Like I said people come here for a very few specific purposes.... They sit in their homes.. sometimes naked sometimes clothed...

If I find a woman is holding back from discussing anything with me... or doesn't like my flirtations in here.. I just quit and move on... I don't wanna be with anyone who doesn't wanna be with me....


like I said.. this is a great thread to promote discussion .. *S*

 

[yourdestonie]

I see what you are saying.. but there's a big difference between sitting in a bar by yourself.... and making posts on an erotic website with links to pics of you fucking yourself with your fingers... showing pics of your entire naked body... I'm not talking about you specifically but posters in general...

it's like hopping into a strip club...don't you think the women that strip there should expect lude remarks from the men and women looking at them take off their clothes?

I flirt in here and make it fun.. I never private message someone out of the blue with naughty/nasty messages......

Like I said.. just brush them off.. don't worry about "rules" and have fun.....


My opinions definitely aren't a slam on you specifically destonie... just MY opinions sugar.....

I do think it is a great thread.. with some wonderful points of discussion

Actually my meaning for the thread was to let those who are disrespectfull know that we are people first.

That and to keep some new poster from ruining his or her reputation around here because they only looked at it as a erotic site and not as a place to flirt and have fun as well.

Yeah.................. I've got lots of pics up and your right I do expect a certian amount of naughty messages. For the most part those are not the ones I'm talking about. If a man has dropped by my thread and posted a bit then at some point he feels he knows me well enough to send me a PM asking to take it further then I understand and I'll respond to them.

However even if I were in a strip club I'd still demand Respect. I would look at any man who didn't give it as a jerk. He wouldn't even get a smile from me.

 

[mansome]

ahh.. so this thread wasn't created to promote discussion it was created as more of a tutorial....

sorry I took it the wrong way..

but I know I certainly don't need a lesson on how to approach people on this site... I don't really think new people need lessons either.....

it's sort of like those BDSM people talking their Gorianic.. or whatever that language is.. and getting upset at people for capitalizing or not capitalizing letters..... now that is some funny shit....

 

[ElusivButterfly]

A PM approach!

been there, done~ that ~weg~

 

[xrobbie]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

I would just like to appoligise for the above. I have been guilty of sending pm to ladies and never thought of the offence i caused. They are in no way suggesting that we meet up or asking what kind of perverse things are they into as that is nothing to do with me. If they want to reply and tell me that is up to them. I usually only pm ladies when they have posted pics of themselves or any stories that i like and i am letting them know how much i liked them. I have made quite a few friends from doing this and also have sent pms that are never answered. If they don't like it they don,t answer and if they do like it then they will.
So to all women who have been offended by me then sorry.

 

[pivoter]

I've been around for a while now and I've been approached almost any way you can think of. It gets under my skin though when a man thinks that just because I post here he can just send me a PM with his e-mail addy or his yahoo handle and I'm off to fuck his brains out.

I don't know about the rest of you but for me I use these boards to actually get to know the people I post with. If you watch their posts long enough they will show their true self. I know that anyone can type any thing but if the same question is asked several times over the course of a few months usually they will mess up if their not being totally honest. I know this isn't fool proof but it’s a first step.

That said this is what I do and don't like to get in a first PM from someone:

1. Don't just PM me your e-mail addy I most likely will not respond with mine.

2. Don't assume that because I post here I'm going to just drop everything and go Cyber with you.

3. Don't send me a PM and right off ask me to fuck.

4. NO I'm not going to go meet you simply because you asked.

5. Try first to post in some forums that interest you and meet some of those who are interested in the same things.

6. NO I'm not a SLUT just because I'm posting here and DON"T assume any different.


Now what do you Like or dislike??

Can I use this quote for my "weeding out" pervs?

 

[rydia57]

This thread rocks Tonie,

Most of the time I've gotten hit on by guys that were either newbies or just didn't like posting. The thing is they may read my stuff from threads they might be interested in... but I can't do likewise. Now when they're newbies, I like to help them move around and assimilate the place. The worst part is... most guys don't like to put any info on their profiles. What's wrong with putting a few interests in, huh? I like to find a few common things we can talk about that may not have to do with sex. Maybe even a few geekisms? You're right about the cybering too, in that they shouldn't come up and juuust expect you to cyber. Get to know me... then maybe I will. But there are some guys on this board who can actually talk up a good conversation, whether it be about sex positions or the comix and movies...just gotta find them!

 

[Satangela]

I don't want to be approached. This is entertainment, an alternative to TV.

 

[big salami]

I don't want to be approached. This is entertainment, an alternative to TV.

Kinda hate to be the one to break this to you hun, you're new on lit, despite your prodigious rate of posting but, like it or not, you WILL be approached so, might be best if you learned how to deal with it!

This is most definitely NOT an approach btw but, there are a lot of very wise heads around here so, hope you can learn from them!

good luck with your ambition to find an "alternative Tranny" !

 

[Rueben80]

How much sympathy do you think I would get if I showed up at work everyday pissed because someone cut me off in traffic that morning? It happens. Deal with it.