How Fluid is Your Sexuality?

[Safe_Bet]

I want Stella, too!

That woman is like unobtanium!!! A highly valuable female found on the moon Pandora

I love it when you go all geek chick!

 

[girlsmiley]

I love it when you go all geek chick!

I love it, too

 

[infinity706]

And you are basing this opinion on exactly what, dude?

The woman showed respect for people's preferred sexuality and choices. She did that based upon her own knowledge and involvement in lesbian culture. That is something I'm guessing you don't have a lot of experience with.

Why don't you show HER some respect and stop disagreeing with things you know nothing about.


P.S. Oh, and not wanting to fuck you isn't exactly "guy bashing" (unless you're 16 y.o. punk posting on a porn board, of course )

I actually have quite a few bi/lesbian friends. The only complaint I've ever heard was from one of them that feels bi-curious women aren't worth the trouble because they're too likely to back out. Just because you want to act like a whiny, bigoted cunt and bash all guys for the crime of having a penis doesn't mean you're representative of all lesbians. Seriously, you can go fuck the horse you rode in on.

 

[girlsmiley]

I actually have quite a few bi/lesbian friends. The only complaint I've ever heard was from one of them that feels bi-curious women aren't worth the trouble because they're too likely to back out. Just because you want to act like a whiny, bigoted cunt and bash all guys for the crime of having a penis doesn't mean you're representative of all lesbians. Seriously, you can go fuck the horse you rode in on.

Huh???

Don't get ugly.
it's not a crime to not want cock.
i'm not a man-basher because I don't want to fuck men.
that's ridiculous.

you're ridiculous!

you do need to show Luna some respect.
you do need to show Safe_Bet some respect.

I'm glad these girls are around
who else would keep the silly noobs like you at bay?

 

[scriptordelecto]

I'd say you probably missed out on a lot of fun lesbians that wouldn't have given a shit whether you liked guys or not. Being strictly clitly doesn't have to involve guy bashing.

I actually have quite a few bi/lesbian friends. The only complaint I've ever heard was from one of them that feels bi-curious women aren't worth the trouble because they're too likely to back out.

Make up your mind, honey. BTW....just wondering if your hair is that neon orange or the bubble gum pink....

 

[infinity706]

What am I making up my mind on? I never said I was a lesbian or even a woman. For the record, I'm a pansexual guy. I do have lesbian friends that have dated women that have husbands/boyfriends, though. None of the lesbians I know have any particular problem with bi chicks and none of the bi chicks I know have any problem with lesbians.

Oh, and my hair is actually brown.

 

[infinity706]

Huh???

Don't get ugly.
it's not a crime to not want cock.
i'm not a man-basher because I don't want to fuck men.
that's ridiculous.

you're ridiculous!

you do need to show Luna some respect.
you do need to show Safe_Bet some respect.

I'm glad these girls are around
who else would keep the silly noobs like you at bay?

I don't have any problem with your or Luna. I don't particularly have any problem with Save_Bet, either, when she's not going off on some rediculous rant about all guys. There's plenty of guys out there that have more sense than to hit on a lesbian in the first place.

 

[blueberree]

I changed

I saw myself as having significant relationships with men, or at least that was my goal. I was married to a man for about 8 years. Since that time, I'm not planning on more men.

Before I got married, I had a bit of experience and enjoyed it so so much. I realized that at some level, it was the idea of women and sex with women that was really the most erotically charged for me. I wasn't ready at the time though to think of myself as changed in my sexuality. I told myself it was the novelty.

I feel as though I'm still evolving. And as I've reached a different level of self acceptance, I notice women noticing me differently. Either I was blind before, or not giving off the right vibes, or blindly not seeing the vibes others were sending in my direction.

I turned 50 this year and been freer about enjoying myself and hopefully, providing some enjoyment! I'm not sure where I am on the scale, so to speak, right now. I'm not looking for a relationship, but yes, women are infinitely interesting intellectually and sexually.

When I was younger, I suspected that my interests really were with women, but I was so afraid of what it would mean for me. I'm less worried about that now.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I don't mean they cheated on anyone. I mean hiding it from the general public. It's way easier to do that when you're fucking same sex people.

I'd say you probably missed out on a lot of fun lesbians that wouldn't have given a shit whether you liked guys or not. Being strictly clitly doesn't have to involve guy bashing.

What I missed out on was dragging a woman~ who has no interest in men~ into my tangled love life while I figured out I was completely queer. I was being fair. Where I am from, there are too many women who are actively bi, actively out, actively looking. Why would I have asked a lesbian to take a chance on being with a female like myself when I was still (at that time) living a predominantly hetero lifestyle?

And you are basing this opinion on exactly what, dude?

The woman showed respect for people's preferred sexuality and choices. She did that based upon her own knowledge and involvement in lesbian culture. That is something I'm guessing you don't have a lot of experience with.

Why don't you show HER some respect and stop disagreeing with things you know nothing about.


P.S. Oh, and not wanting to fuck you isn't exactly "guy bashing" (unless you're 16 y.o. punk posting on a porn board, of course )

Thanks sexy bitch. I didn't realize that keeping my cunt away from true lesbians while I was still allowing a penis in it was being disrespectful to guys. *head shake*

I want Stella, too!

That woman is like unobtanium!!! A highly valuable female found on the moon Pandora

She makes my knees weak....*sighs*

I actually have quite a few bi/lesbian friends. The only complaint I've ever heard was from one of them that feels bi-curious women aren't worth the trouble because they're too likely to back out. Just because you want to act like a whiny, bigoted cunt and bash all guys for the crime of having a penis doesn't mean you're representative of all lesbians. Seriously, you can go fuck the horse you rode in on.

No one has bashed ALL guys, anywhere. You are misrepresenting what she said and twisting it to suit your own perverse need to be right. And that sucks, because I thought you were sensible.

Huh???

Don't get ugly.
it's not a crime to not want cock.
i'm not a man-basher because I don't want to fuck men.
that's ridiculous.

you're ridiculous!

you do need to show Luna some respect.
you do need to show Safe_Bet some respect.

I'm glad these girls are around
who else would keep the silly noobs like you at bay?

smiley one, can you please just sit on my face? Kthnxbye....

What am I making up my mind on? I never said I was a lesbian or even a woman. For the record, I'm a pansexual guy. I do have lesbian friends that have dated women that have husbands/boyfriends, though. None of the lesbians I know have any particular problem with bi chicks and none of the bi chicks I know have any problem with lesbians.

Oh, and my hair is actually brown.

I understand your point. I truly do. I am sure there are some lesbians who are fine dating actively bi/omni/pansexual girls. From my long experience (20 plus years) I have never met ONE who was into me while I was actively bi. That is my personal take, YMMV.

I have always hung out with lesbians, even when I considered myself bi...and in my case when they said I was hiding in the closet...and confused...it was true. So I listened when they talked about the girls that ran through females at the bar and ran home to hubby. I heard the tone of voice, the absolute LOATHING, all the time. THAT was my initial point. When I was actively bi, I refused to allow the lesbians I knew to feel disrespected by my life choices by inviting them to my bed. It would have been disrespectful to them.

If a woman doesn't want to look at a penis, touch a penis, fuck a penis, kiss a penis...then why should I have done anything that would have made that possible, even second hand? I chose well, I chose correctly, for my time period, for my area of the world, for myself.

That doesn't mean I bashed guys...or hated on them. It means that the lesbians I know/knew were actively turned off by the thought of a penis...and I respected them enough to keep my cunt away from em.

 

[girlsmiley]

I don't have any problem with your or Luna. I don't particularly have any problem with Save_Bet, either, when she's not going off on some rediculous rant about all guys. There's plenty of guys out there that have more sense than to hit on a lesbian in the first place.

What are you talking about?
You're the only one who seems to be off his chops and ranting here, mate.

Poor form...

 

[LadyAria]

I've been "bi" for 19 years. I don't use that term. I don't really think about the gender of who I'm attracted to so much as what I'm attracted to. I guess statistics would call me a lesbian. Women are generally more appealing and sexually attractive. I've been with more women.

However, I love my current boyfriend. I'm happiest with him then I've been with anyone. Partly, I think it's that many things about his personality are feminine as mine is masculine. We balance each other.

 

[infinity706]

What I missed out on was dragging a woman~ who has no interest in men~ into my tangled love life while I figured out I was completely queer. I was being fair. Where I am from, there are too many women who are actively bi, actively out, actively looking. Why would I have asked a lesbian to take a chance on being with a female like myself when I was still (at that time) living a predominantly hetero lifestyle?



Thanks sexy bitch. I didn't realize that keeping my cunt away from true lesbians while I was still allowing a penis in it was being disrespectful to guys. *head shake*



She makes my knees weak....*sighs*



No one has bashed ALL guys, anywhere. You are misrepresenting what she said and twisting it to suit your own perverse need to be right. And that sucks, because I thought you were sensible.



smiley one, can you please just sit on my face? Kthnxbye....



I understand your point. I truly do. I am sure there are some lesbians who are fine dating actively bi/omni/pansexual girls. From my long experience (20 plus years) I have never met ONE who was into me while I was actively bi. That is my personal take, YMMV.

I have always hung out with lesbians, even when I considered myself bi...and in my case when they said I was hiding in the closet...and confused...it was true. So I listened when they talked about the girls that ran through females at the bar and ran home to hubby. I heard the tone of voice, the absolute LOATHING, all the time. THAT was my initial point. When I was actively bi, I refused to allow the lesbians I knew to feel disrespected by my life choices by inviting them to my bed. It would have been disrespectful to them.

If a woman doesn't want to look at a penis, touch a penis, fuck a penis, kiss a penis...then why should I have done anything that would have made that possible, even second hand? I chose well, I chose correctly, for my time period, for my area of the world, for myself.

That doesn't mean I bashed guys...or hated on them. It means that the lesbians I know/knew were actively turned off by the thought of a penis...and I respected them enough to keep my cunt away from em.

Hey, fair enough. I never meant to speak for any particular lesbian, anyway.

What are you talking about?
You're the only one who seems to be off his chops and ranting here, mate.

Poor form...

I don't mean in this particular thread.

 

[girlsmiley]

What I missed out on was dragging a woman~ who has no interest in men~ into my tangled love life while I figured out I was completely queer. I was being fair. Where I am from, there are too many women who are actively bi, actively out, actively looking. Why would I have asked a lesbian to take a chance on being with a female like myself when I was still (at that time) living a predominantly hetero lifestyle?

Thanks sexy bitch. I didn't realize that keeping my cunt away from true lesbians while I was still allowing a penis in it was being disrespectful to guys. *head shake*

She makes my knees weak....*sighs*

No one has bashed ALL guys, anywhere. You are misrepresenting what she said and twisting it to suit your own perverse need to be right. And that sucks, because I thought you were sensible.

smiley one, can you please just sit on my face? Kthnxbye....

I understand your point. I truly do. I am sure there are some lesbians who are fine dating actively bi/omni/pansexual girls. From my long experience (20 plus years) I have never met ONE who was into me while I was actively bi. That is my personal take, YMMV.

I have always hung out with lesbians, even when I considered myself bi...and in my case when they said I was hiding in the closet...and confused...it was true. So I listened when they talked about the girls that ran through females at the bar and ran home to hubby. I heard the tone of voice, the absolute LOATHING, all the time. THAT was my initial point. When I was actively bi, I refused to allow the lesbians I knew to feel disrespected by my life choices by inviting them to my bed. It would have been disrespectful to them.

If a woman doesn't want to look at a penis, touch a penis, fuck a penis, kiss a penis...then why should I have done anything that would have made that possible, even second hand? I chose well, I chose correctly, for my time period, for my area of the world, for myself.

That doesn't mean I bashed guys...or hated on them. It means that the lesbians I know/knew were actively turned off by the thought of a penis...and I respected them enough to keep my cunt away from em.

I love this whole post.



yes. yes I can

 

[girlsmiley]

I don't mean in this particular thread.

*singing voice*

Well how about you go to the thread you mean and rant there?

 

[Stella_Omega]

What I missed out on was dragging a woman~ who has no interest in men~ into my tangled love life while I figured out I was completely queer. I was being fair. Where I am from, there are too many women who are actively bi, actively out, actively looking. Why would I have asked a lesbian to take a chance on being with a female like myself when I was still (at that time) living a predominantly hetero lifestyle?



Thanks sexy bitch. I didn't realize that keeping my cunt away from true lesbians while I was still allowing a penis in it was being disrespectful to guys. *head shake*



She makes my knees weak....*sighs*



No one has bashed ALL guys, anywhere. You are misrepresenting what she said and twisting it to suit your own perverse need to be right. And that sucks, because I thought you were sensible.



smiley one, can you please just sit on my face? Kthnxbye....



I understand your point. I truly do. I am sure there are some lesbians who are fine dating actively bi/omni/pansexual girls. From my long experience (20 plus years) I have never met ONE who was into me while I was actively bi. That is my personal take, YMMV.

I have always hung out with lesbians, even when I considered myself bi...and in my case when they said I was hiding in the closet...and confused...it was true. So I listened when they talked about the girls that ran through females at the bar and ran home to hubby. I heard the tone of voice, the absolute LOATHING, all the time. THAT was my initial point. When I was actively bi, I refused to allow the lesbians I knew to feel disrespected by my life choices by inviting them to my bed. It would have been disrespectful to them.

If a woman doesn't want to look at a penis, touch a penis, fuck a penis, kiss a penis...then why should I have done anything that would have made that possible, even second hand? I chose well, I chose correctly, for my time period, for my area of the world, for myself.

That doesn't mean I bashed guys...or hated on them. It means that the lesbians I know/knew were actively turned off by the thought of a penis...and I respected them enough to keep my cunt away from em.

Everything you say here, everything. Except I don't make my knees weak, other women do... and yes, a few men, even now...

My sexuality isn't as fluid as it used to be, that's for sure. I didn't use to care that so many hunky dudes were also operating on a gerbil-sized brain-- I can't figure out why that matters to me now, but it does. It's a shame, IMO. I do, still like male bodies.

I'm queer, I might be a dyke, but I have never known a woman who describes herself as a lesbian that would be comfortable with me as a sex partner for very long if at all. I would never ask her to make such an effort.

(unobtanium? OMG you guys, that's gotta be the nicest thing anyone's ever said!)

 

[SweetErika]

What am I making up my mind on? I never said I was a lesbian or even a woman. For the record, I'm a pansexual guy. I do have lesbian friends that have dated women that have husbands/boyfriends, though. None of the lesbians I know have any particular problem with bi chicks and none of the bi chicks I know have any problem with lesbians.

Oh, and my hair is actually brown.

Go browse through the Craigslist W4W ads for a major city. They give a pretty clear idea of how the vast majority of lesbians feel about bi women. Most of the ads say something like "no bisexuals," or at the very least, "bis for platonic friendship only" or "absolutely no bi women who are involved with men." Bi women and lesbians are definitely two distinct camps in most places.

Because of this prevailing attitude, I wouldn't ever try to initiate a romantic relationship with a lesbian as a married bi woman, unless she explicitly stated she was fine with my situation. Even then, it'd be iffy, as I likely wouldn't be welcomed by her friends or into her corner of the community.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Hey, fair enough. I never meant to speak for any particular lesbian, anyway.

Cool. Thanks.

I love this whole post.



yes. yes I can

Sweet! *waits for it, mouth open, tongue out*

Everything you say here, everything. Except I don't make my knees weak, other women do... and yes, a few men, even now...

My sexuality isn't as fluid as it used to be, that's for sure. I didn't use to care that so many hunky dudes were also operating on a gerbil-sized brain-- I can't figure out why that matters to me now, but it does. It's a shame, IMO. I do, still like male bodies.

I'm queer, I might be a dyke, but I have never known a woman who describes herself as a lesbian that would be comfortable with me as a sex partner for very long if at all. I would never ask her to make such an effort.

(unobtanium? OMG you guys, that's gotta be the nicest thing anyone's ever said!)

My sexuality has never been very fluid...I just made it be so. *shrugs*

I think the discussion itself is a good one though, because I would have NEVER thought in a million years that i would walk away from my children's father and never look back. Yet, it's been a lil less than 5 years...and I am still craving everything that made me go.

 

[infinity706]

Go browse through the Craigslist W4W ads for a major city. They give a pretty clear idea of how the vast majority of lesbians feel about bi women. Most of the ads say something like "no bisexuals," or at the very least, "bis for platonic friendship only" or "absolutely no bi women who are involved with men." Bi women and lesbians are definitely two distinct camps in most places.

Because of this prevailing attitude, I wouldn't ever try to initiate a romantic relationship with a lesbian as a married bi woman, unless she explicitly stated she was fine with my situation. Even then, it'd be iffy, as I likely wouldn't be welcomed by her friends or into her corner of the community.

A lot of the ads I looked at didn't mention orientation. They were simply posted under "Women for Women." I did see a couple like you described, though. I'll take your word for it for now, though. It's not like I have any experience pursuing lesbian women.

 

[sterculius]

I wouldn't say that my sexuality has changed over my lifetime, but what has evolved is how I feel about who I am. I have always considered myself to be "straight" and for the longest time, I was ambivalent about having had a same sex relationship with my best friend as a teenager, or more specifically, that I had really enjoyed my role of being his personal cocksucker as he rarely reciprocated. After we graduated from high school and gradually grew apart to pursue our separate lives, I began to regret my earlier enthusiasm for performing fellatio even though I would still got aroused by the recollection. It took me quite a while to accept and eventually embrace the knowledge that I am, in fact, a "cocksucker" and that I like being one.

 

[fingermagic]

I actually think I have moved in a different direction. I was more into guys when I was a young man. I still enjoy them and find I really need to be with one I am attracted to with some frequency, but women have gained more and more of my attention lately. I have always found labels a necessary evil and have settled for pansexual as my label, since most seem to demand that I be labeled with something that catigorizes my sexuality. But, again when I think about it, women seem to be getting a lot of my attention. Maybe it is because the dom in me has been expressed lately and I do not practice in a D/s relationship with guys. Oddly enough, I am a bottom with guys and can be a bit submissive in that role. Being true to my pansexual self, I go with the moment.

 

[blueberree]

Go browse through the Craigslist W4W ads for a major city. They give a pretty clear idea of how the vast majority of lesbians feel about bi women. Most of the ads say something like "no bisexuals," or at the very least, "bis for platonic friendship only" or "absolutely no bi women who are involved with men." Bi women and lesbians are definitely two distinct camps in most places.

Because of this prevailing attitude, I wouldn't ever try to initiate a romantic relationship with a lesbian as a married bi woman, unless she explicitly stated she was fine with my situation. Even then, it'd be iffy, as I likely wouldn't be welcomed by her friends or into her corner of the community.

Exactly. As Luna stated and others supported, not only would it be unwelcomed by most, I think that it is potentially emotionally painful. Someone might initially be okay with the arrangement but her feelings change and yours don't...torture.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Make up your mind, honey. BTW....just wondering if your hair is that neon orange or the bubble gum pink....

Be careful! If he has neon orange hair, and you don't want to have sex with him, he will accuse you of neon orange haired troll bashing...

 

[infinity706]

I don't mind at all if someone doesn't want to have sex with me. I'll just go find one or more people that do. It's not like I have enough fingers to count the number of times I've had sex with 4+ people in a day. On a couple occasions, I've even had a line in front of me like some of the porno chicks.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I don't mind at all if someone doesn't want to have sex with me. I'll just go find one or more people that do. It's not like I have enough fingers to count the number of times I've had sex with 4+ people in a day. On a couple occasions, I've even had a line in front of me like some of the porno chicks.

Did you all get paid?

But seriously, thank you for this. It's always so off-putting when some guy takes it personal that he can't have every woman his eye happens to light on.

 

[infinity706]

No, there was no payment. I mean more like a contest to see who gives the best head. It's not like it's too much of a health risk when you use condoms, though. For the women, you just cut off both ends and split it down the side. That makes a nice, square piece of latex and lets you use condoms for everything rather than buying dental dams special just to go down on women.

Honestly, I get annoyed with the guys that do that, too, and I've actually told quite a few off. It's not like it just happens to women, though. Many of those same guys get pissy if another guy won't have sex with them. Of course, it's not really any more annoying than the women that go around taunting other women for being whores when they're fucking a bunch of people, too.