How frequently would you want to have sex with someone, if you could?

[PMarky2]

I was quite happy with a full on session on a Wednesday afternoon, a quicky or a long slow screw after church on Sundays, and sometimes on a weekday morning when we both woke up horny. That was the default for years until the autoimmune crap started. The more adventurous sex usually happened at conferences - hotel room, both bored, and we'd get to "I know - let's fuck! Have you tried..."

Going at it every day even in the early days of our relationship was not really an option, as I am on the larger side and she needed some recovery time between bouts of love making. It happened a few times during the horny stage of the relationship and she had days when she couldn't walk straight.

 

[Samtran123]

About 3 to 5 times a week.

 

[Curbs47]

Yeah no kidding I would be happy with 3 to 5 times a week.

Thing is, my partner says things like "oh after the very first 'hot phase' of the relationship the spark is just gone and we just wanna take things slow".

Thing is, I don't feel that way at all! We have been together for 9 years now, married for 4, but I could literally keep going nonstop the way we were in the very first week, if it was up to me*!
I have frankly no idea what that "spark" thing is supposed to be.

*but the uphill battle is just too frustrating. It takes two to tango.

I hear ya! I would take it daily or more evening it were routine at this point lol

 

[Thepachu]

3 to 4 times a week and more on holidays

 

[Sunlover101]

2 to 3 times a week. Each session good for an hour r so, dependon the stule engaged in I think is about right for me.
Toss a quickie or two as well down at the office or out in some public domain.

 

[WeShallUnclench]

Average 2 times a week. I am way to busy and exhausted from work for anymore than that these days.

That's still fairly impressive. Most people I talk to irl, "exhausted from work" = 0 sex

 

[tristantrotsky]

Honestly twice a day everyday. Im a bit of a nympho. I have to get myself of twice a day on a good day to stop my bad moods.

On the hour, every hour...

 

[SevMax2]

When it comes to some of my colleagues, I would love to have sex with them on a daily basis, but alas, that's not very realistic. Especially one of my direct supervisors, a very busty and very pregnant Latina who has a nice, nerdy look and a bubbly kind of charisma to her.

 

[Exhibit0013]

2-3 times a week

 

[IARainman]

Having gone over 5 years without any interpersonal sex, My prospective may be off. I masturbate throughout the day, pretty much daily, so with a willing, active ADHD enthusiastic partner, I would think almost daily with multiples on occasion would be ideal, recognizing that everyone needs a break sometimes

 

[JustDave478]

Daily. Sometimes multiple times.

 

[NOBGE]

Do you ever get horny?

No, seriously. It's a bit on the nose, regarding what site we are on, but there is a genuine question in here.

Through informal surveys around me as well as polls on tumblr, I am increasingly under the impression that other people do not actually care about sex all that much.

For instance, I remember a poll that went something like, "how often would you want to have sex with another person, if you could?"

I thought for sure most people would say something like once or twice a day.
Nope.
The most popular responses were more in the realm between once a month or never.

Most people around me say things like, watching TV or flat out sleeping is better.

My own spouse flat out forgets that sex even exists as a possibility unless I tell them (they also claim to never masturbate).

So I thought, let's go to the site that is run by sex nerds and see if I get different results.

At least daily or more.

 

[rthnck]

I'm extremely fortunate to have a significant other who is up for it every other day. The routine we settled on is that we take turns so she gets whatever she wants on her turn and then 48 hours later, I get whatever I want. And even with all that, I wouldn't mind more. Daily is probably too much for the long haul but I wouldn't mind trying it out for a while

 

[jdh276]

I would love to have it daily. Even 3 to 5 times a week would be great. Right now I'm lucky if I get it once every two weeks.

 

[Goldenfinger]

What we want and what out backs and knees will let us do are not in sync.

 

[FreckledSprite]

First thing in the morning and again midday would keep me satisfied. More often on certain days.

 

[Lamia03]

First thing in the morning and again midday would keep me satisfied. More often on certain days.

That’s what my lover says too.

He prefers in the morning, I at night, so we compromise but that one week each month when I’m ovulating, I have gone nearly the whole week, 2-3 times each day.

 

[LittleTitLover]

Morning and night.

 

[Madhatter02]

Have a high sex drive when the moods strikes 1-2 times daily would be nice but understand change and growing together to find that happy medium

 

[Stockholmblondie]

Depends on mood and situation…are we including teasing, playing, edging? Too hard to answer

 

[jason28053]

Depends on mood and situation…are we including teasing, playing, edging? Too hard to answer

Quality over quantity is my opinion

 

[VerbalRK]

at least once a day!

 

[Strixaluco]

My experience is that weekly, on average, is fine for me. Sometimes more often, sometimes less. Maybe a more active period during a holiday.

 

[Sgts19]

Guess it would depend on who I was fucking. We usually fuck 2 or 3 times a week now which is my max...with my wife. Lets face it after fucking the same person for 46 years it does get to be ho hum been there done that a million times. ??

 

[Strixaluco]

I remember how with my ex (the one with whom sex worked well till the end) we had originally sex 2-3 per day when we met (not every week due to long distance). But once we moved together, it was quickly down to once a week. It was just... Enough. And also work made that we didn't fancy it more often.

Now... Not living together with my partner yet, but we have the possibility of having sex about once a week - and it keeps me satisfied.

Then of course "once" is way more than one intercourse It's usually a long session of sex.