how to be more trustful, less jealous

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gr3g,
Read and re-read what PinkOrchid and lovechild27 had to say.

Your are being given the classic relationship run-a-round. She is not telling you the truth, you have every reason to be jealous and you should get out of this relationship.

Any women who gets angery at their bf who asks them if she is cheating on him is exactly cheating on him. Most responses would be an honest, suprised answer, not a defensive angery answer.

6 months, the relationship is young, you live four hours away, she is twenty-one and likes to party, also she tested positive for an STD, chances are she likes to get around.

Buddy, you are being walked all over, open your eyes see the truth for what it is, and find a responsible women who will NOT have sex with you unless you are protected.

 

[gr3g]

i asked her yesterday why she didn't ask me... she got a little pissed, said it was because i was only with one other person, said maybe she did get it from me (i think only out of anger) and hung up again..

that really got to me that she hung up again and the next time i do get to talk to her, i'm going to ask if she can actually have an adult conversation with me.. it's definately not helping the situation by her doing that with me but i'm still hoping for everything to just be bad coincidences...


edit: talked to her today.. there was a time before then when she had an infection.. and the nurse told her it was either an infection or chlamydia.. but they just said it was an infection.. and she said that she told me it could be either or... which i don't remember... but i don't have the best of memories either so there's a good possibility of it..

just curious to see what all of you thought... it seems like it might be a little far fetched.. but i was also asking the nurse today and she said its possible for the test to come back negative and sitll have it, etc etc

 

[Weird Harold]

just curious to see what all of you thought... it seems like it might be a little far fetched.. but i was also asking the nurse today and she said its possible for the test to come back negative and sitll have it, etc etc

You seem to be grasping at any possible explanation to fit your preconception that she's trustworthy. The more you tell us about her, your relationship and her reactions, the more it sounds as if you're being played like a small fish on a big hook.

 

[lovechild27]

Hun....PLEASE for the love of all that is holy...GET YORU HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS!


She is grasping at anythign she can think of to get out of this. You dont "almost" or MAYBE have chlamydia. You have it or you dont.


Regardless of if she cheated or not...she sounds like a total, ununderstanding shrew. I see guys like you (ie NICE guys) get walked on all the time. Std issue aside...she isnt the girl for you. This isnt going to turn into the love relationship of your life and she isnt going to be around forver. And that is ok. There is someone else much better out there for you. The damage this is doing to whatever relationship you two have is going to end up being irrepairable. She isnt an adult, so dont expect her to have a grown up conversation. She sounds like she has the mentality of a 16 year old girl. get over her and get on with things...you really dont need this.

We all say she is cheating because it sounds like she is. Sometimes, you have to follow that hunch. What is unsaid can speak louder than words....

 

[Wantonica]

*Sigh*

This is something you will look back on on day. You'll be pondering a certain thought:

"If I only knew then what I know now."

We are really trying to help you; that is what you asked of us.

Hugs,
Wantonica

 

[gr3g]

thanks for all the help/advice... maybe its the wrong thing to do... but i do trust her.. but if i do find out anything.. i will let you guys know and you can tell me that you told me so.. i know how from what i've been saying she sounds really bad and all that.. but i do know her really well and feel like i should trust her..