How to Break off a sex chat...

[jordansgirl74]

...OK, so seriously, you're in this sex chat, things seem to be going good at first and then, it's like cold bucket of water on you and you're no longer interested in this person...soooooooo


How do you break it off without being rude or a bitch/asshole???

 

[Lady Reiha]

...OK, so seriously, you're in this sex chat, things seem to be going good at first and then, it's like cold bucket of water on you and you're no longer interested in this person...soooooooo


How do you break it off without being rude or a bitch/asshole???

Be a Bitch/ Asshole.


Or.........



Just say you have to go because your child woke up. Bam. Mood Killer right there!

 

[SweetErika]

I'd probably say, "It was great to meet you. However..." then either:

- Give some credible-sounding excuse for why you need to go offline, even if it's just that you're "feeling off" and/or "having a lot of trouble getting into it because you're really tired/stressed."

- Tell them you're just not feeling the chemistry at this point, but you hope they find what they're looking for soon.

If you find this really bothersome, or are having this issue more often than you'd like, perhaps it'd be worth it to put some effort into more rigorous screening and potentially finding partners you click with on more levels. The forums are a great tool for this, IMO, since you can check out profiles, posting history and see how you get on with people in threads and via PM first. The exceptional personalities, writers and potential chat partners (sexual or not) usually show themselves very clearly when they're interacting and writing about a variety of subjects. Cybering isn't my thing, but I can think of a bunch of people I've only had platonic exchanges with here who would likely be incredible partners if we both wanted to go the cyber route.

 

[twister947]

The thing about breaking up is, there's no good time, place, or way. Just say what's on your mind, and get it over with.

 

[NightL]

"I can't wait for you to meet my parents..."

 

[jtrott]

WOW ,... That's too good.. I downloaded some for masturbation now..

 

[RedheadedHaze]

"I can't wait for you to meet my parents..."

LMAO... Quality, right there.

 

[Hhot]

Try this:

Guy: Ok baby, we got to hurry, I don't know how long I can keep it ready for you.
Girl: thats ok. ok i'm a japanese schoolgirl, what r u.
Guy: A Rhinocerus. Well, hung like one, thats for sure.
Girl: haha, ok lets go.
Girl: i put my hand through ur hair, and kiss u on the neck.
Guy: I stomp the ground, and snort, to alert you that you are in my breeding territory.
Girl: haha, ok, u know that turns me on.
Girl: i start unbuttoning ur shirt.
Guy: Rhinoceruses don't wear shirts.
Girl: No, ur not really a Rhinocerus silly, it's just part of the game.
Guy: Rhinoceruses don't play games. They fucking charge your ass.
Girl: stop, cmon be serious.
Guy: It doesn't get any more serious than a Rhinocerus about to charge your ass.
Guy: I stomp my feet, the dust stirs around my tough skinned feet.
Girl: thats it.
Guy: Nostrils flaring, I lower my head. My horn, like some phallic symbol of my potent virility, is the last thing you see as skulls collide and mine remains the victor. You are now a bloody red ragdoll suspended in the air on my mighty horn.
Guy: Goddam am I hard now.
Girl: /ignore

 

[CurvAppeal]

I am a very honest and blunt person. What ever is on my mind I voice it, type it, express it w/e.

If I do not want to talk to a person anymore, I try to be as kind and as honest as I can without hurting the person's feelings.

Honesty is the best policy at all times even if it gets you into trouble.

 

[jayce1066]

Try this:

Guy: Ok baby, we got to hurry, I don't know how long I can keep it ready for you.
Girl: thats ok. ok i'm a japanese schoolgirl, what r u.
Guy: A Rhinocerus. Well, hung like one, thats for sure.
Girl: haha, ok lets go.
Girl: i put my hand through ur hair, and kiss u on the neck.
Guy: I stomp the ground, and snort, to alert you that you are in my breeding territory.
Girl: haha, ok, u know that turns me on.
Girl: i start unbuttoning ur shirt.
Guy: Rhinoceruses don't wear shirts.
Girl: No, ur not really a Rhinocerus silly, it's just part of the game.
Guy: Rhinoceruses don't play games. They fucking charge your ass.
Girl: stop, cmon be serious.
Guy: It doesn't get any more serious than a Rhinocerus about to charge your ass.
Guy: I stomp my feet, the dust stirs around my tough skinned feet.
Girl: thats it.
Guy: Nostrils flaring, I lower my head. My horn, like some phallic symbol of my potent virility, is the last thing you see as skulls collide and mine remains the victor. You are now a bloody red ragdoll suspended in the air on my mighty horn.
Guy: Goddam am I hard now.
Girl: /ignore

Damn near busted a gut laughing.
Thank you for posting that.

 

[CameronQuick]

Hey Wait!!!!!

This is all stuff you guys have used on me!

 

[CurvAppeal]

Damn near busted a gut laughing.
Thank you for posting that.

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LOLOLOLL ROFLROFLROFLORFLMFAO. omg wow.

 

[jordansgirl74]

I'd probably say, "It was great to meet you. However..." then either:

- Give some credible-sounding excuse for why you need to go offline, even if it's just that you're "feeling off" and/or "having a lot of trouble getting into it because you're really tired/stressed."

- Tell them you're just not feeling the chemistry at this point, but you hope they find what they're looking for soon.

If you find this really bothersome, or are having this issue more often than you'd like, perhaps it'd be worth it to put some effort into more rigorous screening and potentially finding partners you click with on more levels. The forums are a great tool for this, IMO, since you can check out profiles, posting history and see how you get on with people in threads and via PM first. The exceptional personalities, writers and potential chat partners (sexual or not) usually show themselves very clearly when they're interacting and writing about a variety of subjects. Cybering isn't my thing, but I can think of a bunch of people I've only had platonic exchanges with here who would likely be incredible partners if we both wanted to go the cyber route.

Although I did love the humerous chat anectdode with rhinocesarurs (sp?) I think SweetEricka helped me out quite a bit here.

See, I was one of those "noobs" that accepted the offers of chatting from anyone and everyone the first night I was on here, and a little bit on the 2nd night and NOW I KNOW. SO, thank you for all the input. I'm definitely feeling better about how to get away.

Note: To the guys I still keep in contact with, yeah, this post wasn't about you. To the ones I don't, yeah this post was about you (and others). Just because now I'm getting my chat partners asking me if it was them that drove me to this post, lol.

Sorry if I offended anyone, but if it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be.

 

[SweetErika]

See, I was one of those "noobs" that accepted the offers of chatting from anyone and everyone the first night I was on here, and a little bit on the 2nd night and NOW I KNOW. SO, thank you for all the input. I'm definitely feeling better about how to get away.

Yep, as a woman, you can afford to be as selective as you want, so it doesn't hurt to screen heavily and take on only the very best partners who you can collaborate with to keep things exciting as time goes on.

And if those partners don't work out down the road for whatever reason(s), you might as well be honest in a kind way. The people you really want to chat with are going to be mature enough to appreciate that type of communication.

I don't know how you're chatting, or what you already know, but since you've called yourself a "noob," I'll say this anyway: If you ever share pics or use a webcam, don't show anything you don't want shared, or plastered all over the internet. We've heard complaints about having webcam footage secretly recorded and images shared without the owner's consent in the past, even by people who were long-time friends and boyfriends. Yeah, being selective helps, but you still don't truly know who you're dealing with, or how they might react to receiving exciting material or feeling wronged by you at some point. So, just be sure to treat your images as carefully as you would your name, address, phone, SSN, or any other identifying/personal info. I'm probably not going to be very popular with many guys for telling you this, but you're better safe than sorry!

Good luck finding the best chat partners, and have a blast!

 

[Felix_Jones]

...OK, so seriously, you're in this sex chat, things seem to be going good at first and then, it's like cold bucket of water on you and you're no longer interested in this person...soooooooo


How do you break it off without being rude or a bitch/asshole???

Do the manly thing, just stop returning messages, emails, etc. They'll get the hint. I've done that and had it done to me, everybody eventually just moves on.

 

[swtrthnhoney]

Be honest. Don't make up some s**t that is not really believable anyway.
Of course, there is always the "ignore" button.

 

[bb4ls]

Next time I chat with Jordan's girl, If she brings up Rhino's I"M FUCKEN GONE!!!!!

 

[Hhot]

Do the manly thing, just stop returning messages, emails, etc. They'll get the hint. I've done that and had it done to me, everybody eventually just moves on.

Is the "manly thing" now the "coward thing?"

 

[Hannah90]

"I can't wait for you to meet my parents..."

Now this one is good, I'll have to use it, ha ha ha! xxx

 

[PublicAffection]

Now this one is good, I'll have to use it, ha ha ha! xxx

Do be careful with this one though... you never know which one of those guys are going to be a sponge and decide that this means you really are "The One".

 

[intenselycurious]

Do the manly thing, just stop returning messages, emails, etc. They'll get the hint. I've done that and had it done to me, everybody eventually just moves on.

I have to admit that I have found that very hurtful when someone who has told me that 'they really are into me and want to continue talking' and then they don't contact me again, is not manly - it's mean. If you want to stop chatting, just say say so, be nice but say 'it's not working' - anything but complete abandonment...

 

[sereneone4u]

Try this:

Guy: Ok baby, we got to hurry, I don't know how long I can keep it ready for you.
Girl: thats ok. ok i'm a japanese schoolgirl, what r u.
Guy: A Rhinocerus. Well, hung like one, thats for sure.
Girl: haha, ok lets go.
Girl: i put my hand through ur hair, and kiss u on the neck.
Guy: I stomp the ground, and snort, to alert you that you are in my breeding territory.
Girl: haha, ok, u know that turns me on.
Girl: i start unbuttoning ur shirt.
Guy: Rhinoceruses don't wear shirts.
Girl: No, ur not really a Rhinocerus silly, it's just part of the game.
Guy: Rhinoceruses don't play games. They fucking charge your ass.
Girl: stop, cmon be serious.
Guy: It doesn't get any more serious than a Rhinocerus about to charge your ass.
Guy: I stomp my feet, the dust stirs around my tough skinned feet.
Girl: thats it.
Guy: Nostrils flaring, I lower my head. My horn, like some phallic symbol of my potent virility, is the last thing you see as skulls collide and mine remains the victor. You are now a bloody red ragdoll suspended in the air on my mighty horn.
Guy: Goddam am I hard now.
Girl: /ignore

I am dying over here! That is so funny.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

I've had to tell a couple guys that what they were saying wasn't doing the trick for me, and I had no guilt...the thing is be honest, don't be a jerk.

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

You know we used to have what was considered a certain degree of civility. It was called being polite. The anonymity of the net has kinda thrown that concept down the oubliette.

Were it me I would simply say.
"I am sorry this is not working for me. I am sorry it did not work. Thanks for playing."

It ain't hard and it does not have to be rude. A simple statement and you and it are done.

Try to imagine if real life was like the net.

Mike

 

[tilleul]

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