How to deal with a decision....

[hotasianchick]

Hi everyone. I am currently dating a guy who lives in another state. We do role plays and phone sex to ease the cravings. The other day he had some friends over who like to do orgies but he has never participated... he was quite turned on and phone sex with me was not enough so I gave him my blessings and let a girl blow him while I stayed on the line with him. Is this okay? I feel a little sad at first cuz I'm selfish and didn't want to share but I trust him and wanted him happy... I'm not jealous...just sad that I couldn't be the one taking care of him. How would you feel? Would you be okay with it and allow it to happen again? I'm a little curious....

 

[JMaxwell69]

... so I gave him my blessings and let a girl blow him while I stayed on the line with him. ...cuz I'm selfish ....

Let me get this straight. You give your boyfreind permission to get blown by another girl, and you consider yourself selfish. You live in an interesting world.

You should be insisting on "Best Girlfriend Ever" award.

 

[hotasianchick]

Let me get this straight. You give your boyfreind permission to get blown by another girl, and you consider yourself selfish. You live in an interesting world.

You should be insisting on "Best Girlfriend Ever" award.

LoL...he said that too...guess I felt unsure of myself and my decision after I made it. I don't regret it but it was just very new to me that I would even say yes and offered that.

Thanks for commenting

 

[infinity706]

Well, I even helped set up some of my partners. Sex is supposed to be fun, not something to worry about. Hopefully, he'll return the favor if you get a chance to get eaten by a guy.

 

[Jayzus]

It's a pandora's box. The way I always saw it, is that if I approved of it and the person, then it would be okay, but only under those circumstances so trust wouldn't be broken. You're not selfish, you're jealous of the other girl, because you come off as the kind of girl that wants to be the one that blows his mind, among other things, and nobody else. And the only reason you allowed this is because you geniunely want to make your guy happy, even though you want to be the only one deep down inside. That is my impression of it, and if that is the case, be careful. Jealousy and insecurities can erode your relationship. Proceed with caution, and be very open about your feelings. Was it a one time deal, or is she going to be a fuck buddy? How would you feel about him fucking her? There a lot of hard questions like that, that need firm answers that are clearly understood by the both of you.

 

[silverwhisper]

hotasianchick: ultimately, if you and he are OK with it, why are you questioning it? the only reason it wouldn't be OK is if you weren't sure you were OK with it. ultimately, your relationship has to work for you and him: you're the ones in it!

the views of others don't enter into it. :>

ed

 

[subwannabe]

I agree with everyone that there was nothing wrong with it but I have to ask, Do you guys actually have a future with each other? You are boyfriend and girlfriend who live in different states and use phone sex, etc. to help relieve the tensions of being away from each other. How often do you actually see each other and is there a realistic possibility that your situations will change to the point where you will both be together in the same location? If not maybe dating each other is the wrong description of what your relationship actually is.

 

[dave's thing]

I agree with everyone that there was nothing wrong with it but I have to ask, Do you guys actually have a future with each other? You are boyfriend and girlfriend who live in different states and use phone sex, etc. to help relieve the tensions of being away from each other. How often do you actually see each other and is there a realistic possibility that your situations will change to the point where you will both be together in the same location? If not maybe dating each other is the wrong description of what your relationship actually is.

I've been doing the "long Distance" relationship with my SO for going on 5 Years and we consider ourselves to have quite the future together. We have plans to be togehter but need to get a couple of things in place first.
hotasianchick- I really do think that you should THE award for sure. You will feel sad about not being able to be with him, as will he too...... but knowing what it will be like when you are there for each other makes the negative feelings a lot easier to deal with.
My input for what ever its worth

 

[hotasianchick]

Well, I even helped set up some of my partners. Sex is supposed to be fun, not something to worry about. Hopefully, he'll return the favor if you get a chance to get eaten by a guy.

Thanks for responding...and yes, we've talked about sex being sex and just for fun and that it does not mess with how we feel about eachother. He's given me his blessings too, says that should I feel the need and I trust someone with my body then I can sleep with them and he won't be jealous.

It's a pandora's box. The way I always saw it, is that if I approved of it and the person, then it would be okay, but only under those circumstances so trust wouldn't be broken. You're not selfish, you're jealous of the other girl, because you come off as the kind of girl that wants to be the one that blows his mind, among other things, and nobody else. And the only reason you allowed this is because you geniunely want to make your guy happy, even though you want to be the only one deep down inside. That is my impression of it, and if that is the case, be careful. Jealousy and insecurities can erode your relationship. Proceed with caution, and be very open about your feelings. Was it a one time deal, or is she going to be a fuck buddy? How would you feel about him fucking her? There a lot of hard questions like that, that need firm answers that are clearly understood by the both of you.

Thanks Jayzus...I understand about the jealousy and insecurities ruining the relationship. I'm sure we'll talk about it more but for this one time we've said that only hand jobs and blow jobs are allowed and no penetration and he's agreed and I trust him.

hotasianchick: ultimately, if you and he are OK with it, why are you questioning it? the only reason it wouldn't be OK is if you weren't sure you were OK with it. ultimately, your relationship has to work for you and him: you're the ones in it!

the views of others don't enter into it. :>

ed

Thanks ed... point taken and understood. Guess with it being my first time agreeing with it, I wasn't sure with myself and was at first switching my answer back and forth. Once I said yes though, it was very hot to hear him being blown and cumming...

I agree with everyone that there was nothing wrong with it but I have to ask, Do you guys actually have a future with each other? You are boyfriend and girlfriend who live in different states and use phone sex, etc. to help relieve the tensions of being away from each other. How often do you actually see each other and is there a realistic possibility that your situations will change to the point where you will both be together in the same location? If not maybe dating each other is the wrong description of what your relationship actually is.

I really hope that there is a future between us. I guess it sounds like just a phone sex buddy or something but just because we are far from one another doesn't mean that the "relationship" will fail. I see issues and trust problems happen every day to couples around me.

I've been doing the "long Distance" relationship with my SO for going on 5 Years and we consider ourselves to have quite the future together. We have plans to be togehter but need to get a couple of things in place first.
hotasianchick- I really do think that you should THE award for sure. You will feel sad about not being able to be with him, as will he too...... but knowing what it will be like when you are there for each other makes the negative feelings a lot easier to deal with.
My input for what ever its worth

I'm happy to hear about you and your SO.... gives me some hope and I thank you for your input.

 

[subwannabe]

I actually made a long distance relationship work as we are married now, but, just hoping isn't enough. There has to be a realistic expectation that things will actually work out and a plan to get there, otherwise maybe you really aren't "dating".

 

[brickroadray]

Hi everyone. I am currently dating a guy who lives in another state. We do role plays and phone sex to ease the cravings. The other day he had some friends over who like to do orgies but he has never participated... he was quite turned on and phone sex with me was not enough so I gave him my blessings and let a girl blow him while I stayed on the line with him. Is this okay? I feel a little sad at first cuz I'm selfish and didn't want to share but I trust him and wanted him happy... I'm not jealous...just sad that I couldn't be the one taking care of him. How would you feel? Would you be okay with it and allow it to happen again? I'm a little curious....

WOW: You have got to be the most giving person I've ever seen!!!

 

[Labe_Lover]

If he had a webcam would do you think you would enjoy watching her blow him?

 

[Sensualdreamer]

I know this thread is a bit older but PLEASE enable your PM (sorry didn't know how else to ask ya) I wanted to send you a comment referencing a reply you made on another post & a comment someone else handed back to you but your PM is disabled

 

[fuckmeat]

The only thing that concerns me is that this guy sounds manipulative. He invited people over to his home who he knew would have an orgy and then phoned you up to tell you about it. I know people will say that he could have dived in balls deep and not said a word to you but I think it was unfair of him to ask you about this while he has an orgy raging and a woman right there who wants to suck him. If he had asked you about this during a normal conversation when there were no others around would you have been so keen to allow what he wanted?

Also, blowjobs are not without risk so I sincerely hope he wore a condom.

 

[wehstar]

Have just read this post with some interest and thought I'd had a point to make until it seemed people had beaten me to it. What fuckmeat said though is very similar to my thoughts. If you're going to have an open relationship (or whatever the definition) that's cool. But feelings and boundaries need to be discussed in advance so that nobody makes any mistakes in the spur of the moment.

 

[horgasm]

Wait... this guy was having phone sex with you, while he was getting blown, and there was an orgy going on in his living room? Can I have his number? I need to sit down and learn from this master.

 

[Babalugats]

Hi everyone. I am currently dating a guy who lives in another state. We do role plays and phone sex to ease the cravings. The other day he had some friends over who like to do orgies but he has never participated... he was quite turned on and phone sex with me was not enough so I gave him my blessings and let a girl blow him while I stayed on the line with him. Is this okay? I feel a little sad at first cuz I'm selfish and didn't want to share but I trust him and wanted him happy... I'm not jealous...just sad that I couldn't be the one taking care of him. How would you feel? Would you be okay with it and allow it to happen again? I'm a little curious....

Yes, you should feel sad. You just gave him permission to cheat on you. Assuming, you have actually met this guy in person.

 

[Pointless_Username]

imo, as long as you're certain your boyfriend won't abuse of this favor you did for him. Some guys would lose control and end up seeing it as "it's alright to cheat, then!" It's not!

As long as both of you are happy with that and can respect each other, then I say no harm done and you have nothing to worry yourself about!

 

[Babalugats]

So Hot Asian, have you met this man in person? or is he just a 'phone' boytoy?