How to give good head?

[AgonySceneGirl]

Needless to say i'm a bit inexperienced on this department.
I had to have all of my top teeth pulled at a young age.
I've given my boyfriend a few blow jobs since we've been together but i want to give it to him the best he's ever had. Any tips on how to get him really going with this?
Yes i take my teeth out for this lol and yes i swallow...but what else is there that i can do?
btw i'm only 22...so no i'm not some old wrinkly bitch with no teeth lol
and yes i know its pathetic that i had to have them pulled at a young age - blame medical issues...couldnt have been helped.

 

[Red_Dreamer]

I think the most important thing to do is practice, especially when it comes to things that some girls initially find quite difficult, like deep-throating. It takes a while to get used to doing that, as well as the issue of co-ordination, your hand with your mouth, for example, or your tongue in time with your head movements.

From what men have told me, deep-throating is the key to giving really fantastic head, but enthusiasm is important too. It's different for almost every guy, so try to work out what gets the best reaction from yours, and direct your actions towards those moves.

Oh, yeah, and depending on how big the guy is, I generally use my hands as well.

Try doing a google search, that might bring up some more tricks .

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

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[Red_Dreamer]

Mm, I found that too, especially when the guy was very thick. If you have a vibrator, you could use that to practice with, but if not, there are plenty of other phallic instruments in this world .

With deep-throating, it's also important that you trust him not to start thrusting, 'cause then you could end up choking.

I've heard of people massaging the guy's balls while they suck him off, but that's not something I've ever tried. Then again, everything's worth a try.

If you really can't get past your gag-reflex, then just use your tongue, although licking something while it's inside your mouth is something else I found quite weird to begin with. Pay the head of his cock the most attention, as that's the most sensitive part, and you could also experiment with gels or stuff beforehand, to turn him on, especially if he takes a while to come (although some of them taste foul, double abuse for my gag reflex ).

 

[snuffy187]

Bj

I prefer the no-hands technique. I don't want you mixing a hand job with a bj. Practice deep throating by relaxing the muscles while opening your throat, and concentrate on breathing through your nose. Your looking up into my eyes while you're smiling around my cock is always very erotic to me. I've only had one toothless gumjob, many years ago, and it was great. Good luck, let us know how you're progressing......take pics, too.

 

[Abradix]

As a guy I gotta stress that you don't ignore the balls. Tounge em for a bit and when you go back to sucking keep those hands busy. If I'm getting head while standing I love some attention to my ass, squeeze it and pull my pelvis toward your face for a nice deepthroat and I'm halfway over LOL.

Don't be shy about it, even if you can't deepthroat show some enthusiasm. I love getting my ass licked, if a girl isn't willing to go all out you can tell the head is half assed. Follow instruction and take it down deep, oh and keep the hands busy; balls, ass, stomach, thighs... Just like women the head isn't the only pleasure point.

 

[SweetErika]

Don't be shy about it, even if you can't deepthroat show some enthusiasm. I love getting my ass licked, if a girl isn't willing to go all out you can tell the head is half assed. Follow instruction and take it down deep, oh and keep the hands busy; balls, ass, stomach, thighs... Just like women the head isn't the only pleasure point.

I think this is a really lousy attitude. Ass licking and deep-throating are edgier activities that are limits for some (actually, probably a lot, or even most) people. Just because your partner has limits doesn't mean they're not giving pleasing you their all. If they're enthusiastic, into it and enjoying pleasing you within their limits, they're doing the best they can with what they have to work with, and you can't fault them for that. Would you say your efforts were half-assed just because your partner really wanted to fist you or see you with another guy or do nasty things to your junk (or whatever your personal limits are)? I doubt it; you'd likely say you were giving pleasing her your best effort and hoped she enjoyed you doing everything you could within your limits.

Agony, good oral isn't about deep throating or doing things you're not intne can give mindblowing head by just taking a comfortable amount into their mouth and using their hand(s) to stimulate the shaft, balls, and other areas. Most people will tell you it's better to have no oral or limited oral than oral from a person who's not into it. The fact that you're asking shows you are into it, and if you combine that with showing him how much you enjoy pleasing him and asking him to show and tell you what he likes, he'll likely enjoy himself to no end.

You could try trapping his cock between your top gums and tongue. You might also get a smooth, flexible mouthguard (there's often a selection in the dental area of the store and teeth-whitening kits) to go over your bottom teeth so you can use your lack of top teeth to your best advantage.

The Blank Manual sticky has a lot of good suggestions for oral tricks and techniques. I believe it also has info on deep throating, if that's something you want to try at some point, but I'd suggest getting really good at the basics first, before you attempt more advanced techniques like that. You can give your partner an amazing experience without putting it too far into your mouth; anyone who says deep throating is required probably has trouble getting off due to a lack of sensitivity and/or a partner who isn't adept at other oral techniques.

The awesome thing about having a smaller cock to work with is that you usually can fit a lot more of it in without gagging, which can provide awesome sensations if you pull back slowly, twist your head around a bit while you move up and down and bob up and down much of his lengh at a nice pace. Also, if the cock isn't too thick, fatigue doesn't come so quickly, so you both can enjoy it for longer.

I'm guessing he's not so small that you can't wrap a lubed hand around his shaft and just take the head into your mouth, moving your hand (lubed w/ spit or lube - we like silicone lube because it's very slick, never gets sticky and is tasteless) up and down while you focus on stimulating the head with your mouth, gums and tongue.

You can try things like swirling your tongue around the head, nibbling (w/o teeth) up and down his entire shaft (like it's a corn cob, sort of) flicking and licking the little triangle on the underside of the head (it's usuall the most sensitive spot, and even licking his urethra/pee hole with the tip of your tongue a bit.

All of my partners have enjoyed at least gentle ball kissing, licking, sucking and stroking, although some men don't, so ask your partner if he's up for trying it. You can take one ball into your mouth and suck it very gently while your swirl your tongue around it. If you're like me, you won't enjoy this if his balls are hairy, in which case you could tell him it'd be really sexy if he trimmed or removed the hair (which also increases sensitivity).

If he's willing to explore some anal play, you might consider just stroking his anus with a lubed finger. Gently inserting a well lubed finger or small vibe (use a glove or condom for finger play and put a condom over toys for easy clean up and sanitary reasons) during oral can feel incredible for both sexes.

In the end, though, we have no idea what your guy likes because he's a unique person with his own set of likes and dislikes, limits, etc. So, you're going to have to ask him what makes it awesome for him and to tell you what he likes during, as you try new techniques. Likewise, express how much you're enjoying yourself by telling him, moaning around his cock, looking up at him with a smile as you're pleasing him, touching yourself, etc.

Basically, just have fun exploring and finding new ways to please him, and show him how much you enjoy it! If he's worth being intimate with and you care about each other, he WILL appreciate your efforts and enjoy himself while you're learning. Learning to be a great lover takes time and communication with each partner, so make that your goal, rather than being fantastic from the very start.

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

I actually read up on some of the 'blank manual' posts shortly after i posted my question. I honestly should have done so before hand but didnt realize their would be so much information in there. lol
Thank you Erika. I think most of what you said pretty much summed up most of what i was wondering. He's a LOT more experienced than i am in the sex department and is teaching me alot but theres a lot of times i feel like an idiot lol So i've added this site to my favorites and keep reading up and snatchin peoples ideas lol

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

I actually read up on some of the 'blank manual' posts shortly after i posted my question. I honestly should have done so before hand but didnt realize their would be so much information in there. lol
Thank you Erika. I think most of what you said pretty much summed up most of what i was wondering. He's a LOT more experienced than i am in the sex department and is teaching me alot but theres a lot of times i feel like an idiot lol So i've added this site to my favorites and keep reading up and snatchin peoples ideas lol

 

[mjl2010]

Don't be shy about it, even if you can't deepthroat show some enthusiasm. I love getting my ass licked, if a girl isn't willing to go all out you can tell the head is half assed. Follow instruction and take it down deep, oh and keep the hands busy; balls, ass, stomach, thighs... Just like women the head isn't the only pleasure point.

Gotta be just about the stupidest, most insensitive advice I've heard anyone give here. Your ship sail soon sailor? I think you've been on leave too long.

MJL

 

[SweetErika]

Agony, you're very welcome, and I'm glad you've found Lit to be as helpful and informative as so many of us have! It sounds like you're on the right track, and I hope you'll come back often to learn and share what you know with us!

One more tip:
The search function here can be very tricky and frustrating, but you can actually use Google to find topics of interest in just a few seconds. To do so, you simply type

site:forum.literotica.com topic you want info on into the search box at google.com.

Example:
site:forum.literotica.com blowjobs

If you want an exact term or multi-word phrase, you put quotes around the exact term/phrase. This can also be helpful when searching a specific forum, like "how to" or "BDSM Talk".
Example:

site:forum.literotica.com "how to" "blow job"

If you're not sure how something's spelled here or there are lots of variations on spellings (e.g. threesome, threesum, 3sum), you put an asterisk (*) at the beginning or end of the word, and it'll act as a wildcard, bringing up all of the words that contain the part of the word before or after the asterisk.

Example:

site:forum.literotica.com blow*

Similarly, to search stories AND the forums, just take 'forum' out of the bold part of the search string.
Example:

site:literotica.com construction blow job might yield you stories about construction workers being given oral sex.

Gotta be just about the stupidest, most insensitive advice I've heard anyone give here. Your ship sail soon sailor? I think you've been on leave too long.

MJL

I actually had some respect for Abradix until he dropped that comment because he has had some good things to say, even if he seems a bit egocentric at times.

I reread it several times before I responded, hoping there was a miscommunication, but putting the pieces he's shared about himself here together, I'm thinking the drug use and/or time in the porn business have likely skewed his view of reality, himself and his respect for women. That's unfortunate because something gives me the impression that he may have the potential to be a real man, like you, MJL.

 

[mjl2010]

Agony, you're very welcome, and I'm glad you've found Lit to be as helpful and informative as so many of us have! It sounds like you're on the right track, and I hope you'll come back often to learn and share what you know with us!

One more tip:
The search function here can be very tricky and frustrating, but you can actually use Google to find topics of interest in just a few seconds. To do so, you simply type

site:forum.literotica.com topic you want info on into the search box at google.com.

Example:
site:forum.literotica.com blowjobs

If you want an exact term or multi-word phrase, you put quotes around the exact term/phrase. This can also be helpful when searching a specific forum, like "how to" or "BDSM Talk".
Example:

site:forum.literotica.com "how to" "blow job"

If you're not sure how something's spelled here or there are lots of variations on spellings (e.g. threesome, threesum, 3sum), you put an asterisk (*) at the beginning or end of the word, and it'll act as a wildcard, bringing up all of the words that contain the part of the word before or after the asterisk.

Example:

site:forum.literotica.com blow*

Similarly, to search stories AND the forums, just take 'forum' out of the bold part of the search string.
Example:

site:literotica.com construction blow job might yield you stories about construction workers being given oral sex.





I actually had some respect for Abradix until he dropped that comment because he has had some good things to say, even if he seems a bit egocentric at times.

I reread it several times before I responded, hoping there was a miscommunication, but putting the pieces he's shared about himself here together, I'm thinking the drug use and/or time in the porn business have likely skewed his view of reality, himself and his respect for women. That's unfortunate because something gives me the impression that he may have the potential to be a real man, like you, MJL.

Thank you Erika.

Your advice on the google searching ought to be a sticky up there on top. It's a thing most people don't know how to do.

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you Erika.

Your advice on the google searching ought to be a sticky up there on top. It's a thing most people don't know how to do.

It's actually already in the FAQs Before Posting sticky and a sticky in Story Feedback. I learned it from HotCapuccino, the master himself.

Maybe I'll add it to my post on searching Lit in there, though, since it addresses the forums, rather than the story side/whole site, more.

Now if we could just get people to read the FAQs!

 

[Abradix]

Tommorow, from picky sex to hunting down any kind of stimulation in one fell swoop.

My advice was giving an example of what I enjoy. Worded poorly but you can't fault people when they're drunk; some Japanese culture for ya ;D

What I meant is simply to show some enthusiasm and push your limits so you can grow as a sexual being.