How to have orgasms through intercourse

[SweetErika]

About the multiples I think you should read up on that, I'm sorry but there are three different types of multiples, not just one as you say. So read up more please cause your comment is very insulting Rotorgirl

I'm at a loss as to why defining multi-orgasmic a certain way is insulting. Our bodies just work the way they do...so what if one has many orgasms in the span of minutes, hours, or just one really good orgasm per session? Is there some kind of hierarchy/this-type-is-better-than-that thing that I'm unaware of? As long as women enjoy themselves, why does it matter if they have 'true multiples' or not?

 

[RotorGirl]

I'm at a loss as to why defining multi-orgasmic a certain way is insulting. Our bodies just work the way they do...so what if one has many orgasms in the span of minutes, hours, or just one really good orgasm per session? Is there some kind of hierarchy/this-type-is-better-than-that thing that I'm unaware of? As long as women enjoy themselves, why does it matter if they have 'true multiples' or not?

It doesnt. I was just using it to illustrate an oddity among women. The person that you quoted took offense to it for some odd reason

Most women who like oral sex or direct clitoral stimulation do not orgasm during intercourse.

Most women who do not like oral sex or find direct clitoral stimulation to be uncomfortable do orgasm from intercourse.

Women who do orgasm from intercourse do so just because that's how they are. There is no trick to it.

Another oddity is that usually, in most cases women who have true multiple orgasms do not enjoy oral sex or clitoral stimulation. Please note that someone who is multi-orgasmic is different than someone who can have multiple Consecutive orgasms. A true multi will have them over and over until exhaustion, anything else with a pause between and they are not a true multi.

My main message was simply that you are programmed the way that you are. You cant teach someone to orgasm just from penetration, just as you cant teach a normal woman how to have multiples of some sort (whether it be sequential or multiple multiples).

 

[LadyBlueMoon]

It doesnt. I was just using it to illustrate an oddity among women. The person that you quoted took offense to it for some odd reason

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Exactly! Unllike men, we have the benefit of multiple orgasms as well as different types... personally, mine differ from clitoral to vaginal to anal to just getting off from giving oral or simply fantasizing!!!

 

[midwestyankee]

Most women who like oral sex or direct clitoral stimulation do not orgasm during intercourse.

Most women who do not like oral sex or find direct clitoral stimulation to be uncomfortable do orgasm from intercourse.

Women who do orgasm from intercourse do so just because that's how they are. There is no trick to it.

Another oddity is that usually, in most cases women who have true multiple orgasms do not enjoy oral sex or clitoral stimulation. Please note that someone who is multi-orgasmic is different than someone who can have multiple Consecutive orgasms. A true multi will have them over and over until exhaustion, anything else with a pause between and they are not a true multi.

This is a fascinating analysis, though I am suspicious of it because it appears to be an over-generalization. What is your source for this?

 

[RotorGirl]

This is a fascinating analysis, though I am suspicious of it because it appears to be an over-generalization. What is your source for this?

Dr. Drew. His show on KROQ is fascinating. Some people's problems are just insane. People are hilarious. http://www.kroq.com/loveline/

He's an addiction medicine specialist, but has a very broad spectrum of knowledge of all things sexual because of what his radio show requires of him. He gets a lot of calls on the subject from random people wanting to "learn" to orgasm from intercourse and people just dont understand that if you arent "wired" to orgasm from penetration alone then it just cant be done.

I'm not sure where he got the facts/theories that I quoted from, but every caller that calls in to his show that talks about orgasms he asks about oral sex and if they can orgasm during intercourse, and so far after 7 years of dedicated listening these facts/theories have held true.

 

[midwestyankee]

Dr. Drew. His show on KROQ is fascinating. Some people's problems are just insane. People are hilarious. http://www.kroq.com/loveline/

He's an addiction medicine specialist, but has a very broad spectrum of knowledge of all things sexual because of what his radio show requires of him.

Then my question is this: what's his source? He is not the kind of doctor who would be doing the original research so who is he citing? I think that a little bit of healthy skepticism is in order here. Even though no one person's experience can ever be more than anecdotal, I know that the generalizations that you offered in your post do not apply as universally as you stated them.

 

[RotorGirl]

Then my question is this: what's his source? He is not the kind of doctor who would be doing the original research so who is he citing? I think that a little bit of healthy skepticism is in order here. Even though no one person's experience can ever be more than anecdotal, I know that the generalizations that you offered in your post do not apply as universally as you stated them.

I'm sure there will be an oddball, like every other generalization like this. It's like saying "A mother with Brown eyes and a father with Brown eyes will have offspring with Brown eyes" which as you know isn't always the case, but it is the majority of the time.

How about a Literotica.com Poll? Not scientific, but I'm curious to see what the community here says.

Something along the lines of:

Do you Orgasm from Penetration alone?

Yes
No

If Yes, do you enjoy oral sex?

If No, do you enjoy oral sex?

 

[jcallny]

It hot when you do a woman doggy and they touch thier clit. If the man can't take that leave him he is unsure about himself.
Also you can get clit massaged on missionary style. Have the guy move further up and put his legs straight when he does you. That will increase the presure where you want it.

 

[ickle_stace]

don't some women become able to orgasm just from intercourse as they get older? I'm sure I've read women on here who've said they didn't start orgasming that way until they were in their 30s or 40s etc

I like the part said about a guy's wife who said it's mental for her. I would love that to be true for me. I think I came once vaginally, but never again, although it was with my ex who treated me badly, and the way he did it that time felt amazing, (he pulled all the way out, then slid back in again and kept doin that slowly - must have been rubbing against my g-spot) but he wouldn't do it again because he didn't like it

so i have experienced it once, so im hoping i will again another time. I can sometimes feel myself getting close, i did with the last guy anyway, but it never seems to happen

 

[Straight-8]

Women who do orgasm from intercourse do so just because that's how they are. There is no trick to it.

Another oddity is that usually, in most cases women who have true multiple orgasms do not enjoy oral sex or clitoral stimulation. Please note that someone who is multi-orgasmic is different than someone who can have multiple Consecutive orgasms. A true multi will have them over and over until exhaustion, anything else with a pause between and they are not a true multi.

You mean it's not just because I am a GREAT lover ! I think you should be clear that you are talking about women receiving oral not giving (thankfully!). My spouse is very multi-o but can only take a limited amount of direct clit stimulation from hand or mouth.

I still think it's because I'm so good!

 

[FurryFury]

I haven't read this whole thread but what I've found is that sometimes when some part of his body is grinding into my clit while he is inside me, I can come that way. It's hard to get the right position for this to happen.

Fury

 

[TBKahuna123]

don't some women become able to orgasm just from intercourse as they get older? I'm sure I've read women on here who've said they didn't start orgasming that way until they were in their 30s or 40s etc

I like the part said about a guy's wife who said it's mental for her. I would love that to be true for me. I think I came once vaginally, but never again, although it was with my ex who treated me badly, and the way he did it that time felt amazing, (he pulled all the way out, then slid back in again and kept doin that slowly - must have been rubbing against my g-spot) but he wouldn't do it again because he didn't like it

so i have experienced it once, so im hoping i will again another time. I can sometimes feel myself getting close, i did with the last guy anyway, but it never seems to happen

That would be my wife who said that. I do think that women as they get older do find it more easily to orgasm from penetration alone, and I think these two points are interconnected. My wife is in her early 30's, and while she has said that she always came during intercourse with me(well slmost, nothingn is 100%), She says that it's gotten easier in the last few years. The difference being that I would always stimulate her clit during penetration when we were first married, but now that is not a neccessity for her having an orgasm.

Now when I say it's mental, I'm not saying that she can think herself to orgasm. It's the level of maturity in the way her body processes and revels in those sensations. The comfort with them and the emotional connection to them are enough to push her to that next level of ecstacy that translates into orgasm for her. It's the connection of mind and heart and body, the physical intellectual emotional bonding which translates love into a physical response of pleasure.

Now, that's my flowery description of what I mean. I believe her exact words were: "I cum because I love you." She was dead serious about this, and it really made me think about what brings a woman to orgasm. Achieving this though does mean maturity, at least mental and emotional maturity. I'm sure that hormone levels and changes may [play a part too, but that's got more to do with libido than ability to orgasm, I think.

It should be noted also that while my wife can and does cum from just penetration, that doesn't mean that her clit is off limits or somthing. I'd say one or both of us is stimulating her clit about half the time. There's a really good reason for that, it's fun and feels good! Hell to me, sex without touching yoru partner is just mechanical coupling. It's got to be about a lot more than tab B going in and out of slot A.

 

[ickle_stace]

That would be my wife who said that.

Now, that's my flowery description of what I mean. I believe her exact words were: "I cum because I love you." She was dead serious about this, and it really made me think about what brings a woman to orgasm. Achieving this though does mean maturity, at least mental and emotional maturity. I'm sure that hormone levels and changes may [play a part too, but that's got more to do with libido than ability to orgasm, I think.

hehe, I knew it was you really, I just couldn't remember your user name, but I remembered the av pic (does that sound silly?)

anyways, I guess if I have to love someone to cum from penetration, I guess I better find someone to love me before I hope for it hadn't i

 

[vanelane]

Dr. Drew. His show on KROQ is fascinating. Some people's problems are just insane. People are hilarious.

so far after 7 years of dedicated listening these facts/theories have held true.

Oh, well then, 7 years of dedicated listening to a radio talk show; who could argue with that?

 

[RhymeFairy]

Another good way to do this is to press a vibrator into your clit as he enters you from behind, it ups the experience a lot for him because he can feel the vibrations and the extra movement inside you.

I have found this works amazingly well.
Good advice there FF ~

 

[TBKahuna123]

hehe, I knew it was you really, I just couldn't remember your user name, but I remembered the av pic (does that sound silly?)

anyways, I guess if I have to love someone to cum from penetration, I guess I better find someone to love me before I hope for it hadn't i

There are worse things to find in life.

 

[ickle_stace]

There are worse things to find in life.

yeah, i've had worse, now i want something meaningful

 

[Thermister]

Almost all of my wife's orgasms come from intercourse (the ones that involve me anyway), though in a way she is directly stimulating her clit. Basically she rides me, but sits all the way down on my cock and slides her hips back and forth rapidly until she cums. She's unlike any other women I've ever been with in that she doesn't care for oral sex and when I do go down on her she hardly ever lets me bring her to orgasm strictly orally (maybe four or five times in 16 years). She much prefers riding me to orgasm in the aforementioned method. She charectorizes her orgasms as "front", "back", and "both". Front is good for her, manual stimulation or from intercourse when our foreplay was limited. When she masturbates she has front orgasms. Back is very good for her and normally requires more foreplay and some amount of intercourse from behind. As far as both, we haven't figured out the exact sequence to consistently achieve that, but when it happens she really, really enjoys it.

 

[cherries_on_snow]

According to the Shere Hite report (the best source of information on women's sexuality) only 30% of women have cum during intercourse at some point. This isn't to say that they cum that way all the time, but to say that they have ever. This means that only a very small percentage of women are likely to orgasm from intercourse alone.

I tell my lovers that I like clitoral stimulation and I love oral sex (giving and receiving). I love being explored with fingers and orgasming before we ever start to have sex. Intercourse can be some of what we do (after orgasming I reeeeeely need filling) but not all of what we do. If he can't do the job... www.eroscillator.com can. I can cum during penetration, but rarely during intercourse, unless the man is patient enough to sit still and let me grind.

 

[robincr]

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[rcuhljr]

Some days I realize we got off easy(pun intended) just needing friction

 

[RotorGirl]

Oh, well then, 7 years of dedicated listening to a radio talk show; who could argue with that?

mmm ok honey, i'm not going to argue with you, because I really dont care enough either way. I'm just trying to be helpful relaying information I have heard from someone who is A. a doctor, B. has knowledge on the subject, and C. is a doctor. If you dont like it, that's ok. I'll just keep my knowledge to myself.

 

[SweetErika]

mmm ok honey, i'm not going to argue with you, because I really dont care enough either way. I'm just trying to be helpful relaying information I have heard from someone who is A. a doctor, B. has knowledge on the subject, and C. is a doctor. If you dont like it, that's ok. I'll just keep my knowledge to myself.

Even doctors and people who are knowledgeable on certain subjects are wrong sometimes. Listeners often hear or interpret incorrectly as well.

I have multiples, and LOVE A LOT of oral and clit stimulation. The women I've talked to who have multiples do as well. I read and know a fair amount about sex and anatomy, and have NEVER heard the assertion that women who have multiples DON'T enjoy oral or clitoral stimulation. In fact, a lot of women have multiples BECAUSE OF those two acts.

Does it make sense to you that what you supposedly heard from Dr. Drew, a media personality whose specialty is Addiction Medicine, is correct?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Even doctors and people who are knowledgeable on certain subjects are wrong sometimes. Listeners often hear or interpret incorrectly as well.

I have multiples, and LOVE A LOT of oral and clit stimulation. The women I've talked to who have multiples do as well. I read and know a fair amount about sex and anatomy, and have NEVER heard the assertion that women who have multiples DON'T enjoy oral or clitoral stimulation. In fact, a lot of women have multiples BECAUSE OF those two acts.

Does it make sense to you that what you supposedly heard from Dr. Drew, a media personality whose specialty is Addiction Medicine, is correct?

She's dead on here, as she usually is. My wife is one of the lucky women who can and does have multiple orgasms. She has orgasms from both intercourse and clitoral stimulation, loves clitoral stimulation and loves oral sex.

What might have been meant is that women who are prone to having multiples are also very sensitive and direct clitoral stimulation may become too intense for them. All that means is that you can't sit and thrum on their clit for a hour straight. My wife is like that, yet she still enjoys clitoral stimulation. I just have to be a little more subtle and apply some creativity to how I do it.

 

[Oralonia]

Orgasm's....

I have never ever had an orgasm have intercourse. It just has never happened for me. The only way I have ever had one is when my clit is touched or oral sex. Does anyone know why that is?