How to...prepare properly

[Dave1987]

Right first of all, I'm a young dude, I'm 18 and I've been surfing these boards for a while but I thought this would be an appropriate place for my first post. Rigt, I'm going to see my girlfriend who lives away from me.

But she wants me to fist her, what should I do to prepare properly? I know how to do it because I've read in places and seen, also I'm concerned that I won't be able to get my hand insider her because I have a large hand, will her pussy stretch enough to allow me in or what???

Also, there is a little kinky thing I want to do, which is insert a banana into her pussy and then eat it out from her, which she's agreed to. However, what are the implications for this, is there a risk that the banana will leave a residue and might cause Yeast infection??

 

[Dave1987]

Bump - any advice or whatever people have is appreciated

 

[SweetErika]

Right first of all, I'm a young dude, I'm 18 and I've been surfing these boards for a while but I thought this would be an appropriate place for my first post. Rigt, I'm going to see my girlfriend who lives away from me.

But she wants me to fist her, what should I do to prepare properly? I know how to do it because I've read in places and seen, also I'm concerned that I won't be able to get my hand insider her because I have a large hand, will her pussy stretch enough to allow me in or what???

Welcome to posting.

Have the things you read not talked extensively about preparation? If that's the case, I'd suggest more research. You'll be able to find plenty through Google (search for 'fisting preparation' and the like) and right here at Lit. Even if you think you may know enough, read a lot more. I'd suggest her doing tons of reading as well...more knowledge is always better, and will likely help her relax and you two communicate.

I haven't done it, but lots of lube, arousal, relaxation, working up with fingers and maybe toys, going slowly, communicating, and being very, very careful are the key ingredients from what I've read.

With enough proper preparation, lube, and relaxation, you should be able to get your big hand inside her. Remember, we're talking about an organ that can stretch to accomadate a 10 pound baby usually. Some (particularly very petite/small boned) womens' pelvic and vaginal structures won't allow for vaginal births and fisting, so be aware and don't force it, obviously.

Also, there is a little kinky thing I want to do, which is insert a banana into her pussy and then eat it out from her, which she's agreed to. However, what are the implications for this, is there a risk that the banana will leave a residue and might cause Yeast infection??

Yes, there's a definite chance the sugar in the banana will cause an imbalance, and yeast, or other, infection. How about this: Get an unlubed condom (though most of the non-spermicidal lubes aren't terribly flavorful, and you could try a flavored condom that would complement the banana), or female condom, and put it over the banana, just leaving the part outside of her uncovered. Then you can play with it and eat it out of her without much worry. If the whole thing kind of comes out when you're eating, one of you can hold the rim of the condom (a female condom would be much easier for this whole thing, I think).

If having her juices on it is part of the turn-on, one of you can coat your fingers with her lube when she's really wet, and rub it on the banana before putting the condom on it, or it into the condom if you're going the female condom route.

Giving her oral during or after should be perfectly safe as long as you kind of stay to the clit, labia, etc., and perhaps you could wipe with a personal wet wipe, unscented and alcohol-free baby wipe, or wet cloth after the oral and before you insert anything else.

 

[Eilan]

I haven't done it, but lots of lube, arousal, relaxation, working up with fingers and maybe toys, going slowly, communicating, and being very, very careful are the key ingredients from what I've read.

Yeah. What she said.

Does your GF have any prior experience with fisting, large toys, etc? If not, it may be something that you have to work up to over time.

Good luck.

 

[phoenix1224]

Welcome to posting.

Have the things you read not talked extensively about preparation? If that's the case, I'd suggest more research. You'll be able to find plenty through Google (search for 'fisting preparation' and the like) and right here at Lit. Even if you think you may know enough, read a lot more. I'd suggest her doing tons of reading as well...more knowledge is always better, and will likely help her relax and you two communicate.

I haven't done it, but lots of lube, arousal, relaxation, working up with fingers and maybe toys, going slowly, communicating, and being very, very careful are the key ingredients from what I've read.

With enough proper preparation, lube, and relaxation, you should be able to get your big hand inside her. Remember, we're talking about an organ that can stretch to accomadate a 10 pound baby usually. Some (particularly very petite/small boned) womens' pelvic and vaginal structures won't allow for vaginal births and fisting, so be aware and don't force it, obviously.


Yes, there's a definite chance the sugar in the banana will cause an imbalance, and yeast, or other, infection. How about this: Get an unlubed condom (though most of the non-spermicidal lubes aren't terribly flavorful, and you could try a flavored condom that would complement the banana), or female condom, and put it over the banana, just leaving the part outside of her uncovered. Then you can play with it and eat it out of her without much worry. If the whole thing kind of comes out when you're eating, one of you can hold the rim of the condom (a female condom would be much easier for this whole thing, I think).

If having her juices on it is part of the turn-on, one of you can coat your fingers with her lube when she's really wet, and rub it on the banana before putting the condom on it, or it into the condom if you're going the female condom route.

Giving her oral during or after should be perfectly safe as long as you kind of stay to the clit, labia, etc., and perhaps you could wipe with a personal wet wipe, unscented and alcohol-free baby wipe, or wet cloth after the oral and before you insert anything else.

The only thing that I can add to this is: Make sure that you clip your nails before hand.

 

[KarenDee]

And yes, it does "stretch to accomodate." Otherwise babies would have a darn difficult time (not that it's easy to begin with!).

 

[YellowShirt]

I personally have been in this situation. My boyfriend asked me if he could do it and I agreed. It took a lot of lube, tons of patience, and we were talking the whole time. I never really had any desire to do it again, but it worked okay the first time. I did fell a little sore afterwords though!

 

[eudaemonia]

Also, there is a little kinky thing I want to do, which is insert a banana into her pussy and then eat it out from her, which she's agreed to. However, what are the implications for this, is there a risk that the banana will leave a residue and might cause Yeast infection??

That sounds like fun, and not the least bit kinky. Food and sex, sex and food ... Yum!

 

[Tazidevil]

Banana should be fine. I mean if this is in foreplay, I think she'll have more to worry about after the two of your have a little fun. I am a guy so I don't have experience, but the 2 gals I have been with both made sure to clean the area quite throughly either right after or the next morning. Have fun! Another fun thing - Pour warm dipping chocolate (or gonash) on a part of her or your body. Take strawberries, roll them in the chocolate (stimulus there) and then eat it or let the person eat it. Kinky and tastes really good.

 

[Shankara20]

Bump - any advice or whatever people have is appreciated

Fisting = lube+feeling safe+talking+lube+talking+listening+asking questions
+lube+time+time+time+lube+talking+listening+time+lube+time+lube
+being safe+being warm+lube+talking

did I say "talking"?
what about "listening"?



enjoy

 

[herecomestherain]

What Shankara20 said - you might like the book - A Hand In The Bush -The Fine Art Of Vaginal Fisting . Go slow, I'd start when she's already very aroused, it's no big deal if you can't do your whole hand, a smooth twisting motion of the hand can be very nice, use a good lube (Pjur lasts) listen, let her hold your wrist - she can signal if she wants more/less pressure - after the play is finished do lots of kissing and cuddling, this kind of handplay can leave a girl feeling emotional and even a tiny bit vulnerable -- happy too! And yes someone mentioned it - clip your nails very short/ consider a latex glove.

 

[Dave1987]

Thanks all for your responses!

A couple of things, in response to Eillan, yes a guy tried to fist her before but was too keen and didn't really know what he was doing, but she still wants me to do it anyway because she said she trusts me more than any other previous partner she's had.

Another problem, where can I get hold of that book about the fine art of vaginal fisting, because it appears on the US Amazon, but not in the UK. Also, living in the UK does anyone know of good lubes I can get hold of here?

So major pointers...lots of time, talking, lube, trust and her being in control of the situation with the fisting.

And then with the banana thing cleaning out well after, well I'm sure that can be arranged .


Another thing, and I should probably look this up myself but because you wonderful people at Lit give great advice, I'll leave it here. She did have hand ups about Anal sex, and when I initially asked her said No, but then later changed her mind because it's me and she loves me so much, she said she wants to give it a go. So, how do I take that one then?

 

[Shankara20]

lShe did have hand ups about Anal sex, and when I initially asked her said No, but then later changed her mind because it's me and she loves me so much, she said she wants to give it a go. So, how do I take that one then?

The one thing I was taught was to never never push anything into a anus - just place the object, hopefully your dick, up to her anus and let her open up and slide onto your dick. It is a wonderful feeling to experiance the trust and hunger her ass will have for you once she feels safe, that she is in charge of the speed and depth and there is plenty of lube. Once she takes you in, there should be plenty of time to find the thrusting you both will enjoy. The largest problem I had at first was controlling my orgasm so it did not all end way too soon.

Anal sex = lube+feeling safe+talking+lube+talking+listening+asking questions
+lube+time+time+time+lube+talking+listening+time+lube+time+lube
+being safe+being warm+lube+talking

did I say "talking"?
what about "listening"?
and even more lube?

Once you know you have more lube than you need - you need more lube!!

Oh - a few towles might be wise

enjoy

 

[TBKahuna123]

Yeah it's really a lot the same process, isn't it? Lots of Lube, go slow, and let her be in control. The biggest problem with anal sex is that guys dont' know what their doing and rush it, which causes pain for their partner. I'd say this is the #1 reason why women are turned off on anal sex, and it's so easy to overcome. Just take it slow.

 

[amasterfound]

One thing you might want to consider is to make sure she is cleaned out before doing anal. I find that is if I am not properaly cleaned out is that it hurts more. Plus there is the factor that fecal mater can cause infections. So afterwards you will want to pee as soon as possible to prevent this. You might want to stretch her before doing anal by inserting fingers one at a time until she is ready for the next. when you both feel she is properaly stretched then try anal sex.

 

[twintooth]

lube

Yes all that was said is good but use a high quality lube not a cheap one and go really slow she'll love it if you do.

 

[garbage can]

But she wants me to fist her,

Why don't you try some big Ben-wa balls first?

is there a risk that the banana will leave a residue and might cause Yeast infection??

on your tongue, or her pussy....or both??