how to seduce my best friend?

[southern_gal]

Okay. I'm beginning to see how this conversation is beginning to slip from my control. But I will definitely share my booze with you. Could certainly use a drinking buddy!

I've been trying to behave myself lately but for my favorite Lit giraffe, I'll be a whatever kinda buddy you want.

 

[Doog_kuron]

I've been trying to behave myself lately but for my favorite Lit giraffe, I'll be a whatever kinda buddy you want.

Lol well as certain lit members will happily testify too, I'm about as fun as a wet weekend! ...okay, poor choice of words. Still, if it keeps you amused happy to lend you my time. And I've totally lost track of the original thread. I'm sobering up. Sad times.

 

[southern_gal]

Lol well as certain lit members will happily testify too, I'm about as fun as a wet weekend! ...okay, poor choice of words. Still, if it keeps you amused happy to lend you my time. And I've totally lost track of the original thread. I'm sobering up. Sad times.

It was something about seducing a friend.........and I'm TRYING.

 

[Felix_Jones]

Don't bother, people are boring and relationships are not worth the effort.

 

[Doog_kuron]

Don't bother, people are boring and relationships are not worth the effort.

Mister optimism. And you're probably right in 99% of cases. Still there's always that 1% chance. When things do work out and it makes it all worthwhile. Of course for those unsuccessful, well, that's what they invented chocolate and alcohol for.

 

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[Harold_Hill]

Don't bother, people are boring and relationships are not worth the effort.

Relationships are what make them. If you don't put the effort into the relationship to make it work, then you will get nothing in return. There are no free rides in this world! That includes relationships.

 

[C5MiGuy]

Relationships are what make them. If you don't put the effort into the relationship to make it work, then you will get nothing in return. There are no free rides in this world! That includes relationships.

This is only true if BOTH people make the effort. I always have put MUCH MUCH more in than the other person, and all I got was screwed over.

 

[Harold_Hill]

This is only true if BOTH people make the effort. I always have put MUCH MUCH more in than the other person, and all I got was screwed over.

Absolutely, both partners do have to put equal effort into the relationship. If your partner isn't putting enough effort into the relationship to make it work; perhaps you are making poor choices in women. Just because a woman smiles at you, doesn't mean you have to hook up with her. The solution: Make better choices next time.

 

[C5MiGuy]

Absolutely, both partners do have to put equal effort into the relationship. If your partner isn't putting enough effort into the relationship to make it work; perhaps you are making poor choices in women. Just because a woman smiles at you, doesn't mean you have to hook up with her. The solution: Make better choices next time.

Never an issue with me. Plus I don't do hookups.

 

[Que]

"Straight gay bestie" is the phrase you're searching for. YW.

Yes! that was it.

Overly cynical and often wrong. Some people are totally worth the effort.

Minor edits.

Some people are best avoided at all costs.

 

[NYC_Man]

My best friend and I have been that way for 3 years now and thats all we've ever been. Recently she has been sending me messages of how she has dreams of us hooking up and how her parents want us to get married. She also says how one day we will be together and we always flirt over text and at parties but we never seem to take it any further. How do i express how I feel to her?

introduce me to her and i'll do it for u

 

[Que]

I agree. Some are, most are not. I hate that the bad apples ruin the whole tree though. I refuse to let them!

I take it a step beyond that. What ever was true and valid and worthwhile for me still exists even if the other person decides to try and trash all the memories on the way out the door.

I had to adopt that attitude or I would deny 20 years of my existence.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

My best friend and I have been that way for 3 years now and thats all we've ever been. Recently she has been sending me messages of how she has dreams of us hooking up and how her parents want us to get married. She also says how one day we will be together and we always flirt over text and at parties but we never seem to take it any further. How do i express how I feel to her?

either you're not seducing her because you want sex without the marriage proposed by her parents.. or because you're a little too clueless to realize that she's already been seduced.
When a woman tells you things like, "I dream about you," she's pretty much put the ball in your court.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

At my 10th anniversary high school reunion one of the cheerleaders said to me, OF I HAD KNOWN YOUD BE SO GOOD LOOKING I'DA BEEN NICE TO YOU. I replied, IF I'DA KNOWN YOUD BE SO FAT I WOULDA BEEN GLAD YOU LEFT ME ALONE.

 

[southern_gal]

At my 10th anniversary high school reunion one of the cheerleaders said to me, OF I HAD KNOWN YOUD BE SO GOOD LOOKING I'DA BEEN NICE TO YOU. I replied, IF I'DA KNOWN YOUD BE SO FAT I WOULDA BEEN GLAD YOU LEFT ME ALONE.

Yet another example of why you were voted most popular in high school?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Yet another example of why you were voted most popular in high school?

I was voted MOST BALLS.

 

[southern_gal]

I was voted MOST BALLS.

Nope. In fact, no one outside of your two friends even knew who you were. You kept to yourself and brooded. You didn't feel like you fit in. You were jealous of the cool kids. You swore you'd get even someday. Prolly picked on too huh? So you made something of yourself and now you look back and smirk. Sadly, however, for all of your learned knowledge you are still that same brooding loner that just doesn't fit in. Fortunately there is this place. We are all misfits or we wouldn't be here so.........Merry Christmas grinch.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Nope. In fact, no one outside of your two friends even knew who you were. You kept to yourself and brooded. You didn't feel like you fit in. You were jealous of the cool kids. You swore you'd get even someday. Prolly picked on too huh? So you made something of yourself and now you look back and smirk. Sadly, however, for all of your learned knowledge you are still that same brooding loner that just doesn't fit in. Fortunately there is this place. We are all misfits or we wouldn't be here so.........Merry Christmas grinch.

I was the cool kid. Member of the Interact Club (Rotarians). On the track and cross country teams (180 yard low hurdles). And I dated the smartest gal in the senior class.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

really?

did we just go to "you sucked in high school"

or am I being punked?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

really?

did we just go to "you sucked in high school"

or am I being punked?

You were born punked but Southern Gal couldn't seduce a life convict in solitary.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

You were born punked.

I know.
As we speak, God is in heaven saying, "hey guys! watch this!"

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I know.
As we speak, God is in heaven saying, "hey guys! watch this!"

God and I made a deal long ago. I do what God wants done, without any attitude or excuses, and he gives me immunity from prosecution.

 

[amofiga]

My best friend and I have been that way for 3 years now and thats all we've ever been. Recently she has been sending me messages of how she has dreams of us hooking up and how her parents want us to get married. She also says how one day we will be together and we always flirt over text and at parties but we never seem to take it any further. How do i express how I feel to her?

Seriously? She's already done the work for you. Simply say pretty much the same thing back to her and how you've fantasized about being with her and dreamed about it. How open can you be with her? I've already told women that I fantasized about them when I masturbated. Most think that's hot. I suppose a few women would see it as an "ewww" but I think if she's at all openly sexual, she'd find it hot and maybe even tell you the same. That really opens up the lines of communication about sexual desires and fantasies.

Now the tough part. How do YOU feel about her parents dream of you getting married? Is this YOUR dream or are you more interested as a friend with benefits or a romantic partner but not a life partner. THAT's always the touchy question.

Good luck.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Seriously? She's already done the work for you. Simply say pretty much the same thing back to her and how you've fantasized about being with her and dreamed about it. How open can you be with her? I've already told women that I fantasized about them when I masturbated. Most think that's hot. I suppose a few women would see it as an "ewww" but I think if she's at all openly sexual, she'd find it hot and maybe even tell you the same. That really opens up the lines of communication about sexual desires and fantasies.

Now the tough part. How do YOU feel about her parents dream of you getting married? Is this YOUR dream or are you more interested as a friend with benefits or a romantic partner but not a life partner. THAT's always the touchy question.

Good luck.

He's gay, don't waste your time with him.