Humiliation?

[NancyPan]

I think the dichotomy in my original post on this vs @NancyPan's take on it is what I was referring to.

Many times I can relate to what male subs on this board talk about wanting and I feel a lot of commonality about essential needs. Other times, and it seems particularly around themes of erotic humiliation I experience it/want it/think about it really differently.

I think there are things about the male anatomy, sexual function and deep societal expectations that lend itself to humiliation play like @NancyPan describes here.

The analogous - being ridiculed for my sexual characteristics as a woman in front of a group of clothed men would definitely be a hard limit no for me. I'm sure some women would love it, but from my reading on this board over the last 10 years leads me to believe most female heterosexual subs would not be very into this style of humiliation.

Similarly - the analogous - you are nothing but a bunch of holes I can fuck" or "your cunt is so useless I don't know why you'd think anyone would want to fuck it" are difficult for me to imagine wanting said to me - especially in front of others.

There is a style of humiliation play that pushes on the ideas of only be a toy, a plaything, without choice, or being his personal whore or cocksucker etc that when employed in the right context will turn me into a sloppy compliant subby mess of willing depravity that could even include exposure and semi public humiliation/free use kind of scenario.

Did I clarify?

This makes perfect sense to me. Thank you! And, as a male sub who believes in Female Supremacy, I can not imagine, nor would I endorse or support in any way, a Woman being degraded or abused in any way by men.

 

[liqueur]

Thanks for your response

There is a style of humiliation play that pushes on the ideas of only be a toy, a plaything, without choice, or being his personal whore or cocksucker etc that when employed in the right context will turn me into a sloppy compliant subby mess of willing depravity that could even include exposure and semi public humiliation/free use kind of scenario.

Did I clarify?

Well, somewhat. It seems that all are forms of objectification. I certainly understand that you as an individual have forms of humiliation that don't turn you on, and others that are hard limits. Especially those that are assaults on your body shape, and through that, your personhood— I can deeply understand that. Extending these to men and women in general, if that's what you're doing, seems a bit murkier to me

I guess also that you're looking at this through a man/woman lens, and I identify as some indefinite where in between those two— so I'm sure that must affect my perspective.

 

[cascadiabound]

Thanks for your response

Well, somewhat. It seems that all are forms of objectification. I certainly understand that you as an individual have forms of humiliation that don't turn you on, and others that are hard limits. Especially those that are assaults on your body shape, and through that, your personhood— I can deeply understand that. Extending these to men and women in general, if that's what you're doing, seems a bit murkier to me

I guess also that you're looking at this through a man/woman lens, and I identify as some indefinite where in between those two— so I'm sure that must affect my perspective.

It's really all very individual. And not really explainable how we are wired. Which is why communication and consent are key with all these activities.

 

[griff5499]

Anyone into humiliation as their primary fetish? Don't get me wrong I love so many things, but nothing puts me over the edge like being degraded and humiliated in the most cruel and mean ways. Am I alone?

No you are not alone. I love being humiliated and degraded when I suck a man's cock! Love being called a faggot or cocksucker and told I'm not good for anything but sucking cock. Love it!

 

[dct10538]

From something I wrote in another forum:

• Have her suck a doorknob while you work or bake or whatever.

• Have her hold a dime against the wall with her nose. Hang the paddle you will use on her if the dime hits the floor around her neck if it has one of those lovely leather wrist straps.

• Shot Glass - make her lick the bottom with her tongue for 3, 4, 5, 10 minutes to "train" her tongue. Maybe with candy in it? (Just thought of that.)

• Hot sauce & ginger paste - fairly safe to smear on delicate parts

• Have her write a humiliating phrase repeatedly. Then read it and record it. Then she listens to it...

• ...in a cage...

• ...while wearing a dog bone bit gag. (One you can safely leave her alone while she is wearing.)

• Le pièce de résistance: a funnel gag (obvious purpose)

 

[LustyScribe]

From something I wrote in another forum:

• Have her suck a doorknob while you work or bake or whatever.

• Have her hold a dime against the wall with her nose. Hang the paddle you will use on her if the dime hits the floor around her neck if it has one of those lovely leather wrist straps.

• Shot Glass - make her lick the bottom with her tongue for 3, 4, 5, 10 minutes to "train" her tongue. Maybe with candy in it? (Just thought of that.)

• Hot sauce & ginger paste - fairly safe to smear on delicate parts

• Have her write a humiliating phrase repeatedly. Then read it and record it. Then she listens to it...

• ...in a cage...

• ...while wearing a dog bone bit gag. (One you can safely leave her alone while she is wearing.)

• Le pièce de résistance: a funnel gag (obvious purpose)

Doorknobs are among the nastiest, least hygienic things in the house. So maybe put a condom over it.

 

[cascadiabound]

Doorknobs are among the nastiest, least hygienic things in the house. So maybe put a condom over it.

Or at least sanitize it thoroughly.

 

[dct10538]

Well, of course.

 

[Worzel550]

Displayed on table, curtains open, door open, lights on

 

[Submissivepat]

I’d love to suck a cock while two or three other horny men watch and call
Me a cocksucker .

I liked that too, but I liked it even more if their wives were watching and commenting.

 

[SmilingLez]

my ex Domme had a large whiteboard where she would document my hmm.. lack of perfect behavior and i would have to read everything out loud while getting an otk spanking, even though weeks passed. this way i was always reminded of my disobedience

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

Mistress just treated me to some very real humiliation:

Penny For Your Thoughts

It isn't a steamy story but the humiliation was very real and undeniable. Sometimes the kind that does not involve sex in any way is the most impactful.

 

[Submissivepat]

Humiliation has been a turn on for me. The physical more than the verbal. Being watched while being paddled or involved in a sex act but being ordered to display myself was the biggest humiliation, head down, ass up and reaching behind me to pull my asscheeks apart for others to see, and eventually use.

 

[AlwaysInTrouble]

This touches on something I've attempted "research" but with little good results. Lots of people, titularly 'women', in the H/D room of Lit Chat. I've never understood how they can truly scratch that itch via written message. Typing is the least 'rich' communication style and is absent all the nonverbals that truly send a message home. NTM, if there are no consequences, which ultimately end up being physical and painful, is one truly humiliated since humiliation has the loss of power and control at its core?

Humiliation has been a turn on for me. The physical more than the verbal. Being watched while being paddled or involved in a sex act but being ordered to display myself was the biggest humiliation, head down, ass up and reaching behind me to pull my asscheeks apart for others to see, and eventually use.

 

[SCRob95060]

My first serious girlfriend was amused by my shyness and began to push me, being naked in front of girlfriends of hers which led to masturbating in front of them.

She coaxed me into a threesome with a guy which of course led to my bisexuality. I really wanted to keep that secret and of course she pushed me on that as well.

Somewhere along the way I realized that the most em arrested or humiliated felt the more turned on I was.

Sucking cock in front of an audience led to being pegged in front of an audience and eventually being taken by a guy as well.

 

[stargame]

I want a masculine man that demands that I wear cute panties for him, then he face fucks me, as he teases me for having a tiny dick, and he calls me his pantyy boi.

 

[liqueur]

I want a masculine man that demands that I wear cute panties for him, then he face fucks me, as he teases me for having a tiny dick, and he calls me his pantyy boi.

I'd be up for all of this. Maybe my cock would be in a cage first. But when the time for fucking started, I wouldn't want it to be my face. Time to pull those cute panties down a bit and slide that masculine cock home.

 

[tpsmps]

There is a lot to say about BDSM and humiliation!! It is the art of extra sensory connection, as far as I am concerned. I like submissive women and pain-sluts, but I hate gratuitous cruelty, I am not excited when I hurt, I hurt because it excites you, the more excited you are the more satisfied I am!! I will never go beyond that because it becomes vulgar and disrespectful of the expectations of a submissive!! In fact, this word submissive bothers me somewhere!! Humiliation and some painful exercises have no place unless it sublimates the subject. PM me if you are sub and agree with my point of view

 

[KindredFlame]

Doesn't seem to be very popular, that makes me feel like I'm odd for liking it.

I love humiliation sex, being used as an object not a person is a great turn on for me.

 

[SirSparky]

I love humiliation sex, being used as an object not a person is a great turn on for me.

You know i woukd love to give you humiliation sex hehe. Passed around for a group of men and women to use you

 

[KindredFlame]

You know i woukd love to give you humiliation sex hehe. Passed around for a group of men and women to use you

I thought you might come up with an idea such as this.

 

[SirSparky]

I thought you might come up with an idea such as this.

Saw a short video clip in a previous thread. Woman tied down in the woods, arms and legs spread and tied to posts in the ground, ready to be used by any he walked past

 

[SirSparky]

Saw a short video clip in a previous thread. Woman tied down in the woods, arms and legs spread and tied to posts in the ground, ready to be used by any he walked past

https://realbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=view&id=777510

 

[liqueur]

I love humiliation sex, being used as an object not a person is a great turn on for me.

I also love that.

 

[MuseOfMidnight]

Anyone into humiliation as their primary fetish? Don't get me wrong I love so many things, but nothing puts me over the edge like being degraded and humiliated in the most cruel and mean ways. Am I alone?

I’m right there with you, I love being fucked in public and having going to events where “random” people shove their fingers into my wet pussy or into my lubed up asshole.